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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH always says his eyes are green but they don't look green at all to me. We've just agreed to disagree.[/quote]

This is true of everyone who says they have green eyes. I have never seen anyone who has objectively green eyes. But people love to say they have green eyes because they think it makes them “special.” 
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DP. I have no idea what the scientific stats are on green versus "hazel" but, as someone with hazel eyes married to someone with hazel eyes, I think that a lot of people whose eyes are hazel tend to describe their own eyes as green (though I say hazel). Hazel is technically a green-brown combination, often with brown in a ring around the iris and green surrounding that, so the predominant color is very often much more green than brown. I don't think people claim green because "it makes them 'special.'" I think they just see mostly green. It's a bit petty-minded to assume that people who call their own eye color green are doing so just out of vanity. A lot of people don't even really know what "hazel" means in eye color or why it's differentiated from green, so it's probably easier to say, or put onto forms, "green eyes." [/quote]

This. Hazel eyes are by definition a combination of colors so it's confusing.

When I was a kid, my eyes looked green to me. I didn't even know what hazel was. So I thought my eyes were green. I was sitting at dinner once and my mom said my eyes were blue and I said, "no, my eyes are green." And then my sister said [rather rudely], "no, her eyes are hazel." I think she thought I was trying to make myself seem special, so maybe the same hangups as OP. But I was a child and literally didn't know what hazel is.

As an adult, I generally describe my eyes as hazel on forms, but a lot of people don't know what hazel eyes are. I've also had people tell me "no, you're eyes are clearly green" and also "wait, I thought your eyes were blue?" Because my eyes are pretty light and the brown part is only around the edge, and the green part is apparently a kind of bluish green, I think my eyes can look different colors in different light. That can make it hard when I'm filling out a form and put down "hazel" and the person who is accepting the form says "no that is wrong, it should say [fill in the blank]."

So the PP who says that hazel-eyed people who describe their eyes as green are somehow vain or attention-seeking may not understand that actually the problem is that most people have either brown or blue eyes, so having eyes outside that paradigm can be challenging because there is not always consensus on what to call them.

My DH has brown eyes and my DD has blue eyes and neither of them ever have this problem.[/quote]

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