husband and daughter missing christening due to sports

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In our church if the priest found out that the father of the baby being baptized was not there because he was at a sports tournament for another child there would be no baptism. Part of the ceremony is you as parents pledging to raise your child in the church. You are demonstrating that you have no intention of doing so. Full stop. No baptism.

OP, you asked the question so I'm telling you that you need to convince your husband to come to the baptism. In our family the older sibling would come as well but I can understand them not coming. But as the father of the child being baptized he is REQUIRED to be there. In our parish if a parent is not going to be there this needs to be cleared with the priest ahead of time and the acceptable reasons are along the lines of: deployed military, in the hospital, caring for a dying family member out of state/country.

So your priest would deny a sacrament to an innocent baby because the baby's father is a jerk. Horrible.

The sacrament includes the parents agreeing to raise the child in the faith. If both parents are not there, the sacrament cannot be accepted. Perhaps OP can have another relative stand in like military families do, but that is an unavoidable situation. Unlike this one.

What would the priest do if the parents were divorced, and the other parent wasn't against the baptism, but also wasn't willing to come in for it? Would the priest deny the baptism then?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our church if the priest found out that the father of the baby being baptized was not there because he was at a sports tournament for another child there would be no baptism. Part of the ceremony is you as parents pledging to raise your child in the church. You are demonstrating that you have no intention of doing so. Full stop. No baptism.

OP, you asked the question so I'm telling you that you need to convince your husband to come to the baptism. In our family the older sibling would come as well but I can understand them not coming. But as the father of the child being baptized he is REQUIRED to be there. In our parish if a parent is not going to be there this needs to be cleared with the priest ahead of time and the acceptable reasons are along the lines of: deployed military, in the hospital, caring for a dying family member out of state/country.

So your priest would deny a sacrament to an innocent baby because the baby's father is a jerk. Horrible.

The sacrament includes the parents agreeing to raise the child in the faith. If both parents are not there, the sacrament cannot be accepted. Perhaps OP can have another relative stand in like military families do, but that is an unavoidable situation. Unlike this one.

What would the priest do if the parents were divorced, and the other parent wasn't against the baptism, but also wasn't willing to come in for it? Would the priest deny the baptism then?

Depends on the priest. You’d need to ask yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our church if the priest found out that the father of the baby being baptized was not there because he was at a sports tournament for another child there would be no baptism. Part of the ceremony is you as parents pledging to raise your child in the church. You are demonstrating that you have no intention of doing so. Full stop. No baptism.

OP, you asked the question so I'm telling you that you need to convince your husband to come to the baptism. In our family the older sibling would come as well but I can understand them not coming. But as the father of the child being baptized he is REQUIRED to be there. In our parish if a parent is not going to be there this needs to be cleared with the priest ahead of time and the acceptable reasons are along the lines of: deployed military, in the hospital, caring for a dying family member out of state/country.

So your priest would deny a sacrament to an innocent baby because the baby's father is a jerk. Horrible.

The sacrament includes the parents agreeing to raise the child in the faith. If both parents are not there, the sacrament cannot be accepted. Perhaps OP can have another relative stand in like military families do, but that is an unavoidable situation. Unlike this one.

This is not canon law. Official doctrine of the Church requires licit consent of ONE parent. Please educate yourself on what the Church officially sanctions before you convey the information to other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our church if the priest found out that the father of the baby being baptized was not there because he was at a sports tournament for another child there would be no baptism. Part of the ceremony is you as parents pledging to raise your child in the church. You are demonstrating that you have no intention of doing so. Full stop. No baptism.

OP, you asked the question so I'm telling you that you need to convince your husband to come to the baptism. In our family the older sibling would come as well but I can understand them not coming. But as the father of the child being baptized he is REQUIRED to be there. In our parish if a parent is not going to be there this needs to be cleared with the priest ahead of time and the acceptable reasons are along the lines of: deployed military, in the hospital, caring for a dying family member out of state/country.

So your priest would deny a sacrament to an innocent baby because the baby's father is a jerk. Horrible.

The sacrament includes the parents agreeing to raise the child in the faith. If both parents are not there, the sacrament cannot be accepted. Perhaps OP can have another relative stand in like military families do, but that is an unavoidable situation. Unlike this one.

This is not canon law. Official doctrine of the Church requires licit consent of ONE parent. Please educate yourself on what the Church officially sanctions before you convey the information to other people.

I know you live to school people on DCUM, but before you do, remember that all things are up to the priest/parish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our church if the priest found out that the father of the baby being baptized was not there because he was at a sports tournament for another child there would be no baptism. Part of the ceremony is you as parents pledging to raise your child in the church. You are demonstrating that you have no intention of doing so. Full stop. No baptism.

OP, you asked the question so I'm telling you that you need to convince your husband to come to the baptism. In our family the older sibling would come as well but I can understand them not coming. But as the father of the child being baptized he is REQUIRED to be there. In our parish if a parent is not going to be there this needs to be cleared with the priest ahead of time and the acceptable reasons are along the lines of: deployed military, in the hospital, caring for a dying family member out of state/country.

So your priest would deny a sacrament to an innocent baby because the baby's father is a jerk. Horrible.

The sacrament includes the parents agreeing to raise the child in the faith. If both parents are not there, the sacrament cannot be accepted. Perhaps OP can have another relative stand in like military families do, but that is an unavoidable situation. Unlike this one.

This is not canon law. Official doctrine of the Church requires licit consent of ONE parent. Please educate yourself on what the Church officially sanctions before you convey the information to other people.

I know you live to school people on DCUM, but before you do, remember that all things are up to the priest/parish.

And also that religions besides Catholics baptize infants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our church if the priest found out that the father of the baby being baptized was not there because he was at a sports tournament for another child there would be no baptism. Part of the ceremony is you as parents pledging to raise your child in the church. You are demonstrating that you have no intention of doing so. Full stop. No baptism.

OP, you asked the question so I'm telling you that you need to convince your husband to come to the baptism. In our family the older sibling would come as well but I can understand them not coming. But as the father of the child being baptized he is REQUIRED to be there. In our parish if a parent is not going to be there this needs to be cleared with the priest ahead of time and the acceptable reasons are along the lines of: deployed military, in the hospital, caring for a dying family member out of state/country.

So your priest would deny a sacrament to an innocent baby because the baby's father is a jerk. Horrible.

The sacrament includes the parents agreeing to raise the child in the faith. If both parents are not there, the sacrament cannot be accepted. Perhaps OP can have another relative stand in like military families do, but that is an unavoidable situation. Unlike this one.

This is not canon law. Official doctrine of the Church requires licit consent of ONE parent. Please educate yourself on what the Church officially sanctions before you convey the information to other people.

I know you live to school people on DCUM, but before you do, remember that all things are up to the priest/parish.

Actually, in the Catholic Church, it’s not all up to the priest. That is actually something that separates Catholicism from many Protestant denominations. Priests may do something not aligned with teaching, but they are opening themselves to being disciplined by their bishop.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our church if the priest found out that the father of the baby being baptized was not there because he was at a sports tournament for another child there would be no baptism. Part of the ceremony is you as parents pledging to raise your child in the church. You are demonstrating that you have no intention of doing so. Full stop. No baptism.

OP, you asked the question so I'm telling you that you need to convince your husband to come to the baptism. In our family the older sibling would come as well but I can understand them not coming. But as the father of the child being baptized he is REQUIRED to be there. In our parish if a parent is not going to be there this needs to be cleared with the priest ahead of time and the acceptable reasons are along the lines of: deployed military, in the hospital, caring for a dying family member out of state/country.

So your priest would deny a sacrament to an innocent baby because the baby's father is a jerk. Horrible.

The sacrament includes the parents agreeing to raise the child in the faith. If both parents are not there, the sacrament cannot be accepted. Perhaps OP can have another relative stand in like military families do, but that is an unavoidable situation. Unlike this one.

This is not canon law. Official doctrine of the Church requires licit consent of ONE parent. Please educate yourself on what the Church officially sanctions before you convey the information to other people.

I know you live to school people on DCUM, but before you do, remember that all things are up to the priest/parish.

And also that religions besides Catholics baptize infants.

Most Protestant churches refer to is as a christening. Baptism when dealing with infants tends to be Catholic. (I say this as someone who grew up in a mixed family).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our church if the priest found out that the father of the baby being baptized was not there because he was at a sports tournament for another child there would be no baptism. Part of the ceremony is you as parents pledging to raise your child in the church. You are demonstrating that you have no intention of doing so. Full stop. No baptism.

OP, you asked the question so I'm telling you that you need to convince your husband to come to the baptism. In our family the older sibling would come as well but I can understand them not coming. But as the father of the child being baptized he is REQUIRED to be there. In our parish if a parent is not going to be there this needs to be cleared with the priest ahead of time and the acceptable reasons are along the lines of: deployed military, in the hospital, caring for a dying family member out of state/country.

So your priest would deny a sacrament to an innocent baby because the baby's father is a jerk. Horrible.

The sacrament includes the parents agreeing to raise the child in the faith. If both parents are not there, the sacrament cannot be accepted. Perhaps OP can have another relative stand in like military families do, but that is an unavoidable situation. Unlike this one.

This is not canon law. Official doctrine of the Church requires licit consent of ONE parent. Please educate yourself on what the Church officially sanctions before you convey the information to other people.

I know you live to school people on DCUM, but before you do, remember that all things are up to the priest/parish.

And also that religions besides Catholics baptize infants.

Most Protestant churches refer to is as a christening. Baptism when dealing with infants tends to be Catholic. (I say this as someone who grew up in a mixed family).

I'm Episcopalian and it is a baptism.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our church if the priest found out that the father of the baby being baptized was not there because he was at a sports tournament for another child there would be no baptism. Part of the ceremony is you as parents pledging to raise your child in the church. You are demonstrating that you have no intention of doing so. Full stop. No baptism.

OP, you asked the question so I'm telling you that you need to convince your husband to come to the baptism. In our family the older sibling would come as well but I can understand them not coming. But as the father of the child being baptized he is REQUIRED to be there. In our parish if a parent is not going to be there this needs to be cleared with the priest ahead of time and the acceptable reasons are along the lines of: deployed military, in the hospital, caring for a dying family member out of state/country.

So your priest would deny a sacrament to an innocent baby because the baby's father is a jerk. Horrible.

The sacrament includes the parents agreeing to raise the child in the faith. If both parents are not there, the sacrament cannot be accepted. Perhaps OP can have another relative stand in like military families do, but that is an unavoidable situation. Unlike this one.

This is not canon law. Official doctrine of the Church requires licit consent of ONE parent. Please educate yourself on what the Church officially sanctions before you convey the information to other people.

I know you live to school people on DCUM, but before you do, remember that all things are up to the priest/parish.

And also that religions besides Catholics baptize infants.

Most Protestant churches refer to is as a christening. Baptism when dealing with infants tends to be Catholic. (I say this as someone who grew up in a mixed family).

My medothihst baby was baptized and I was baptized as an Episcopalian infant.

[Anonymous]

Most protestant churches officially call it baptism of an infant, but many people still refer to it as a christening. Like I'm Presbyterian and some of my family is Lutheran, and we all call.infabt baptism "christening" even though the churches calling baptism.

Think OPs dh needs to rethink his priorities.

[Anonymous]

Protestant or Catholic, it's a once in a lifetime event, and it definitely takes priority over a single sporting event for a young kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Protestant or Catholic, it's a once in a lifetime event, and it definitely takes priority over a single sporting event for a young kid.

Ususally, but apparently not to OP's husband.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Protestant or Catholic, it's a once in a lifetime event, and it definitely takes priority over a single sporting event for a young kid.

Ususally, but apparently not to OP's husband.

Maybe he doesn’t care about the religion? I posted a whole back and no one responded. He could have agreed to a date to keep peace with his wife but doesn’t see the need to make their teen son skip something when no one actually practices this religion and they are only going through the motions. I just made up a story but it’s possible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Protestant or Catholic, it's a once in a lifetime event, and it definitely takes priority over a single sporting event for a young kid.

Ususally, but apparently not to OP's husband.

Maybe he doesn’t care about the religion? I posted a whole back and no one responded. He could have agreed to a date to keep peace with his wife but doesn’t see the need to make their teen son skip something when no one actually practices this religion and they are only going through the motions. I just made up a story but it’s possible.

I wondered about that, especially since it’s her parents. This might be very important to her parents and her side of the family, but not so much to him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In our church if the priest found out that the father of the baby being baptized was not there because he was at a sports tournament for another child there would be no baptism. Part of the ceremony is you as parents pledging to raise your child in the church. You are demonstrating that you have no intention of doing so. Full stop. No baptism.

OP, you asked the question so I'm telling you that you need to convince your husband to come to the baptism. In our family the older sibling would come as well but I can understand them not coming. But as the father of the child being baptized he is REQUIRED to be there. In our parish if a parent is not going to be there this needs to be cleared with the priest ahead of time and the acceptable reasons are along the lines of: deployed military, in the hospital, caring for a dying family member out of state/country.

So your priest would deny a sacrament to an innocent baby because the baby's father is a jerk. Horrible.

The sacrament includes the parents agreeing to raise the child in the faith. If both parents are not there, the sacrament cannot be accepted. Perhaps OP can have another relative stand in like military families do, but that is an unavoidable situation. Unlike this one.

This is not canon law. Official doctrine of the Church requires licit consent of ONE parent. Please educate yourself on what the Church officially sanctions before you convey the information to other people.

What does “canon law” and “Official doctrine of the Church” have to do with anything? Did the OP indicate what their religion might be?