My kids steal food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What you’ve described sounds like the result of food restriction, which includes both real and mental restriction. Binge eating and bulimia are actually delayed responses to real or mental food restriction... there is a cycle that involves shame, guilt, self-loathing when someone knows they are “not supposed” to eat something. Then when they do, they self-loathe for the “bad” behavior. This then leads to a period of restriction again to correct for the mistake, which will inevitably result again in the binge.

I recommend you have your daughter speak to an eating disorder specialist, and possibly you too. It sounds to be like there is a relationship here between control, restriction, food and body that has already become toxic and may lead to disordered eating or an eating disorder if it has not already.

Food issues are very real and are rooted in control and emotional regulation issues in the individual or family system. Also, be sure not to make associations between body size and eating behavior or food choices if disordered eating is suspected to be present. This will exacerbate feelings of shame and guilt etc... which make it worse.

In the meantime I would recommend completely getting rid of locking food up and any measures you have in place to forcibly prevent or restrict your kids intake of specific foods. If your kid wants lasagna and their favorite part is the top then let the kid cut a big slice and eat only the top if they want. If the kid wants a big bowl or two of their dads favorite ice cream that’s awesome! Tell them to go for it! When access to food becomes free again then your kids might have the chance to start figuring out for themselves what it is that they want. Their bodies won’t betray them.

Disagree. People are allowed to have their own food. If the kids want some of that ice cream, buy them their own carton, but Dad is allowed to have some of his own damn ice cream.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t bring myself to read through ten pages, but I got to page three and no one said the words “yes basket” yet. If it hasn’t been covered, OP, Google it.


Also it is possible - but VERY expensive - to only stock “yes foods” in the whole house. Requires lots of grocery trips (or instacart deliveries) and meticulous meal planning, but it’s possible. Not often feasible, but a potential last resort., OP, quote and respond if you need details.

Not OP but id like more info

She already said to Google it. You'll burn some calories typing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: My kids — 9 and 5 — are home all day distance learning and cannot stop stealing food. They eat three squares, I’m always ready with a healthy snack. They get plenty of treats. hot chocolate, bake something, etc. but they will still go into the cabinets and fridge and eat an entire box of crackers or pick the top layer off of the lasagna left over from last night. My husband locks his ice cream in our chest freezer but if we forget they will destroy it.

They know because we’ve said really clearly what they can and can’t have. We’ve tried taking away electronics and putting things in time out or canceling fun stuff when they disobey but honestly the problem is so pervasive that they’d have to be in perpetual lockdown if we punished every infraction. Also, sometimes the perfidy is not discovered until later which complicates things. It’s not just carby sugary things, they will pound a box of lunch meat or a pint of strawberries, leave the trash, and lie about it.

At first it was annoying but is getting to be a big problem. My 9 yo is getting seriously overweight. Her stealing is obviously compulsive in some way. She has discussed it with her therapist and has made some progress but often backslides. The 5 yo is a normal weight but now refuses food at meals because he knows he can just get something better later when he pokes around. He is sharp enough that when he gets caught she blames his sister which causes extra strife.

I feel like locking things sends a bad message. And I have a healthy diet with a good amount of splurges and I don’t want to stop buying things I like because they can’t hang. Any advice appreciated.

I couldn’t help noticing your language in describing your children’s food and eating behaviors... there is something about it that’s almost punishing and connotes strong disapproval and a sense of wrong-doing... have you noticed this? I wonder if this is also how you might be communicating when you describe food choices and their with behavior them? I am not finger pointing or trying to blame... just noticing. Maybe try using more neutral and less loaded language when it comes to food and eating? I also realize you might be just spent and so frustrated by all this and it is just coming out in the language which would be so understandable. But just bringing voice to it in case it is something deeper.

-stealing
-destroy
-pound
-disobey
-perfidy
-splurges (your own)

I have to agree with you. Problems with her kids sound run of the mill kids eating problems in the U.S. Yet, she is using similar language as in dehumanizing rhetoric. For example, in Nazi Germany, such strong language and worse was used to dehumanize Jews. It reeks of blaming the victim. OP is the mom in this scenario yet we did not hear a single thing about what SHE and DH should do to constructively work on improving this situation! I mean these kids are not owners of Popeyes chicken to be proving their own food!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What you’ve described sounds like the result of food restriction, which includes both real and mental restriction. Binge eating and bulimia are actually delayed responses to real or mental food restriction... there is a cycle that involves shame, guilt, self-loathing when someone knows they are “not supposed” to eat something. Then when they do, they self-loathe for the “bad” behavior. This then leads to a period of restriction again to correct for the mistake, which will inevitably result again in the binge.

I recommend you have your daughter speak to an eating disorder specialist, and possibly you too. It sounds to be like there is a relationship here between control, restriction, food and body that has already become toxic and may lead to disordered eating or an eating disorder if it has not already.

Food issues are very real and are rooted in control and emotional regulation issues in the individual or family system. Also, be sure not to make associations between body size and eating behavior or food choices if disordered eating is suspected to be present. This will exacerbate feelings of shame and guilt etc... which make it worse.

In the meantime I would recommend completely getting rid of locking food up and any measures you have in place to forcibly prevent or restrict your kids intake of specific foods. If your kid wants lasagna and their favorite part is the top then let the kid cut a big slice and eat only the top if they want. If the kid wants a big bowl or two of their dads favorite ice cream that’s awesome! Tell them to go for it! When access to food becomes free again then your kids might have the chance to start figuring out for themselves what it is that they want. Their bodies won’t betray them.

Disagree. People are allowed to have their own food. If the kids want some of that ice cream, buy them their own carton, but Dad is allowed to have some of his own damn ice cream.

I don't think a kid that is already overweight having a big bowl or two of ice-cream is awesome either.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure they're not bored so they resort to eating? Confusing hi for with thirst?

Otherwise, eh, let them snack. You sound like youhave control issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: My kids — 9 and 5 — are home all day distance learning and cannot stop stealing food. They eat three squares, I’m always ready with a healthy snack. They get plenty of treats. hot chocolate, bake something, etc. but they will still go into the cabinets and fridge and eat an entire box of crackers or pick the top layer off of the lasagna left over from last night. My husband locks his ice cream in our chest freezer but if we forget they will destroy it.

They know because we’ve said really clearly what they can and can’t have. We’ve tried taking away electronics and putting things in time out or canceling fun stuff when they disobey but honestly the problem is so pervasive that they’d have to be in perpetual lockdown if we punished every infraction. Also, sometimes the perfidy is not discovered until later which complicates things. It’s not just carby sugary things, they will pound a box of lunch meat or a pint of strawberries, leave the trash, and lie about it.

At first it was annoying but is getting to be a big problem. My 9 yo is getting seriously overweight. Her stealing is obviously compulsive in some way. She has discussed it with her therapist and has made some progress but often backslides. The 5 yo is a normal weight but now refuses food at meals because he knows he can just get something better later when he pokes around. He is sharp enough that when he gets caught she blames his sister which causes extra strife.

I feel like locking things sends a bad message. And I have a healthy diet with a good amount of splurges and I don’t want to stop buying things I like because they can’t hang. Any advice appreciated.

I couldn’t help noticing your language in describing your children’s food and eating behaviors... there is something about it that’s almost punishing and connotes strong disapproval and a sense of wrong-doing... have you noticed this? I wonder if this is also how you might be communicating when you describe food choices and their with behavior them? I am not finger pointing or trying to blame... just noticing. Maybe try using more neutral and less loaded language when it comes to food and eating? I also realize you might be just spent and so frustrated by all this and it is just coming out in the language which would be so understandable. But just bringing voice to it in case it is something deeper.

-stealing
-destroy
-pound
-disobey
-perfidy
-splurges (your own)

I have to agree with you. Problems with her kids sound run of the mill kids eating problems in the U.S. Yet, she is using similar language as in dehumanizing rhetoric. For example, in Nazi Germany, such strong language and worse was used to dehumanize Jews. It reeks of blaming the victim. OP is the mom in this scenario yet we did not hear a single thing about what SHE and DH should do to constructively work on improving this situation! I mean these kids are not owners of Popeyes chicken to be proving their own food!

This thread is REALLY going off the rails. An analogy to Nazi Germany, really? WTH am I even reading.

Most of this thread is indicative of why we have a huge issue with obesity in this country. Do you think kids in other countries have free access to ice cream and other junk all day? They most certainly do not. It is a problem of excess combined with a lack of impulse control OP’s kids have. The answer isn’t to let them have whatever they want when they want it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: My kids — 9 and 5 — are home all day distance learning and cannot stop stealing food. They eat three squares, I’m always ready with a healthy snack. They get plenty of treats. hot chocolate, bake something, etc. but they will still go into the cabinets and fridge and eat an entire box of crackers or pick the top layer off of the lasagna left over from last night. My husband locks his ice cream in our chest freezer but if we forget they will destroy it.

They know because we’ve said really clearly what they can and can’t have. We’ve tried taking away electronics and putting things in time out or canceling fun stuff when they disobey but honestly the problem is so pervasive that they’d have to be in perpetual lockdown if we punished every infraction. Also, sometimes the perfidy is not discovered until later which complicates things. It’s not just carby sugary things, they will pound a box of lunch meat or a pint of strawberries, leave the trash, and lie about it.

At first it was annoying but is getting to be a big problem. My 9 yo is getting seriously overweight. Her stealing is obviously compulsive in some way. She has discussed it with her therapist and has made some progress but often backslides. The 5 yo is a normal weight but now refuses food at meals because he knows he can just get something better later when he pokes around. He is sharp enough that when he gets caught she blames his sister which causes extra strife.

I feel like locking things sends a bad message. And I have a healthy diet with a good amount of splurges and I don’t want to stop buying things I like because they can’t hang. Any advice appreciated.

I couldn’t help noticing your language in describing your children’s food and eating behaviors... there is something about it that’s almost punishing and connotes strong disapproval and a sense of wrong-doing... have you noticed this? I wonder if this is also how you might be communicating when you describe food choices and their with behavior them? I am not finger pointing or trying to blame... just noticing. Maybe try using more neutral and less loaded language when it comes to food and eating? I also realize you might be just spent and so frustrated by all this and it is just coming out in the language which would be so understandable. But just bringing voice to it in case it is something deeper.

-stealing
-destroy
-pound
-disobey
-perfidy
-splurges (your own)

I have to agree with you. Problems with her kids sound run of the mill kids eating problems in the U.S. Yet, she is using similar language as in dehumanizing rhetoric. For example, in Nazi Germany, such strong language and worse was used to dehumanize Jews. It reeks of blaming the victim. OP is the mom in this scenario yet we did not hear a single thing about what SHE and DH should do to constructively work on improving this situation! I mean these kids are not owners of Popeyes chicken to be proving their own food!

This thread is REALLY going off the rails. An analogy to Nazi Germany, really? WTH am I even reading.

Most of this thread is indicative of why we have a huge issue with obesity in this country. Do you think kids in other countries have free access to ice cream and other junk all day? They most certainly do not. It is a problem of excess combined with a lack of impulse control OP’s kids have. The answer isn’t to let them have whatever they want when they want it.

Agree. Some of these answers are seriously bananas. Parents are being conditioned to fear say "no" to anything- tell your kid they can't have a second serving of ice cream, "You are restricting them and causing an eating disorder!" Parenting includes teaching your children about food and how to eat balanced and moderate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: My kids — 9 and 5 — are home all day distance learning and cannot stop stealing food. They eat three squares, I’m always ready with a healthy snack. They get plenty of treats. hot chocolate, bake something, etc. but they will still go into the cabinets and fridge and eat an entire box of crackers or pick the top layer off of the lasagna left over from last night. My husband locks his ice cream in our chest freezer but if we forget they will destroy it.

They know because we’ve said really clearly what they can and can’t have. We’ve tried taking away electronics and putting things in time out or canceling fun stuff when they disobey but honestly the problem is so pervasive that they’d have to be in perpetual lockdown if we punished every infraction. Also, sometimes the perfidy is not discovered until later which complicates things. It’s not just carby sugary things, they will pound a box of lunch meat or a pint of strawberries, leave the trash, and lie about it.

At first it was annoying but is getting to be a big problem. My 9 yo is getting seriously overweight. Her stealing is obviously compulsive in some way. She has discussed it with her therapist and has made some progress but often backslides. The 5 yo is a normal weight but now refuses food at meals because he knows he can just get something better later when he pokes around. He is sharp enough that when he gets caught she blames his sister which causes extra strife.

I feel like locking things sends a bad message. And I have a healthy diet with a good amount of splurges and I don’t want to stop buying things I like because they can’t hang. Any advice appreciated.

I couldn’t help noticing your language in describing your children’s food and eating behaviors... there is something about it that’s almost punishing and connotes strong disapproval and a sense of wrong-doing... have you noticed this? I wonder if this is also how you might be communicating when you describe food choices and their with behavior them? I am not finger pointing or trying to blame... just noticing. Maybe try using more neutral and less loaded language when it comes to food and eating? I also realize you might be just spent and so frustrated by all this and it is just coming out in the language which would be so understandable. But just bringing voice to it in case it is something deeper.

-stealing
-destroy
-pound
-disobey
-perfidy
-splurges (your own)

I have to agree with you. Problems with her kids sound run of the mill kids eating problems in the U.S. Yet, she is using similar language as in dehumanizing rhetoric. For example, in Nazi Germany, such strong language and worse was used to dehumanize Jews. It reeks of blaming the victim. OP is the mom in this scenario yet we did not hear a single thing about what SHE and DH should do to constructively work on improving this situation! I mean these kids are not owners of Popeyes chicken to be proving their own food!

This thread is REALLY going off the rails. An analogy to Nazi Germany, really? WTH am I even reading.

Most of this thread is indicative of why we have a huge issue with obesity in this country. Do you think kids in other countries have free access to ice cream and other junk all day? They most certainly do not. It is a problem of excess combined with a lack of impulse control OP’s kids have. The answer isn’t to let them have whatever they want when they want it.

Ok , sure perhaps it is not a good comparison! But, Op does use the language normally used to describe criminals to describe her children, no? And no sight of her taking any responsibility for what she has done and what she can do to improve the situation. Kids are at fault for everything! But, she and DH are the ones buying food and making meals, no? I am yet to find a 9 year old that gained 40 extra lbs that has AMEX in her pocket and is ordering Uber eats day and night!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:#1: Stop buying any food that is not healthy. When you guys want treats, buy single servings or make it as a family. Ice cream, crackers, lunch meats don't make the cut. Stick with fresh fruits and vegetables, raw meats, whole grains, etc.

#2: Don't make extra food for meals so there aren't leftovers.

#3: Get into the habit of doing physical exercise as a family--not to lose weight but to emphasize what a healthy lifestyle looks like. Tell the children that being healthy is a three-legged stool of Sleep, Exercise, and healthy Eating.

Can you work near the kitchen so you can monitor a bit better? My kid was not in the kitchen alone so this never came up.

I’m seriously curious. Do you work? What do you eat for lunch every day?

I am not the pp, but I basically eat the way they’re describing. I work, also. It’s really not that hard with some preparation. Make a whole chicken, eat the meat as leftovers for the next few lunches. Roast several different veggie sides at the same time, eat them for the next few days. Keep lettuce and various salad fixings on hand so you can throw together a salad and warm up some leftover chicken and throw it on top. Make a big batch of homemade veggie sauce and gluten-free pasta. Freeze some of the sauce. It is really not that hard.

I am going to go and bet my savings that this is not how regular middle-class Americans, nor any country people cook and eat! People hold on hand meat, rice, potatoes, noodles. Some veggies, unless you are a vegetarian or a vegan. One chicken doesn't last few next lunches! Not in a regular family of four, where kids are not 1 and 6 months old! Keep lettuce to fill the appetite of 9-year-olds? Gluten-free pasta? Why? Freeze the sauce? Normal families with normal eating family members, finish regular gluten pasta with meat sauce in one meal,, meal and a half. Any leftovers are the next day's lunch, and then you need a new dinner.
Several roasted veggies, let's say with the roasted chicken, hence all in one, do not last a few days! They are normally gone in one day. And that is with making pretty good portions. Please refrain from giving advice to people about eating and food when you clearly have a severe eating disorder!
Have lettuce on hand, so you can make a salad, my something! Only in WASP dcum insanity! Do you know what any normal person in any normal country that has normal growing kids would ask you if you served them a salad? Is this an appetizer!

lol so much to unpack here. First of all, there are three of us, not the “regular” 4. Second of all, someone in our house has gluten intolerance but I also tend to think something like chick pea pasta has more nutritional value than regular wheat pasta. I’m also talking about making big batches of things- so for sauce, for example, think more along the lines of a giant pot on the stove filled with a base of canned tomatoes and then tons and tons of sautéed veggies. Like enough sauce that half of it is left over after covering a whole box of penne pasta.

Also, please expand your understanding of salad. I’m not talking about a sad bowl of ice berg lettuce, think more along the lines of arugula with roasted sweet potato, goat cheese, avocado, topped with chicken.

We do keep some snacks, mainly crackers and fruit and we do dessert several times a week. There is a wide spectrum between kids snacking all day on junk food and depriving children of food.

Trust me, my family is well fed and happy. How were you raised that a whole family eating a healthy diet sounds so strange for you?

No thanks, I will not expand my understanding of the salad. I grew up eating the Med diet and it served me right! I know healthy eating when I see healthy eating! Yours is not! I also grew up knowing that growing kids need protein and greens and carbs. I eat broth-like soups as a starter, as does most of the world. Perhaps you need to rethink your eating habits? I have yet to meet a person that talks about salad of any sort as a proper meal for kids.

Where in my post did I say I limit my childs carb intake??? I serve pasta, roasted potatoes (and other root veg), and rice. A pretty typical dinner for my entire household is a portion of protein (chicken, a burger, fish) a veggie, and some sort of carb, with dessert a few times a week. I was simply suggesting that it's not as hard to make and keep on hand healthy food as people are making it out to be if you batch cook. I'm not suggesting roasting veggies with chicken as a sheet pan meal, I am describing roasting up multiple baking sheets of different vegetables in one go (I actually used to sometimes do this before work pre-pandemic) and then having them on hand for the next three days or so to make life easier.

There is no need to feed your children prepackaged junk when it's so easy to serve fruit and yogurt or chips and hummus as a snack. And again, why the salad hate? I fail to see how a big salad topped with a serving of protein and other fixings is not a meal.

Serious question, do you have an eating disorder? That is the only reason I can see that what I am describing (a diet full of whole foods, mainly shopped from the perimeter of the grocery store, with some indulgences) sounds unhealthy to you.

[Anonymous]

Where in my post did I say I limit my childs carb intake??? I serve pasta, roasted potatoes (and other root veg), and rice. A pretty typical dinner for my entire household is a portion of protein (chicken, a burger, fish) a veggie, and some sort of carb, with dessert a few times a week. I was simply suggesting that it's not as hard to make and keep on hand healthy food as people are making it out to be if you batch cook. I'm not suggesting roasting veggies with chicken as a sheet pan meal, I am describing roasting up multiple baking sheets of different vegetables in one go (I actually used to sometimes do this before work pre-pandemic) and then having them on hand for the next three days or so to make life easier.

There is no need to feed your children prepackaged junk when it's so easy to serve fruit and yogurt or chips and hummus as a snack. And again, why the salad hate? I fail to see how a big salad topped with a serving of protein and other fixings is not a meal.

Serious question, do you have an eating disorder? That is the only reason I can see that what I am describing (a diet full of whole foods, mainly shopped from the perimeter of the grocery store, with some indulgences) sounds unhealthy to you.

Yes, ok, sure! I am the one with an eating disorder! Here you are yelling around about pre-packed junk and feeding kids hummus. Shopping the perimeter, you are legit insane! Nothing wrong with a bag of potato chips here and there. If you this there is something wrong with it occasionally, you are seriously nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Where in my post did I say I limit my childs carb intake??? I serve pasta, roasted potatoes (and other root veg), and rice. A pretty typical dinner for my entire household is a portion of protein (chicken, a burger, fish) a veggie, and some sort of carb, with dessert a few times a week. I was simply suggesting that it's not as hard to make and keep on hand healthy food as people are making it out to be if you batch cook. I'm not suggesting roasting veggies with chicken as a sheet pan meal, I am describing roasting up multiple baking sheets of different vegetables in one go (I actually used to sometimes do this before work pre-pandemic) and then having them on hand for the next three days or so to make life easier.

There is no need to feed your children prepackaged junk when it's so easy to serve fruit and yogurt or chips and hummus as a snack. And again, why the salad hate? I fail to see how a big salad topped with a serving of protein and other fixings is not a meal.

Serious question, do you have an eating disorder? That is the only reason I can see that what I am describing (a diet full of whole foods, mainly shopped from the perimeter of the grocery store, with some indulgences) sounds unhealthy to you.

Yes, ok, sure! I am the one with an eating disorder! Here you are yelling around about pre-packed junk and feeding kids hummus. Shopping the perimeter, you are legit insane! Nothing wrong with a bag of potato chips here and there. If you this there is something wrong with it occasionally, you are seriously nuts.

Not pp, but she did say with some indulgences. Shopping the perimeter with some indulgences is a very healthy way to eat and is what I do. Presumably the indulgences cover potato chips here and there or some ice cream. Why be so mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Typical day: breakfast burritos and fruit. Chicken nuggets, string cheese, apples and ketchup for lunch. Chili with ground beef and rice and a veggie for dinner. Snacks about 11 and 2 and 4. Snacks might include: pepperoni, fruit leather, yogurt, carrots, bell peppers, cheese and crackers, popcorn, plus a serving of whatever we baked that day. We go for hot chocolate at Starbucks once or twice a week. We do dessert of fruit and cool whip or a serving of ice cream.

The additional food is on top of all that.

Those aren't the healthiest meals, IMO. Also, you don't need two desserts a day (baked treat plus dessert) - that's probably 500 calories right there. Try exchanging those for more protein and make sure every snack has protein too (carrots and hummus, apple and peanut butter)

Here are my kids' meals today:

Breakfast - omelets with cheese, mushrooms, and turkey bacon (This is what we had, it's not for health reasons, sometimes we have regular bacon)
Lunch - ham and cheese sandwich with cherry tomatoes on the side. They were still hungry, so they each had a mandarin orange.
Dinner - chicken souvlaki with couscous and tzatziki sauce

This is the diet of a peri menapausal woman.

That is the comment of a mom who only feeds her children dino nuggets and mac and cheese.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Typical day: breakfast burritos and fruit. Chicken nuggets, string cheese, apples and ketchup for lunch. Chili with ground beef and rice and a veggie for dinner. Snacks about 11 and 2 and 4. Snacks might include: pepperoni, fruit leather, yogurt, carrots, bell peppers, cheese and crackers, popcorn, plus a serving of whatever we baked that day. We go for hot chocolate at Starbucks once or twice a week. We do dessert of fruit and cool whip or a serving of ice cream.

The additional food is on top of all that.

Those aren't the healthiest meals, IMO. Also, you don't need two desserts a day (baked treat plus dessert) - that's probably 500 calories right there. Try exchanging those for more protein and make sure every snack has protein too (carrots and hummus, apple and peanut butter)

Here are my kids' meals today:

Breakfast - omelets with cheese, mushrooms, and turkey bacon (This is what we had, it's not for health reasons, sometimes we have regular bacon)
Lunch - ham and cheese sandwich with cherry tomatoes on the side. They were still hungry, so they each had a mandarin orange.
Dinner - chicken souvlaki with couscous and tzatziki sauce

This is the diet of a peri menopausal woman.

I have to agree with you! Appalling! I ate more as a 2-year-old. How do I know? I know because mom told me, she was pregnant and we were on vacation, full board in a hotel. I would eat my kids' meals, then eat most of hers as she had moring sickness(pregnant with my sister) and I would want more! I was a chubby toddler, but I was a skinny teen and I am a relativelyslim/normal weight adult.

I'm sorry, but you have no idea the QUANTITY of food that my children ate, only the food that was served. Nor did I mention what they ate for snacks, because it was OP's meals that I thought were unhealthy, not the snacks.

Only on DCUM are there crazy people who will shame a mom for feeding her children crap and turn around and shame another mom for feeding her children healthy meals and then saying 'OMG that's not enough food!". What did your kids eat yesterday, ladies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Typical day: breakfast burritos and fruit. Chicken nuggets, string cheese, apples and ketchup for lunch. Chili with ground beef and rice and a veggie for dinner. Snacks about 11 and 2 and 4. Snacks might include: pepperoni, fruit leather, yogurt, carrots, bell peppers, cheese and crackers, popcorn, plus a serving of whatever we baked that day. We go for hot chocolate at Starbucks once or twice a week. We do dessert of fruit and cool whip or a serving of ice cream.

The additional food is on top of all that.

Those aren't the healthiest meals, IMO. Also, you don't need two desserts a day (baked treat plus dessert) - that's probably 500 calories right there. Try exchanging those for more protein and make sure every snack has protein too (carrots and hummus, apple and peanut butter)

Here are my kids' meals today:

Breakfast - omelets with cheese, mushrooms, and turkey bacon (This is what we had, it's not for health reasons, sometimes we have regular bacon)
Lunch - ham and cheese sandwich with cherry tomatoes on the side. They were still hungry, so they each had a mandarin orange.
Dinner - chicken souvlaki with couscous and tzatziki sauce

This is the diet of a peri menapausal woman.

That is the comment of a mom who only feeds her children dino nuggets and mac and cheese.

No doubt this comment is by the pp who accuses others of having an eating disorder while he shops only perimeter of the grocery store and feeds hummus to her kids! Yet, she thinks she has no eating disorder!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: don’t you see?? Your kids wouldn’t be binge eating junk if you fed them more couscous, arugula and goat cheese salad, and quinoa. If they are still super hungry after all that nutritious food, give them a clementine.

In all seriousness, I don’t think you are a bad mom. This is 100% ADHD related and really has nothing to do with the actual food you are giving/not giving. Treat the ADHD (not therapy, but actual medication) and I bet you will see a huge change in these behaviors.

OMG - my kids LOVE couscous and we're a multi-ethnic family so they eat non-American food - yes, like chicken souvlaki. Get over it, bitch.