husband and daughter missing christening due to sports

[Anonymous]

We are baptizing our young son in a few weeks. My older son has an important soccer tournament that weekend and my husband will be taking him. They will both miss the baptism. we are unable to reschedule since my parents are flying in from another country. They are furious that the father will miss this important milestone.
They asked if someone else can take my son to play and although that is logistically possible, my husband declined. He is very invested in my son's soccer. My parents aren't thrilled that my other son is missing this either.
I am annoyed too but nothing I say will change anything so I don't bother trying to convince him.
My questions are: is it that bad that they are missing this?
How do I get my parents to back off?

[Anonymous]

You should have scheduled better. This was easily avoidable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have scheduled better. This was easily avoidable.

Or maybe DH and son can prioritize their time better.

[Anonymous]

How old is your older child?

When my kids were little, we thought travel sports were sooooo important. Over time, we realized that most families miss a tournament once in a while. To me, christening trumps sports. Husband and son should skip the tourney. Especially if he is, say, 7.

[Anonymous]

Is DH religious? It's possible that this is a big deal for you and not for him.

[Anonymous]

This is not ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is DH religious? It's possible that this is a big deal for you and not for him.

NP. DH is religious and sports are his god.

[Anonymous]

Weird that it's a daughter in the subject and a son in the post.

[Anonymous]

Why was it scheduled at the same time?
I think it’s super weird he isn’t there. But why are you prioritizing scheduling around your parents and not him? It can be rescheduled. You just don’t want to.

[Anonymous]

Debate over whether your husband/son (or daughter? title is confusing) should miss the tournament aside, it isn't your parents' business how your family schedules its time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Travel sports are a blight on our society.

I agree. It's such nonsense. Truly nobody cares if he misses a game. He is 7 years old. The dad has his priorities wrong.

Agree. It's not only the baptism in a religious sense - OP's parents are flying in from another country, so there is the whole grandparent/ family event thing.

Dad is way too invested in older son's sports and will ruin it for the son before he's a teen.

[Anonymous]

Also would let my parents know the option Is to reschedule for a time when your dh can attend. Too bad if it’s inconvenient for them. I would hope that quiets them, but honestly you need to tell them to butt out. Are YOU upset he’s not there?

[Anonymous]

I would never allow this. Especially not my husband, who doesn’t HAVE to go at all.

[Anonymous]

Your husband at a minimum should attend the Christening. I would re-schedule the Christening to any other time if the sporting event is that important. It sounds like you would rather your parents be at the Christening than your husband and child, so if that is your priority, then you should keep it the way it is and live with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why was it scheduled at the same time?
I think it’s super weird he isn’t there. But why are you prioritizing scheduling around your parents and not him? It can be rescheduled. You just don’t want to.

It sounds like the event was scheduled, probably long before the soccer schedule was out, and the parents bought plane tickets. If I bought international tickets for an event and it got rescheduled, I'd be annoyed too.