That’s what the handbook says, but everybody knows that’s not what actually happens. Were you in a sorority in the 50s? |
And this is why I deliberately chose a college with no Greek system at all. Everyone sat with one another at games, socialized with everyone, and went to any and all parties. So much more fun. |
What’s a “respected sorority”? Sounds like an oxymoron. -DP |
+1 My best friend from high school was in a sorority in college and has said how embarrassed she is in retrospect. All the “secret traditions” and stupid things they had to memorize - she said it was so fake and ridiculous. |
+100 |
This is so sick and sad. And shallow. I hate the whole Instagram culture. |
That sounds nice. I hope there are many chapters like yours. google “Alpha Phi ranks on looks” if you think your sorority is the norm. |
Sorry that was in response to
Sororities look for grades first and leadership second. Then they look for women who fit with the group and who they would want as a friend. Who the boys want to mix with is way, way down on the list, if it's considered at all. |
Would you rather be a Katie or a Tina?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C0H3vHsMrmo |
Like this? https://www.thecut.com/2013/04/greatest-sorority-freak-out-e-mail-ever.html |
Maybe your memories are a little rosy? I went to schools without Greek life and certain clubs operated like just like frats. There will always be cliques and a social hierarchy. In the absence of Greek letters, clubs take that place. I was in the most prestigious club at my school and while I love the immediate connection I have when I meet someone who was in that club regardless of their age, I realize that we operated like a fraternity, though we were co-ed. |
No, and I've been an advisor at multiple campuses but he last 10 ywars. This is what happens. Sororities way more concerned about recruiting the next Vera Bradley or Tammty Duckworth, and way less about Paris Hilton. |
Oh come on. That's one stupid example of bad behavior. But you don't care. You just want to paint everyone who participates in these organizations with the same brush and you obviously aren't open to learning from anyone whose experience was positive. |
She means not far or weird. LOL. Because her daughter is one of those mean girls, but she would never admit it. |
If you want to see how real sorority girls discuss picking girls look no further than this site
https://www.greekrank.com/uni/91/topic/1833392/alpha-phi-recruiting-process-exposed/ I get that some posters are not at competitive or traditional Greek schools but yes this really happens still Eg “...found out that my chapter recruits girls from certain high schools. I think that's even more shallow and arbitrary than recruiting girls who are cute. Why does it matter what high school she went to? Because you want to get more girls from that high school? Why? Money? Status? So it's easier to get more girls from that area the next year? How is that any different? It's kind of arbitrary and shallow. And the girl has like zero control over that. It's just based on her parents and where they live! Well isn't that why some groups recruit for looks? Because maybe they can't get the girls from those high schools so they have to find their own way to compete and they want to get more girls who are cute so they can get mixers and guys will talk about how great their chapter is to their friends! It's a snowball thing.” “...95% of girls who go through recruitment are self-selected high achievers with tons of leadership, diverse interests, talents, poise, etc. So really the only obvious difference from one house to the next is their "popularity" factor among boys and attractiveness. Every group has great girls. But it's hard to deny that the "top" groups are usually either really hot or come from affluent super well-connected families. At least here at Bama. I think she just didn't like it when she saw the curtain peeled back. But the processes used now are way more discreet...” |