No kids wedding...except there were kids.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

It is a hassle to find a sitter to come up a hotel in a town you have never been to before.

If you are unable to figure out a way to go to a wedding without bringing your kids, who are not invited, you can’t go. If the the bride is your bff and really really wants you there and you’ve explained this to her but she still doesn’t want your kids there it sounds like she’d prefer to have the whole family decline than invite the kids. So decline.

Or I can get a sitter and expect a parenting message board to recognize that it’s kind of a hassle.

I'm a parent and don't consider it to be a huge hassle to sometimes need a sitter. You're barking up the wrong tree. Lots of things are a hassle when you have kids. Are you a new parent?

No. My oldest child is 12.
I just had to get a sitter yesterday when I was called into work because someone had Covid. I needed someone from 3:30pm-2am. So probably wedding hours.
I had to go a dozen people into my list before I found someone who could do it. I’m surprised that you have never had an issue with childcare.

If only weddings gave you months of notice of the date and time, unlike COVID. Oh, wait. They do!

Ehh…I was responding to someone who said that she has never had to make more than one phone call to find childcare ever and asked if I was a new mom.

Can you quote where that was said? Because I'm not seeing that.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a no kids wedding. We also had a 4yo flower girl, 7yo ring bearer, and 12yo "junior usher". I don't know anyone who counts participants in the actual wedding party against the "no kids" rule.

I had a cousin who raised a stink about it. But her main issue was that I chose to use the son of my lifelong best friend as my ring bearer instead of her son. My cousin and I aren't even remotely close...she was invited to the wedding to appease my mother. My best friend is like a sister to me. No brainer.

No. A no kids wedding means no kids at all and this includes the wedding party.

Wrong.

+1. Seriously wondering if this pp has ever been to a wedding. Flower girls and ring bearers are typically children related to the bride and groom. They are very commonly at weddings. Their attendance does not mean all guests can bring along their kids. Is this not something everyone knows?

My brother and I were in a wedding as ring bearer and flower girl years ago and it was boring AF. I remember us rolling down the stairs outside the banquet hall looking for something to do. Why do so many people want to drag their kids to a wedding anyway? Get a sitter or don't go. Your kids don't want to be there anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

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Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

It is a hassle to find a sitter to come up a hotel in a town you have never been to before.

If you are unable to figure out a way to go to a wedding without bringing your kids, who are not invited, you can’t go. If the the bride is your bff and really really wants you there and you’ve explained this to her but she still doesn’t want your kids there it sounds like she’d prefer to have the whole family decline than invite the kids. So decline.

Or I can get a sitter and expect a parenting message board to recognize that it’s kind of a hassle.

I'm a parent and don't consider it to be a huge hassle to sometimes need a sitter. You're barking up the wrong tree. Lots of things are a hassle when you have kids. Are you a new parent?

No. My oldest child is 12.
I just had to get a sitter yesterday when I was called into work because someone had Covid. I needed someone from 3:30pm-2am. So probably wedding hours.
I had to go a dozen people into my list before I found someone who could do it. I’m surprised that you have never had an issue with childcare.

If only weddings gave you months of notice of the date and time, unlike COVID. Oh, wait. They do!

Ehh…I was responding to someone who said that she has never had to make more than one phone call to find childcare ever and asked if I was a new mom.

Can you quote where that was said? Because I'm not seeing that.

If you click on “reply” you will see the rest of the chain.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a no kids wedding. We also had a 4yo flower girl, 7yo ring bearer, and 12yo "junior usher". I don't know anyone who counts participants in the actual wedding party against the "no kids" rule.

I had a cousin who raised a stink about it. But her main issue was that I chose to use the son of my lifelong best friend as my ring bearer instead of her son. My cousin and I aren't even remotely close...she was invited to the wedding to appease my mother. My best friend is like a sister to me. No brainer.

No. A no kids wedding means no kids at all and this includes the wedding party.

Wrong.

+1. Seriously wondering if this pp has ever been to a wedding. Flower girls and ring bearers are typically children related to the bride and groom. They are very commonly at weddings. Their attendance does not mean all guests can bring along their kids. Is this not something everyone knows?

It might be normal for you, but not everyone on this message board was born and raised in your culture.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

+1

Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

It is a hassle to find a sitter to come up a hotel in a town you have never been to before.

If you are unable to figure out a way to go to a wedding without bringing your kids, who are not invited, you can’t go. If the the bride is your bff and really really wants you there and you’ve explained this to her but she still doesn’t want your kids there it sounds like she’d prefer to have the whole family decline than invite the kids. So decline.

Or I can get a sitter and expect a parenting message board to recognize that it’s kind of a hassle.

I'm a parent and don't consider it to be a huge hassle to sometimes need a sitter. You're barking up the wrong tree. Lots of things are a hassle when you have kids. Are you a new parent?

No. My oldest child is 12.
I just had to get a sitter yesterday when I was called into work because someone had Covid. I needed someone from 3:30pm-2am. So probably wedding hours.
I had to go a dozen people into my list before I found someone who could do it. I’m surprised that you have never had an issue with childcare.

If only weddings gave you months of notice of the date and time, unlike COVID. Oh, wait. They do!

Ehh…I was responding to someone who said that she has never had to make more than one phone call to find childcare ever and asked if I was a new mom.

Can you quote where that was said? Because I'm not seeing that.

If you click on “reply” you will see the rest of the chain.

I know it's not there because I never said it, you're responding to person who said it's not hard to text a sitter. Never said "one phone call" or whatever you're imagining.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a no kids wedding. We also had a 4yo flower girl, 7yo ring bearer, and 12yo "junior usher". I don't know anyone who counts participants in the actual wedding party against the "no kids" rule.

I had a cousin who raised a stink about it. But her main issue was that I chose to use the son of my lifelong best friend as my ring bearer instead of her son. My cousin and I aren't even remotely close...she was invited to the wedding to appease my mother. My best friend is like a sister to me. No brainer.

No. A no kids wedding means no kids at all and this includes the wedding party.

Wrong.

+1. Seriously wondering if this pp has ever been to a wedding. Flower girls and ring bearers are typically children related to the bride and groom. They are very commonly at weddings. Their attendance does not mean all guests can bring along their kids. Is this not something everyone knows?

It might be normal for you, but not everyone on this message board was born and raised in your culture.

Are you under the impression that OP is not familiar with American wedding customs? That she has not seen media or movies that show American weddings? That she, a DC urban mom, has no idea what an American wedding entails?

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It’s hard. Totally normal and ok what the bride/groom did here. But it’s also ok (I think) to be hurt that your kids weren’t invited if you were under the mistaken impression that your kids were just as close to the bride/groom as the kids who were invited. That’s what this is about, I think.

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+1

Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

It is a hassle to find a sitter to come up a hotel in a town you have never been to before.

If you are unable to figure out a way to go to a wedding without bringing your kids, who are not invited, you can’t go. If the the bride is your bff and really really wants you there and you’ve explained this to her but she still doesn’t want your kids there it sounds like she’d prefer to have the whole family decline than invite the kids. So decline.

Or I can get a sitter and expect a parenting message board to recognize that it’s kind of a hassle.

I'm a parent and don't consider it to be a huge hassle to sometimes need a sitter. You're barking up the wrong tree. Lots of things are a hassle when you have kids. Are you a new parent?

No. My oldest child is 12.
I just had to get a sitter yesterday when I was called into work because someone had Covid. I needed someone from 3:30pm-2am. So probably wedding hours.
I had to go a dozen people into my list before I found someone who could do it. I’m surprised that you have never had an issue with childcare.

If only weddings gave you months of notice of the date and time, unlike COVID. Oh, wait. They do!

Ehh…I was responding to someone who said that she has never had to make more than one phone call to find childcare ever and asked if I was a new mom.

Can you quote where that was said? Because I'm not seeing that.

If you click on “reply” you will see the rest of the chain.

I know it's not there because I never said it, you're responding to person who said it's not hard to text a sitter. Never said "one phone call" or whatever you're imagining.

Who do you text when you go to an out of town wedding? Care to share this number/service?

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

+1

Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

It is a hassle to find a sitter to come up a hotel in a town you have never been to before.

If you are unable to figure out a way to go to a wedding without bringing your kids, who are not invited, you can’t go. If the the bride is your bff and really really wants you there and you’ve explained this to her but she still doesn’t want your kids there it sounds like she’d prefer to have the whole family decline than invite the kids. So decline.

Or I can get a sitter and expect a parenting message board to recognize that it’s kind of a hassle.

I'm a parent and don't consider it to be a huge hassle to sometimes need a sitter. You're barking up the wrong tree. Lots of things are a hassle when you have kids. Are you a new parent?

No. My oldest child is 12.
I just had to get a sitter yesterday when I was called into work because someone had Covid. I needed someone from 3:30pm-2am. So probably wedding hours.
I had to go a dozen people into my list before I found someone who could do it. I’m surprised that you have never had an issue with childcare.

If only weddings gave you months of notice of the date and time, unlike COVID. Oh, wait. They do!

Ehh…I was responding to someone who said that she has never had to make more than one phone call to find childcare ever and asked if I was a new mom.

Can you quote where that was said? Because I'm not seeing that.

If you click on “reply” you will see the rest of the chain.

I know it's not there because I never said it, you're responding to person who said it's not hard to text a sitter. Never said "one phone call" or whatever you're imagining.

Who do you text when you go to an out of town wedding? Care to share this number/service?

My babysitter does overnights/weekends, my kids can stay with their friends families, grandparents, really do you have no imagination? You have nobody in your life that can help you out? Why is your village so small? Or you take the kids and take turns with spouse staying in the hotel room with them.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a no kids wedding. We also had a 4yo flower girl, 7yo ring bearer, and 12yo "junior usher". I don't know anyone who counts participants in the actual wedding party against the "no kids" rule.

I had a cousin who raised a stink about it. But her main issue was that I chose to use the son of my lifelong best friend as my ring bearer instead of her son. My cousin and I aren't even remotely close...she was invited to the wedding to appease my mother. My best friend is like a sister to me. No brainer.

No. A no kids wedding means no kids at all and this includes the wedding party.

Wrong.

+1. Seriously wondering if this pp has ever been to a wedding. Flower girls and ring bearers are typically children related to the bride and groom. They are very commonly at weddings. Their attendance does not mean all guests can bring along their kids. Is this not something everyone knows?

It might be normal for you, but not everyone on this message board was born and raised in your culture.

Are you under the impression that OP is not familiar with American wedding customs? That she has not seen media or movies that show American weddings? That she, a DC urban mom, has no idea what an American wedding entails?

You can be somewhat familiar with American weddings and still not realize that a “childfree” wedding might have a lot of children.
I will say that every “childfree” American wedding I have ever been to has had zero children.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

+1

Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

It is a hassle to find a sitter to come up a hotel in a town you have never been to before.

If you are unable to figure out a way to go to a wedding without bringing your kids, who are not invited, you can’t go. If the the bride is your bff and really really wants you there and you’ve explained this to her but she still doesn’t want your kids there it sounds like she’d prefer to have the whole family decline than invite the kids. So decline.

Or I can get a sitter and expect a parenting message board to recognize that it’s kind of a hassle.

I'm a parent and don't consider it to be a huge hassle to sometimes need a sitter. You're barking up the wrong tree. Lots of things are a hassle when you have kids. Are you a new parent?

No. My oldest child is 12.
I just had to get a sitter yesterday when I was called into work because someone had Covid. I needed someone from 3:30pm-2am. So probably wedding hours.
I had to go a dozen people into my list before I found someone who could do it. I’m surprised that you have never had an issue with childcare.

If only weddings gave you months of notice of the date and time, unlike COVID. Oh, wait. They do!

Ehh…I was responding to someone who said that she has never had to make more than one phone call to find childcare ever and asked if I was a new mom.

Can you quote where that was said? Because I'm not seeing that.

If you click on “reply” you will see the rest of the chain.

I know it's not there because I never said it, you're responding to person who said it's not hard to text a sitter. Never said "one phone call" or whatever you're imagining.

Who do you text when you go to an out of town wedding? Care to share this number/service?

My babysitter does overnights/weekends, my kids can stay with their friends families, grandparents, really do you have no imagination? You have nobody in your life that can help you out? Why is your village so small? Or you take the kids and take turns with spouse staying in the hotel room with them.

The wedding was out of town.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a no kids wedding. We also had a 4yo flower girl, 7yo ring bearer, and 12yo "junior usher". I don't know anyone who counts participants in the actual wedding party against the "no kids" rule.

I had a cousin who raised a stink about it. But her main issue was that I chose to use the son of my lifelong best friend as my ring bearer instead of her son. My cousin and I aren't even remotely close...she was invited to the wedding to appease my mother. My best friend is like a sister to me. No brainer.

No. A no kids wedding means no kids at all and this includes the wedding party.

Wrong.

+1. Seriously wondering if this pp has ever been to a wedding. Flower girls and ring bearers are typically children related to the bride and groom. They are very commonly at weddings. Their attendance does not mean all guests can bring along their kids. Is this not something everyone knows?

It might be normal for you, but not everyone on this message board was born and raised in your culture.

Are you under the impression that OP is not familiar with American wedding customs? That she has not seen media or movies that show American weddings? That she, a DC urban mom, has no idea what an American wedding entails?

This level of entitlement feels very American white lady to me.

But yes, OP, it’s normal. Sorry you had to get a sitter.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

+1

Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

It is a hassle to find a sitter to come up a hotel in a town you have never been to before.

If you are unable to figure out a way to go to a wedding without bringing your kids, who are not invited, you can’t go. If the the bride is your bff and really really wants you there and you’ve explained this to her but she still doesn’t want your kids there it sounds like she’d prefer to have the whole family decline than invite the kids. So decline.

Or I can get a sitter and expect a parenting message board to recognize that it’s kind of a hassle.

I'm a parent and don't consider it to be a huge hassle to sometimes need a sitter. You're barking up the wrong tree. Lots of things are a hassle when you have kids. Are you a new parent?

No. My oldest child is 12.
I just had to get a sitter yesterday when I was called into work because someone had Covid. I needed someone from 3:30pm-2am. So probably wedding hours.
I had to go a dozen people into my list before I found someone who could do it. I’m surprised that you have never had an issue with childcare.

If only weddings gave you months of notice of the date and time, unlike COVID. Oh, wait. They do!

Ehh…I was responding to someone who said that she has never had to make more than one phone call to find childcare ever and asked if I was a new mom.

Can you quote where that was said? Because I'm not seeing that.

If you click on “reply” you will see the rest of the chain.

I know it's not there because I never said it, you're responding to person who said it's not hard to text a sitter. Never said "one phone call" or whatever you're imagining.

Who do you text when you go to an out of town wedding? Care to share this number/service?

My babysitter does overnights/weekends, my kids can stay with their friends families, grandparents, really do you have no imagination? You have nobody in your life that can help you out? Why is your village so small? Or you take the kids and take turns with spouse staying in the hotel room with them.

The wedding was out of town.

I have a feeling someone so difficult with zero imagination about how to solve this dilemma has any friends or family who would actually invite them to a wedding, since you don't have anyone who could help. This is not a problem for you, you're just being argumentative.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.

+1

Neither do the parents - they just want their snowflake to run around, cause chaos and do WTH they want, bride and groom be damned. It's the snowflakes day after all, don't you know?!

Dammit it's just so hard to find a sitter. What a hassle. I have to pick up my phone and text someone to ask if they are available. It's like the bride and groom don't value me at all. The real kicker is when I can't bring the dog. What will Muffin do for the 6 hours I'm away? If I see the bride's dog there I'm going to stomp out in a fury and take my toaster with me.

It is a hassle to find a sitter to come up a hotel in a town you have never been to before.

If you are unable to figure out a way to go to a wedding without bringing your kids, who are not invited, you can’t go. If the the bride is your bff and really really wants you there and you’ve explained this to her but she still doesn’t want your kids there it sounds like she’d prefer to have the whole family decline than invite the kids. So decline.

Or I can get a sitter and expect a parenting message board to recognize that it’s kind of a hassle.

I'm a parent and don't consider it to be a huge hassle to sometimes need a sitter. You're barking up the wrong tree. Lots of things are a hassle when you have kids. Are you a new parent?

No. My oldest child is 12.
I just had to get a sitter yesterday when I was called into work because someone had Covid. I needed someone from 3:30pm-2am. So probably wedding hours.
I had to go a dozen people into my list before I found someone who could do it. I’m surprised that you have never had an issue with childcare.

If only weddings gave you months of notice of the date and time, unlike COVID. Oh, wait. They do!

Ehh…I was responding to someone who said that she has never had to make more than one phone call to find childcare ever and asked if I was a new mom.

Can you quote where that was said? Because I'm not seeing that.

If you click on “reply” you will see the rest of the chain.

I know it's not there because I never said it, you're responding to person who said it's not hard to text a sitter. Never said "one phone call" or whatever you're imagining.

Who do you text when you go to an out of town wedding? Care to share this number/service?

My babysitter does overnights/weekends, my kids can stay with their friends families, grandparents, really do you have no imagination? You have nobody in your life that can help you out? Why is your village so small? Or you take the kids and take turns with spouse staying in the hotel room with them.

DP here. Pass. It’s not that I couldn’t find someone if I tried super hard or called in a favor, I just don’t want to go to any wedding that badly. Thankfully we are in the peaceful bliss period where all of our generation is married (or not getting married) and the next generation hasn’t started yet.

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If I could do it over again (my wedding was 10 years ago), I would have explicitly invited kids. I remember going to family weddings as a kid and thinking the bride was a princess and that eating cake and dancing and staying up a little late was the most magical thing in the world. We had one kid crash our wedding and some of my favorite photos are with her on the dance floor. I think brides get so caught up in trying to be classy or formal and it’s not what you remember many years later.