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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents are from a Middle Eastern culture and I think there is so much pressure on women in that culture to conform to the following standard:

- educated with a high paying career
- keep up their looks, don’t get fat, dress pretty and wear makeup and have long glossy black hair
- maintain an attractive, clean home and know how to cook, or you will look bad
- religious (but you still have to look sexy) and raising children to behave appropriately and follow cultural expectations

[b]The men have the following expectations:
- have a job[/b]

I think American men may find this nightmare sort of awesome.[/quote]

Uh, no.  In patriarchal cultures, men have to be rich to have social value.  (Actually, this is true in all cultures to varying degrees.)[/quote]

She meant having a job is the only expectation for men while women have to be perfect in almost every way.

So an American man with a decent job who is even remotely helpful in other ways is a step up from their own men. This is true about a lot of foreign cultures as you can see from this thread.

So while American men could be better, they are better than most. So it makes sense for them to look abroad for women who will compare them to their local men.
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Actually, the Middle East is still one of the few remaining places on Earth where women can choose to remain homemakers without losing any social standing.  I am married to an Arab and no, women are not all expected to have a high-paying career.  In fact, it is assumed that once you marry, your family becomes your priority.  Financial support is the duty of the husband, not the wife.

Also, if you are from a religious family, you are not expected to dress sexy at all.  In fact, the window of acceptable dressing for you is quite narrow.

So I think you're describing a very small subset of the Middle East culture.[/quote]

To add to this, I found the Middle East to be one of the few places where it is assumed that a woman who works will have household help.  Our Arab relatives would find it quite wild that a woman can be expected to work AND cook and clean.  Quite simply, if the wife works and brings in income, she will outsource most of the household work.  Someone will come to cook, clean and tend to the children.  [/quote]

You realize that's because of robust immigration, which allows poor women from other countries - the Philippines, Bangladesh, China - to come and be your servant! I used to live on a Pacific island where even the poorest families had house cleaners and cooks - and it's because, again, of essentially open borders that allowed for desperate to come and take those jobs. There was tons of abuse - and much cleaner houses. We could have that here, too, if we wanted.[/quote]

Thats just a story. Quit stereotyping. 
There are white American women being abused daily by their white husbands[/quote]

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