I secretly hate my spouse’s eye color (brown)

[Anonymous]

This thread sucks because it's just people who have been insulted or felt insulted due to their appearance, insulting people with a different appearance to make themselves feel better. It's all insecurity and cruelty and it's just awful.

If you have been posting about how "x characteristic" is unattractive on this thread, I recommend you stop and look inside yourself and ask if this is really the path to feeling good. Life is hard enough without this BS.

[Anonymous]

I have light blue eyes, trending toward grey. Honestly, they are cute. But they put me at risk for wrinkles ( from squinting in the bright sun) and some eye cancers. I thought I was more at risk for cataracts, but I'm seeing the opposite in this morning's google search.

Hating somebody's eye color seems OTT.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a preference for a particular eye color, any color can be beautiful. But blue eyes are definitely rarer, so I think I notice them when I see them. Especially clear light blue eyes, like Cillian Murph has. Not necessarily more attractive than brown, just unusual.

Clear light blue eyes give me the creeps on any one. Vampire looking.

I prefer eyes with depth and variance of any color. Clear blue is a hard no though.

I wish I knew you IRL so I could stare at you with my ice blue eyes. I never knew I had such power.

🧛🏻‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread sucks because it's just people who have been insulted or felt insulted due to their appearance, insulting people with a different appearance to make themselves feel better. It's all insecurity and cruelty and it's just awful.

If you have been posting about how "x characteristic" is unattractive on this thread, I recommend you stop and look inside yourself and ask if this is really the path to feeling good. Life is hard enough without this BS.

Yes. Thanks!

And we need this PSA on threads calling balding men and short men unattractive compared to others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH always says his eyes are green but they don't look green at all to me. We've just agreed to disagree.

This is true of everyone who says they have green eyes. I have never seen anyone who has objectively green eyes. But people love to say they have green eyes because they think it makes them “special.”

DP. I have no idea what the scientific stats are on green versus "hazel" but, as someone with hazel eyes married to someone with hazel eyes, I think that a lot of people whose eyes are hazel tend to describe their own eyes as green (though I say hazel). Hazel is technically a green-brown combination, often with brown in a ring around the iris and green surrounding that, so the predominant color is very often much more green than brown. I don't think people claim green because "it makes them 'special.'" I think they just see mostly green. It's a bit petty-minded to assume that people who call their own eye color green are doing so just out of vanity. A lot of people don't even really know what "hazel" means in eye color or why it's differentiated from green, so it's probably easier to say, or put onto forms, "green eyes."

This. Hazel eyes are by definition a combination of colors so it's confusing.

When I was a kid, my eyes looked green to me. I didn't even know what hazel was. So I thought my eyes were green. I was sitting at dinner once and my mom said my eyes were blue and I said, "no, my eyes are green." And then my sister said [rather rudely], "no, her eyes are hazel." I think she thought I was trying to make myself seem special, so maybe the same hangups as OP. But I was a child and literally didn't know what hazel is.

As an adult, I generally describe my eyes as hazel on forms, but a lot of people don't know what hazel eyes are. I've also had people tell me "no, you're eyes are clearly green" and also "wait, I thought your eyes were blue?" Because my eyes are pretty light and the brown part is only around the edge, and the green part is apparently a kind of bluish green, I think my eyes can look different colors in different light. That can make it hard when I'm filling out a form and put down "hazel" and the person who is accepting the form says "no that is wrong, it should say [fill in the blank]."

So the PP who says that hazel-eyed people who describe their eyes as green are somehow vain or attention-seeking may not understand that actually the problem is that most people have either brown or blue eyes, so having eyes outside that paradigm can be challenging because there is not always consensus on what to call them.

My DH has brown eyes and my DD has blue eyes and neither of them ever have this problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have light blue eyes, trending toward grey. Honestly, they are cute. But they put me at risk for wrinkles ( from squinting in the bright sun) and some eye cancers. I thought I was more at risk for cataracts, but I'm seeing the opposite in this morning's google search.

Hating somebody's eye color seems OTT.

Bummer!
I never thought of the bolded.
I have brown eyes but squint a lot due to horrible eyesight.

[Anonymous]

Oy vey 12 pages full of seething brown-eyed people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oy vey 12 pages full of seething brown-eyed people.

Welcome!

You seem to like our company

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a preference for a particular eye color, any color can be beautiful. But blue eyes are definitely rarer, so I think I notice them when I see them. Especially clear light blue eyes, like Cillian Murph has. Not necessarily more attractive than brown, just unusual.

Clear light blue eyes give me the creeps on any one. Vampire looking.

I prefer eyes with depth and variance of any color. Clear blue is a hard no though.

I wish I knew you IRL so I could stare at you with my ice blue eyes. I never knew I had such power.

🧛🏻‍♀️

NP
You have to know there is a Hollywood trope to certain blue eyes being threatening (more like Swift's than Deschanel). Just like there are certain Hollywood tropes about dark skin, pale skin, baldness, hairyness, height, weight, race, style..... it's all BS and nothing to judge others by.
There's even a trope about the overly trustworthy seeming type that eventually stabs you in the back. Whether you put stock in that kind of thing is up to you but it can even be subconscious which is scary.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a preference for a particular eye color, any color can be beautiful. But blue eyes are definitely rarer, so I think I notice them when I see them. Especially clear light blue eyes, like Cillian Murph has. Not necessarily more attractive than brown, just unusual.

Clear light blue eyes give me the creeps on any one. Vampire looking.

I prefer eyes with depth and variance of any color. Clear blue is a hard no though.

I wish I knew you IRL so I could stare at you with my ice blue eyes. I never knew I had such power.

🧛🏻‍♀️

NP
You have to know there is a Hollywood trope to certain blue eyes being threatening (more like Swift's than Deschanel). Just like there are certain Hollywood tropes about dark skin, pale skin, baldness, hairyness, height, weight, race, style..... it's all BS and nothing to judge others by.
There's even a trope about the overly trustworthy seeming type that eventually stabs you in the back. Whether you put stock in that kind of thing is up to you but it can even be subconscious which is scary.

DP.

Aren't Deschanel's eyes ice blue?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a preference for a particular eye color, any color can be beautiful. But blue eyes are definitely rarer, so I think I notice them when I see them. Especially clear light blue eyes, like Cillian Murph has. Not necessarily more attractive than brown, just unusual.

Clear light blue eyes give me the creeps on any one. Vampire looking.

I prefer eyes with depth and variance of any color. Clear blue is a hard no though.

I wish I knew you IRL so I could stare at you with my ice blue eyes. I never knew I had such power.

🧛🏻‍♀️

NP
You have to know there is a Hollywood trope to certain blue eyes being threatening (more like Swift's than Deschanel). Just like there are certain Hollywood tropes about dark skin, pale skin, baldness, hairyness, height, weight, race, style..... it's all BS and nothing to judge others by.
There's even a trope about the overly trustworthy seeming type that eventually stabs you in the back. Whether you put stock in that kind of thing is up to you but it can even be subconscious which is scary.

DP.

Aren't Deschanel's eyes ice blue?

Yes, but large so the "doe eyed" innocence cancels out the steeliness. It's so silly but we all see the stereotypes being fed to us (if you pay attention). Obviously, larger eyes do not make people more innocent and trustworthy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a preference for a particular eye color, any color can be beautiful. But blue eyes are definitely rarer, so I think I notice them when I see them. Especially clear light blue eyes, like Cillian Murph has. Not necessarily more attractive than brown, just unusual.

Clear light blue eyes give me the creeps on any one. Vampire looking.

I prefer eyes with depth and variance of any color. Clear blue is a hard no though.

I wish I knew you IRL so I could stare at you with my ice blue eyes. I never knew I had such power.

🧛🏻‍♀️

NP
You have to know there is a Hollywood trope to certain blue eyes being threatening (more like Swift's than Deschanel). Just like there are certain Hollywood tropes about dark skin, pale skin, baldness, hairyness, height, weight, race, style..... it's all BS and nothing to judge others by.
There's even a trope about the overly trustworthy seeming type that eventually stabs you in the back. Whether you put stock in that kind of thing is up to you but it can even be subconscious which is scary.

DP.

Aren't Deschanel's eyes ice blue?

Hers are way more “vampiric” looking than Tay Tay’s. But contrary to the weird complexes in this thread, they are beautiful.
DH’s family is all deep, steely blue but some of the in-laws and kiddos have that gorgeous ice blue and it really is quite striking. - A brown eyed person.

[Anonymous]

PP here who said the actor's eyes and skin tone combination was unappealing.

I apologize for saying so and for any other remarks that inferred blue eyes were not attractive. I was scratching my head trying to figure out what was so nasty about that, but all I had to do was flip the script to a scenario where someone said another set of people's skin and eyes matching to see it would have been unacceptable to say something like that. You can prefer something without putting others down. I will be more careful in the future.

My sincere apologies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have light blue eyes, trending toward grey. Honestly, they are cute. But they put me at risk for wrinkles ( from squinting in the bright sun) and some eye cancers. I thought I was more at risk for cataracts, but I'm seeing the opposite in this morning's google search.

Hating somebody's eye color seems OTT.

I have light blue eyes too, is that why I have to squint so much and have such a hard time with sunlight?? I have to wear sunglasses all the time!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have blue eyes, my wife has blue eyes, my kids have blue eyes. Until this thread I had no idea we were white supremacists.

Stop making up crap in your head.

Go get some work done.

I’m the one making up crap in my head in a thread full of white supremacy, mentions of ice dragons, concerns that blue eyes don’t pair well with all skin tones. Sorry to have lowered the intellectual level of the discourse.

Can you point to the posts that suggests that anyone is racist just because they have blue eyes?

Yes

Please do.

Do it yourself. I’m not your designated reader.