Wedding invitation/Issue

[Anonymous]

Honestly OP you sound really judgmental. Why even bother mentioning it's a "Second wedding". You should just support your sister. I doubt your teen even wants to go. Can you leave them with the other set of grandparents for the weekend?

[Anonymous]

Why can’t your teen stay with a friend that weekend and just you and dh go? Or dh stay at back at the hotel? You have options and you’re not using them. And now your parents are bailing too.

[Anonymous]

Is your teen SN? I can’t imagine why you can’t leave her alone at the hotel or let her stay with a friend!

[Anonymous]

Wow. I can't imagine not inviting my own damn teen niece or nephew to my wedding, even if adults only. Ceremony but not reception? Gtfo.

[Anonymous]

I mean I am not co-dependent on my DH so I guess I probably would have gone alone to the reception.

[Anonymous]

Why can’t daughter stay with a friend over the weekend? Why does she even have to go with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean I am not co-dependent on my DH so I guess I probably would have gone alone to the reception.

You think?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I can't imagine not inviting my own damn teen niece or nephew to my wedding, even if adults only. Ceremony but not reception? Gtfo.

Especially if the groom’s side has children at the reception!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I can't imagine not inviting my own damn teen niece or nephew to my wedding, even if adults only. Ceremony but not reception? Gtfo.

Yes, sister was wrong. But would you throw a big tantrum about it and say you aren't coming? Because you can't leave your teen alone? Even though the state says teens can legally be left alone.

[Anonymous]

There is zero reason your parents shouldn’t be going to this reception, no matter what you decide. If I were your sister I would be really hurt by that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I can't imagine not inviting my own damn teen niece or nephew to my wedding, even if adults only. Ceremony but not reception? Gtfo.

Especially if the groom’s side has children at the reception!

I don't think we have any clarification that they are not adult children. The bride has adult children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I can't imagine not inviting my own damn teen niece or nephew to my wedding, even if adults only. Ceremony but not reception? Gtfo.

Especially if the groom’s side has children at the reception!

I don't think we have any clarification that they are not adult children. The bride has adult children.

Ah that makes more sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, my sister is getting married - 2nd wedding - and told me my teen can come to the ceremony but not the reception because it's adult only. After discussing with my DH, we decided to all go to the ceremony, but not go to the reception. We don't feel comfortable leaving our teen alone and I don't want to go to the reception without my DH.

I wrote a very nice long response basically telling her that we are so happy for her, excited to witness her getting married and share in her joy. However, we won't be attending the reception.

Now, I find out my sister is very mad at me for not going to her reception. My parents are refusing to go to the reception because we're not going (and they're also mad my teen wasn't invited) and there is all this drama.

I thought I did the right thing. I mean, isn't the rule that she's allowed to not invite whoever she wants and I'm allowed to not go? By the way, we have a very small family so the only people on my sister's side of the wedding are her kids (early 20s), my parents, and me and my family. Everyone else at the reception will be friends and the groom's kids. My parents nor I would know anyone at the reception.

Was I wrong to gracefully (at least I think it was graceful) decline the reception invite? The wedding is about 2 hours away so we'll be traveling and staying at a hotel for the event, which I'm doing only to attend the ceremony.

I think you are being passive aggressive and petty. It sucks your kid wasn't invited. But you say you know no one - that's not true. If it's a small wedding, you know your sister, her kids, your parents, and your DH. That's plenty. And you should get to know the bolded people if you give a hoot about your sister.

Have your kid stay with a friend or hang out in the hotel for a few hours. This is not that big of a deal, especially if you are going for the ceremony. You and your parents sound kind of mean, and clearly do not like the new groom and his family for whatever reason.

[Anonymous]

I could almost be on your side OP if you had said you would attend the reception while your DH stayed with the teen. Kind of ridiculous you won’t do at least that for your sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I could almost be on your side OP if you had said you would attend the reception while your DH stayed with the teen. Kind of ridiculous you won’t do at least that for your sister.

I’m really struck by your parents not attending. That seems so strange to me, if I were your sister I would assume you put them up to it to try and pressure them to invite your teen. It’s really really strange. I have gone tomorrow than one wedding without my husband because all of our regular sitters were family who was also at the wedding. It’s fine, a little awkward at most but I really can’t imagine not going to both sit in a hotel with a teenager. I would go and try to convince your parents to go and if they won’t tell your sister you have no idea why they are acting that way. That’s DEFINITELY uncalled for