How did your affair end?

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^ Both end a life but in a very different way.

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We were both married and I divorced, but not to be with AP and ended it.

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Anonymous wrote:8 months in with an SDI that won’t clear.

Wtf did you contract? Please tell me you didn’t expose your spouse to this crap

Molluscum Contagiosum. No, it’s what outed my affair because I didn’t want to expose her.

well my 4 year old currently has that. this is a childhood thing. and yes technically adults can get this from sexual activity (simply because it’s a highly contagious skin condition) but this is in no way an STD/STI.

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Anonymous wrote:I left my xH for my AP. I’m still with AP, but overall I’m just as unhappy as I was with xH.

One thing I learned is that no matter who you are with, there will be problems. There is no perfect person where everything will be perfect with them. You just trade one set of problems for another.

Same with the benefits. There are tradeoffs. xH was far more financially stable and had more financial prospects. AP (current H) is sexier and easier to get him to do what I want. Neither really make me happy. I’ve learned that happiness has to come from within you.

I did not leave H for AP but I completely agree with this.

Yup. My mom stayed with her AP and he has an entirely different set of problems than my dad does, but overall no less severe. So she's still just as unhappy and it's way less convenient for everyone else. In particular, his financial problems, might seem like not a big deal in your 40s but it sure is a very big deal in your 80s.

This is why it is known: cheating is about what’s wrong inside an individual. The marriage, the spouse, etc have zero to do with it. Cheaters will continue to blame everyone else for their unhappiness and change relationships, houses, move, etc…but they are still the same miserable individuals on the inside. Rotten in their core.

It is really not that simple.

It really is, though. All cheaters are low-integrity, intellectually lazy, morally-bankrupt people. The rest is just a set of lies you tell to try to justify your nonsense.

Actually, the truth is that cheaters are all around you. Some of your family, friends, community members have committed adultery. They just don't talk about it. Just like you don't hear from every third woman you meet that she's had an abortion. It's a normal human behavior. It's not a good one, but it would probably rock your black and white world to know that people you admire and respect have made mistakes too.

No, you absolute trashcan of a human, it isn't "a normal human behavior". There are rapists and murderers around me, and that's the better analogy: harmful people with deep pathology that prevents them from acting like decent humans. Equating this to abortion is just nonsensical rhetoric. And cheating isn't "a mistake": it's a fscking choice. It's not an oops; you plan that, think about it, and execute.

But thanks for reinforcing PPs point that y'all are committed to the lies you tell yourselves to excuse your garbage behavior.

I’m PP and I haven’t cheated. I have been cheated on and I have friends and family who have cheated.
If half the population does it, it is, in fact, “normal.” Whereas far less than 1% of the population commits murder. And 30% of women have an abortion. Sorry for whatever happened to you, but you don’t sound like you are able to bring a rational voice to this thread.

Imagine rationalizing cheating, and being smug to people whose basic human decency precludes them from participating in that mess.

No, I will never "normalize" cheating. Just because so many of you cheat doesn't make it normal. It makes cheaters jerks.

You’re right. Cheating is horrific and akin to murder. Cheaters should be given the electric chair.

There. Is that what you want?

How did you get this from someone saying cheaters are jerks? You think people refer to murderers as merely "jerks"? Frankly, the PP is right: You people are such jerks on top of having no shame.

Did you really not read the rest of the conversation up thread? The unhinged “cheaters are murderers” pp exists and wrote the following:

“ No, you absolute trashcan of a human, it isn't "a normal human behavior". There are rapists and murderers around me, and that's the better analogy: harmful people with deep pathology that prevents them from acting like decent humans. Equating this to abortion is just nonsensical rhetoric. And cheating isn't "a mistake": it's a fscking choice. It's not an oops; you plan that, think about it, and execute.

But thanks for reinforcing PPs point that y'all are committed to the lies you tell yourselves to excuse your garbage behavior.”

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Anonymous wrote:My affair turned into a marriage. Fifteen years later, we're still happy.

I was already separated when we met, and heading towards divorce. He was already trying to decide whether to leave his marriage. I don't think our affair "caused" his marriage to end. I think it was going to end, regardless.

However, I struggled a lot with whether I could trust him, at the beginning. I was being honest with my STBX about seeing other people, but he was lying to his then-wife because he was still very conflicted about whether to leave, and scared she would make the decision for him.

I broke it off with him a couple of times: told him he was not being fair to her, and although I loved him I didn't want to see him until he was either separated or at least being honest with her about seeing other people. I was pretty angry at him. I felt like he was being self-indulgent. We had a lot of difficult conversations and for a while I thought it would never work.

But in the end, he got separated, we started seeing each other more, we each got divorced, and eventually we got married to one another. I waited several years though. I wanted to feel sure it wasn't just the lure of novelty that was carrying us along.

Overall: I am glad we got married. He is not perfect, but no one is, and he tries his best, and there is a lot of love, premised on a lot of willingness to accept one another and forgive.

Were there any children involved in this melodrama?

And how does it feel to be married to a pussycat who couldn’t confront his ex?

Our kids were grown and out of the house already. Would have been a different story had either or both of us still had young kids.

He has gotten better at not avoiding conflict. People sometimes learn.

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Once I hit it I lost interest.

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Anonymous wrote:8 months in with an SDI that won’t clear.

Wtf did you contract? Please tell me you didn’t expose your spouse to this crap

Molluscum Contagiosum. No, it’s what outed my affair because I didn’t want to expose her.

well my 4 year old currently has that. this is a childhood thing. and yes technically adults can get this from sexual activity (simply because it’s a highly contagious skin condition) but this is in no way an STD/STI.

Yes, children get it but it is absolutely an STD when an adult gets it on their genitalia and no where else.

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Anonymous wrote:8 months in with an SDI that won’t clear.

Wtf did you contract? Please tell me you didn’t expose your spouse to this crap

Molluscum Contagiosum. No, it’s what outed my affair because I didn’t want to expose her.

well my 4 year old currently has that. this is a childhood thing. and yes technically adults can get this from sexual activity (simply because it’s a highly contagious skin condition) but this is in no way an STD/STI.

Yes, children get it but it is absolutely an STD when an adult gets it on their genitalia and no where else.

can you post a valid link of where it says this is classified as an std/sti? (and not just can spread with sexual contact which like so can poison ivy and ringworm).

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Anonymous wrote:8 months in with an SDI that won’t clear.

Wtf did you contract? Please tell me you didn’t expose your spouse to this crap

Molluscum Contagiosum. No, it’s what outed my affair because I didn’t want to expose her.

well my 4 year old currently has that. this is a childhood thing. and yes technically adults can get this from sexual activity (simply because it’s a highly contagious skin condition) but this is in no way an STD/STI.

Yes, children get it but it is absolutely an STD when an adult gets it on their genitalia and no where else.

can you post a valid link of where it says this is classified as an std/sti? (and not just can spread with sexual contact which like so can poison ivy and ringworm).

Molluscum contagiosum is a sexually transmitted infection (STI) in adults and can spread by skin-to-skin contact during sex.

While once a disease primarily of children, molluscum has evolved to become a sexually transmitted disease in adults.

https://www.ashasexualhealth.org/molluscum-contagiosum/

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Anonymous wrote:8 months in with an SDI that won’t clear.

Wtf did you contract? Please tell me you didn’t expose your spouse to this crap

Molluscum Contagiosum. No, it’s what outed my affair because I didn’t want to expose her.

well my 4 year old currently has that. this is a childhood thing. and yes technically adults can get this from sexual activity (simply because it’s a highly contagious skin condition) but this is in no way an STD/STI.

I’m sure that explanation provided a lot of comfort to PP’s spouse.

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Anonymous wrote:8 months in with an SDI that won’t clear.

Wtf did you contract? Please tell me you didn’t expose your spouse to this crap

Molluscum Contagiosum. No, it’s what outed my affair because I didn’t want to expose her.

umm. did you not see this all over your partners genitals?

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I left my husband for my affair partner and a few years later we got married. My AP was single. We met at work. I'm so glad I left my ex husband and married my new husband, but regret that affair part. I am very happy now and we have kids. Every day I pinch myself because I can't believe this is my life. I'm so incredibly glad I did not stay with my ex husband and that we didn't have kids. It would have been miserable.

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Anonymous wrote:8 months in with an SDI that won’t clear.

Wtf did you contract? Please tell me you didn’t expose your spouse to this crap

Molluscum Contagiosum. No, it’s what outed my affair because I didn’t want to expose her.

umm. did you not see this all over your partners genitals?

In the beginning stages you don’t notice it. Takes 2-6 weeks to break out into the big ones.

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Anonymous wrote:8 months in with an SDI that won’t clear.

Wtf did you contract? Please tell me you didn’t expose your spouse to this crap

Molluscum Contagiosum. No, it’s what outed my affair because I didn’t want to expose her.

umm. did you not see this all over your partners genitals?

In the beginning stages you don’t notice it. Takes 2-6 weeks to break out into the big ones.

so how do you even know you got it from them? if you never saw it?

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Anonymous wrote:Once I hit it I lost interest.

Men like you are dogs.

Women are not an “it” you hit.

Your disrespect and objectification is stunning.