Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because Anthropologie is basic and people in Brooklyn want to be more unique.

Yeah, I can see this. I got complimented on a dress ingot from Target and I had some minor embarrassment about it - until I decided to own it. I cam rock a Target dress because I have an awesome body - it doesn't work for everyone.

[Anonymous]

no one owes you information about where they shop and make purchases, OP. Stop being tacky and asking where things are from. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

lol. I’m the person that asks them to check the tag as I bend my body like a contortionist to reach the collar. I don’t care. I have friends that Google my stuff, not to copy but to find out the price. They aren’t trying to copy me, they are trying to sleuth my finances. Yes, it’s odd behavior and not how I think re: others, but it’s important enough for them to go home and research for some reason. I know this because they pretty much told me. They are my friends. We all have our own quirks. No biggie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is BK? Is this Bethesda or some other striver neighborhood?

In my normal neighborhood, when someone compliments your outfit we’re quick to reply it’s from Amazon, it’s on sale, and oh here’s the link, go snatch one up!

op - brooklyn.

I'm manhattan where it's normal to compliment and then share where you got something. It was SO odd.

You’re right, OP- weird. It’s a hipster thing they don’t want to admit they shop at the same stores as you normies from the city. I don’t know- maybe?

[Anonymous]

It is odd to ask, get a polite answer, track the person around the party, note their responses to the same question, google the answer later at home and then post about it. Yeah.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they don't want you copying them. It's creepy you google it.

No it's not, you're weird.

[Anonymous]

It's fine to tell someone you like their dress. It's weird/gauche to ask questions about where they shop.

[Anonymous]

I think it's weird that you asked her where her dress is from, especially when you had an inkling of where it was from already.

I don't offer up where my clothes are from when someone compliments me. If they asked, I guess I would tell them, but that seems weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol. I’m the person that asks them to check the tag as I bend my body like a contortionist to reach the collar. I don’t care. I have friends that Google my stuff, not to copy but to find out the price. They aren’t trying to copy me, they are trying to sleuth my finances. Yes, it’s odd behavior and not how I think re: others, but it’s important enough for them to go home and research for some reason. I know this because they pretty much told me. They are my friends. We all have our own quirks. No biggie.

I would never allow this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird that you asked her where her dress is from, especially when you had an inkling of where it was from already.

I don't offer up where my clothes are from when someone compliments me. If they asked, I guess I would tell them, but that seems weird.

Not OP, but I often get asked where I bought something. I'm happy to share the info.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird that you asked her where her dress is from, especially when you had an inkling of where it was from already.

I don't offer up where my clothes are from when someone compliments me. If they asked, I guess I would tell them, but that seems weird.

Not OP, but I often get asked where I bought something. I'm happy to share the info.

Yeah, why wouldn’t you tell them? Especially if they directly ask. Original PP seems weird.

[Anonymous]

It's a little uncouth to ask a stranger or new acquaintance, once you're out of your teens, in my opinion.

When I was younger and had a very limited clothing budget, I was happy to share discount shopping tips. Now my clothes are expensive, but from very small, niche designers. Constantly people ask and I just say from an online boutique... because you don't need to know I'm wearing a two thousand dollar dress.

Exception: when someone approaches me privately and asks if I could please share designer name.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when people try to get specific like this. Just offer a generic compliment and move on. Don't grill me about where I shop if I don't offer it up like "Thanks it's from TJMaxx!"

Hahaha! So true. Most people don't ask specific questions. I'm from the midwest and have historically just been direct when people do ask, because I have no problem with it... "Oh, I got in on sale at Nordstrom last month. Thanks!" One person actually told me not to say that I got it on sale - apparently that is vulgar in some circles. In my UMC Midwestern culture sales/good deals are bragging rights - quite the opposite.

lol so true about us midwesterners. Will even send anyone a link to the sale item. This is probably the friendliest I’ve seen some women in Chicago — we bond over a good buy.

[Anonymous]

I have one friend who is always asking me where things are from and then commenting on how they’re so expensive.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the dress is from a few years ago. What does it matter then? "Thanks it's from Anthropologie circa 2021" it's not like you're going to go out and buy it anyway.