Question about the homophobia thread

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure if you are being deliberately obtuse or are just confused. I referred to data on a specific page which referenced “sexual offenses”. I accidentally referred to “sex crimes”. I didn’t misrepresent anything except for the word choice of crimes vs offenses and you know it.

Agree with you that not including people with a gender certificate is a limitation of the data. But, it’s all we have unless you can show me the data set that includes those individuals. I’d love to see data from trans activists from a prisons-based source that tries to tell a different story. Care to share any citations?


You misrepresented that the source of your allegations was the UK Parliament when, in fact, it was a group of anti-trans activists. Moreover, per my post just above, you also misrepresented the source of the data. You wrote, "The sources are the UK MOJ." As I just documented, the source was another anti-trans groups which complied the data using flawed methods. Though, I'll concede your misrepresentation in this case was probably inadvertent since your source was misleading.


The bottom line is that the source data on these prisoners and their sexual offenses was collected from the UK MOJ. It was compiled into a report that was presented to the UK parliament in the context of a discussion about prison policy towards trans offenders. While you can debate how the report was presented, the root source of this data is indeed the UK MOJ. This is factual statement. There is additional context with quotations from a justice minister if you are really so deluded to dispute the source of this data. https://www.spectator.co.uk/article/are-sex-offenders-exploiting-trans-rights-policies-behind-bars/


From that article, by the author of the "additional context":

So do these figures indicate that trans people are more inclined than others to commit sexual offences? I do not believe these figures offer such evidence. I also think that more people on the gender critical side should accept that, since that would make it easier to focus this debate more narrowly, on predatory men who might exploit trans-inclusive policies.




It looks like we are on the same page. Remember, there is no difference between a transwoman and a predatory cismale who makes the statement they identify as a woman. Perhaps if trans activists didn't insist on accepting predatory cis-males who state "I identify as a woman" as transwomen, a more productive conversation could be had.
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That quote echoes my post from a week or so ago. I’m not worried about the trans women. I’m worried about men who will use the lack of socially acceptable gender norms to access women’s spaces with illicit or illegal intentions.

Hormones, surgery, none of it matters. By eliminating gender norms, I believe women only spaces become less safe.
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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see some prison or crime statistical data from trans activists. Anyone care to share?


Sure. Here’s a link from UCLA Law. Trans people are victims of violent crime more than four times as often as cis people. https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/press/ncvs-trans-press-release/

Here’s one about transgender rates of violence. https://vsac.ca/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/FORGE-Rates-of-Violence.pdf
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Anonymous wrote:That quote echoes my post from a week or so ago. I’m not worried about the trans women. I’m worried about men who will use the lack of socially acceptable gender norms to access women’s spaces with illicit or illegal intentions.

Hormones, surgery, none of it matters. By eliminating gender norms, I believe women only spaces become less safe.


A) Cis men can come into bathrooms now. The fact that cis men seek out isolated places for sex crimes shows they’ll do this with or without a bathroom ban.

B) Forcing trans men to use the women’s room means you’re inviting people who present as men, very convincingly, into your bathrooms. Tell me how that makes you feel comfortable. Are you going to ask if they’re trans? Are you going to peek under the stall to prove to yourself that they haven’t got a penis? Do you really not realize that insisting people who identify as men, often have facial hair, dress as men, look and sound like men use the ladies room makes it significantly easier for cis men to use the women’s bathroom? Having people who mostly look like women/present as women use the women’s bathroom makes people who present as men in a women’s bathroom more noticeable. So noticeable, in fact, I’ve seen videos of women with short hair, possibly non-binary but maybe they’re just tomboys, get harassed for being men trying to use the women’s facilities (why can’t girls be tomboys anymore without getting harassed by bathroom police?). That’s not helping anyone.
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Anonymous wrote:I would love to see some prison or crime statistical data from trans activists. Anyone care to share?


Sure. Here’s a link from UCLA Law. Trans people are victims of violent crime more than four times as often as cis people. https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/press/ncvs-trans-press-release/

Here’s one about transgender rates of violence. https://vsac.ca/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/FORGE-Rates-of-Violence.pdf


How likely anyone is to be a victim themself has no bearing on how likely others are to be victimized by them.

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Anonymous wrote:That quote echoes my post from a week or so ago. I’m not worried about the trans women. I’m worried about men who will use the lack of socially acceptable gender norms to access women’s spaces with illicit or illegal intentions.

Hormones, surgery, none of it matters. By eliminating gender norms, I believe women only spaces become less safe.


A) Cis men can come into bathrooms now. The fact that cis men seek out isolated places for sex crimes shows they’ll do this with or without a bathroom ban.

B) Forcing trans men to use the women’s room means you’re inviting people who present as men, very convincingly, into your bathrooms. Tell me how that makes you feel comfortable. Are you going to ask if they’re trans? Are you going to peek under the stall to prove to yourself that they haven’t got a penis? Do you really not realize that insisting people who identify as men, often have facial hair, dress as men, look and sound like men use the ladies room makes it significantly easier for cis men to use the women’s bathroom? Having people who mostly look like women/present as women use the women’s bathroom makes people who present as men in a women’s bathroom more noticeable. So noticeable, in fact, I’ve seen videos of women with short hair, possibly non-binary but maybe they’re just tomboys, get harassed for being men trying to use the women’s facilities (why can’t girls be tomboys anymore without getting harassed by bathroom police?). That’s not helping anyone.


Your argument assumes that we should do nothing about the problem of male violence or allow this problem to worsen simply because the problem already exists. The fact that a problem already exists does not justify allowing an aggravation of the problem. It also does not justify allowing additional problems to occur. Just because male prison guards have assaulted incarcerated females does not mean that we should also now allow biological males to be incarcerated with biological females.
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Anonymous wrote:That quote echoes my post from a week or so ago. I’m not worried about the trans women. I’m worried about men who will use the lack of socially acceptable gender norms to access women’s spaces with illicit or illegal intentions.

Hormones, surgery, none of it matters. By eliminating gender norms, I believe women only spaces become less safe.


A) Cis men can come into bathrooms now. The fact that cis men seek out isolated places for sex crimes shows they’ll do this with or without a bathroom ban.

B) Forcing trans men to use the women’s room means you’re inviting people who present as men, very convincingly, into your bathrooms. Tell me how that makes you feel comfortable. Are you going to ask if they’re trans? Are you going to peek under the stall to prove to yourself that they haven’t got a penis? Do you really not realize that insisting people who identify as men, often have facial hair, dress as men, look and sound like men use the ladies room makes it significantly easier for cis men to use the women’s bathroom? Having people who mostly look like women/present as women use the women’s bathroom makes people who present as men in a women’s bathroom more noticeable. So noticeable, in fact, I’ve seen videos of women with short hair, possibly non-binary but maybe they’re just tomboys, get harassed for being men trying to use the women’s facilities (why can’t girls be tomboys anymore without getting harassed by bathroom police?). That’s not helping anyone.


Your argument assumes that we should do nothing about the problem of male violence or allow this problem to worsen simply because the problem already exists. The fact that a problem already exists does not justify allowing an aggravation of the problem. It also does not justify allowing additional problems to occur. Just because male prison guards have assaulted incarcerated females does not mean that we should also now allow biological males to be incarcerated with biological females.


Prison is completely different from the rest of the world. Come the f on. And no one cared about prison assault when it was gangs of men assaulting other men or male guards assaulting women. Beyond no one caring, it’s actually a point of humor that trans women are assaulted in male prisons. Even if you want to have a real discussion about prison dynamics, it has to be separated from things like locker rooms and bathrooms, just like priests and stepdads and date rapes are separated from prison sexual assault.

And no, I don’t think we should do nothing about male violence against women. I think we should do a lot against the cis het men who perpetrate the majority of sex crimes. I also care about women’s health, including reproductive health. Basically, most of the problems lead back to cis het men either trying to control women, possess women, or have sex with women. Let’s fix that, which is the majority of the sex crimes against women, then we can worry about the handful of trans women who assault women. Even in the studies linked in this thread, we’re taking about what, maybe 100 trans women or cis men claiming to be trans to garner sympathy.

For all your concern about rape of cis women, be aware that outing transgender people is going to lead to them being raped, violently assaulted and harassed, in prison and out. I get it though, they’re already 4x likely to be raped than cis women, so they should be used to it. Or they’re only 1% of the population so who cares if 1/2 of 1% is raped. Out them and misgender them because Bible stuff.

It’s funny how you care if a tiny part of 1% commits any kind of crime but still support the agenda of churches that hide sex crimes (aka Baptist and Catholic Churches). Even if it’s not every priest or preacher raping children, there’s a hierarchical coverup, and it’s that doctrine that spurs on this transphobic agenda.

It’s especially frustrating to me when this is a real issue that affects me and my child, and it’s a theoretical issue for most of you. I guarandamntee you some of you have been around trans people, especially trans men, and didn’t realize it. You’d never know my son doesn’t have a penis until he shows up in the bathroom next to your child and his his beard and muscles, then you’d freak the f out that there’s a dude in the bathroom while your daughter watches the Mario movie. That’s going to damage your princess peach sensibilities far more than if the DCUM trans woman poster went to the bathroom with y’all. At most, you’d be wondering, was that a trans woman? But her hair and makeup was on point. Couldn’t be. But my son comes in and you’d be so upset that a guy with a beard wants to pee next to your prepubescent child, when that’s what you’re trying to codify. That’s what’s going to put him and cause him harm. Do you really not see what you’re asking for?
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Anonymous wrote:I’m the PP who posted above that one of the things that bothers me the most about this entire discussion is the unending gaslighting from trans rights advocates, something that is seen on DCUM in the small and writ large across the movement in general. It’s a relentless narrative: “Why are you worrying your pretty little heads with important manly topics that are for people who matter more than you do? You must be absorbing propaganda because God knows you ladies couldn’t possibly reach rational conclusions based on living your entire lives as sexed females in a grossly misogynist world filled with sex-based violence!”

I read this article that I thought was excellent, and captures a lot of my feelings on the matter, so sharing:

https://thecritic.co.uk/we-know-what-a-man-is/

I am not afraid of trans people. I am afraid of losing the principle – within feminism, of all places – that female lives matter as much as male ones. That our desires are not trivial, selfish, frivolous, whereas those of male people are a matter of life and death. That our perceptions of reality are as valid as male ones. That we do not deserve to be bullied and gaslighted into pandering to male egos in the name of “being kind“. That we are not privileged airheads who should say yes to everything because hey, what does it cost us? What do we know about pain? What even are we?


I must have missed the bolded when it was written. Could you please link to that post?


I am not the person who wrote this but I can assure you that although these specific words may have not been written, this is the message we are getting.

I am unapologetic about fighting to keep biological males out of female spaces. I am not homophobic. But make no mistake, people like me are being told out feelings don’t matter.


So, your point is that the thing that bothers that poster the most is something that was not actually said?


Jeff I’ve really grown to respect you and your opinions during this discussion, but I think you’re being deliberately obtuse here.

You are not a female. I think it is difficult for you to understand that females have unique struggles that people who identify as women cannot possibly understand. And that males clearly cannot understand.

I understand your desire to be inclusive and to support trans rights. But let’s be honest - there is absolutely nothing that is on the line for you personally.

I say this respectfully Jeff, I really do. I enjoy your website and this important discourse you’ve allowed us to have on this topic. And I thank you for that.


I am not sure whether you have realized it, but you have both moved the goalposts and reversed the logic of the issue that bothers the earlier poster the most. She was bothered by being told not to worry about "manly topics that are for people who matter more than you do". Your objection is to the invasion of women's spaces by people that you don't consider to be women. That is a different issue. Moreover, you are now telling me not to worry my pretty little head (very liberal paraphrasing here) about "women's" topics.

This thread started out with the original poster stating a desire to have good faith discussions of this issue. One of the reasons we can't have good faith discussions is that so many posters simply don't act in good faith. I am certain that nobody told the earlier poster not to worry her pretty little head about "manly" topics. With the exception of me, the posters in this thread are likely female and I absolutely said no such thing. Yet, that entirely made up quote is the thing that bothers her the most.

What that poster probably means is that she does not believe her arguments are taken seriously. I would argue they are taken seriously, but not always found to be persuasive. She blames this on misogyny rather than shortcomings with her arguments. Similarly, you also refuse to consider that your arguments simply might not be as strong as you seem to believe, but simply claim that only females are capable of understanding. Of course, you ignore the females who hold view identical to mine. What is your explanation for why they don't understand?




So PP’s “very liberal paraphrasing” wasn’t ok (you wanted a direct quote) while yours is? Talk about not discussing in good faith.



Apparently you are not familiar with the rules of English grammar. The earlier poster used quotation marks around the passage that I bolded. I am sure that you can Google the meaning of quotation marks, but to put it simply, they do not indicate that something is being paraphrased. To the contrary, they specify that they surround something that was literally stated. I, on the other hand, did not use quotations marks. To ensure that there would be no confusion, I offered additional clarification that I was not only paraphrasing, but doing so very liberally and, hence, far from literally. Hopefully this clarifies things for you sufficiently.


That PP also explicitly used the word narrative.

Do you know what that word means?


Yes, as a matter of fact, I do know what that word means. Can you show me where there is a narrative in which the earlier poster was told, "Why are you worrying your pretty little heads with important manly topics that are for people who matter more than you do?"

First, I don't think I've ever heard anyone ever suggest that transgenderism is a "manly" topic, let alone one with which women should not concern themselves. Second, who has told the poster that this is a topic for people who matter more than she does?

This is the thing that bothers that poster the most so certainly there is at least one example of it here.



I think that you’re failing to account for the manner in which women are constantly told to be quiet, spoken over, and dismissed. I promise we can see what’s happening.


That may well be true as a society-wide issue but is not something that has been happening in this discussion in which nearly all participants are women and all views are being given equal voice. It's hard to speak over a written message. Moreover, this is a different complaint than that made by the earlier poster who did not simply complain that her views were dismissed, but that she was told not to talk about "manly" issues that should be left to those that matter more than her. That simply didn't happen.


I am not the “manly” poster but even if we take “manly” out of the equation a large number of women definitely feel as though we are being told the feelings of trans people matter more than our feelings. We are told that our outrage over transwomen competing in women’s sports isn’t valid because there is such a small number of trans athletes so why would we be upset about this? That’s saying that Lia Thomas’ teammates have to just suck it up.


I disagree with your overall views about trans issues. Why do your feelings matter more on the subject than mine? I’m a woman. Does it make you a misogynist to not care about how some women feel just because they disagree with you? Because I’ve been told I’m a misogynist for not wanting to ban trans women from bathrooms and locker rooms.


I said this before and I’ll say it again. Neither one of us is right or wrong. It’s an opinion on the status of trans people. It’s what the majority thinks/wants that will win in the end. And I am certain my side will win.


You think that the majority of the country wants transgender women in the men's bathrooms and transgender men in the women's bathrooms?

Do you think the majority of the country should be able to decide if adults are allowed to transition and what adults should be able to do with their own bodies and how they live their lives?


I think the majority of the country doesn’t want penises in female spaces. And doesn’t want transwomen competing against females in sports. I also think the majority of the country doesn’t think that womanhood is a feeling.

I think adults can do whatever they want. I’m not sure how the majority of the country feels about that particularly.


So you're saying you want pre-op trans women in the men's bathroom and post-op trans women in the women's bathroom?


Quite honestly the bathroom thing doesn’t bother me as much as the locker room thing. I definitely don’t want to be changing or showering with a biological male.


So you're opinion is, bathroom whatever because it's closed stalls. Locker room, pre-op and post-op trans women should change in the men's locker room with your men and boys?


I’m not sure why you want me to keep repeating it, but I don’t want a penis in the locker room with me. Post op clearly wouldn’t have a penis, but that would be difficult to police. So it would have to be segregated by male/female. That’s the only way to keep the penises out.


Is there a word for fear of penises?

I don't get the obsession with other people's genitalia. Are you OK with women with big flappy labia? Extra full bush? Micro clit? Are you really looking at people's junk that closely?

Almost everyone would prefer individual changing stalls. They would make everyone more comfortable.


There is no fear, as much as you would like that to be the reason.
Listen, if you’re comfortable changing in the locker room next to a male, have at it. If I don’t want to see someone’s penis, or if I don’t want my kids to see that, that is a valid concern. It doesn’t mean I’m afraid of anything.
I’m not comfortable with it. Why do you think locker rooms were segregated in the first place? For shits and giggles?


If there is no fear, then what is the issue. Just let people change where they feel comfortable and leave them alone.

Even Gaines "never felt uncomfortable around Lia", that is, until she decided to work the RWNJ press circuit.

Locker rooms are segregated because of antiquated social norms.


I gotta say that I'd be fine with a trans woman next to me, but I don't want to change with regular old dudes. No thanks.


Do you realize that most transwomen are sexually attracted exclusively to women? Transbian, right? Does that make any difference? It really did to me.


So are you creeped about by cisgender lesbians in the locker room?


I'm the PP who said I don't want to change with regular old men. Of the following groups, who are most likely to harm women: cisgender heterosexual women, cisgender lesbian women, trans women or men? We all know the answer is door number 4! Men. So I'll keep my women's locker room with all the cis women and trans women in it.

I don't get the thinking that allowing trans women into a women's locker room is going to put women at more risk. If there is some psycho man out there who wants to assault women in the bathroom or locker room, he's going to find a way to do it no matter what the rules are, because he is just a psycho. People like that have nothing whatsoever to do with transgender people. Any person of any gender, sex, or orientation can be a psycho, but not everyone in a particular group is a psycho.


Males, regardless of gender identity, commit 99.9% of sexual assaults against females. So it's doors 3 and 4.


No, Transgender individuals are more likely to have been victimized that to be the victimizers.


Research has also shown that transwomen or males who say they are transwomen are more likely to commit sexual offenses than both non-trans men and women.

https://committees.parliament.uk/writtenevidence/18973/pdf/
https://torontosun.com/news/national/study-finds-nearly-45-of-trans-women-inmates-convicted-of-sex-crimes




Do you have a source that isn’t a radical feminist?


That the UK parliament is a radical feminist organization is news to me.


Who wrote the paper?

Do you not actually read any of this crap? Or check the sources?

No wonder there is so much ignorance floating around.


Did you? The sources are the UK MOJ.



“ Written evidence submitted by Professor Rosa Freedman,”


You are dismissing these sources because you are a sexist, but that doesn't change reality. Reality which is that trans people commit more sex crimes than both men and women. Why are you denying science?

https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/offender-management-statistics-quarterly-april-to-june-2019


What document on that page are we supposed to look at?


You are insinuating document in evidence in the UK parliament is false because you don't like what it says. All stats are linked to source data on page 3.

https://committees.parliament.uk/writtenevidence/18973/pdf/


Wow, defensive aren't we? The only thing that I was insinuating is that you linked to a page with something like 6 documents and I was not eager to read all of them. You write above:

"Reality which is that trans people commit more sex crimes than both men and women. Why are you denying science?"

Yet, the document that you claim supports this allegation says:

"The findings do not include specific results for any form of sexual assault..."

The phrase "sex crimes" does not appear in the document and the phrase "sexual assault" only appears the single time that I quote it above.

Regarding the Ministry of Justice statistics that are listed on Page 4, those have acknowledged limitations because they don't count prisoners who have gender recognition certificates. Therefore, as the reports says, the statistics "underestimate the total number of [transgender women] in women’s prisons."

Finally, this is not a document produced by the "UK Parliament" as you have implied, but rather testimony drafted by three trans-exclusionary activists and simply submitted into the record by a member of Parliament. It is far from an unbiased source.


Why did you change where the report said “underestimate the total number of males in women’s prisons” to “transgender women”?


Because I am not a trans-exclusionary activist who misgenders people like the authors of that document.


Male is not a gender.


So was this just a mistake, or is calling a transwoman male now considered misgendering?
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Anonymous wrote:That quote echoes my post from a week or so ago. I’m not worried about the trans women. I’m worried about men who will use the lack of socially acceptable gender norms to access women’s spaces with illicit or illegal intentions.

Hormones, surgery, none of it matters. By eliminating gender norms, I believe women only spaces become less safe.


A) Cis men can come into bathrooms now. The fact that cis men seek out isolated places for sex crimes shows they’ll do this with or without a bathroom ban.

B) Forcing trans men to use the women’s room means you’re inviting people who present as men, very convincingly, into your bathrooms. Tell me how that makes you feel comfortable. Are you going to ask if they’re trans? Are you going to peek under the stall to prove to yourself that they haven’t got a penis? Do you really not realize that insisting people who identify as men, often have facial hair, dress as men, look and sound like men use the ladies room makes it significantly easier for cis men to use the women’s bathroom? Having people who mostly look like women/present as women use the women’s bathroom makes people who present as men in a women’s bathroom more noticeable. So noticeable, in fact, I’ve seen videos of women with short hair, possibly non-binary but maybe they’re just tomboys, get harassed for being men trying to use the women’s facilities (why can’t girls be tomboys anymore without getting harassed by bathroom police?). That’s not helping anyone.


Your argument assumes that we should do nothing about the problem of male violence or allow this problem to worsen simply because the problem already exists. The fact that a problem already exists does not justify allowing an aggravation of the problem. It also does not justify allowing additional problems to occur. Just because male prison guards have assaulted incarcerated females does not mean that we should also now allow biological males to be incarcerated with biological females.


Prison is completely different from the rest of the world. Come the f on. And no one cared about prison assault when it was gangs of men assaulting other men or male guards assaulting women. Beyond no one caring, it’s actually a point of humor that trans women are assaulted in male prisons. Even if you want to have a real discussion about prison dynamics, it has to be separated from things like locker rooms and bathrooms, just like priests and stepdads and date rapes are separated from prison sexual assault.

And no, I don’t think we should do nothing about male violence against women. I think we should do a lot against the cis het men who perpetrate the majority of sex crimes. I also care about women’s health, including reproductive health. Basically, most of the problems lead back to cis het men either trying to control women, possess women, or have sex with women. Let’s fix that, which is the majority of the sex crimes against women, then we can worry about the handful of trans women who assault women. Even in the studies linked in this thread, we’re taking about what, maybe 100 trans women or cis men claiming to be trans to garner sympathy.

For all your concern about rape of cis women, be aware that outing transgender people is going to lead to them being raped, violently assaulted and harassed, in prison and out. I get it though, they’re already 4x likely to be raped than cis women, so they should be used to it. Or they’re only 1% of the population so who cares if 1/2 of 1% is raped. Out them and misgender them because Bible stuff.

It’s funny how you care if a tiny part of 1% commits any kind of crime but still support the agenda of churches that hide sex crimes (aka Baptist and Catholic Churches). Even if it’s not every priest or preacher raping children, there’s a hierarchical coverup, and it’s that doctrine that spurs on this transphobic agenda.

It’s especially frustrating to me when this is a real issue that affects me and my child, and it’s a theoretical issue for most of you. I guarandamntee you some of you have been around trans people, especially trans men, and didn’t realize it. You’d never know my son doesn’t have a penis until he shows up in the bathroom next to your child and his his beard and muscles, then you’d freak the f out that there’s a dude in the bathroom while your daughter watches the Mario movie. That’s going to damage your princess peach sensibilities far more than if the DCUM trans woman poster went to the bathroom with y’all. At most, you’d be wondering, was that a trans woman? But her hair and makeup was on point. Couldn’t be. But my son comes in and you’d be so upset that a guy with a beard wants to pee next to your prepubescent child, when that’s what you’re trying to codify. That’s what’s going to put him and cause him harm. Do you really not see what you’re asking for?


Misgender them “because of bible stuff”? I’m an atheist as are many others who have posted here. I don’t subscribe to any faith based system which is not rooted in reality, including Christianity and gender ideology.
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Anonymous wrote:That quote echoes my post from a week or so ago. I’m not worried about the trans women. I’m worried about men who will use the lack of socially acceptable gender norms to access women’s spaces with illicit or illegal intentions.

Hormones, surgery, none of it matters. By eliminating gender norms, I believe women only spaces become less safe.


A) Cis men can come into bathrooms now. The fact that cis men seek out isolated places for sex crimes shows they’ll do this with or without a bathroom ban.

B) Forcing trans men to use the women’s room means you’re inviting people who present as men, very convincingly, into your bathrooms. Tell me how that makes you feel comfortable. Are you going to ask if they’re trans? Are you going to peek under the stall to prove to yourself that they haven’t got a penis? Do you really not realize that insisting people who identify as men, often have facial hair, dress as men, look and sound like men use the ladies room makes it significantly easier for cis men to use the women’s bathroom? Having people who mostly look like women/present as women use the women’s bathroom makes people who present as men in a women’s bathroom more noticeable. So noticeable, in fact, I’ve seen videos of women with short hair, possibly non-binary but maybe they’re just tomboys, get harassed for being men trying to use the women’s facilities (why can’t girls be tomboys anymore without getting harassed by bathroom police?). That’s not helping anyone.


Your argument assumes that we should do nothing about the problem of male violence or allow this problem to worsen simply because the problem already exists. The fact that a problem already exists does not justify allowing an aggravation of the problem. It also does not justify allowing additional problems to occur. Just because male prison guards have assaulted incarcerated females does not mean that we should also now allow biological males to be incarcerated with biological females.


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Anonymous wrote:That quote echoes my post from a week or so ago. I’m not worried about the trans women. I’m worried about men who will use the lack of socially acceptable gender norms to access women’s spaces with illicit or illegal intentions.

Hormones, surgery, none of it matters. By eliminating gender norms, I believe women only spaces become less safe.


A) Cis men can come into bathrooms now. The fact that cis men seek out isolated places for sex crimes shows they’ll do this with or without a bathroom ban.

B) Forcing trans men to use the women’s room means you’re inviting people who present as men, very convincingly, into your bathrooms. Tell me how that makes you feel comfortable. Are you going to ask if they’re trans? Are you going to peek under the stall to prove to yourself that they haven’t got a penis? Do you really not realize that insisting people who identify as men, often have facial hair, dress as men, look and sound like men use the ladies room makes it significantly easier for cis men to use the women’s bathroom? Having people who mostly look like women/present as women use the women’s bathroom makes people who present as men in a women’s bathroom more noticeable. So noticeable, in fact, I’ve seen videos of women with short hair, possibly non-binary but maybe they’re just tomboys, get harassed for being men trying to use the women’s facilities (why can’t girls be tomboys anymore without getting harassed by bathroom police?). That’s not helping anyone.


Your argument assumes that we should do nothing about the problem of male violence or allow this problem to worsen simply because the problem already exists. The fact that a problem already exists does not justify allowing an aggravation of the problem. It also does not justify allowing additional problems to occur. Just because male prison guards have assaulted incarcerated females does not mean that we should also now allow biological males to be incarcerated with biological females.


I see You completely ignore point b


Because point b is nonsensical. There is no requirement for a trans woman to “present” as a woman and vice versa. It’s pointless to discuss the “rights” of a beautiful post op female presenting male transgender woman because they are no different than a cis male predator who looks like Randy Savage and utters that he identifies as a woman.
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Hormones, surgery, none of it matters. By eliminating gender norms, I believe women only spaces become less safe.


A) Cis men can come into bathrooms now. The fact that cis men seek out isolated places for sex crimes shows they’ll do this with or without a bathroom ban.

B) Forcing trans men to use the women’s room means you’re inviting people who present as men, very convincingly, into your bathrooms. Tell me how that makes you feel comfortable. Are you going to ask if they’re trans? Are you going to peek under the stall to prove to yourself that they haven’t got a penis? Do you really not realize that insisting people who identify as men, often have facial hair, dress as men, look and sound like men use the ladies room makes it significantly easier for cis men to use the women’s bathroom? Having people who mostly look like women/present as women use the women’s bathroom makes people who present as men in a women’s bathroom more noticeable. So noticeable, in fact, I’ve seen videos of women with short hair, possibly non-binary but maybe they’re just tomboys, get harassed for being men trying to use the women’s facilities (why can’t girls be tomboys anymore without getting harassed by bathroom police?). That’s not helping anyone.


Your argument assumes that we should do nothing about the problem of male violence or allow this problem to worsen simply because the problem already exists. The fact that a problem already exists does not justify allowing an aggravation of the problem. It also does not justify allowing additional problems to occur. Just because male prison guards have assaulted incarcerated females does not mean that we should also now allow biological males to be incarcerated with biological females.


Prison is completely different from the rest of the world. Come the f on. And no one cared about prison assault when it was gangs of men assaulting other men or male guards assaulting women. Beyond no one caring, it’s actually a point of humor that trans women are assaulted in male prisons. Even if you want to have a real discussion about prison dynamics, it has to be separated from things like locker rooms and bathrooms, just like priests and stepdads and date rapes are separated from prison sexual assault.

And no, I don’t think we should do nothing about male violence against women. I think we should do a lot against the cis het men who perpetrate the majority of sex crimes. I also care about women’s health, including reproductive health. Basically, most of the problems lead back to cis het men either trying to control women, possess women, or have sex with women. Let’s fix that, which is the majority of the sex crimes against women, then we can worry about the handful of trans women who assault women. Even in the studies linked in this thread, we’re taking about what, maybe 100 trans women or cis men claiming to be trans to garner sympathy.

For all your concern about rape of cis women, be aware that outing transgender people is going to lead to them being raped, violently assaulted and harassed, in prison and out. I get it though, they’re already 4x likely to be raped than cis women, so they should be used to it. Or they’re only 1% of the population so who cares if 1/2 of 1% is raped. Out them and misgender them because Bible stuff.

It’s funny how you care if a tiny part of 1% commits any kind of crime but still support the agenda of churches that hide sex crimes (aka Baptist and Catholic Churches). Even if it’s not every priest or preacher raping children, there’s a hierarchical coverup, and it’s that doctrine that spurs on this transphobic agenda.

It’s especially frustrating to me when this is a real issue that affects me and my child, and it’s a theoretical issue for most of you. I guarandamntee you some of you have been around trans people, especially trans men, and didn’t realize it. You’d never know my son doesn’t have a penis until he shows up in the bathroom next to your child and his his beard and muscles, then you’d freak the f out that there’s a dude in the bathroom while your daughter watches the Mario movie. That’s going to damage your princess peach sensibilities far more than if the DCUM trans woman poster went to the bathroom with y’all. At most, you’d be wondering, was that a trans woman? But her hair and makeup was on point. Couldn’t be. But my son comes in and you’d be so upset that a guy with a beard wants to pee next to your prepubescent child, when that’s what you’re trying to codify. That’s what’s going to put him and cause him harm. Do you really not see what you’re asking for?


You are making a lot of assumptions about what I’m asking for. I don’t particularly care what trans men do because they are biological females. I also couldn’t care less about the Catholic Church because like the PPs I am also an atheist. I also have spent plenty of time around trans people who “pass” so don’t need to lecture me about your child’s manly beard or muscles.

Did you say it is a point of humor when people are assaulted in prison? That is vile.
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Anonymous wrote:I’m the PP who posted above that one of the things that bothers me the most about this entire discussion is the unending gaslighting from trans rights advocates, something that is seen on DCUM in the small and writ large across the movement in general. It’s a relentless narrative: “Why are you worrying your pretty little heads with important manly topics that are for people who matter more than you do? You must be absorbing propaganda because God knows you ladies couldn’t possibly reach rational conclusions based on living your entire lives as sexed females in a grossly misogynist world filled with sex-based violence!”

I read this article that I thought was excellent, and captures a lot of my feelings on the matter, so sharing:

https://thecritic.co.uk/we-know-what-a-man-is/

I am not afraid of trans people. I am afraid of losing the principle – within feminism, of all places – that female lives matter as much as male ones. That our desires are not trivial, selfish, frivolous, whereas those of male people are a matter of life and death. That our perceptions of reality are as valid as male ones. That we do not deserve to be bullied and gaslighted into pandering to male egos in the name of “being kind“. That we are not privileged airheads who should say yes to everything because hey, what does it cost us? What do we know about pain? What even are we?


I must have missed the bolded when it was written. Could you please link to that post?


I am not the person who wrote this but I can assure you that although these specific words may have not been written, this is the message we are getting.

I am unapologetic about fighting to keep biological males out of female spaces. I am not homophobic. But make no mistake, people like me are being told out feelings don’t matter.


So, your point is that the thing that bothers that poster the most is something that was not actually said?


Jeff I’ve really grown to respect you and your opinions during this discussion, but I think you’re being deliberately obtuse here.

You are not a female. I think it is difficult for you to understand that females have unique struggles that people who identify as women cannot possibly understand. And that males clearly cannot understand.

I understand your desire to be inclusive and to support trans rights. But let’s be honest - there is absolutely nothing that is on the line for you personally.

I say this respectfully Jeff, I really do. I enjoy your website and this important discourse you’ve allowed us to have on this topic. And I thank you for that.


I am not sure whether you have realized it, but you have both moved the goalposts and reversed the logic of the issue that bothers the earlier poster the most. She was bothered by being told not to worry about "manly topics that are for people who matter more than you do". Your objection is to the invasion of women's spaces by people that you don't consider to be women. That is a different issue. Moreover, you are now telling me not to worry my pretty little head (very liberal paraphrasing here) about "women's" topics.

This thread started out with the original poster stating a desire to have good faith discussions of this issue. One of the reasons we can't have good faith discussions is that so many posters simply don't act in good faith. I am certain that nobody told the earlier poster not to worry her pretty little head about "manly" topics. With the exception of me, the posters in this thread are likely female and I absolutely said no such thing. Yet, that entirely made up quote is the thing that bothers her the most.

What that poster probably means is that she does not believe her arguments are taken seriously. I would argue they are taken seriously, but not always found to be persuasive. She blames this on misogyny rather than shortcomings with her arguments. Similarly, you also refuse to consider that your arguments simply might not be as strong as you seem to believe, but simply claim that only females are capable of understanding. Of course, you ignore the females who hold view identical to mine. What is your explanation for why they don't understand?




So PP’s “very liberal paraphrasing” wasn’t ok (you wanted a direct quote) while yours is? Talk about not discussing in good faith.



Apparently you are not familiar with the rules of English grammar. The earlier poster used quotation marks around the passage that I bolded. I am sure that you can Google the meaning of quotation marks, but to put it simply, they do not indicate that something is being paraphrased. To the contrary, they specify that they surround something that was literally stated. I, on the other hand, did not use quotations marks. To ensure that there would be no confusion, I offered additional clarification that I was not only paraphrasing, but doing so very liberally and, hence, far from literally. Hopefully this clarifies things for you sufficiently.


That PP also explicitly used the word narrative.

Do you know what that word means?


Yes, as a matter of fact, I do know what that word means. Can you show me where there is a narrative in which the earlier poster was told, "Why are you worrying your pretty little heads with important manly topics that are for people who matter more than you do?"

First, I don't think I've ever heard anyone ever suggest that transgenderism is a "manly" topic, let alone one with which women should not concern themselves. Second, who has told the poster that this is a topic for people who matter more than she does?

This is the thing that bothers that poster the most so certainly there is at least one example of it here.



I think that you’re failing to account for the manner in which women are constantly told to be quiet, spoken over, and dismissed. I promise we can see what’s happening.


That may well be true as a society-wide issue but is not something that has been happening in this discussion in which nearly all participants are women and all views are being given equal voice. It's hard to speak over a written message. Moreover, this is a different complaint than that made by the earlier poster who did not simply complain that her views were dismissed, but that she was told not to talk about "manly" issues that should be left to those that matter more than her. That simply didn't happen.


I am not the “manly” poster but even if we take “manly” out of the equation a large number of women definitely feel as though we are being told the feelings of trans people matter more than our feelings. We are told that our outrage over transwomen competing in women’s sports isn’t valid because there is such a small number of trans athletes so why would we be upset about this? That’s saying that Lia Thomas’ teammates have to just suck it up.


I disagree with your overall views about trans issues. Why do your feelings matter more on the subject than mine? I’m a woman. Does it make you a misogynist to not care about how some women feel just because they disagree with you? Because I’ve been told I’m a misogynist for not wanting to ban trans women from bathrooms and locker rooms.


I said this before and I’ll say it again. Neither one of us is right or wrong. It’s an opinion on the status of trans people. It’s what the majority thinks/wants that will win in the end. And I am certain my side will win.


You think that the majority of the country wants transgender women in the men's bathrooms and transgender men in the women's bathrooms?

Do you think the majority of the country should be able to decide if adults are allowed to transition and what adults should be able to do with their own bodies and how they live their lives?


I think the majority of the country doesn’t want penises in female spaces. And doesn’t want transwomen competing against females in sports. I also think the majority of the country doesn’t think that womanhood is a feeling.

I think adults can do whatever they want. I’m not sure how the majority of the country feels about that particularly.


So you're saying you want pre-op trans women in the men's bathroom and post-op trans women in the women's bathroom?


Quite honestly the bathroom thing doesn’t bother me as much as the locker room thing. I definitely don’t want to be changing or showering with a biological male.


So you're opinion is, bathroom whatever because it's closed stalls. Locker room, pre-op and post-op trans women should change in the men's locker room with your men and boys?


I’m not sure why you want me to keep repeating it, but I don’t want a penis in the locker room with me. Post op clearly wouldn’t have a penis, but that would be difficult to police. So it would have to be segregated by male/female. That’s the only way to keep the penises out.


Is there a word for fear of penises?

I don't get the obsession with other people's genitalia. Are you OK with women with big flappy labia? Extra full bush? Micro clit? Are you really looking at people's junk that closely?

Almost everyone would prefer individual changing stalls. They would make everyone more comfortable.


There is no fear, as much as you would like that to be the reason.
Listen, if you’re comfortable changing in the locker room next to a male, have at it. If I don’t want to see someone’s penis, or if I don’t want my kids to see that, that is a valid concern. It doesn’t mean I’m afraid of anything.
I’m not comfortable with it. Why do you think locker rooms were segregated in the first place? For shits and giggles?


If there is no fear, then what is the issue. Just let people change where they feel comfortable and leave them alone.

Even Gaines "never felt uncomfortable around Lia", that is, until she decided to work the RWNJ press circuit.

Locker rooms are segregated because of antiquated social norms.


I gotta say that I'd be fine with a trans woman next to me, but I don't want to change with regular old dudes. No thanks.


Do you realize that most transwomen are sexually attracted exclusively to women? Transbian, right? Does that make any difference? It really did to me.


So are you creeped about by cisgender lesbians in the locker room?


I'm the PP who said I don't want to change with regular old men. Of the following groups, who are most likely to harm women: cisgender heterosexual women, cisgender lesbian women, trans women or men? We all know the answer is door number 4! Men. So I'll keep my women's locker room with all the cis women and trans women in it.

I don't get the thinking that allowing trans women into a women's locker room is going to put women at more risk. If there is some psycho man out there who wants to assault women in the bathroom or locker room, he's going to find a way to do it no matter what the rules are, because he is just a psycho. People like that have nothing whatsoever to do with transgender people. Any person of any gender, sex, or orientation can be a psycho, but not everyone in a particular group is a psycho.


Males, regardless of gender identity, commit 99.9% of sexual assaults against females. So it's doors 3 and 4.


No, Transgender individuals are more likely to have been victimized that to be the victimizers.


Research has also shown that transwomen or males who say they are transwomen are more likely to commit sexual offenses than both non-trans men and women.

https://committees.parliament.uk/writtenevidence/18973/pdf/
https://torontosun.com/news/national/study-finds-nearly-45-of-trans-women-inmates-convicted-of-sex-crimes




Do you have a source that isn’t a radical feminist?


That the UK parliament is a radical feminist organization is news to me.


Who wrote the paper?

Do you not actually read any of this crap? Or check the sources?

No wonder there is so much ignorance floating around.


Did you? The sources are the UK MOJ.



“ Written evidence submitted by Professor Rosa Freedman,”


You are dismissing these sources because you are a sexist, but that doesn't change reality. Reality which is that trans people commit more sex crimes than both men and women. Why are you denying science?

https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/offender-management-statistics-quarterly-april-to-june-2019


I’m saying that this person is clearly very biased. You don’t you agree with that?

When you call everything sexist - even when it’s clearly not (^) - then it starts to lose its power.


Sorry, but if someone automatically dismisses a fact-based source because it was compiled by feminists, then yes, they are sexist. Truth hurts.


My issue with the author isn’t her vagina. She could have a penis and it still wouldn’t matter. She is an anti-trans activist and is biased.

-feminist



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They’re statistics. That can be verified. How is that biased?


You haven’t worked with data/statistics much it seems.


Ok. Tell us what is factually incorrect. I’m sure there is a reason why your comments attack the authors for being feminists instead of presenting evidence.


I’ll look at if on my computer later. It’s hard on my phone.

I stopped when I saw that the studies were being interpreted by a gender critical radical feminist.


You realize that this makes you look wildly ignorant and irrational, not the published author, right?

That having been said, an inability to comprehend hard data and statistics does seem to be a core feature of trans activists, so your struggles with data are to be expected, I suppose. Religious movements tend to struggle with hard science.


I’m comfortable with data, thanks. Just not on my phone when I don’t have my reading glasses.

Anyone familiar with statistics should be aware of its many limitations.

Bias in interpretations is an obvious one.

She’s biased.


Excellent. I have a background in statistical analysis. Please tell me exactly what is wrong with the data, so we can discuss. I look forward to a precise and evidence-based discussion.


Get comfy PP. I have a feeling you’ll be waiting a long time.


New poster. I’d settle for any factual data that shows that trans women patterns of criminality are different than males. I’ve looked long and hard for it. It doesn’t exist.

But of course that doesn’t matter. These people don’t believe that females have the right to define themselves or exclude males from accessing their private spaces.
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Anonymous wrote:I’m the PP who posted above that one of the things that bothers me the most about this entire discussion is the unending gaslighting from trans rights advocates, something that is seen on DCUM in the small and writ large across the movement in general. It’s a relentless narrative: “Why are you worrying your pretty little heads with important manly topics that are for people who matter more than you do? You must be absorbing propaganda because God knows you ladies couldn’t possibly reach rational conclusions based on living your entire lives as sexed females in a grossly misogynist world filled with sex-based violence!”

I read this article that I thought was excellent, and captures a lot of my feelings on the matter, so sharing:

https://thecritic.co.uk/we-know-what-a-man-is/

I am not afraid of trans people. I am afraid of losing the principle – within feminism, of all places – that female lives matter as much as male ones. That our desires are not trivial, selfish, frivolous, whereas those of male people are a matter of life and death. That our perceptions of reality are as valid as male ones. That we do not deserve to be bullied and gaslighted into pandering to male egos in the name of “being kind“. That we are not privileged airheads who should say yes to everything because hey, what does it cost us? What do we know about pain? What even are we?


I must have missed the bolded when it was written. Could you please link to that post?


I am not the person who wrote this but I can assure you that although these specific words may have not been written, this is the message we are getting.

I am unapologetic about fighting to keep biological males out of female spaces. I am not homophobic. But make no mistake, people like me are being told out feelings don’t matter.


So, your point is that the thing that bothers that poster the most is something that was not actually said?


Jeff I’ve really grown to respect you and your opinions during this discussion, but I think you’re being deliberately obtuse here.

You are not a female. I think it is difficult for you to understand that females have unique struggles that people who identify as women cannot possibly understand. And that males clearly cannot understand.

I understand your desire to be inclusive and to support trans rights. But let’s be honest - there is absolutely nothing that is on the line for you personally.

I say this respectfully Jeff, I really do. I enjoy your website and this important discourse you’ve allowed us to have on this topic. And I thank you for that.


I am not sure whether you have realized it, but you have both moved the goalposts and reversed the logic of the issue that bothers the earlier poster the most. She was bothered by being told not to worry about "manly topics that are for people who matter more than you do". Your objection is to the invasion of women's spaces by people that you don't consider to be women. That is a different issue. Moreover, you are now telling me not to worry my pretty little head (very liberal paraphrasing here) about "women's" topics.

This thread started out with the original poster stating a desire to have good faith discussions of this issue. One of the reasons we can't have good faith discussions is that so many posters simply don't act in good faith. I am certain that nobody told the earlier poster not to worry her pretty little head about "manly" topics. With the exception of me, the posters in this thread are likely female and I absolutely said no such thing. Yet, that entirely made up quote is the thing that bothers her the most.

What that poster probably means is that she does not believe her arguments are taken seriously. I would argue they are taken seriously, but not always found to be persuasive. She blames this on misogyny rather than shortcomings with her arguments. Similarly, you also refuse to consider that your arguments simply might not be as strong as you seem to believe, but simply claim that only females are capable of understanding. Of course, you ignore the females who hold view identical to mine. What is your explanation for why they don't understand?




So PP’s “very liberal paraphrasing” wasn’t ok (you wanted a direct quote) while yours is? Talk about not discussing in good faith.



Apparently you are not familiar with the rules of English grammar. The earlier poster used quotation marks around the passage that I bolded. I am sure that you can Google the meaning of quotation marks, but to put it simply, they do not indicate that something is being paraphrased. To the contrary, they specify that they surround something that was literally stated. I, on the other hand, did not use quotations marks. To ensure that there would be no confusion, I offered additional clarification that I was not only paraphrasing, but doing so very liberally and, hence, far from literally. Hopefully this clarifies things for you sufficiently.


That PP also explicitly used the word narrative.

Do you know what that word means?


Yes, as a matter of fact, I do know what that word means. Can you show me where there is a narrative in which the earlier poster was told, "Why are you worrying your pretty little heads with important manly topics that are for people who matter more than you do?"

First, I don't think I've ever heard anyone ever suggest that transgenderism is a "manly" topic, let alone one with which women should not concern themselves. Second, who has told the poster that this is a topic for people who matter more than she does?

This is the thing that bothers that poster the most so certainly there is at least one example of it here.



I think that you’re failing to account for the manner in which women are constantly told to be quiet, spoken over, and dismissed. I promise we can see what’s happening.


That may well be true as a society-wide issue but is not something that has been happening in this discussion in which nearly all participants are women and all views are being given equal voice. It's hard to speak over a written message. Moreover, this is a different complaint than that made by the earlier poster who did not simply complain that her views were dismissed, but that she was told not to talk about "manly" issues that should be left to those that matter more than her. That simply didn't happen.


I am not the “manly” poster but even if we take “manly” out of the equation a large number of women definitely feel as though we are being told the feelings of trans people matter more than our feelings. We are told that our outrage over transwomen competing in women’s sports isn’t valid because there is such a small number of trans athletes so why would we be upset about this? That’s saying that Lia Thomas’ teammates have to just suck it up.


I disagree with your overall views about trans issues. Why do your feelings matter more on the subject than mine? I’m a woman. Does it make you a misogynist to not care about how some women feel just because they disagree with you? Because I’ve been told I’m a misogynist for not wanting to ban trans women from bathrooms and locker rooms.


I said this before and I’ll say it again. Neither one of us is right or wrong. It’s an opinion on the status of trans people. It’s what the majority thinks/wants that will win in the end. And I am certain my side will win.


You think that the majority of the country wants transgender women in the men's bathrooms and transgender men in the women's bathrooms?

Do you think the majority of the country should be able to decide if adults are allowed to transition and what adults should be able to do with their own bodies and how they live their lives?


I think the majority of the country doesn’t want penises in female spaces. And doesn’t want transwomen competing against females in sports. I also think the majority of the country doesn’t think that womanhood is a feeling.

I think adults can do whatever they want. I’m not sure how the majority of the country feels about that particularly.


So you're saying you want pre-op trans women in the men's bathroom and post-op trans women in the women's bathroom?


Quite honestly the bathroom thing doesn’t bother me as much as the locker room thing. I definitely don’t want to be changing or showering with a biological male.


So you're opinion is, bathroom whatever because it's closed stalls. Locker room, pre-op and post-op trans women should change in the men's locker room with your men and boys?


I’m not sure why you want me to keep repeating it, but I don’t want a penis in the locker room with me. Post op clearly wouldn’t have a penis, but that would be difficult to police. So it would have to be segregated by male/female. That’s the only way to keep the penises out.


Is there a word for fear of penises?

I don't get the obsession with other people's genitalia. Are you OK with women with big flappy labia? Extra full bush? Micro clit? Are you really looking at people's junk that closely?

Almost everyone would prefer individual changing stalls. They would make everyone more comfortable.


There is no fear, as much as you would like that to be the reason.
Listen, if you’re comfortable changing in the locker room next to a male, have at it. If I don’t want to see someone’s penis, or if I don’t want my kids to see that, that is a valid concern. It doesn’t mean I’m afraid of anything.
I’m not comfortable with it. Why do you think locker rooms were segregated in the first place? For shits and giggles?


If there is no fear, then what is the issue. Just let people change where they feel comfortable and leave them alone.

Even Gaines "never felt uncomfortable around Lia", that is, until she decided to work the RWNJ press circuit.

Locker rooms are segregated because of antiquated social norms.


I gotta say that I'd be fine with a trans woman next to me, but I don't want to change with regular old dudes. No thanks.


Do you realize that most transwomen are sexually attracted exclusively to women? Transbian, right? Does that make any difference? It really did to me.


So are you creeped about by cisgender lesbians in the locker room?


I'm the PP who said I don't want to change with regular old men. Of the following groups, who are most likely to harm women: cisgender heterosexual women, cisgender lesbian women, trans women or men? We all know the answer is door number 4! Men. So I'll keep my women's locker room with all the cis women and trans women in it.

I don't get the thinking that allowing trans women into a women's locker room is going to put women at more risk. If there is some psycho man out there who wants to assault women in the bathroom or locker room, he's going to find a way to do it no matter what the rules are, because he is just a psycho. People like that have nothing whatsoever to do with transgender people. Any person of any gender, sex, or orientation can be a psycho, but not everyone in a particular group is a psycho.


Males, regardless of gender identity, commit 99.9% of sexual assaults against females. So it's doors 3 and 4.


No, Transgender individuals are more likely to have been victimized that to be the victimizers.


Research has also shown that transwomen or males who say they are transwomen are more likely to commit sexual offenses than both non-trans men and women.

https://committees.parliament.uk/writtenevidence/18973/pdf/
https://torontosun.com/news/national/study-finds-nearly-45-of-trans-women-inmates-convicted-of-sex-crimes




Do you have a source that isn’t a radical feminist?


That the UK parliament is a radical feminist organization is news to me.


Who wrote the paper?

Do you not actually read any of this crap? Or check the sources?

No wonder there is so much ignorance floating around.


Did you? The sources are the UK MOJ.



“ Written evidence submitted by Professor Rosa Freedman,”


You are dismissing these sources because you are a sexist, but that doesn't change reality. Reality which is that trans people commit more sex crimes than both men and women. Why are you denying science?

https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/offender-management-statistics-quarterly-april-to-june-2019


I’m saying that this person is clearly very biased. You don’t you agree with that?

When you call everything sexist - even when it’s clearly not (^) - then it starts to lose its power.


Sorry, but if someone automatically dismisses a fact-based source because it was compiled by feminists, then yes, they are sexist. Truth hurts.


My issue with the author isn’t her vagina. She could have a penis and it still wouldn’t matter. She is an anti-trans activist and is biased.

-feminist



DP
They’re statistics. That can be verified. How is that biased?


You haven’t worked with data/statistics much it seems.


Ok. Tell us what is factually incorrect. I’m sure there is a reason why your comments attack the authors for being feminists instead of presenting evidence.


I’ll look at if on my computer later. It’s hard on my phone.

I stopped when I saw that the studies were being interpreted by a gender critical radical feminist.


You realize that this makes you look wildly ignorant and irrational, not the published author, right?

That having been said, an inability to comprehend hard data and statistics does seem to be a core feature of trans activists, so your struggles with data are to be expected, I suppose. Religious movements tend to struggle with hard science.


I’m comfortable with data, thanks. Just not on my phone when I don’t have my reading glasses.

Anyone familiar with statistics should be aware of its many limitations.

Bias in interpretations is an obvious one.

She’s biased.


Excellent. I have a background in statistical analysis. Please tell me exactly what is wrong with the data, so we can discuss. I look forward to a precise and evidence-based discussion.


Still waiting PP? Where did your statistics friend go? You think she’s still parsing the data??
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Anonymous wrote:I’m the PP who posted above that one of the things that bothers me the most about this entire discussion is the unending gaslighting from trans rights advocates, something that is seen on DCUM in the small and writ large across the movement in general. It’s a relentless narrative: “Why are you worrying your pretty little heads with important manly topics that are for people who matter more than you do? You must be absorbing propaganda because God knows you ladies couldn’t possibly reach rational conclusions based on living your entire lives as sexed females in a grossly misogynist world filled with sex-based violence!”

I read this article that I thought was excellent, and captures a lot of my feelings on the matter, so sharing:

https://thecritic.co.uk/we-know-what-a-man-is/

I am not afraid of trans people. I am afraid of losing the principle – within feminism, of all places – that female lives matter as much as male ones. That our desires are not trivial, selfish, frivolous, whereas those of male people are a matter of life and death. That our perceptions of reality are as valid as male ones. That we do not deserve to be bullied and gaslighted into pandering to male egos in the name of “being kind“. That we are not privileged airheads who should say yes to everything because hey, what does it cost us? What do we know about pain? What even are we?


I must have missed the bolded when it was written. Could you please link to that post?


I am not the person who wrote this but I can assure you that although these specific words may have not been written, this is the message we are getting.

I am unapologetic about fighting to keep biological males out of female spaces. I am not homophobic. But make no mistake, people like me are being told out feelings don’t matter.


So, your point is that the thing that bothers that poster the most is something that was not actually said?


Jeff I’ve really grown to respect you and your opinions during this discussion, but I think you’re being deliberately obtuse here.

You are not a female. I think it is difficult for you to understand that females have unique struggles that people who identify as women cannot possibly understand. And that males clearly cannot understand.

I understand your desire to be inclusive and to support trans rights. But let’s be honest - there is absolutely nothing that is on the line for you personally.

I say this respectfully Jeff, I really do. I enjoy your website and this important discourse you’ve allowed us to have on this topic. And I thank you for that.


I am not sure whether you have realized it, but you have both moved the goalposts and reversed the logic of the issue that bothers the earlier poster the most. She was bothered by being told not to worry about "manly topics that are for people who matter more than you do". Your objection is to the invasion of women's spaces by people that you don't consider to be women. That is a different issue. Moreover, you are now telling me not to worry my pretty little head (very liberal paraphrasing here) about "women's" topics.

This thread started out with the original poster stating a desire to have good faith discussions of this issue. One of the reasons we can't have good faith discussions is that so many posters simply don't act in good faith. I am certain that nobody told the earlier poster not to worry her pretty little head about "manly" topics. With the exception of me, the posters in this thread are likely female and I absolutely said no such thing. Yet, that entirely made up quote is the thing that bothers her the most.

What that poster probably means is that she does not believe her arguments are taken seriously. I would argue they are taken seriously, but not always found to be persuasive. She blames this on misogyny rather than shortcomings with her arguments. Similarly, you also refuse to consider that your arguments simply might not be as strong as you seem to believe, but simply claim that only females are capable of understanding. Of course, you ignore the females who hold view identical to mine. What is your explanation for why they don't understand?




So PP’s “very liberal paraphrasing” wasn’t ok (you wanted a direct quote) while yours is? Talk about not discussing in good faith.



Apparently you are not familiar with the rules of English grammar. The earlier poster used quotation marks around the passage that I bolded. I am sure that you can Google the meaning of quotation marks, but to put it simply, they do not indicate that something is being paraphrased. To the contrary, they specify that they surround something that was literally stated. I, on the other hand, did not use quotations marks. To ensure that there would be no confusion, I offered additional clarification that I was not only paraphrasing, but doing so very liberally and, hence, far from literally. Hopefully this clarifies things for you sufficiently.


That PP also explicitly used the word narrative.

Do you know what that word means?


Yes, as a matter of fact, I do know what that word means. Can you show me where there is a narrative in which the earlier poster was told, "Why are you worrying your pretty little heads with important manly topics that are for people who matter more than you do?"

First, I don't think I've ever heard anyone ever suggest that transgenderism is a "manly" topic, let alone one with which women should not concern themselves. Second, who has told the poster that this is a topic for people who matter more than she does?

This is the thing that bothers that poster the most so certainly there is at least one example of it here.



I think that you’re failing to account for the manner in which women are constantly told to be quiet, spoken over, and dismissed. I promise we can see what’s happening.


That may well be true as a society-wide issue but is not something that has been happening in this discussion in which nearly all participants are women and all views are being given equal voice. It's hard to speak over a written message. Moreover, this is a different complaint than that made by the earlier poster who did not simply complain that her views were dismissed, but that she was told not to talk about "manly" issues that should be left to those that matter more than her. That simply didn't happen.


I am not the “manly” poster but even if we take “manly” out of the equation a large number of women definitely feel as though we are being told the feelings of trans people matter more than our feelings. We are told that our outrage over transwomen competing in women’s sports isn’t valid because there is such a small number of trans athletes so why would we be upset about this? That’s saying that Lia Thomas’ teammates have to just suck it up.


I disagree with your overall views about trans issues. Why do your feelings matter more on the subject than mine? I’m a woman. Does it make you a misogynist to not care about how some women feel just because they disagree with you? Because I’ve been told I’m a misogynist for not wanting to ban trans women from bathrooms and locker rooms.


I said this before and I’ll say it again. Neither one of us is right or wrong. It’s an opinion on the status of trans people. It’s what the majority thinks/wants that will win in the end. And I am certain my side will win.


You think that the majority of the country wants transgender women in the men's bathrooms and transgender men in the women's bathrooms?

Do you think the majority of the country should be able to decide if adults are allowed to transition and what adults should be able to do with their own bodies and how they live their lives?


I think the majority of the country doesn’t want penises in female spaces. And doesn’t want transwomen competing against females in sports. I also think the majority of the country doesn’t think that womanhood is a feeling.

I think adults can do whatever they want. I’m not sure how the majority of the country feels about that particularly.


So you're saying you want pre-op trans women in the men's bathroom and post-op trans women in the women's bathroom?


Quite honestly the bathroom thing doesn’t bother me as much as the locker room thing. I definitely don’t want to be changing or showering with a biological male.


So you're opinion is, bathroom whatever because it's closed stalls. Locker room, pre-op and post-op trans women should change in the men's locker room with your men and boys?


I’m not sure why you want me to keep repeating it, but I don’t want a penis in the locker room with me. Post op clearly wouldn’t have a penis, but that would be difficult to police. So it would have to be segregated by male/female. That’s the only way to keep the penises out.


Is there a word for fear of penises?

I don't get the obsession with other people's genitalia. Are you OK with women with big flappy labia? Extra full bush? Micro clit? Are you really looking at people's junk that closely?

Almost everyone would prefer individual changing stalls. They would make everyone more comfortable.


There is no fear, as much as you would like that to be the reason.
Listen, if you’re comfortable changing in the locker room next to a male, have at it. If I don’t want to see someone’s penis, or if I don’t want my kids to see that, that is a valid concern. It doesn’t mean I’m afraid of anything.
I’m not comfortable with it. Why do you think locker rooms were segregated in the first place? For shits and giggles?


If there is no fear, then what is the issue. Just let people change where they feel comfortable and leave them alone.

Even Gaines "never felt uncomfortable around Lia", that is, until she decided to work the RWNJ press circuit.

Locker rooms are segregated because of antiquated social norms.


I gotta say that I'd be fine with a trans woman next to me, but I don't want to change with regular old dudes. No thanks.


Do you realize that most transwomen are sexually attracted exclusively to women? Transbian, right? Does that make any difference? It really did to me.


So are you creeped about by cisgender lesbians in the locker room?


I'm the PP who said I don't want to change with regular old men. Of the following groups, who are most likely to harm women: cisgender heterosexual women, cisgender lesbian women, trans women or men? We all know the answer is door number 4! Men. So I'll keep my women's locker room with all the cis women and trans women in it.

I don't get the thinking that allowing trans women into a women's locker room is going to put women at more risk. If there is some psycho man out there who wants to assault women in the bathroom or locker room, he's going to find a way to do it no matter what the rules are, because he is just a psycho. People like that have nothing whatsoever to do with transgender people. Any person of any gender, sex, or orientation can be a psycho, but not everyone in a particular group is a psycho.


Males, regardless of gender identity, commit 99.9% of sexual assaults against females. So it's doors 3 and 4.


No, Transgender individuals are more likely to have been victimized that to be the victimizers.


Research has also shown that transwomen or males who say they are transwomen are more likely to commit sexual offenses than both non-trans men and women.

https://committees.parliament.uk/writtenevidence/18973/pdf/
https://torontosun.com/news/national/study-finds-nearly-45-of-trans-women-inmates-convicted-of-sex-crimes




Do you have a source that isn’t a radical feminist?


That the UK parliament is a radical feminist organization is news to me.


Who wrote the paper?

Do you not actually read any of this crap? Or check the sources?

No wonder there is so much ignorance floating around.


Did you? The sources are the UK MOJ.



“ Written evidence submitted by Professor Rosa Freedman,”


You are dismissing these sources because you are a sexist, but that doesn't change reality. Reality which is that trans people commit more sex crimes than both men and women. Why are you denying science?

https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/offender-management-statistics-quarterly-april-to-june-2019


I’m saying that this person is clearly very biased. You don’t you agree with that?

When you call everything sexist - even when it’s clearly not (^) - then it starts to lose its power.


Sorry, but if someone automatically dismisses a fact-based source because it was compiled by feminists, then yes, they are sexist. Truth hurts.


My issue with the author isn’t her vagina. She could have a penis and it still wouldn’t matter. She is an anti-trans activist and is biased.

-feminist



DP
They’re statistics. That can be verified. How is that biased?


You haven’t worked with data/statistics much it seems.


Ok. Tell us what is factually incorrect. I’m sure there is a reason why your comments attack the authors for being feminists instead of presenting evidence.


I’ll look at if on my computer later. It’s hard on my phone.

I stopped when I saw that the studies were being interpreted by a gender critical radical feminist.


You realize that this makes you look wildly ignorant and irrational, not the published author, right?

That having been said, an inability to comprehend hard data and statistics does seem to be a core feature of trans activists, so your struggles with data are to be expected, I suppose. Religious movements tend to struggle with hard science.


I’m comfortable with data, thanks. Just not on my phone when I don’t have my reading glasses.

Anyone familiar with statistics should be aware of its many limitations.

Bias in interpretations is an obvious one.

She’s biased.


Excellent. I have a background in statistical analysis. Please tell me exactly what is wrong with the data, so we can discuss. I look forward to a precise and evidence-based discussion.


Get comfy PP. I have a feeling you’ll be waiting a long time.


New poster. I’d settle for any factual data that shows that trans women patterns of criminality are different than males. I’ve looked long and hard for it. It doesn’t exist.

But of course that doesn’t matter. These people don’t believe that females have the right to define themselves or exclude males from accessing their private spaces.


The author of the paper was interviewed and the study is broken into two cohorts. The more recent cohort with hormonal treatment for gender dysphoria did not in fact have a "male pattern of criminality" as is often claimed. Those claims are based on only the first and oldest cohort. This study is cited out of context all the time. This is what the actual AUTHOR of the paper had to say. Bolding added by me.
https://www.transadvocate.com/fact-check-study-shows-transition-makes-trans-people-suicidal_n_15483.htm

Dhejne: The individual in the image who is making claims about trans criminality, specifically rape likelihood, is misrepresenting the study findings. The study as a whole covers the period between 1973 and 2003. If one divides the cohort into two groups, 1973 to 1988 and 1989 to 2003, one observes that for the latter group (1989 – 2003), differences in mortality, suicide attempts, and crime disappear. This means that for the 1989 to 2003 group, we did not find a male pattern of criminality.

As to the criminality metric itself, we were measuring and comparing the total number of convictions, not conviction type. We were not saying that cisgender males are convicted of crimes associated with marginalization and poverty. We didn’t control for that and we were certainly not saying that we found that trans women were a rape risk. What we were saying was that for the 1973 to 1988 cohort group and the cisgender male group, both experienced similar rates of convictions. As I said, this pattern is not observed in the 1989 to 2003 cohort group.

The difference we observed between the 1989 to 2003 cohort and the control group is that the trans cohort group accessed more mental health care, which is appropriate given the level of ongoing discrimination the group faces. What the data tells us is that things are getting measurably better and the issues we found affecting the 1973 to 1988 cohort group likely reflects a time when trans health and psychological care was less effective and social stigma was far worse.
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