Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here

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Team no washcloth here. Lather soap on hands. Put soap on soap holder. Rub soap where needed. Rinse. Repeat.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite, my mom taught me all these stupid little civilizing details such as “never pull up vertical blinds” and “no overhead lights” and how to fold towels on the hanging towel rack and use a nice pewter dish or towel-lined basket to set out things like bread at dinner , all while modeling horrific money habits and financial strain and moving us to a new apartment every 10-12 months and marrying and divorcing 3 times and not caring for the animals we adopted and on and on. All about silly stupid appearances and minor details while being an absolute mess.

My mom is a non-hand washer but ingrained all of the above in me. Add never, ever put a container on the dining table even if it’s just a family lunch. Also, pull the shades up as soon as you wake up or else people will think you are rude or lazy.

Once in a while DH turns on an overhead light in his office and I have to restrain myself from yelling at him. Our hands might be covered in germs but we can’t have people seeing that from the street and and thinking we are poor heathens!

I'm so confused. What is wrong with overhead lights? I thought I was raised with all the etiquette, but my parents missed this one.

I was taught they’re tacky and low-rent and make you look like you were raised in a trailer. Outside of the kitchen, we never used the overhead lights in our home - to this day they bother me and I don’t turn them off. It’s lamp lighting ONLY. I am not saying I care if anyone else uses overhead lights or that this is right, just that these were the kinds of “civilized details” OP laments not knowing that my mom taught me while otherwise leading a very disastrous life and not teaching important things because she didn’t know them.

Exact opposite here, I was taught lamps are trashy and overhead lights are much better and fancy because an electrician had to install them (costs money) whereas anyone can buy a "cheap kmart lamp."

Also SHOCKED at how many people don't use washcloths to wash themselves. It's a little disturbing actually.

I’m shocked at the number of people who deem the term “trashy” acceptable to use. It’s a little disturbing, actually. NOKD.

Once again… we are talking about what our PARENTS taught us. I don’t call things trashy… my MOM called raised vertical blinds and overhead lighting trashy! And she was mostly wrong!

You can’t raise vertical blinds. Your continued posts are insufferable.

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Paper towels after sweating up a storm.

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Anyone with a modicum of manners and kindness knows that it's appropriate to leave a cash tip for the hotel/motel maid. If you didn't know before, you know now.

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Anonymous wrote:So a washcloth for every shower? 14 per personnper week?

My butt has its own bar of soap.
We each have our own bathroom.
I don't use soap on my face I use face wash mousse.

You take 2 showers every single day?

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Anonymous wrote:You know how at a private school or fancy college or alumni event there will be a table where it’s understood and implied that each family will take one thing and that there’s enough for all of the sets of parents expected in attendance, but no one has to be so crass as to spell it out or keep track?

Mine didn’t understand that and repeatedly took all the things and would then send them to all of our relatives. Imagine a table of 30 mugs, and one family takes everything and in their mind it’s like “perfect, one for all of the cousins!”. I think the staff or volunteers must have been too stunned to correct them.

I didn’t know the first time, I found out after the second time, and by the third time my siblings had to run interference. Dead just thinking of it.

This one is hilariously bad. So sorry PP. I wonder what went through their heads to take everything on a giveaway table. Do you have any background on that and why they would be so clueless and/or entitled? We were very sheltered and poor and would act the complete opposite- like we don't get to have something at that table. It's for Other People.

It reminds me of the people/cousins who were sitting in other people's personal beach chairs on that other thread. I just can't wrap my head around it.

Hey! I posted that one about my cousins in August 2024! Love yah, DCUM

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Anonymous wrote:Please please please someone needs to link the maroon washcloth thread (I’m sadly helpless on this front).

No! That was beyond stupid. You want it, you go find it

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I use a sponge and soap and I think the key is to use actual soap (I like Dr Bronner’s) because the high PH keeps pink or black from growing. My whole shower is cleaner since I switched from “body wash.”

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I grew up using washcloths so they have always been second nature to me.
I cannot imagine feeling clean after a shower 🧼 or bath w/out using one - however my own kids never use them.

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Anonymous wrote:I use a sponge and soap and I think the key is to use actual soap (I like Dr Bronner’s) because the high PH keeps pink or black from growing. My whole shower is cleaner since I switched from “body wash.”

Wait really? When we lived in a place with a certain mineral content in the water, I had such a problem with pink stuff growing. I want to move back and try that!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite, my mom taught me all these stupid little civilizing details such as “never pull up vertical blinds” and “no overhead lights” and how to fold towels on the hanging towel rack and use a nice pewter dish or towel-lined basket to set out things like bread at dinner , all while modeling horrific money habits and financial strain and moving us to a new apartment every 10-12 months and marrying and divorcing 3 times and not caring for the animals we adopted and on and on. All about silly stupid appearances and minor details while being an absolute mess.

My mom is a non-hand washer but ingrained all of the above in me. Add never, ever put a container on the dining table even if it’s just a family lunch. Also, pull the shades up as soon as you wake up or else people will think you are rude or lazy.

Once in a while DH turns on an overhead light in his office and I have to restrain myself from yelling at him. Our hands might be covered in germs but we can’t have people seeing that from the street and and thinking we are poor heathens!

I'm so confused. What is wrong with overhead lights? I thought I was raised with all the etiquette, but my parents missed this one.

I was taught they’re tacky and low-rent and make you look like you were raised in a trailer. Outside of the kitchen, we never used the overhead lights in our home - to this day they bother me and I don’t turn them off. It’s lamp lighting ONLY. I am not saying I care if anyone else uses overhead lights or that this is right, just that these were the kinds of “civilized details” OP laments not knowing that my mom taught me while otherwise leading a very disastrous life and not teaching important things because she didn’t know them.

Exact opposite here, I was taught lamps are trashy and overhead lights are much better and fancy because an electrician had to install them (costs money) whereas anyone can buy a "cheap kmart lamp."

Also SHOCKED at how many people don't use washcloths to wash themselves. It's a little disturbing actually.

I’m shocked at the number of people who deem the term “trashy” acceptable to use. It’s a little disturbing, actually. NOKD.

Once again… we are talking about what our PARENTS taught us. I don’t call things trashy… my MOM called raised vertical blinds and overhead lighting trashy! And she was mostly wrong!

You can’t raise vertical blinds. Your continued posts are insufferable.

What’s insufferable are people who miss the entire point of a thread. “My parents taught me to do that thing so you’re calling me uncivilized?” was NOT the point of this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite, my mom taught me all these stupid little civilizing details such as “never pull up vertical blinds” and “no overhead lights” and how to fold towels on the hanging towel rack and use a nice pewter dish or towel-lined basket to set out things like bread at dinner , all while modeling horrific money habits and financial strain and moving us to a new apartment every 10-12 months and marrying and divorcing 3 times and not caring for the animals we adopted and on and on. All about silly stupid appearances and minor details while being an absolute mess.

My mom is a non-hand washer but ingrained all of the above in me. Add never, ever put a container on the dining table even if it’s just a family lunch. Also, pull the shades up as soon as you wake up or else people will think you are rude or lazy.

Once in a while DH turns on an overhead light in his office and I have to restrain myself from yelling at him. Our hands might be covered in germs but we can’t have people seeing that from the street and and thinking we are poor heathens!

I'm so confused. What is wrong with overhead lights? I thought I was raised with all the etiquette, but my parents missed this one.

I was taught they’re tacky and low-rent and make you look like you were raised in a trailer. Outside of the kitchen, we never used the overhead lights in our home - to this day they bother me and I don’t turn them off. It’s lamp lighting ONLY. I am not saying I care if anyone else uses overhead lights or that this is right, just that these were the kinds of “civilized details” OP laments not knowing that my mom taught me while otherwise leading a very disastrous life and not teaching important things because she didn’t know them.

Exact opposite here, I was taught lamps are trashy and overhead lights are much better and fancy because an electrician had to install them (costs money) whereas anyone can buy a "cheap kmart lamp."

Also SHOCKED at how many people don't use washcloths to wash themselves. It's a little disturbing actually.

I’m shocked at the number of people who deem the term “trashy” acceptable to use. It’s a little disturbing, actually. NOKD.

Once again… we are talking about what our PARENTS taught us. I don’t call things trashy… my MOM called raised vertical blinds and overhead lighting trashy! And she was mostly wrong!

You can’t raise vertical blinds. Your continued posts are insufferable.

What’s insufferable are people who miss the entire point of a thread. “My parents taught me to do that thing so you’re calling me uncivilized?” was NOT the point of this thread.

1. You’re not the only one who is posting about this ridiculous overhead light issue.

2. Your mom didn’t teach you things that don’t matter, she taught you things that aren’t true.

3. You can’t raise vertical blinds… a point you seem to not understand.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone with a modicum of manners and kindness knows that it's appropriate to leave a cash tip for the hotel/motel maid. If you didn't know before, you know now.

What is the proper amount of $ to leave?

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Anonymous wrote:So a washcloth for every shower? 14 per personnper week?

My butt has its own bar of soap.
We each have our own bathroom.
I don't use soap on my face I use face wash mousse.

You take 2 showers every single day?

Yeah. It's kind of frightening that they are missing the third midday shower. They probably reek, and people are afraid to tell them.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone with a modicum of manners and kindness knows that it's appropriate to leave a cash tip for the hotel/motel maid. If you didn't know before, you know now.

I do not and have never tipped people who make minimum wage +

Maids getting tips was the beginning of everyone sticking their hand out for a tip just for doing the basic functions of their jobs.