Women do you like to be groped by your husbands

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW of 20+ years. My DH has learned a few things over the years, or maybe he always knew it. The smooth moves work much better than the gropes. A rub is better than a grab. Toddlers grab, men caress.

Yes

[Anonymous]

Hated it with ex. Love it with second husband.

It's not a coincidence that ex behaved disrespectfully across the board, whereas current DH is very respectful and would stop the moment I said I didn't like something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ughhhh, my husband dry humps me whenever I'm bending over. I absolutely hate it. I've told him several times how much I dislike it but he just did it again last night when was cleaning under the bed. He'll also grab a boob and go "honk honk![b]" After 5 years it's really infuriating!

Oh my God. I thought my husband was the only one to do this! But while I am doing dishes or some other chore, he will sometimes just unzip himself, wave his dick around and say "Want to suck it?" Funny thing is, sometimes I do!

[Anonymous]

I like the groping! He doesn't try to hump me, unless I'm bending over while we shower together.

Unless he was doing something at very inappropriate times, I wouldn't go out of my way to correct him. I know his personality dictates that he needs me to be receptive to his advances in order to feel loved and appreciated. It's something I prioritize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like there are a few issues at work here

1) Your husbands 'show affection/interest' habits cannot have emerged out of the blue in year 10 of your marriage. Did you find these things sexy in the past and are now rejecting them? Your DH dry humping you =/= some random dude doing that to you or a guy you've been dating for awhile. Somewhere along the line your husband (probably because you gave him positive feedback by marrying him) thought that this was just part of your relationship.

2) It is very important to husbands (and wives) to feel sexually attrative to their spouse. Just as a lot of the women on here are saying that they like it because they like to feel desired, a lot of the guys are doing it because they want to feel like their wife desires them and wants to engage in playful activity with them. I would be really hurt if my DH rejected me to do the dishes, the dishes are always there. If he's pulling me away from work when I'm on a deadline sure, but if your DH (or DW) is being playful in the moment of some menial household chore, then taking a couple minutes to engage in some fun flirting is not going to end the world. This issue is very tied up (on both ends) in feeling like your spouse desires you, so it's going to bring up a lot of feelings in the person who doesn't want to be touched.

Personally, I'm team 'love it.' Even in front of the kids (within reason, I can't see a single little thrust scarring them for life but the 'DON'T' example above would obviously be really innapropriate). Seeing their parents be affectionate and engaged with each other is GOOD for kids. And when they turn 10 and understand what Dad is doing then they will get all embarassed and make faces whenever you kiss. It's all fine and normal. Showing your kids that you pull away from each other when someone is trying to show affectionate is much more likely to hurt them honestly.

Great post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP, it's not right in front of the kids because that would amplify the grossness like 2000%. But the kids are nearby, and even if they we're not nearby, I would still hate it. I feel completely violated and objectified. My husband believes he has 100% unlimited access 100% of the time. I am not a touchy feely person and like physical boundaries. I don't know how to get through to him.

I definitely think that "touch" is a love language that some people appreciate more than others. Were you like this when dating also?

[Anonymous]

He tells me he loves me. He acts like he loves me. He tells me i am the only woman for him. He tells me how beautiful i am. When he puts his arms around me and kisses my neck and says one or all these things, no, i don't really care where his hands end up. It feels good all over.

No, i am not a teenager.

[Anonymous]

I think my wife would not be to happy if every time she bent over I was dry humping her. I have come up behind her, when no one is around and press myself against her wrap my arms around her and my hands usually end up on her breast as I kiss her neck. Thats about as close to dry humping as I have done.

I do put my arm around her in public and place my hand on her ass, she has commented that I do it but never said she didn't like it. Honestly I don't even realize I'm doing it

She will grope me sometimes, I don't complain

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband does this annoying thing of pretending anything around that is long is his dick. It could be a baguette, a salami, a hose, a balloon, a batton, a rolled up newspaper. He does it quickly and thrusts it at me to make sure I get the joke. He has been caught by his mom, the mailman, teachers, you name it. Such a manchild.

My DH does the same and thinks it's hilarious (stopped being hilarious in 2002). He favors pool noodles to demonstrate his subtle, sly sense of humor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it any wonder that men seek GFs (APs) that aren't repulsed by playful sexual innuendo?

Hopefully not in front of the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At first, any display of physical affection -- crude or otherwise -- receives a favorable response. Then it's "be more mature." Then it's "be more romantic." The it's "not in front of the kids." Then it's "not in the morning, I want to sleep." Then it's "not at night, I want to sleep."

After awhile, it amounts to "don't touch me."

You have what appears to be the full range responding in this thread. Some just love the affection. Some just don't want to be grabbed like a sack of potatoes (as the PP said). Others think they could be turned on if the DH acted in some more appropriate (but unspecified) way. Others just know that they'd prefer the husband stay away.

Oh lord. No. Humping like a dog has been a turn off from day one. It isn't rocket science.

This. My first H was like that. He also was lousy in bed. DH has better taste, manners, whatever. We have a great sex life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ughhhh, my husband dry humps me whenever I'm bending over. I absolutely hate it. I've told him several times how much I dislike it but he just did it again last night when was cleaning under the bed. He'll also grab a boob and go "honk honk![b]" After 5 years it's really infuriating!

Oh my God. I thought my husband was the only one to do this! But while I am doing dishes or some other chore, he will sometimes just unzip himself, wave his dick around and say "Want to suck it?" Funny thing is, sometimes I do!

lol

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP, it's not right in front of the kids because that would amplify the grossness like 2000%. But the kids are nearby, and even if they we're not nearby, I would still hate it. I feel completely violated and objectified. My husband believes he has 100% unlimited access 100% of the time. I am not a touchy feely person and like physical boundaries. I don't know how to get through to him. [/quote]

I definitely think that "touch" is a love language that some people appreciate more than others. Were you like this when dating also?[/quote]

Yes I was always very reserved especially in public. This crazy behavior of his started in the last 2 years I'd say. The older he gets the worse it gets. I have spoken to him so mamy times! A kiss, a hug, a little squeeze is fine with me but groping, humping, rubbing his privates (clothed) on me is not sexy.

[Anonymous]

I sometimes pretend to be annoyed, but he knows I love it. We've been married almost 30 years. I'm just glad he still thinks I'm sexy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband does this annoying thing of pretending anything around that is long is his dick. It could be a baguette, a salami, a hose, a balloon, a batton, a rolled up newspaper. He does it quickly and thrusts it at me to make sure I get the joke. He has been caught by his mom, the mailman, teachers, you name it. Such a manchild.

I don't know why but the image of the baguette and salami specifically had me laughing hard enough for tears to form. Of course, I'm a guy.