4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting

[Anonymous]

OP is awful and all the posters who commented on how the 4 year old is learning to manage her mother's behavior were 100% correct. OP, apologize to your child, explain that parents make mistakes too. Don't make your 4 year old more mature than you.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the post above. OP had a tantrum and DD ended up with a time out. "You will eat pancakes now! Because I am pregnant and waited for you to wake up to eat!"
So, here is how I read this, OP is pissed her DD overslept, OP is hungry and an adult who can make pancakes but can't eat without her 4 year old being present? Op decided that her DD can open 2 presents, rather than guide gift opening, as most of parents do, she is busy making pancakes, bcs, that is so important right now because OP is hungry, so then is making pancakes rather than spend time with her DD and help her open all the gifts. Then she is mad that her pancakes are not appreciated, are you a teenager OP? You sure acts and throw tantrums like one.
It is sad that you can't see that you literarily sabotaged Christmas morning. Christmas is not a board meeting or a medical procedure to be follow per agenda. Plus, she said you pancakes are disgusting, at this point I'll take her word for it. She sounds more mature than you. Why is it such a big deal that she said that? Just bcs they are yummy to you doesn't mean she likes them. You got pregers taste buds. You just thought your DD that she can't tell you what she really thinks. Bigger person apologized, and we know who that was.

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for OP she is repeating the dynamic she learned as a child.
I'm an adult and I will force you to do what I want if I want and expects total compliance at all times and you better do it with a smile on her face.
OP's parents beat her.
OP is not beating but she's doing psychological damage all the same.

[Anonymous]

It is killing OP that she can't give her half-assed excuses or sock puppet now she has been called out!!!

[Anonymous]

I really am astonished at the number of post DS on this thread who think its psychologically damaging not to be able to open all your pr sends at one time. What fragile souls you must be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really am astonished at the number of post DS on this thread who think its psychologically damaging not to be able to open all your pr sends at one time. What fragile souls you must be.

Give it up. If that is what you got out of this long thread, you are damaged yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really am astonished at the number of post DS on this thread who think its psychologically damaging not to be able to open all your pr sends at one time. What fragile souls you must be.

Give it up. If that is what you got out of this long thread, you are damaged yourself.

Aren't we all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really am astonished at the number of post DS on this thread who think its psychologically damaging not to be able to open all your pr sends at one time. What fragile souls you must be.

Give it up. If that is what you got out of this long thread, you are damaged yourself.

Aren't we all?

No. We all are not damaged.

[Anonymous]

Hah. OP here, and I was NOT sock puppeting. I'm also not fat (unless you think being pregnant counts). And I'm hardly abusive or manipulative to my DD. I did wait all morning to eat, we don't often get to have meals together and I think of holidays as a time to do that. I truly didn't realize that that isn't common for Christmas. And I really don't care what any of you say, DD was totally in the wrong for calling the breakfast disgusting. And santa pancakes are just mini pancakes with whip cream and strawberries and powdered sugar on them. She had that and fruit on her plate, hardly anything difficult to down quickly. But definitely messy enough to keep in the kitchen. DH also supported me in getting her into the kitchen to eat.

And those of you saying I could have waited five minutes, DD was opening each present and wanting to take them out of the box to play with them. It would have taken hours! And you can happily ask Jeff if I'm sockpuppetting. I'm appalled by the number of parents who are okay with their children speaking like that. Four year olds know better. Sure, next year I may make breakfast more "mobile" but my not doing taht this year does not make me horrid. Those of you piling on should be ashamed of yourselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hah. OP here, and I was NOT sock puppeting. I'm also not fat (unless you think being pregnant counts). And I'm hardly abusive or manipulative to my DD. I did wait all morning to eat, we don't often get to have meals together and I think of holidays as a time to do that. I truly didn't realize that that isn't common for Christmas. And I really don't care what any of you say, DD was totally in the wrong for calling the breakfast disgusting. And santa pancakes are just mini pancakes with whip cream and strawberries and powdered sugar on them. She had that and fruit on her plate, hardly anything difficult to down quickly. But definitely messy enough to keep in the kitchen. DH also supported me in getting her into the kitchen to eat.

And those of you saying I could have waited five minutes, DD was opening each present and wanting to take them out of the box to play with them. It would have taken hours! And you can happily ask Jeff if I'm sockpuppetting. I'm appalled by the number of parents who are okay with their children speaking like that. Four year olds know better. Sure, next year I may make breakfast more "mobile" but my not doing taht this year does not make me horrid. Those of you piling on should be ashamed of yourselves.

Yep OP, we're all wrong and you are 100% right. Just start saving for her therapy bills now. And fully fund your retirement- I have a feeling you are not going to be the mom whose adult children are happy to come around and help.

[Anonymous]

OP is quite obviously a food-obsessed fat ass. Oink oink!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is quite obviously a food-obsessed fat ass. Oink oink!

I don’t agree with the OP at all but this a bullshit statement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 9-year-old just said "I hate you" to me. She was mad that another family member got a gift that she wanted. I also got her the same thing, but I didn't want to give it to her in front of the other family member, since I thought it would take away from the specialness for the other family member, since it was the only gift we got them and my daughter got a ton of stuff. When I tried to gently pull her toward me to whisper to her that she got one too, she pretended I hurt her (which I certainly did not), started crying, then said "I hate you."

Now I'm on DCUM venting and feeling like I've failed as a parent. Ugh.

So if you’d started making her mind her manners at 4, she would not be doing this now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is quite obviously a food-obsessed fat ass. Oink oink!

I don’t agree with the OP at all but this a bullshit statement.

Maybe this the progression ... from four year old who calls her food "disgusting" and is not reprimanded at all by her parents ... to DCUM bully who calls someone a "food-obsessed fat ass" for daring to want to eat breakfast with her family.

(I also think it's ironic because there are so many posts on here about how to create nice holiday memories, traditions, etc, many of which mention eating breakfast as a family, or opening some gifts and then stopping for a bit, etc. So here's the OP actually doing this, and people are going crazy. It's kind of funny.)

- not OP, and in fact not even Christian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really am astonished at the number of post DS on this thread who think its psychologically damaging not to be able to open all your pr sends at one time. What fragile souls you must be.

Give it up. If that is what you got out of this long thread, you are damaged yourself.

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