Wedding invitation/Issue

[Anonymous]

Op here and I'm not a troll. I haven't changed my story. It's all true. My sister and dd had lots of conversations when my sister first got engaged and when my sister was making her plans. Not sure where you think I've changed what happened.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t invite any of y’all to my wedding. You all suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Wow, lots of feedback. First if all, I didn't tell my patents my teen wasn't invited. My sister did. My parents asked if we would all be sitting together at the reception and my sister told them.

Also, my sister has been talking about the wedding (and party) with my teen for a good part of the past year. She showed pictures of the hall, talked about the flowers, colors, all of it. So that's why my teen thought she was invited.

And someone thought it was weird that I texted my sister about this. Our relationship is basically this way. We haven't spoken in like 8 or so months. We text when we need to handle something so it's pretty standard for our relationship.

And for the pp that said I didn't reveal everything in my OP. I was trying to keep my OP short and I thought I posted everything that was relevant. Only agree reading responses did I realize more info was needed. I didn't intentionally leave out info.

You keep changing your story. A lot.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Wow, lots of feedback. First if all, I didn't tell my patents my teen wasn't invited. My sister did. My parents asked if we would all be sitting together at the reception and my sister told them.

Also, my sister has been talking about the wedding (and party) with my teen for a good part of the past year. She showed pictures of the hall, talked about the flowers, colors, all of it. So that's why my teen thought she was invited.

And someone thought it was weird that I texted my sister about this. Our relationship is basically this way. We haven't spoken in like 8 or so months. We text when we need to handle something so it's pretty standard for our relationship.

And for the pp that said I didn't reveal everything in my OP. I was trying to keep my OP short and I thought I posted everything that was relevant. Only agree reading responses did I realize more info was needed. I didn't intentionally leave out info.

You haven’t spoken with your sister in 8 months but your DD has been talking with her about the wedding for a year?

Op here. Yes. That's correct. My teen has her own phone and has a separate relationship with my sister. Although we primarily text, my teen and sister chat on the phone a lot. My teen doesn't have friends. She talks to her grandparents, aunts and uncles often. Sorry if you find that odd.

And for the other pp, yes, my sister sent her pictures of the hall (the room in the country club where the reception will be). She also sent some of the space where the ceremony will be, shared pics of the flowers. Asked my teens advice on stuff. It was very nice of my sister but now backfired Bensimon my teen is convinced I'm wrong and that she is invited.

On some po's advice, I won't lie to my teen, but will explain the truth. Unfortunately, it may harm their relationship going forward.

PP here. I don’t find it odd that they have their own separate relationship. I can relate, because my DD is similar. But if this is indeed the case, and they have a connection, then I DO find it odd that your DD was not invited to the reception. Your sister is a piece of work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, my sister is getting married - 2nd wedding - and told me my teen can come to the ceremony but not the reception because it's adult only. After discussing with my DH, we decided to all go to the ceremony, but not go to the reception. We don't feel comfortable leaving our teen alone and I don't want to go to the reception without my DH.

I wrote a very nice long response basically telling her that we are so happy for her, excited to witness her getting married and share in her joy. However, we won't be attending the reception.

Now, I find out my sister is very mad at me for not going to her reception. My parents are refusing to go to the reception because we're not going (and they're also mad my teen wasn't invited) and there is all this drama.

I thought I did the right thing. I mean, isn't the rule that she's allowed to not invite whoever she wants and I'm allowed to not go? By the way, we have a very small family so the only people on my sister's side of the wedding are her kids (early 20s), my parents, and me and my family. Everyone else at the reception will be friends and the groom's kids. My parents nor I would know anyone at the reception.

Was I wrong to gracefully (at least I think it was graceful) decline the reception invite? The wedding is about 2 hours away so we'll be traveling and staying at a hotel for the event, which I'm doing only to attend the ceremony.

If you do not, or not invited to reception, means you are not obligated to send a gift. It is most ungracious of your sister to invite child to ceremony but not reception.
It's a second wedding and I wouldn't even be bothered to attend if I needed to stay in a hotel.

[Anonymous]

Bizarre that your sister expects your DD to travel to the wedding and not go to the reception ...