People who do nothing all day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brothers mother in law is 84 and has never worked one single hour in her life or went to college

She got married a few months after HS and moved in with her husband a mechanic for an airline who was 20.

She is still married. Her youngest moved out in 1990. She also does zero volunteer work and was not involved in any kids activities.

Did she provide for the family in other ways (ie: mental stimulation, ex: truly gifted cook, active in groups or hobbies)? I could not imagine just sitting like a vegetable in front of television all day. I think such a thing is difficult for active people to comprehend. D.C. seems to attract many low energy people, for some reason.

She does not have friends, not active in any groups and barely cooks.

Here was a day once described to me from 30 years ago when husband worked. Get up have breakfast husband make him brown bag lunch, she then like to take a walk, come home nap, get up do a few very minor things have dinner husband.

Her husband managed all bills, did every home repair, mowed lawn, took care cars. Worked full time.

She did no gardening or even ever had a pet. Her nearest relative was 3,000 miles away so no parties or things

Did they have a full-time housekeeper and cook? Because if not, she likely cooked, as you described, and cleaned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t do anything and it’s awesome. I don’t work, I don’t volunteer, and I don’t help anyone out outside of family. Most mornings I wake up not fully aware of what day it is. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I love this for you. I pray, wish and hope that in this lifetime, I have the means to do the same one day soon.

How sad. I want more for myself and I am not raising my kids to aspire to this!

+1

Only because you’ll never be able to do it. Green is such an ugly color.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brothers mother in law is 84 and has never worked one single hour in her life or went to college

She got married a few months after HS and moved in with her husband a mechanic for an airline who was 20.

She is still married. Her youngest moved out in 1990. She also does zero volunteer work and was not involved in any kids activities.

Do you know so little history that you don’t understand that this is historically normal for an American woman born in 1938, particularly a white American woman born in 1938? They were discouraged from working in active barriers or put up to make it very hard to have careers. It is completely normal for someone her age to have never worked.

Clearly she raised children, which is work.

Right. If this woman was born in 1938 and got married after high school, that was circa 1956. Then the PP says her youngest moved out in 1990. That's 34 years of being a stay at home wife/mother. Social Security, for example, pays you for 35 years of work. So she worked essentually a full lifetime as a homemaker and I'm sure continued to take care of the husband and home after that. There is nothing unusual about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brothers mother in law is 84 and has never worked one single hour in her life or went to college

She got married a few months after HS and moved in with her husband a mechanic for an airline who was 20.

She is still married. Her youngest moved out in 1990. She also does zero volunteer work and was not involved in any kids activities.

She cooked and cleaned and took care of the kids when they weren't in school, pretty much a typical lower middle class / middle class existence at the time.she married. Most women didn't throw themselves into their kids lives like they do now.

I take it she probably did most of the cooking and cleaning even after all the kids moved out. Sounds exactly like my grandmother and all her sisters. Expectations were much lower then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brothers mother in law is 84 and has never worked one single hour in her life or went to college

She got married a few months after HS and moved in with her husband a mechanic for an airline who was 20.

She is still married. Her youngest moved out in 1990. She also does zero volunteer work and was not involved in any kids activities.

She cooked and cleaned and took care of the kids when they weren't in school, pretty much a typical lower middle class / middle class existence at the time.she married. Most women didn't throw themselves into their kids lives like they do now.

I take it she probably did most of the cooking and cleaning even after all the kids moved out. Sounds exactly like my grandmother and all her sisters. Expectations were much lower then.

Cooking and cleaning for who? Her last child moved out in 1987.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t do anything and it’s awesome. I don’t work, I don’t volunteer, and I don’t help anyone out outside of family. Most mornings I wake up not fully aware of what day it is. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

+1. I worked hard, made a bunch of money, raised my kids, and now I’m done. Life is wonderful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Literally, nothing. Why aren't you working, or contributing to society?

I worked for 20 years as a partner in a lobbying firm. Covid changed my life. I started to understand that I was cheating myself and my family by not spending time with them. I realized that I didn't need to work 60+ hours a week and go out with clients 4 days a week to get my job done and be successful. I was lucky to make a very nice salary.

Against my financial advisors advice, I invested every extra dollar I had in Apple stock. That investment has payed off big time!

Now, in my mid 50's, I can do anything I want to do. I contributed to society in my working days and still do today. My taxes are paying for your schools, police, etc...However, I now choose to live life on my own terms.

You do you. I'm going to do me. Somedays, nothing feels better than waking up at 10 in the morning. Other days, up at 4 am to go fishing.

OP - Why do you work (I'm assuming, like everyone else, to pay the bills)? What is your goal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Literally, nothing. Why aren't you working, or contributing to society?

I worked for 20 years as a partner in a lobbying firm. Covid changed my life. I started to understand that I was cheating myself and my family by not spending time with them. I realized that I didn't need to work 60+ hours a week and go out with clients 4 days a week to get my job done and be successful. I was lucky to make a very nice salary.

Against my financial advisors advice, I invested every extra dollar I had in Apple stock. That investment has payed off big time!

Now, in my mid 50's, I can do anything I want to do. I contributed to society in my working days and still do today. My taxes are paying for your schools, police, etc...However, I now choose to live life on my own terms.

You do you. I'm going to do me. Somedays, nothing feels better than waking up at 10 in the morning. Other days, up at 4 am to go fishing.

OP - Why do you work (I'm assuming, like everyone else, to pay the bills)? What is your goal?

Ahem… without knowing the specific type of lobbying you did, I can say that in general terms, if all a lobbyist chooses to stay home and “do nothing” rather than “contribute to society” we’re all probably better off…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brothers mother in law is 84 and has never worked one single hour in her life or went to college

She got married a few months after HS and moved in with her husband a mechanic for an airline who was 20.

She is still married. Her youngest moved out in 1990. She also does zero volunteer work and was not involved in any kids activities.

You’re joking I hope? Your brother’s MIL and MILLIONS of other women did the exact same. Are you completely unaware of how things were pre 1970? This was the norm for women her age and for women younger as well. I am sure she did many many things in her day-to-day life that you’re not privy to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brothers mother in law is 84 and has never worked one single hour in her life or went to college

She got married a few months after HS and moved in with her husband a mechanic for an airline who was 20.

She is still married. Her youngest moved out in 1990. She also does zero volunteer work and was not involved in any kids activities.

You’re joking I hope? Your brother’s MIL and MILLIONS of other women did the exact same. Are you completely unaware of how things were pre 1970? This was the norm for women her age and for women younger as well. I am sure she did many many things in her day-to-day life that you’re not privy to.

She has only two kids. My mom had four kids, a widow, forced back to work full time.

My mom would be hosting thanksgiving, Xmas while raising four kids running a house while working full time. My mom used to say I have no clue what that lady does all day. I still don’t, she is still married but they moved to a condo for “less work” 25 years ago. She goes to supermarket once a week. Her husband in retirement was on condo board for a bit, did projects, goes to church on Sunday. But she did not join him as “too busy”. So lazy is she that they bought a place walking distance to Catholic Church and now that he is pushing 90 he can walk if she has car. Never had a pet or a plant. I visited then by chance once as in that area and was not even offered a drink of water. Literally last has spent her life doing nothing

[Anonymous]

I’m 60, have health issues- whose going to hire me? Believe it or not some volunteer groups are political, so much bureaucracy to even work at a place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brothers mother in law is 84 and has never worked one single hour in her life or went to college

She got married a few months after HS and moved in with her husband a mechanic for an airline who was 20.

She is still married. Her youngest moved out in 1990. She also does zero volunteer work and was not involved in any kids activities.

You’re joking I hope? Your brother’s MIL and MILLIONS of other women did the exact same. Are you completely unaware of how things were pre 1970? This was the norm for women her age and for women younger as well. I am sure she did many many things in her day-to-day life that you’re not privy to.

She has only two kids. My mom had four kids, a widow, forced back to work full time.

My mom would be hosting thanksgiving, Xmas while raising four kids running a house while working full time. My mom used to say I have no clue what that lady does all day. I still don’t, she is still married but they moved to a condo for “less work” 25 years ago. She goes to supermarket once a week. Her husband in retirement was on condo board for a bit, did projects, goes to church on Sunday. But she did not join him as “too busy”. So lazy is she that they bought a place walking distance to Catholic Church and now that he is pushing 90 he can walk if she has car. Never had a pet or a plant. I visited then by chance once as in that area and was not even offered a drink of water. Literally last has spent her life doing nothing

You sound like a peach. What business is it if yours, anyway?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know anyone like that. Seriously, not a single person.

I know a couple. My sister has never worked. Her children are in college. She doesn't volunteer anywhere. She doesn't have hobbies. She doesn't read. She doesn't have the attention span to watch a movie. I would die of boredom.

I think you would succumb to fatal jealousy before boredom.

Dead solid perfect reply

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brothers mother in law is 84 and has never worked one single hour in her life or went to college

She got married a few months after HS and moved in with her husband a mechanic for an airline who was 20.

She is still married. Her youngest moved out in 1990. She also does zero volunteer work and was not involved in any kids activities.

You’re joking I hope? Your brother’s MIL and MILLIONS of other women did the exact same. Are you completely unaware of how things were pre 1970? This was the norm for women her age and for women younger as well. I am sure she did many many things in her day-to-day life that you’re not privy to.

She has only two kids. My mom had four kids, a widow, forced back to work full time.

My mom would be hosting thanksgiving, Xmas while raising four kids running a house while working full time. My mom used to say I have no clue what that lady does all day. I still don’t, she is still married but they moved to a condo for “less work” 25 years ago. She goes to supermarket once a week. Her husband in retirement was on condo board for a bit, did projects, goes to church on Sunday. But she did not join him as “too busy”. So lazy is she that they bought a place walking distance to Catholic Church and now that he is pushing 90 he can walk if she has car. Never had a pet or a plant. I visited then by chance once as in that area and was not even offered a drink of water. Literally last has spent her life doing nothing

You sound like a peach. What business is it if yours, anyway?

She and her mom hate this woman and talk trash about her to make themselves feel better. She breathes and they roll their eyes, mumbling about her lack of effort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brothers mother in law is 84 and has never worked one single hour in her life or went to college

She got married a few months after HS and moved in with her husband a mechanic for an airline who was 20.

She is still married. Her youngest moved out in 1990. She also does zero volunteer work and was not involved in any kids activities.

You’re joking I hope? Your brother’s MIL and MILLIONS of other women did the exact same. Are you completely unaware of how things were pre 1970? This was the norm for women her age and for women younger as well. I am sure she did many many things in her day-to-day life that you’re not privy to.

She has only two kids. My mom had four kids, a widow, forced back to work full time.

My mom would be hosting thanksgiving, Xmas while raising four kids running a house while working full time. My mom used to say I have no clue what that lady does all day. I still don’t, she is still married but they moved to a condo for “less work” 25 years ago. She goes to supermarket once a week. Her husband in retirement was on condo board for a bit, did projects, goes to church on Sunday. But she did not join him as “too busy”. So lazy is she that they bought a place walking distance to Catholic Church and now that he is pushing 90 he can walk if she has car. Never had a pet or a plant. I visited then by chance once as in that area and was not even offered a drink of water. Literally last has spent her life doing nothing

You sound like a peach. What business is it if yours, anyway?

She and her mom hate this woman and talk trash about her to make themselves feel better. She breathes and they roll their eyes, mumbling about her lack of effort.

+1