Women do you like to be groped by your husbands

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW here. I hate being groped and touched in a sexually suggestive way when my kids are around or when I am trying to do something. I was washing the dishes when my husband came up behind me and basically started dry humping me. I think it's disrespectful. He calls it "affection". Am I the only one who hates this?

No, you aren't. I don't like it either. My husband is 42 years old and still thinks it's sexy or something. If we're cuddled on the couch he has to have his hand up my shirt.

All I can think is GROW UP. It would be nice to not have to scramble to put clothes in place when we hear our son walking into the room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP, it's not right in front of the kids because that would amplify the grossness like 2000%. But the kids are nearby, and even if they we're not nearby, I would still hate it. I feel completely violated and objectified. My husband believes he has 100% unlimited access 100% of the time. I am not a touchy feely person and like physical boundaries. I don't know how to get through to him.

I definitely think that "touch" is a love language that some people appreciate more than others. Were you like this when dating also?

Yes. Sorry buddy. I'm not always in the mood to be grabbed at. A subtle touch or whatever as a sign of affection? I'm great with that. Grabbing my boob, shoving your hand under my shirt as soon as I'm in reach, etc? No. We aren't 16 anymore. It seems like a maturity thing to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He tells me he loves me. He acts like he loves me. He tells me i am the only woman for him. He tells me how beautiful i am. When he puts his arms around me and kisses my neck and says one or all these things, no, i don't really care where his hands end up. It feels good all over.

No, i am not a teenager.

The people complaining about being groped are NOT talking about behavior like what you described: caresses, snuggles, a kiss on the neck, etc.

What they are complaining about is literal groping. Like one would see in a cheap B movie from the 80s. Dog like humoing when you bend over to pick up a dirty sock he left on the floor. Grabbing a boob when you are standing paying bills and honking it. Etc. Not smooth, sensual moves but awkward and inappropriate junior high grabbing.

Totally different things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did not like it when a guy I was dating for a long time would do it. We eventually broke up because we weren't compatible in any area. And, I wasn't attracted to him. Plus he was terrible in bed.

My DH did not do it and our marriage didn't last. Turned out he wasn't attracted to me. He was great in bed though.

I like it when my current SO does it. Our sex life is hot and constant.

Nothing said here makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: female here : I'm surprised by how many women posted that they hate this or " yuk" or" gross"

don't you realize it means your husband is still hot for you, that he wants you and that he is looking for validation that you find him attractive

If you feel entitled to spout off that that is " gross" and ask him to stop or Tell him to stop, do you not realize you are basically telling him:

go elsewhere

men are sexual beings, they like to have sex. so do a lot of women... it is NOT gross or objectifying... its called having a sex drive

You husband clearly does not do this then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like the groping! He doesn't try to hump me, unless I'm bending over while we shower together.

Unless he was doing something at very inappropriate times, I wouldn't go out of my way to correct him. I know his personality dictates that he needs me to be receptive to his advances in order to feel loved and appreciated. It's something I prioritize.

My DH is the same. I try to be cooperative.

[Anonymous]

I like good junior high groping. makes me feel young again.

[Anonymous]

There are things that are pretty clearly inappropriate -- cartoonish humping motions, hard boob grabs without any prior build up. Those aren't appropriate now and weren't appropriate when we were 16. (So, I don't understand the "grow up" comments -- I wouldn't think women enjoyed this even when they were teens).

But then there is a fair amount of intermediate stuff that's pretty subjective in terms of whether it's "groping" or "sensual". If you're horny and attracted to your S/O, there is a whole lot more physical interaction that's perceived as "sensual." Whereas, if you're asexual and unattracted to your S/O, most physical touch is going to be somewhere near that "groping" line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are things that are pretty clearly inappropriate -- cartoonish humping motions, hard boob grabs without any prior build up. Those aren't appropriate now and weren't appropriate when we were 16. (So, I don't understand the "grow up" comments -- I wouldn't think women enjoyed this even when they were teens).

But then there is a fair amount of intermediate stuff that's pretty subjective in terms of whether it's "groping" or "sensual". If you're horny and attracted to your S/O, there is a whole lot more physical interaction that's perceived as "sensual." Whereas, if you're asexual and unattracted to your S/O, most physical touch is going to be somewhere near that "groping" line.

I enjoy theD/s dynamic so "groping" is part of that. Im practically clawing at him.

For example, he gives good oral sex until I'm close to orgasm. Then suddenly stops and says, “Get dressed. We’re going out.” By that time I will be desperate to jump him the whole time we're out. I'm groping him and feeling his pants while we're out, caressing his feet with mine, sneaking feels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are things that are pretty clearly inappropriate -- cartoonish humping motions, hard boob grabs without any prior build up. Those aren't appropriate now and weren't appropriate when we were 16. (So, I don't understand the "grow up" comments -- I wouldn't think women enjoyed this even when they were teens).

But then there is a fair amount of intermediate stuff that's pretty subjective in terms of whether it's "groping" or "sensual". If you're horny and attracted to your S/O, there is a whole lot more physical interaction that's perceived as "sensual." Whereas, if you're asexual and unattracted to your S/O, most physical touch is going to be somewhere near that "groping" line.

I enjoy theD/s dynamic so "groping" is part of that. Im practically clawing at him.

For example, he gives good oral sex until I'm close to orgasm. Then suddenly stops and says, “Get dressed. We’re going out.” By that time I will be desperate to jump him the whole time we're out. I'm groping him and feeling his pants while we're out, caressing his feet with mine, sneaking feels.

Nice. Your DH knows how to play you (this is not bad).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are things that are pretty clearly inappropriate -- cartoonish humping motions, hard boob grabs without any prior build up. Those aren't appropriate now and weren't appropriate when we were 16. (So, I don't understand the "grow up" comments -- I wouldn't think women enjoyed this even when they were teens).

But then there is a fair amount of intermediate stuff that's pretty subjective in terms of whether it's "groping" or "sensual". If you're horny and attracted to your S/O, there is a whole lot more physical interaction that's perceived as "sensual." Whereas, if you're asexual and unattracted to your S/O, most physical touch is going to be somewhere near that "groping" line.

I enjoy theD/s dynamic so "groping" is part of that. Im practically clawing at him.

For example, he gives good oral sex until I'm close to orgasm. Then suddenly stops and says, “Get dressed. We’re going out.” By that time I will be desperate to jump him the whole time we're out. I'm groping him and feeling his pants while we're out, caressing his feet with mine, sneaking feels.

Nice. Your DH knows how to play you (this is not bad).

Point being, that's what I want and what I like. If OPs DH knows that's not her thing...he should rethink his strategy don't ya think?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like the groping! He doesn't try to hump me, unless I'm bending over while we shower together.

Unless he was doing something at very inappropriate times, I wouldn't go out of my way to correct him. I know his personality dictates that he needs me to be receptive to his advances in order to feel loved and appreciated. It's something I prioritize.

My DH is the same. I try to be cooperative.

Dh does it a lot never in front of kids. I actually enjoy it . Shows he is very attracted to me. He is a very mature, responsible guy. I love the hugs , nibbles, squeezes et al. Most times it culminates in ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like the groping! He doesn't try to hump me, unless I'm bending over while we shower together.

Unless he was doing something at very inappropriate times, I wouldn't go out of my way to correct him. I know his personality dictates that he needs me to be receptive to his advances in order to feel loved and appreciated. It's something I prioritize.

My DH is the same. I try to be cooperative.

Dh does it a lot never in front of kids. I actually enjoy it . Shows he is very attracted to me. He is a very mature, responsible guy. I love the hugs , nibbles, squeezes et al. Most times it culminates in ...

If he traded his nibbles and cuddles for dry humps everytime you got a dish out of the bottom shelf of the dishwasher you would be singing a different tune.

[Anonymous]

Of course DCUM wives don't like their husbands groping them. They don't like having sex with them either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did not like it when a guy I was dating for a long time would do it. We eventually broke up because we weren't compatible in any area. And, I wasn't attracted to him. Plus he was terrible in bed.

My DH did not do it and our marriage didn't last. Turned out he wasn't attracted to me. He was great in bed though.

I like it when my current SO does it. Our sex life is hot and constant.

Nothing said here makes sense.

I think it makes perfect sense in the context of these latest posts.

Guy did it. Not attracted to guy, didn't like it.
Guy who wasn't attracted did not do it.
Guy does it. Attracted to guy, like it.