If you get Starbucks with your kids present, do you always buy Starbucks for your kids?

[Anonymous]

I love the people who are like "but we only get black coffee so that's not really something"

If it's really not something, stay home and make coffee like an adult.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What a weird thread. If we're en route to school or an early morning swim meet and I do a Starbucks mobile order for a giant plain coffee, I do not also get something for my elementary schooler, unless that was the plan for her breakfast. I promise you she does not care. If I were going at a random time of day for something "fun" with her in my company, it would again be part of a plan ("let's get a treat - want something from Starbucks?").

I don't think the folks here are talking about infants or whatever age your little kid is. This is about teens. How weird to post on a thread about teenager when your kid is in 1st grade.

Elementary schoolers can definitely be tweens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a weird thread. If we're en route to school or an early morning swim meet and I do a Starbucks mobile order for a giant plain coffee, I do not also get something for my elementary schooler, unless that was the plan for her breakfast. I promise you she does not care. If I were going at a random time of day for something "fun" with her in my company, it would again be part of a plan ("let's get a treat - want something from Starbucks?").

I don't happen to drink coffee. But I can't really fathom why, if you're leaving directly from your house to go somewhere, you wouldn't just take a coffee with you. It's faster, cheaper, better for the environment.

I can get that sometimes when you've been out from hours, or when your day has been stretched by things you didn't anticipate, it's nice to stop, maybe sit down for a minute, use a bathroom, buy a treat. But in that case, my kid deserves to stop, and sit down, use a bathroom, and buy a treat.

But Starbucks in the morning every day, that isn't something I can't understand modeling for my kids.

But maybe I am missing something and Starbucks black drip coffee tastes way better than homemade or something?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What a weird thread. If we're en route to school or an early morning swim meet and I do a Starbucks mobile order for a giant plain coffee, I do not also get something for my elementary schooler, unless that was the plan for her breakfast. I promise you she does not care. If I were going at a random time of day for something "fun" with her in my company, it would again be part of a plan ("let's get a treat - want something from Starbucks?").

I don't happen to drink coffee. But I can't really fathom why, if you're leaving directly from your house to go somewhere, you wouldn't just take a coffee with you. It's faster, cheaper, better for the environment.

I can get that sometimes when you've been out from hours, or when your day has been stretched by things you didn't anticipate, it's nice to stop, maybe sit down for a minute, use a bathroom, buy a treat. But in that case, my kid deserves to stop, and sit down, use a bathroom, and buy a treat.

But Starbucks in the morning every day, that isn't something I can't understand modeling for my kids.

But maybe I am missing something and Starbucks black drip coffee tastes way better than homemade or something?

It doesn’t. I also don’t understand people who get daily drip from Starbucks. It’s not good coffee, so I assume they have really basic taste buds.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s one poster who is focused on their daily “drip coffee” fro. Starbucks. There can’t be multiple people who do this. Right?

[Anonymous]

I buy Starbucks using my app to get the points. I'll buy it for my kids a few times a week, but rarely get anything for myself. I brew my own drinks at home. Then again, I'll also order iced tea at restaurants and have my glass of wine at home to save that money, too. You guys get what you want, I have my seltzer here. I'm turning into my own mother, basically.

[Anonymous]

When they were young, heck no I didn't get them anything. Maybe around 7-8 they got chocolate milk. They are teens now so whatever they want.

[Anonymous]

[code]I think it’s one poster who is focused on their daily “drip coffee” fro. Starbucks. There can’t be multiple people who do this. Right?

When I worked in the office full time, I made and drank coffee at home, brought some with me, but inevitably bought some Starbucks in the afternoon. But I am basically made of caffeine and drink coffee at all hours of the day.

If I were having one cup of coffee per day, it would not come from Starbucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I only get drip or unsweetened iced coffees with milk. I’m happy to order my kids those…but they are disinterested. They prefer $6 iced matchas with oat milk and so forth.

So no, I don’t order them a drink every time I get a coffee.

And they’re ok! Your kids will be ok too! It’s rather alarming to see so many parents willing to buy their children awful beverages just so they don’t feel “sad.”

Dp you are being deliberately obtuse. If you want to get something at Starbucks surely there are times when they aren't with you. It is rude not to offer them something and I always get my kid the chocolate milk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ouch. You treat yourself but not your kids because you do not want to spend that much? Then don’t get yourself one. Pretty sad to be honest with you.

Same. Plenty of times I get my kids ice cream or some other treat and don't get myself something.

[Anonymous]

I get black coffee or an Americano and my kids don't like those.

[Anonymous]

Inspired by this thread. I didn't realize Starbucks was such a thing with teens as I don't go myself.
There was a Starbucks I was walking by with my 13yo. Asked her if she would like something and we went in. It was fun to look at the menu and pick something to try. I didn't get anything for myself but maybe next time. The years are flying by too fast.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn’t occur to me not to get her whatever she wants.

But if she gets something sugary I’ll probably make an oblique but damaging remark about it.

This is the way of my people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What a weird thread. If we're en route to school or an early morning swim meet and I do a Starbucks mobile order for a giant plain coffee, I do not also get something for my elementary schooler, unless that was the plan for her breakfast. I promise you she does not care. If I were going at a random time of day for something "fun" with her in my company, it would again be part of a plan ("let's get a treat - want something from Starbucks?").

I don't happen to drink coffee. But I can't really fathom why, if you're leaving directly from your house to go somewhere, you wouldn't just take a coffee with you. It's faster, cheaper, better for the environment.

I can get that sometimes when you've been out from hours, or when your day has been stretched by things you didn't anticipate, it's nice to stop, maybe sit down for a minute, use a bathroom, buy a treat. But in that case, my kid deserves to stop, and sit down, use a bathroom, and buy a treat.

But Starbucks in the morning every day, that isn't something I can't understand modeling for my kids.

But maybe I am missing something and Starbucks black drip coffee tastes way better than homemade or something?

It doesn’t. I also don’t understand people who get daily drip from Starbucks. It’s not good coffee, so I assume they have really basic taste buds.

Starbucks is gross, especially the drip coffee.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you have food or drink (whatever it is) and your family or guests are there, you should offer to share. This is why I often save my treats to eat after they are asleep. I would just skip SB if my kids are present but I don’t want to buy for them.

Coffee isn’t a treat. It’s for adults like alcohol. I made it abundant clear since my kids were toddlers: no caffeinated drinks until you’re done growing. That’s how I grew up and I don’t see any problem with it. So no, I’m not buying you any sugary garbage just because I’m getting my coffee.

If I'm driving alcohol in front of my kids like a restaurant or winery, they do get to order a nonalcoholic drink, not just drink the free water.

Oops that was supposed to be "drinking alcohol" not driving, ha.

But also wanted to add that the PP is very odd for saying alcohol isn't a treat. Of course it is, for adults. Unless you're an alcoholic.

I don’t believe in the concept of “treats” for adults. I earn my money, I use it in any way I see fit. So no, I don’t think coffee or alcohol is a treat. It’s not something that someone else is bestowing on me for good behavior or a special occasion.

HAHA, ok - then what word would you use for something that you do not need - only want - and get for yourself? Honestly, you're just being an a-hole at this point in time pretending you don't understand the term treat. It means, alcohol and coffee are not needed to live. It's something extra that you provide yourself.

Yes, and it’s my money so I’m entitled to spend it as I wish. My children have no money and are not entitled to anything. I enjoy making them happy but that does not extend to purchasing them an item at Starbucks every time I get something.