If you get Starbucks with your kids present, do you always buy Starbucks for your kids?

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Anonymous wrote:If you have food or drink (whatever it is) and your family or guests are there, you should offer to share. This is why I often save my treats to eat after they are asleep. I would just skip SB if my kids are present but I don’t want to buy for them.

Coffee isn’t a treat. It’s for adults like alcohol. I made it abundant clear since my kids were toddlers: no caffeinated drinks until you’re done growing. That’s how I grew up and I don’t see any problem with it. So no, I’m not buying you any sugary garbage just because I’m getting my coffee.

If I'm driving alcohol in front of my kids like a restaurant or winery, they do get to order a nonalcoholic drink, not just drink the free water.

Oops that was supposed to be "drinking alcohol" not driving, ha.

But also wanted to add that the PP is very odd for saying alcohol isn't a treat. Of course it is, for adults. Unless you're an alcoholic.

I don’t believe in the concept of “treats” for adults. I earn my money, I use it in any way I see fit. So no, I don’t think coffee or alcohol is a treat. It’s not something that someone else is bestowing on me for good behavior or a special occasion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I only get drip or unsweetened iced coffees with milk. I’m happy to order my kids those…but they are disinterested. They prefer $6 iced matchas with oat milk and so forth.

So no, I don’t order them a drink every time I get a coffee.

And they’re ok! Your kids will be ok too! It’s rather alarming to see so many parents willing to buy their children awful beverages just so they don’t feel “sad.”

It seems that the problem for you is the $6 not the ingredients.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I only get drip or unsweetened iced coffees with milk. I’m happy to order my kids those…but they are disinterested. They prefer $6 iced matchas with oat milk and so forth.

So no, I don’t order them a drink every time I get a coffee.

And they’re ok! Your kids will be ok too! It’s rather alarming to see so many parents willing to buy their children awful beverages just so they don’t feel “sad.”

Agreed. I mean, I very rarely go to starbucks or similar so I've never actually been in this situation. But if I were to be the kind of person who grabbed a black coffee or a tea while out running errands, then no I would not always buy my kids what amounts to a milkshake or super rich hot chocolate. These things are desserts. If they want a small refresher or plain iced tea, I would get them that.

There are lots and lots and lots of times that I grab them fast food and don't partake myself. We don't all need to ingest the same treats every time one person wants one.

And to follow up as an example. Last night my teenager got McDonald's after a sports event that happened right over dinner time. I did not offer it (as a meal or as a small treat) to my younger son who had the opportunity to have dinner at home, even though we did all ride home from the game together.

Ok and? did your child ask and you said "no Larlo, only Larlo Sr gets McDonald's, you had an opportunity to eat at home." To me, that's weird. I would've offered and who knows, maybe the child would've declined.

It is weird and rude to stop and get food for one kid and not ask the other kid if they are hungry or want something.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I only get drip or unsweetened iced coffees with milk. I’m happy to order my kids those…but they are disinterested. They prefer $6 iced matchas with oat milk and so forth.

So no, I don’t order them a drink every time I get a coffee.

And they’re ok! Your kids will be ok too! It’s rather alarming to see so many parents willing to buy their children awful beverages just so they don’t feel “sad.”

It seems that the problem for you is the $6 not the ingredients.

It should be an issue for you as well. And so should the ingredients. We are raising future adults here, and their every desire and craving does not need to be met. Surely you know it’s unwise to order your kid $6 crap drinks?

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Rarely. If I go there and plan to sit, I usually bring my kids stuff from home to enjoy.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's not that a parent can't decide that the child should/shouldn't have something, it's the idea of going to a place and only getting something for yourself. That to me is weird. It also teaches weird values. TO ME. YMMV

Agree with this. If I go with a friend or coworker, I would offer to get them something. If I went and someone went with me an didn't get something, it would be weird.

I think it's the perspective of how you view your kids. Are they just an extension of you to be dragged around to watch you drink your "black coffee" (as if that's better than a latte or whatever) or are they actual people who you should show consideration and respect.

+100. Not letting them get anything at all is weird and rude. Of course if we are going to Starbucks we are all going to get something. Hell, the dog gets a pup cup!

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Why are people acting like a human teenager will spontaneously combust or have their brain melt if they ingest any amount of caffeine or sugar?

An occasional latte or cookie is really not going to do them in.

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Anonymous wrote:Last weekend I took DS9 to a morning birthday party and stopped at Starbucks on the way to get coffee, and it didn't even occur to me to offer him something. I was about to drop him off at a party where he'd be pumped full of soda, pizza, and cake! He didn't need a milkshake and he would have had no interest in a milk or plain iced tea.

Why wouldn't you just go to Starbucks after dropping him off then?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are people acting like a human teenager will spontaneously combust or have their brain melt if they ingest any amount of caffeine or sugar?

An occasional latte or cookie is really not going to do them in.

But what about a daily latte? I get a drip coffee from Starbucks daily. Now do you see why I don’t also get my kids one..?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are people acting like a human teenager will spontaneously combust or have their brain melt if they ingest any amount of caffeine or sugar?

An occasional latte or cookie is really not going to do them in.

But what about a daily latte? I get a drip coffee from Starbucks daily. Now do you see why I don’t also get my kids one..?

You take your kids there everyday? That is the part ppl think is odd -- taking your kids and deciding not to buy/offer them anything. No one is talking about what you buy/drink on your own time.

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I think a lot of posters don’t actually like their children. And that’s ok…I guess. As long as they care for them in a reasonable and responsible way.

My kid and I are buds so when we are in the car headed for an afternoon of errands and need some fortification we will totally hit Starbs and get our favorites.

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What a weird thread. If we're en route to school or an early morning swim meet and I do a Starbucks mobile order for a giant plain coffee, I do not also get something for my elementary schooler, unless that was the plan for her breakfast. I promise you she does not care. If I were going at a random time of day for something "fun" with her in my company, it would again be part of a plan ("let's get a treat - want something from Starbucks?").

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Anonymous wrote:If you have food or drink (whatever it is) and your family or guests are there, you should offer to share. This is why I often save my treats to eat after they are asleep. I would just skip SB if my kids are present but I don’t want to buy for them.

Coffee isn’t a treat. It’s for adults like alcohol. I made it abundant clear since my kids were toddlers: no caffeinated drinks until you’re done growing. That’s how I grew up and I don’t see any problem with it. So no, I’m not buying you any sugary garbage just because I’m getting my coffee.

If I'm driving alcohol in front of my kids like a restaurant or winery, they do get to order a nonalcoholic drink, not just drink the free water.

Oops that was supposed to be "drinking alcohol" not driving, ha.

But also wanted to add that the PP is very odd for saying alcohol isn't a treat. Of course it is, for adults. Unless you're an alcoholic.

I don’t believe in the concept of “treats” for adults. I earn my money, I use it in any way I see fit. So no, I don’t think coffee or alcohol is a treat. It’s not something that someone else is bestowing on me for good behavior or a special occasion.

HAHA, ok - then what word would you use for something that you do not need - only want - and get for yourself? Honestly, you're just being an a-hole at this point in time pretending you don't understand the term treat. It means, alcohol and coffee are not needed to live. It's something extra that you provide yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a weird thread. If we're en route to school or an early morning swim meet and I do a Starbucks mobile order for a giant plain coffee, I do not also get something for my elementary schooler, unless that was the plan for her breakfast. I promise you she does not care. If I were going at a random time of day for something "fun" with her in my company, it would again be part of a plan ("let's get a treat - want something from Starbucks?").

I don't think the folks here are talking about infants or whatever age your little kid is. This is about teens. How weird to post on a thread about teenager when your kid is in 1st grade.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are people acting like a human teenager will spontaneously combust or have their brain melt if they ingest any amount of caffeine or sugar?

An occasional latte or cookie is really not going to do them in.

But what about a daily latte? I get a drip coffee from Starbucks daily. Now do you see why I don’t also get my kids one..?

Wait, you take your kids to Starbucks every day (and, can we just pause and say here - get a damn coffee maker if you are only getting drip coffee) and don't get them anything? That's just....rude.