Nanny bringing child on vacation with us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is up with all the responses saying “take care of your own kids!” One PP even called the kids brats - where’s this hateful energy coming from?

First it feels super misogynistic - literally no one has mentioned dad. Eleven pages of people calling mom terrible because she is bringing a nanny.

Second while parental bonding with kids is of course important, we need to normalize the idea that parents can use help raising their kids. We don’t know why this family is bringing a nanny. Maybe they have a bunch of kids. Maybe the parents have to work. Maybe one of the parents has cancer. Etc etc.

For generations that help was from family. People bring grandma on vacation all the time. Next time PPs bring grandma on vacation, I hope someone runs up to them shouting, parent your own damn kids! Rawr!!!

Any PPs drop your kid off at summer camp? You’re a terrible mother! Parent your own bratty kid!

Anyone drop their kids at grandma’s house for the weekend? You’re making grandma work 24-7, this is human trafficking and you should go to jail. Rawr!

Any PPs work a job and need childcare? Why’d you even have kids - so someone else could raise them? Rawr!

One of the primary purposes of a FAMILY VACATION is to create memories of the family doing the things together. Bringing a nanny to do the mother's job is creating a NANNY VACATION the children will remember having fun with the nanny while their mother vanished only to see them ten minutes a day.

[Anonymous]

What did you decide OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is up with all the responses saying “take care of your own kids!” One PP even called the kids brats - where’s this hateful energy coming from?

First it feels super misogynistic - literally no one has mentioned dad. Eleven pages of people calling mom terrible because she is bringing a nanny.

Second while parental bonding with kids is of course important, we need to normalize the idea that parents can use help raising their kids. We don’t know why this family is bringing a nanny. Maybe they have a bunch of kids. Maybe the parents have to work. Maybe one of the parents has cancer. Etc etc.

For generations that help was from family. People bring grandma on vacation all the time. Next time PPs bring grandma on vacation, I hope someone runs up to them shouting, parent your own damn kids! Rawr!!!

Any PPs drop your kid off at summer camp? You’re a terrible mother! Parent your own bratty kid!

Anyone drop their kids at grandma’s house for the weekend? You’re making grandma work 24-7, this is human trafficking and you should go to jail. Rawr!

Any PPs work a job and need childcare? Why’d you even have kids - so someone else could raise them? Rawr!

One of the primary purposes of a FAMILY VACATION is to create memories of the family doing the things together. Bringing a nanny to do the mother's job is creating a NANNY VACATION the children will remember having fun with the nanny while their mother vanished only to see them ten minutes a day.

Tell us, what is the mother's job, as opposed to the father's job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is up with all the responses saying “take care of your own kids!” One PP even called the kids brats - where’s this hateful energy coming from?

First it feels super misogynistic - literally no one has mentioned dad. Eleven pages of people calling mom terrible because she is bringing a nanny.

Second while parental bonding with kids is of course important, we need to normalize the idea that parents can use help raising their kids. We don’t know why this family is bringing a nanny. Maybe they have a bunch of kids. Maybe the parents have to work. Maybe one of the parents has cancer. Etc etc.

For generations that help was from family. People bring grandma on vacation all the time. Next time PPs bring grandma on vacation, I hope someone runs up to them shouting, parent your own damn kids! Rawr!!!

Any PPs drop your kid off at summer camp? You’re a terrible mother! Parent your own bratty kid!

Anyone drop their kids at grandma’s house for the weekend? You’re making grandma work 24-7, this is human trafficking and you should go to jail. Rawr!

Any PPs work a job and need childcare? Why’d you even have kids - so someone else could raise them? Rawr!

One of the primary purposes of a FAMILY VACATION is to create memories of the family doing the things together. Bringing a nanny to do the mother's job is creating a NANNY VACATION the children will remember having fun with the nanny while their mother vanished only to see them ten minutes a day.

There are valid reasons to bring a nanny - multiple children; parent is a single parent; one parent is unable to care of children (cancer, chronic illness, whatever); one parent has to work; etc.

Barring those types of circumstances, sure it is weird to bring a nanny on your vacation.

But some of these posters are accusing OP of not raising her children / questioning why she even had kids just because she has a nanny tagging along. I'm assuming these posters work full time and employ nannies, given the subject of this board. It's pretty rich for a full time working parent to accuse OP of not raising her own children... like if you work 50 weeks/year and rely on childcare, those 14 days you spend with your kid on vacation don't exactly make you parent of the year...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not the best person to offer advice here but from a more overall perspective, it is unprofessional for any employee to make such a request. While this is a vacation for your family, it is not for your nanny as she will be working. Inquiring whether her teenager can accompany is simply wrong and unprofessional.

The alternative is that the nanny does not go on vacation, and OP manages her own children on vacation.

Which OP apparently cannot, or chooses not to, take care of her own children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is up with all the responses saying “take care of your own kids!” One PP even called the kids brats - where’s this hateful energy coming from?

First it feels super misogynistic - literally no one has mentioned dad. Eleven pages of people calling mom terrible because she is bringing a nanny.

Second while parental bonding with kids is of course important, we need to normalize the idea that parents can use help raising their kids. We don’t know why this family is bringing a nanny. Maybe they have a bunch of kids. Maybe the parents have to work. Maybe one of the parents has cancer. Etc etc.

For generations that help was from family. People bring grandma on vacation all the time. Next time PPs bring grandma on vacation, I hope someone runs up to them shouting, parent your own damn kids! Rawr!!!

Any PPs drop your kid off at summer camp? You’re a terrible mother! Parent your own bratty kid!

Anyone drop their kids at grandma’s house for the weekend? You’re making grandma work 24-7, this is human trafficking and you should go to jail. Rawr!

Any PPs work a job and need childcare? Why’d you even have kids - so someone else could raise them? Rawr!

One of the primary purposes of a FAMILY VACATION is to create memories of the family doing the things together. Bringing a nanny to do the mother's job is creating a NANNY VACATION the children will remember having fun with the nanny while their mother vanished only to see them ten minutes a day.

There are valid reasons to bring a nanny - multiple children; parent is a single parent; one parent is unable to care of children (cancer, chronic illness, whatever); one parent has to work; etc.

Barring those types of circumstances, sure it is weird to bring a nanny on your vacation.

But some of these posters are accusing OP of not raising her children / questioning why she even had kids just because she has a nanny tagging along. I'm assuming these posters work full time and employ nannies, given the subject of this board. It's pretty rich for a full time working parent to accuse OP of not raising her own children... like if you work 50 weeks/year and rely on childcare, those 14 days you spend with your kid on vacation don't exactly make you parent of the year...

OP's reason is pure laziness. Stop having accessory children.