Ok to vacation without all the kids?

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Anonymous wrote:No one HAS to go to Harvard. Or Yale.

Of course not. But it's pretty shitty if the reason they can't is because their step-mother is a bitch.

Also, my point was not that someone had to go to one of those schools it was, as I'll say again, that that is the normal policy of schools that guarantee need blind admissions AND promise to cover 100% of demonstrated need. In other words, the schools that kids in the squeezed "lower-upper-middle class" actually might get aid from.

They aren't in that class.

Let it be said, again, that the reason she wouldn't be able to go to Harvard (if admitted) is not that her stepmother is a bitch. It's because her bioparents didn't save enough to fund it. Let's point the finger where it belongs.

But their savings would have been enough if there wasn't a stepmother. It is the father's fault for marrying a cruel and selfish woman.

What's cruel and selfish is having children you can't support, and insisting this is somehow other people's job.

But it would have been affordable without the stepmom. The father is cruel and selfish for doing that to his child, but the stepmother is also callous and unloving. It is cruel to make a child live in the household of someone so indifferent to her wel-being.

She doesn't live in the household.

You're saying the father should have married a low-income woman? On an off-chance his first daughter would go to Harvard?

I'm saying the father should suck it up and pay whatever it takes so that his choice to remarry does not adversely affect her finances or her education.

Ding, ding, ding, ding. We have a winner. The child should not suffer because of her parents divorce and their subsequent remarriage(s). If her dad has ascended to a higher lifestyle than before, she gets to participate.

If that was true, they would take the new spouse income into consideration for child support computations. And they don't.

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Ding, ding, ding, ding. We have a winner. The child should not suffer because of her parents divorce and their subsequent remarriage(s). If her dad has ascended to a higher lifestyle than before, she gets to participate.

That's silly. She participates by visiting the household and taking part in whatever that household is doing. Not by forcing a stepmother to recreate a duplicate of that lifestyle for her.

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Anonymous wrote:No one HAS to go to Harvard. Or Yale.

Of course not. But it's pretty shitty if the reason they can't is because their step-mother is a bitch.

Also, my point was not that someone had to go to one of those schools it was, as I'll say again, that that is the normal policy of schools that guarantee need blind admissions AND promise to cover 100% of demonstrated need. In other words, the schools that kids in the squeezed "lower-upper-middle class" actually might get aid from.

They aren't in that class.

Let it be said, again, that the reason she wouldn't be able to go to Harvard (if admitted) is not that her stepmother is a bitch. It's because her bioparents didn't save enough to fund it. Let's point the finger where it belongs.

But their savings would have been enough if there wasn't a stepmother. It is the father's fault for marrying a cruel and selfish woman.

What's cruel and selfish is having children you can't support, and insisting this is somehow other people's job.

But it would have been affordable without the stepmom. The father is cruel and selfish for doing that to his child, but the stepmother is also callous and unloving. It is cruel to make a child live in the household of someone so indifferent to her wel-being.

She doesn't live in the household.

You're saying the father should have married a low-income woman? On an off-chance his first daughter would go to Harvard?

I'm saying the father should suck it up and pay whatever it takes so that his choice to remarry does not adversely affect her finances or her education.

Ding, ding, ding, ding. We have a winner. The child should not suffer because of her parents divorce and their subsequent remarriage(s). If her dad has ascended to a higher lifestyle than before, she gets to participate.

If that was true, they would take the new spouse income into consideration for child support computations. And they don't.

Some schools do.

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Child support, not college.