Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?

[Anonymous]

Maybe the mom in question has a convertible car seat though, now that I think about it. While I find sleeping-baby-in-bucket to be worth the extra investment in getting infant seat for the first year + convertible seat thereafter, not everyone can afford that luxury.
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Or maybe the baby wakes up when moved even in the carseat. Or maybe she had a c-section and is trying not to lift the carseat more than she needs to.

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Anonymous wrote:Ask the mom iif she wants me to stand by her car for the two minutes she is gone.

This is the right thing to do. And if you can't be bothered, MYOB. It takes a village. I'm sure this arrangement isn't this mom's first choice, but she has weighed the risk and deemed the alternative (waking the sleeping baby) worse than the outside risk. We all do this every day and are doing the best we can.

Pick up baby in car seat, put in snap and go, go inside. Really not that hard. We have all done it.

Ours has several flights of stairs. So while I agree w/your general premise, I have to be the pain in the ass to point out why that wouldn't work at our center.

Maybe the mom in question has a convertible car seat though, now that I think about it. While I find sleeping-baby-in-bucket to be worth the extra investment in getting infant seat for the first year + convertible seat thereafter, not everyone can afford that luxury.

The snap and go infant seats can also just be carried if you can't use a stroller. Or you can just pick the sleeping baby up and go into the center. It's the same thing you do when you go grocery shopping, to the library, the dry cleaners....

This isn't complicated, it isn't about money. It really isn't that hard. We all know why the mother is leaving her baby in the running car - it is for convenience. Nothing more, nothing less.

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Anonymous wrote:Title says it all- there's a mom who has a napping baby in the car while she picks up her kid from daycare. She has to enter the building, go around the corner, sign out the kid, and get back to the car. Car is running. There isn't normally space right out front-but it's not a far walk. I timed it-child is unaccompanied in the car for about two minutes. Say something? Or MYOB.

Since you have the time to time her while she's away from the car, Why don't you ask her if she'd like for you to stay at the car and watch her sleeping baby while she runs in to grab her kid? That would probably be the best way to help out a fellow parent who appears to be juggling conpeting schedules for her kids.

OP, you could learn a lot from this poster and 00:27, who both came at this situation from a compassionate, helpful angle.

Too bad you are too self-absorbed to listen to them.

Are you really suggesting that I coordinate my daily schedule with this women so I can stand by her car for two extra minutes every day?

You're missing the point. You immediately think about how you can get this woman in trouble (timing her? Really?). A good person, like the PPs, would ask first how they can help this woman. Shame on you.

You're missing the point. I'm not timing her to get her in trouble. I'm timing her to make sure the baby isn't alone in a car for an unreasonable amount of time. And I'm not trying to "get her in trouble". Please grow up. I'm trying to gauge whether this behavior is sufficiently risky that I should raise it with her or have the center raise it with her. And I can't reorganize my life to make sure I coincide with her at daycare so I can stand by her car or check out her child (which would not even be permissible). So please stop obsessing about this-it's not going to happen.

99% of parents are capable of determining what is reasonable with regards to their children. As for the 1% that is not, well, not much you can do about it.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty lax about this stuff, but it's never okay to leave a baby in a car alone. Tell the daycare, OP. Mom needs to suck it up with nap schedules like we all do. Get a snap n go or something.

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OP, you're an a** !

If you don't want to help this mother, MYOB!

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Anonymous wrote:Ask the mom iif she wants me to stand by her car for the two minutes she is gone.

This is the right thing to do. And if you can't be bothered, MYOB. It takes a village. I'm sure this arrangement isn't this mom's first choice, but she has weighed the risk and deemed the alternative (waking the sleeping baby) worse than the outside risk. We all do this every day and are doing the best we can.

If a woman I didn't know was like "hey let me stand by your car!" I'm just trying to think of being in her shoes-ok-I'd be:
1) hesitant to accept bc I wouldn't want to inconvenience her for thirty seconds -let alone two plus minutes.
2) kind of annoyed that she was implying with her offer that I was being unsafe
3) kind of creeped out that she was watching me-I don't know her.

I'm the PP you're responding to. I can see having those reactions, I guess. But then I'd also be bummed that I consider other parents, at the center where my kid spends more time than at home, strangers. Maybe OP's first step should be introducing herself to the "offending" mom, rather than judging from afar.

[Anonymous]

Would any of you leave a $1 million diamond necklace in plain view in your vehicle, and then leave your vehicle out in public?

No. No, you would not.

Ask yourself why you would be more careful with a piece of jewelry than with your child.

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Anonymous wrote:Would any of you leave a $1 million diamond necklace in plain view in your vehicle, and then leave your vehicle out in public?

No. No, you would not.

Ask yourself why you would be more careful with a piece of jewelry than with your child.

For two minutes at a daycare center, sure.

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Anonymous wrote:Would any of you leave a $1 million diamond necklace in plain view in your vehicle, and then leave your vehicle out in public?

No. No, you would not.

Ask yourself why you would be more careful with a piece of jewelry than with your child.

The jewelry probably has a higher resale value than some random used kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Would any of you leave a $1 million diamond necklace in plain view in your vehicle, and then leave your vehicle out in public?

No. No, you would not.

Ask yourself why you would be more careful with a piece of jewelry than with your child.

For two minutes at a daycare center, sure.

Ha. I was thinking the same thing. No one dealing with getting small children in/out of a daycare center is going to be noticing the bling laying around in my car.

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Anonymous wrote:Would any of you leave a $1 million diamond necklace in plain view in your vehicle, and then leave your vehicle out in public?

No. No, you would not.

Ask yourself why you would be more careful with a piece of jewelry than with your child.

The jewelry probably has a higher resale value than some random used kid.

This! Nobody wants a random baby.

[Anonymous]

I hope you are not my neighbor or live near me, Op. I am sure you would report me for putting my stroller on my step just outside my door, bringing kid A out and setting them in the stroller, and then leaving for two seconds to bring kid B out and setting them in the stroller, and then leaving for two seconds to get the last minute thing I forgot, and then turning my back to lock the door. I actually worry about nutbags like you who would actually sit and time me and not offer to help!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would any of you leave a $1 million diamond necklace in plain view in your vehicle, and then leave your vehicle out in public?

No. No, you would not.

Ask yourself why you would be more careful with a piece of jewelry than with your child.

What a terrible analogy. I wouldn't leave a $1 million diamond necklace in a crib at night either. Nor would I take my $1 million necklace anywhere on a regular basis.
I guess you don't drive your kid anywhere and lock them in a vault at night? Fail.

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Anonymous wrote:Would any of you leave a $1 million diamond necklace in plain view in your vehicle, and then leave your vehicle out in public?

No. No, you would not.

Ask yourself why you would be more careful with a piece of jewelry than with your child.

The jewelry probably has a higher resale value than some random used kid.

This! Nobody wants a random baby.

Right? No one's going to steal anything (baby or not) from a daycare parking lot with a bunch of people milling about.

I could see the concern if the car was parked in a deserted corner of a huge supermarket parking lot. Not a busy daycare!

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Anonymous wrote:I hope you are not my neighbor or live near me, Op. I am sure you would report me for putting my stroller on my step just outside my door, bringing kid A out and setting them in the stroller, and then leaving for two seconds to bring kid B out and setting them in the stroller, and then leaving for two seconds to get the last minute thing I forgot, and then turning my back to lock the door. I actually worry about nutbags like you who would actually sit and time me and not offer to help!

And you know what? If anyone did that when my kids were small it flew right over my head. I had no time to notice or bother with people like that, nor did I want their "help". Good grief.