Women do you like to be groped by your husbands

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are things that are pretty clearly inappropriate -- cartoonish humping motions, hard boob grabs without any prior build up. Those aren't appropriate now and weren't appropriate when we were 16. (So, I don't understand the "grow up" comments -- I wouldn't think women enjoyed this even when they were teens).

But then there is a fair amount of intermediate stuff that's pretty subjective in terms of whether it's "groping" or "sensual". If you're horny and attracted to your S/O, there is a whole lot more physical interaction that's perceived as "sensual." Whereas, if you're asexual and unattracted to your S/O, most physical touch is going to be somewhere near that "groping" line.

I enjoy theD/s dynamic so "groping" is part of that. Im practically clawing at him.

For example, he gives good oral sex until I'm close to orgasm. Then suddenly stops and says, “Get dressed. We’re going out.” By that time I will be desperate to jump him the whole time we're out. I'm groping him and feeling his pants while we're out, caressing his feet with mine, sneaking feels.

Nice. Your DH knows how to play you (this is not bad).

Point being, that's what I want and what I like. If OPs DH knows that's not her thing...he should rethink his strategy don't ya think?

If OP expressed something she wanted and liked, then sure. So often, the wife isn't attracted. She doesn't know of anything he could do that would make her feel sexual. So, she either says "I don't know" or offers something vague that offers plausible deniability when he does it, and she still feels cold toward him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are things that are pretty clearly inappropriate -- cartoonish humping motions, hard boob grabs without any prior build up. Those aren't appropriate now and weren't appropriate when we were 16. (So, I don't understand the "grow up" comments -- I wouldn't think women enjoyed this even when they were teens).

But then there is a fair amount of intermediate stuff that's pretty subjective in terms of whether it's "groping" or "sensual". If you're horny and attracted to your S/O, there is a whole lot more physical interaction that's perceived as "sensual." Whereas, if you're asexual and unattracted to your S/O, most physical touch is going to be somewhere near that "groping" line.

I enjoy theD/s dynamic so "groping" is part of that. Im practically clawing at him.

For example, he gives good oral sex until I'm close to orgasm. Then suddenly stops and says, “Get dressed. We’re going out.” By that time I will be desperate to jump him the whole time we're out. I'm groping him and feeling his pants while we're out, caressing his feet with mine, sneaking feels.

Nice. Your DH knows how to play you (this is not bad).

Point being, that's what I want and what I like. If OPs DH knows that's not her thing...he should rethink his strategy don't ya think?

If OP expressed something she wanted and liked, then sure. So often, the wife isn't attracted. She doesn't know of anything he could do that would make her feel sexual. So, she either says "I don't know" or offers something vague that offers plausible deniability when he does it, and she still feels cold toward him.

Agreed, she's simply not happy with him. I've been in that spot holding resentment- can't say there was anything DH could have done to make me happy at that time.

[Anonymous]

It's fifteen minutes past time to be groped. What a disappointment.

[Anonymous]

What a bunch of uptight, boring women. No wonder your husbands are flirting and being "childish" with other women and getting the reaction they need out of it. Maybe you guys should be the ones that grow up and do something that you don't love to make your husband's happy. I'm so happy my husband still loves to flirt and make sexy gestures sometimes. ANd I love flirting back. Uptight little biotches was the first thing that came to my mind reading this thread. Ugh. Horrible.

[Anonymous]

Couldn't read through this whole thread but honestly if DH stops groping me, I would be upset. I don't love it at all times in front of people but it's not a big deal and it's a way he shows affection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are things that are pretty clearly inappropriate -- cartoonish humping motions, hard boob grabs without any prior build up. Those aren't appropriate now and weren't appropriate when we were 16. (So, I don't understand the "grow up" comments -- I wouldn't think women enjoyed this even when they were teens).

But then there is a fair amount of intermediate stuff that's pretty subjective in terms of whether it's "groping" or "sensual". If you're horny and attracted to your S/O, there is a whole lot more physical interaction that's perceived as "sensual." Whereas, if you're asexual and unattracted to your S/O, most physical touch is going to be somewhere near that "groping" line.

I enjoy theD/s dynamic so "groping" is part of that. Im practically clawing at him.

For example, he gives good oral sex until I'm close to orgasm. Then suddenly stops and says, “Get dressed. We’re going out.” By that time I will be desperate to jump him the whole time we're out. I'm groping him and feeling his pants while we're out, caressing his feet with mine, sneaking feels.

Nice. Your DH knows how to play you (this is not bad).

Point being, that's what I want and what I like. If OPs DH knows that's not her thing...he should rethink his strategy don't ya think?

If OP expressed something she wanted and liked, then sure. So often, the wife isn't attracted. She doesn't know of anything he could do that would make her feel sexual. So, she either says "I don't know" or offers something vague that offers plausible deniability when he does it, and she still feels cold toward him.

Agreed, she's simply not happy with him. I've been in that spot holding resentment- can't say there was anything DH could have done to make me happy at that time.

Are you still together? And if so, how did you get past the resentment? How long ago was that? Trying myself to get past past resentment and find DH attractive again. It's hard

[Anonymous]

on the same concept of groping ... we'll be laying in bed and he'll grab my arm and place my hand right over his erection (outside his shorts). Is this your idea of initiating? Please ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:on the same concept of groping ... we'll be laying in bed and he'll grab my arm and place my hand right over his erection (outside his shorts). Is this your idea of initiating? Please ...

Yes, for a man it is! He's letting you know he's turned on!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:on the same concept of groping ... we'll be laying in bed and he'll grab my arm and place my hand right over his erection (outside his shorts). Is this your idea of initiating? Please ...

Seriously, how do you want a man to initiate? Real, honest question. Because that ^^ works for me (DW here). Not that other ways aren't good, as well (kissing, caressing, dirty texting) but a big old hard-on? For me? Hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a bunch of uptight, boring women. No wonder your husbands are flirting and being "childish" with other women and getting the reaction they need out of it. Maybe you guys should be the ones that grow up and do something that you don't love to make your husband's happy. I'm so happy my husband still loves to flirt and make sexy gestures sometimes. ANd I love flirting back. Uptight little biotches was the first thing that came to my mind reading this thread. Ugh. Horrible.

It's been repeated numerous times in this thread that no one is opposed to flirting and sexy gestures. Rather, we're opposed to juvenile dry-humping, etc. If that gets you going, great, but I prefer not to repeat my HS years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a bunch of uptight, boring women. No wonder your husbands are flirting and being "childish" with other women and getting the reaction they need out of it. Maybe you guys should be the ones that grow up and do something that you don't love to make your husband's happy. I'm so happy my husband still loves to flirt and make sexy gestures sometimes. ANd I love flirting back. Uptight little biotches was the first thing that came to my mind reading this thread. Ugh. Horrible.

You really don't get it.

Groping = grabbing at you. Not loving gestures, not flirting. Grabbing a boob because it's within reach. Dry humping because why not? She's right there.

Sometimes DH will come up behind me and kiss my neck. I love that. But treating my boobs like tv knobs? No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a bunch of uptight, boring women. No wonder your husbands are flirting and being "childish" with other women and getting the reaction they need out of it. Maybe you guys should be the ones that grow up and do something that you don't love to make your husband's happy. I'm so happy my husband still loves to flirt and make sexy gestures sometimes. ANd I love flirting back. Uptight little biotches was the first thing that came to my mind reading this thread. Ugh. Horrible.

It's been repeated numerous times in this thread that no one is opposed to flirting and sexy gestures. Rather, we're opposed to juvenile dry-humping, etc. If that gets you going, great, but I prefer not to repeat my HS years.

Who nominated you to speak for the group? Did I miss a meeting or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:on the same concept of groping ... we'll be laying in bed and he'll grab my arm and place my hand right over his erection (outside his shorts). Is this your idea of initiating? Please ...

Yes, for a man it is! He's letting you know he's turned on!

Golden Rule! If my wife grabbed my arm and put it on her crotch, I'd be ready to go!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a bunch of uptight, boring women. No wonder your husbands are flirting and being "childish" with other women and getting the reaction they need out of it. Maybe you guys should be the ones that grow up and do something that you don't love to make your husband's happy. I'm so happy my husband still loves to flirt and make sexy gestures sometimes. ANd I love flirting back. Uptight little biotches was the first thing that came to my mind reading this thread. Ugh. Horrible.

It's been repeated numerous times in this thread that no one is opposed to flirting and sexy gestures. Rather, we're opposed to juvenile dry-humping, etc. If that gets you going, great, but I prefer not to repeat my HS years.

Who nominated you to speak for the group? Did I miss a meeting or something?

No, you just missed all the posts that echo OP's displeasure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a bunch of uptight, boring women. No wonder your husbands are flirting and being "childish" with other women and getting the reaction they need out of it. Maybe you guys should be the ones that grow up and do something that you don't love to make your husband's happy. I'm so happy my husband still loves to flirt and make sexy gestures sometimes. ANd I love flirting back. Uptight little biotches was the first thing that came to my mind reading this thread. Ugh. Horrible.

It's been repeated numerous times in this thread that no one is opposed to flirting and sexy gestures. Rather, we're opposed to juvenile dry-humping, etc. If that gets you going, great, but I prefer not to repeat my HS years.

Who nominated you to speak for the group? Did I miss a meeting or something?

No, you just missed all the posts that echo OP's displeasure.

And you missed all the posts of women who disagreed

-not the pp you are responding to but another one who disagreed with you.

Although I will caveat that I will agree there is a line of appropriateness/not funnyness, the problem is that line is different for every couple. And I would think that by the time you got married you would have at least passively signed off on your husband's line