I slapped my teen!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet she won't call you a bitch again.
Stick with the consequence of the lost phone for the week too.
I would not mention the slap unless she brings it up again.

This. What the heck is wrong with most of you? The current parenting generation has handed over control to the children. They know they can play off your guilt and win even more concessions. If any of us had called our mothers “bitch” when we were teens we would have been slapped into next Tuesday. Except that most of us did not because we had been punished when we mouthed off to our parents when we were younger.

Only apology needs to be from child to parent here.

So your teen son can hit another student at school if he is called a name, and he should expect no consequences? How very confused he will be when he is expelled.

It's either OK to hit, or it's not. And it's not.

That said, it's not just OP apologies, end of story. It's OP apologies, and consequences are still laid down over the phone, and new consequences are laid down over the "bitch" remark.

NP here.

PP: So your teen son can confiscate items from another student if he is called a name? See how this goes. Replace slapping with pretty much any punishment, and it cannot apply to "your teen son."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The last time my mom whacked me—which was something that happened very rarely (maybe 3-4 times in my life?), and until then never on my face—I was 13 and slapped her back. Then we stood there looking at each other. Never happened again.

We had a basically good relationship at the time, and have a good relationship as adults.

You were a crazy child. lol I am labeled the "craziest one" in my family of 6 siblings, and there is no way I would have been crazy enough to slap my mother back. However, if I did, it would have gotten pretty ugly. And I was taller and probably stronger than my mother at 13(she has never slapped me though).


I have a good friend whose son was 6'4 at 16(she is 5'10"). He was such a troublesome kid then, He called his mother a bitch once, and she slapped him. I asked her what she would have done if he slapped her back. She was so sure it could never have happened. And the slap did not fix anything. He was such a pain for quite sometime. He is a wonderful young man now.

[Anonymous]

She deserved the smack for being disrespectful and I wouldn't apologize for it. We would go over the rules of the phone again and she wouldn't get it back for like a month if that.

Anonymous wrote:My 14yr old daughter and I are very close, she’s a great kid, despite her moodiness. I got up in the middle of the night (about 4am) to go to the bathroom and noticed noise coming from my daughters room. I open her door and she’s watching videos on her cell phone that is supposed to be plugged in downstairs. She must have snuck downstairs and got it. I told her to hand me the phone, and she refused. I told her the phone is mine until further notice, and she lost her shit. She started screaming, saying I was a horrible mother, all of her other friends keep their phones in their room. I told her I don’t care if she thinks I’m a horrible mother, it’s not healthy to be on the phone all night, and it’s not up for discussion. She stood up and handed me the phone and looked me in the eyes and said “bitch.” In my already pissed off, sleep deprived state, I smacked her cheek. She was shocked and just threw herself on the bed crying(I think far more upset about losing the phone then the smack) How do I fix this?! I was obviously wrong to smack her but I know she’s going to try and use this as an excuse to get phone back, which isn’t happening either. Parent is hard y’all, and clearly I’m not doing such a great job.