What can American women learn from foreign women?

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Anonymous wrote:Isn't there a forum besides the "relationship discussion" forum of a D.C. Urbans moms and dads online community where you can hold your discussions about this?

If you don't want American women, and you want foreign born women, then by all means, leave American women alone.

No American woman is posting on here asking such a question.

The OP is literally an American woman asking the question.

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I think American women, the wealthier and the more educated they are, impose too many rules and regulations on themselves. The rules are stiffening, and those who don’t follow those ever-multiplying rules are getting judged by fellow women.

Such as what?

A "foreign" woman here. In my culture, if something happens to a child - a tragic accident, a mental breakdown, being arrested for shoplifting, etc. - the immediate reaction from other moms is "poor parents, I feel so sad for them". In US, the first reaction is to start dissecting what exactly the mom did or didn't do to bring this on herself. Americans in general are refusing to accept that sometimes bad things happen to good people for no reason, and they cling to this illusion of control that you can do/be anything if only you do everything right.

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I think American women, the wealthier and the more educated they are, impose too many rules and regulations on themselves. The rules are stiffening, and those who don’t follow those ever-multiplying rules are getting judged by fellow women.

You mean the hillbilly women who votes for trump? There's stats that say most educated American women are Democrats and the less educated American women are Republicans

Look it up

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Also educated doesn't mean good. Many assho0ess are rich and educated and makes a fuked up world for out next generations.

We need more empathetic people

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Anonymous wrote:My parents are from a Middle Eastern culture and I think there is so much pressure on women in that culture to conform to the following standard:

- educated with a high paying career
- keep up their looks, don’t get fat, dress pretty and wear makeup and have long glossy black hair
- maintain an attractive, clean home and know how to cook, or you will look bad
- religious (but you still have to look sexy) and raising children to behave appropriately and follow cultural expectations

The men have the following expectations:
- have a job

I think American men may find this nightmare sort of awesome.

Uh, no. In patriarchal cultures, men have to be rich to have social value. (Actually, this is true in all cultures to varying degrees.)

She meant having a job is the only expectation for men while women have to be perfect in almost every way.

So an American man with a decent job who is even remotely helpful in other ways is a step up from their own men. This is true about a lot of foreign cultures as you can see from this thread.

So while American men could be better, they are better than most. So it makes sense for them to look abroad for women who will compare them to their local men.

Actually, the Middle East is still one of the few remaining places on Earth where women can choose to remain homemakers without losing any social standing. I am married to an Arab and no, women are not all expected to have a high-paying career. In fact, it is assumed that once you marry, your family becomes your priority. Financial support is the duty of the husband, not the wife.

Also, if you are from a religious family, you are not expected to dress sexy at all. In fact, the window of acceptable dressing for you is quite narrow.

So I think you're describing a very small subset of the Middle East culture.

To add to this, I found the Middle East to be one of the few places where it is assumed that a woman who works will have household help. Our Arab relatives would find it quite wild that a woman can be expected to work AND cook and clean. Quite simply, if the wife works and brings in income, she will outsource most of the household work. Someone will come to cook, clean and tend to the children.

You realize that's because of robust immigration, which allows poor women from other countries - the Philippines, Bangladesh, China - to come and be your servant! I used to live on a Pacific island where even the poorest families had house cleaners and cooks - and it's because, again, of essentially open borders that allowed for desperate to come and take those jobs. There was tons of abuse - and much cleaner houses. We could have that here, too, if we wanted.

Thats just a story. Quit stereotyping.
There are white American women being abused daily by their white husbands

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Anonymous wrote:Sex? I know my cousin is very sexual and her white bf is tired haha can't handle a sexy latina. Well just that guy. Not everyone is the same

Ana de armas - American women could learn a lot more from her than Taylor swift

? how do you know what Ana de Armas is like? Or Taylor Swift, for that matter? Do you know them both personally?

I prefer Ana de Armas. It's a preference. Respect other people's likes

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Mormons are cultists. Bunch of white people and they have communities far away where they have sex with minors and keep breeding and breeding. That's what these religions wants, babies, babies. Women are used

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with stereotypical American women is that they don't think they have anything to learn. From anyone. Ever.

Ironically
If you are familiar with history
Foreign women were not ashamed to march in NY and declare that in their home country women had the right to vote

You talking about a century ago when American women were more tolerable? I thought we were talking about present day women.

American women have way too much masculine energy. Very unappealing. And they're not even aware of it.

The wording might be offensive but this is probably the stereotypical impression that foreign men have of American women.
Not everyone obviously, but on average they seem to have more masculine energy (loud, talkative, opinionated, assertive, demanding, intimidating, big) compared to foreign women.

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But this is a good thing for women and American society. Women should not want to mold themselves into the male ideal if they end up quiet, docile, neutral beings with only their caretaking and sexual appeal to offer. How does that help women advance and secure their own place in society? That only helps men.

+1

Also, lots of American women marry great men without changing who they are. I'm loud, opinionated, have been accused of being intimidating, etc. Some men criticized me for that but a) I did not GAF about their opinion and b) I knew I'd rather be single than change for the sake of a guy. It would have been a bait and switch anyway, lol.

And lumping all European women into one basket is sort of funny. Greta Thunberg is just one of many European women who is also not Andrew-Tate approved.

In many marriages were men are an equal partner, the women have " male energy". You know why? That's the language men understand.

Look at all these traits of foreign women that these American men want. Yet the foreign men and their cultures still treat these women like trash. All the femininity and gentleness in the world just boosts the male ego. It does not stop a man from putting himself first

My sweetest nicest friends are all married to jerks who don't pull their weight at anything besides making an income( and some of these women work too).

Check out Hispanic women being raped, bullied and killed inside the US Military bases, Army, US navy. It's so disgusting

[Anonymous]

I'm Hispanic American and I'm married with a white American man. We are nerds.
I like Hispanic men too. They can be nice and family oriented, they treat their moms with love and caring.

Some white guys are cold, they don't hug much. But we Hispanics like to hug.
But again I shouldn't stereotype. I'm sure there are white Amwrican men that likes to hug a lot

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*American

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Anonymous wrote:American women are attracting the men that they deserve.

Didn't work for trumps exes

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Rich and ass0ole

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm Hispanic American and I'm married with a white American man. We are nerds.
I like Hispanic men too. They can be nice and family oriented, they treat their moms with love and caring.

Some white guys are cold, they don't hug much. But we Hispanics like to hug.
But again I shouldn't stereotype. I'm sure there are white Amwrican men that likes to hug a lot

Yes, they hug a lot or get aggressive when they are drunk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sex? I know my cousin is very sexual and her white bf is tired haha can't handle a sexy latina. Well just that guy. Not everyone is the same

Ana de armas - American women could learn a lot more from her than Taylor swift

She’s an actress and a model because she has way above average looks. That’s like saying American men need to learn from Chris Hemsworth.

I don’t look like Ana de Armas and I don’t expect my partner to look like Chris Hemsworth.

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I think American women, the wealthier and the more educated they are, impose too many rules and regulations on themselves. The rules are stiffening, and those who don’t follow those ever-multiplying rules are getting judged by fellow women.

You mean the hillbilly women who votes for trump? There's stats that say most educated American women are Democrats and the less educated American women are Republicans

Look it up

And this is another reason to date foreign women. They aren't into politics and therefore can think more critically. It's painful listening to a never ending lists if grievances. We want someone fun who puts out.