Chastised for not tipping on a to go order

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New poster here and I haven read the previous 13 or so pages.

I worked as a hostess all through high school and took to-go orders and then boxed them up. I was rarely tipped: maybe one out of every 100 orders. I was paid $10/hour and the servers were paid $3/hour plus tips.

Last summer my 15 year old daughter worked the take-out counter at a taco place and made $9/hour. With tips she made between $16-25/hour, it was a bit nuts for a 15 year old.

Did you not run that salary through an inflation calculator to realize your daughter needed tips to merely match your pay for the same job lmao

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone tipping take out and at hotels must live in a fancier world than I do. It has never occurred to me to tip when I stand in line, watch my order be made and then handed to me in a bag Or, when I stay at the Holiday Inn (a luxury my parents never had when I was growing up). Honestly, the only place I've heard about hotel tipping is in movies (hardly a window into reality), and here on DCUM (which is....a unique place, to say the least).

You need to leave $5-10 a night at hotels, this is what decent people do now. Maybe not when we were kids, but now, yes.

Only if they clean my room during the stay. I will leave tip money daily for the person cleaning the room. Otherwise, I will leave $10 for the entire stay for the cleaner who comes in to cleanup after my departure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone tipping take out and at hotels must live in a fancier world than I do. It has never occurred to me to tip when I stand in line, watch my order be made and then handed to me in a bag Or, when I stay at the Holiday Inn (a luxury my parents never had when I was growing up). Honestly, the only place I've heard about hotel tipping is in movies (hardly a window into reality), and here on DCUM (which is....a unique place, to say the least).

You need to leave $5-10 a night at hotels, this is what decent people do now. Maybe not when we were kids, but now, yes.

As an aside: a few people who used to work as hotel cleaning staff told me that on the day of check out the manager would quickly go into the room and grab the tip… so now I don’t tip on the last day unless I see the cleaner in the hallway and ask if my room is on their list and they confirm

Damn. That's harsh. I was not aware of this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this has already been pointed out, but servers and bartenders (who are tipped employees) give the food runners, bussers, and sometimes hostesses a % of their tips based on food sales. When you don’t tip on takeout, you are taking money out of their pockets.

This. It took a long time for someone to say it.We need to fix this at my restaurant. I'm usually the one who is in the front while others are who knows where. I get caught by the to-go order crowd. At the end of the night, it's $100-$200 of sale I have to tip out to 3 people.
I don't have that money. It comes from the tip I made at the tables. At minimum, go to the bar and order, because our bartender doesn't tip anyone out. He/she is more of a service bartender.
I know it's hard to know and not customers problem, but yes, she probably had to use money from other tables. Tip enough to cover her loss.
She was extremely rude though by pointing it out. I have seen it done only 5 times in my 25 year career. All people who did that were somehow strange in other ways- just the way they think and things they say.
We went out yesterday and the tip was already entered for us at a Mexican restaurant and it was 22%. Service wasn't worth that and I don't even remember when we got good service last time.

Who wants to sit around the bar, place a new to go order and wait for it?

If you’re picking up at a place with a hostess, would you tip? How about at a place with no front of the house (like Panera)?

In addition to the screen asking for a tip (as the employee is watching to see what you do), another detested thing is when you order a pick up order online and it’s impossible to complete the transaction without entering some tip.

Most of us want to tip and don't mind.

Do you think so after reading these answers? Seems pretty split, no!

It isn’t split. Early on there was one belligerent person (the one obsessed with Charles Dickens characters) who posted a lot. But that’s it.

The most charitable thing you can say is a lot of people have been duped into tipping for this sort of thing because of screen prompts or they did it during COVID. But it’s not an actual thing and it’s out of control now and shouldn’t be normalized.

You are indeed a cheapskate. Probably a New Yorker related to Trump.

Another giant swing and a miss

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would email the restaurant and let them know. There is no need to tip on carry out.

+1

Cheap a$$ho!es that don't tip a measly $5 for takeout orders. Maybe you can't afford to eat out and need to eat at home.

Do you tip at McDonalds, Starbucks, Panera Bread, Burger King, Corner Bakery and other take out locations?

Yes, without hesitation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Restaurants are all short staffed, and whatever they can do to keep workers from jumping to other restaurants, they will do. How many closed during the pandemic? How many are still short staffed? How many would you like to remain open so that you can get a tablenor take out and don't have to cook on any particular evening?

If a couple of bucks won't make a difference in your life, but will make a big difference in someone else's life, Just. Do. It.

We have 2000 new immigrants being bussed around the country everyday. The restaurants will soon have their fill of employees.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone tipping take out and at hotels must live in a fancier world than I do. It has never occurred to me to tip when I stand in line, watch my order be made and then handed to me in a bag Or, when I stay at the Holiday Inn (a luxury my parents never had when I was growing up). Honestly, the only place I've heard about hotel tipping is in movies (hardly a window into reality), and here on DCUM (which is....a unique place, to say the least).

You need to leave $5-10 a night at hotels, this is what decent people do now. Maybe not when we were kids, but now, yes.

As an aside: a few people who used to work as hotel cleaning staff told me that on the day of check out the manager would quickly go into the room and grab the tip… so now I don’t tip on the last day unless I see the cleaner in the hallway and ask if my room is on their list and they confirm

Mental gymnastics to avoid tipping your cleaner, "I didn't see them in the hall when I left and I heard once managers might steal the tip so I won't do it". Cheap.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this has already been pointed out, but servers and bartenders (who are tipped employees) give the food runners, bussers, and sometimes hostesses a % of their tips based on food sales. When you don’t tip on takeout, you are taking money out of their pockets.

This. It took a long time for someone to say it.We need to fix this at my restaurant. I'm usually the one who is in the front while others are who knows where. I get caught by the to-go order crowd. At the end of the night, it's $100-$200 of sale I have to tip out to 3 people.
I don't have that money. It comes from the tip I made at the tables. At minimum, go to the bar and order, because our bartender doesn't tip anyone out. He/she is more of a service bartender.
I know it's hard to know and not customers problem, but yes, she probably had to use money from other tables. Tip enough to cover her loss.
She was extremely rude though by pointing it out. I have seen it done only 5 times in my 25 year career. All people who did that were somehow strange in other ways- just the way they think and things they say.
We went out yesterday and the tip was already entered for us at a Mexican restaurant and it was 22%. Service wasn't worth that and I don't even remember when we got good service last time.

Who wants to sit around the bar, place a new to go order and wait for it?

If you’re picking up at a place with a hostess, would you tip? How about at a place with no front of the house (like Panera)?

In addition to the screen asking for a tip (as the employee is watching to see what you do), another detested thing is when you order a pick up order online and it’s impossible to complete the transaction without entering some tip.

Most of us want to tip and don't mind.

Do you think so after reading these answers? Seems pretty split, no!

It isn’t split. Early on there was one belligerent person (the one obsessed with Charles Dickens characters) who posted a lot. But that’s it.

The most charitable thing you can say is a lot of people have been duped into tipping for this sort of thing because of screen prompts or they did it during COVID. But it’s not an actual thing and it’s out of control now and shouldn’t be normalized.

Only one Dickens character would be like you -- Ebenezer Scrooge. Signed, Tiny Tim

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would email the restaurant and let them know. There is no need to tip on carry out.

+1

Cheap a$$ho!es that don't tip a measly $5 for takeout orders. Maybe you can't afford to eat out and need to eat at home.

Do you tip at McDonalds, Starbucks, Panera Bread, Burger King, Corner Bakery and other take out locations?

Yes, without hesitation.

You have a lot of disposable income. Or you are just foolish with the income you have. Glad it works for you, but it does not work for everyone's finances.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone tipping take out and at hotels must live in a fancier world than I do. It has never occurred to me to tip when I stand in line, watch my order be made and then handed to me in a bag Or, when I stay at the Holiday Inn (a luxury my parents never had when I was growing up). Honestly, the only place I've heard about hotel tipping is in movies (hardly a window into reality), and here on DCUM (which is....a unique place, to say the least).

You need to leave $5-10 a night at hotels, this is what decent people do now. Maybe not when we were kids, but now, yes.

As an aside: a few people who used to work as hotel cleaning staff told me that on the day of check out the manager would quickly go into the room and grab the tip… so now I don’t tip on the last day unless I see the cleaner in the hallway and ask if my room is on their list and they confirm

Mental gymnastics to avoid tipping your cleaner, "I didn't see them in the hall when I left and I heard once managers might steal the tip so I won't do it". Cheap.

+1 yep

[Anonymous]

Ok what about a Comcast technician? My sister gave a $10 tip plus a baked apple she has just made.

-florida

[Anonymous]

How about at bars? All those guys do is squirt a drink in a glass and hand it to you. Surely you don't tip them! That would be crazy, right?

Reality: Bartenders make a lot of money and most of it is tips. Like they can make $40-50 hr just in tips on a busy night. Pretty much 100% of everybody tips bartenders, and even if a drink is only $5 they tip at least $1.

Why? According to all you non-tippers they are hardly doing anything worth giving them a tip. Please explain.

[Anonymous]

I always forget to tip the cleaner at hotels. It is not intentional, I just forget. I actually was a cleaner at a hotel for two years in college so it is not out of disrespect for what they dow at all. I think one reason I don't think about it is that it was very unusual for people to tip cleaners back then -- I'd get a tip once in a blue moon but it was definitely not typical. So now it just doesn't cross my mind. I also think that like a lot of people, I'm less likely to think of a tip when I don't interact with the person providing me the service. Not defending my actions, just explaining.

Literally stayed in a hotel earlier this week and even though to myself when we were checking in "don't forget to leave cash for the cleaner!" And then forgot. I remembered on the way home.

I know hotels would never allow this, but I wish cleaners could leave a card with their Venmo or something in the room. I have seen hotels where they leave a gratuity envelope to be dropped off at the front desk, and this helps me remember. But a Venmo handle with a note would be even better because then I don't even have to remember to leave the envelope at check out (sometimes I don't even formally check out), nor do I need to have cash in the right denominations. Plus with a Venmo you could write a note of thanks which I know might be far less valuable to the person but I also think makes the interaction warmer somehow.

Anyway, I always tip on take-out.

[Anonymous]

Corporations push tip culture because they don’t want to pay their employees. Instead, they pay executives outrageous salaries and prioritize stockholders over customers.

Companies that don’t pay or treat employees fairly will soon see that they can’t find people willing to work for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Restaurants are all short staffed, and whatever they can do to keep workers from jumping to other restaurants, they will do. How many closed during the pandemic? How many are still short staffed? How many would you like to remain open so that you can get a tablenor take out and don't have to cook on any particular evening?

If a couple of bucks won't make a difference in your life, but will make a big difference in someone else's life, Just. Do. It.

I give very, very generously to others in other ways. Maybe you don’t do that. Don’t judge others.