35yo guy husband works with brought 24yo woman to a wedding. Everyone gave him a hard time, why?

[Anonymous]

The woman I know who has struggled the most with fertility started trying to have kids at 22. Took months to get pregnant and had multiple stillbirths. Meanwhile I waited until my 30s and I get knocked up if my DH even looks at me the wrong (right?) way.

Agree that women in their 20s are adults who can make their own decisions, but the bit about conceiving naturally really has nothing to do with the topic.

Dating preferences like this have everything to do with fertility. If a 35yo man dates only women his own age the likelihood of them conceiving naturally after courting and marriage is low. Why would a high status man want that risk? Especially if the man wants multiple children. He would be wise to date women five to ten years younger, if he can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hitting the wall refers to rapidly aging in a short period

The downslope of peak fertility. It’s obvious in a woman’s appearance and disposition. The face especially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hitting the wall refers to rapidly aging in a short period

The downslope of peak fertility. It’s obvious in a woman’s appearance and disposition. The face especially.

Hm. I’m in my 30s and attract more men now than I ever did in my 20s. Higher quality men, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

The woman I know who has struggled the most with fertility started trying to have kids at 22. Took months to get pregnant and had multiple stillbirths. Meanwhile I waited until my 30s and I get knocked up if my DH even looks at me the wrong (right?) way.

Agree that women in their 20s are adults who can make their own decisions, but the bit about conceiving naturally really has nothing to do with the topic.

Dating preferences like this have everything to do with fertility. If a 35yo man dates only women his own age the likelihood of them conceiving naturally after courting and marriage is low. Why would a high status man want that risk? Especially if the man wants multiple children. He would be wise to date women five to ten years younger, if he can.

Stop with the “high status man” crap. It’s creepy and misogynistic, as if a woman’s only purpose in life is too attract one. It’s disgusting and degrading, like women no longer have worth when they are no longer attractive to these self-appointed kings.

[Anonymous]

High status men have options. Low status men have fewer, settle for what they can get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:High status men have options. Low status men have fewer, settle for what they can get.

Yet, with all of the options they have, some still make odd choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

The woman I know who has struggled the most with fertility started trying to have kids at 22. Took months to get pregnant and had multiple stillbirths. Meanwhile I waited until my 30s and I get knocked up if my DH even looks at me the wrong (right?) way.

Agree that women in their 20s are adults who can make their own decisions, but the bit about conceiving naturally really has nothing to do with the topic.

Dating preferences like this have everything to do with fertility. If a 35yo man dates only women his own age the likelihood of them conceiving naturally after courting and marriage is low. Why would a high status man want that risk? Especially if the man wants multiple children. He would be wise to date women five to ten years younger, if he can.

Doesn’t explain dating a Med student who is looking at 6-8 more years of full time school and long work hours.
If anything seems like a safe noncommittal date flight. Similar to how my Jewish guy friends never date Jewish women until way later in age. Always have an excuse to breakup ready at hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hitting the wall refers to rapidly aging in a short period

The downslope of peak fertility. It’s obvious in a woman’s appearance and disposition. The face especially.

Hm. I’m in my 30s and attract more men now than I ever did in my 20s. Higher quality men, too.

It is not universal! My wife is in her late 30's and still looks very good

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High status men have options. Low status men have fewer, settle for what they can get.

Yet, with all of the options they have, some still make odd choices.

same can be said for high value women. and at the end of the day, who are any of us to judge what the heart wants - there's a lid for every pot and one persons swan/prince is another's ugly duckling/frog

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High status men have options. Low status men have fewer, settle for what they can get.

Yet, with all of the options they have, some still make odd choices.

Of course. Courting is all about proximity...and timing and luck. But on average, high status men on the hunt for a spouse are going to go for the prettier and more fertile (younger) gals. Again, this is biology and instincts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High status men have options. Low status men have fewer, settle for what they can get.

Yet, with all of the options they have, some still make odd choices.

Of course. Courting is all about proximity...and timing and luck. But on average, high status men on the hunt for a spouse are going to go for the prettier and more fertile (younger) gals. Again, this is biology and instincts.

Funny, I know more than a few who married Plain Jane mommish types. Maybe they thought that they would look buttoned down and socially acceptable at the country club.

[Anonymous]

Guy: Took a nice young woman to a wedding as my date. Had a lot of fun. I feel like she did also so I'll will probably date her again. OR..not. But we had fun.

Women of DCUM: OMG she is way to young to marry, have children with him, will be in med school for years while he supports her, then she will be changing his diapers in his older age. It's all so wrong.

Why do women evaluate every relationship, from the very start, as if it's a long-term, permanent pairing that includes marriage, children, and growing old together. Can't a guy just take an attractive, younger woman to a wedding?

[Anonymous]

I think most men try to strike a balance between beauty/youth and someone who you would not be embarrassed to bring into a conversation with your peers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think most men try to strike a balance between beauty/youth and someone who you would not be embarrassed to bring into a conversation with your peers

No they don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High status men have options. Low status men have fewer, settle for what they can get.

Yet, with all of the options they have, some still make odd choices.

The women of DCUM are prof of this.