Women do you like to be groped by your husbands

[Anonymous]

No.
I cannot stand it at all.
It makes me feel more like a sexual object vs. a loving wife.

And to do this in front of the children??

What the hell is your husband THINKING......??!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man married with children and i still have sex with my wife a few times a week. Here is a tip buddy, dont hump your wife like a dog, don't do anything thay might be appealing at a 20yr old frat boy. Women don't find that funny and it definity will not get them in the mood, it will turn them off.

Married with children here as well and I agree with you, to a point. I think the better formulation is to know your wife and do things that you know she'll appreciate and she should do the same for you. For example, if I'm at work and feeling frisky, I'll occasionally send her a text message that you would think came from an uneducated buffoon ("Imma tap dat azz tonite!"). If we're going away for the weekend without the kids, I'll threaten to hide her underwear at the hotel so she has to go around without it. If we're at home and the kids are not in view, I'll avail myself of a quick dry hump when she bends over.

Many women here (I suspect) would be totally offended by what I do. However, my wife is not because she knows it's all in fun and that it's because I'm still interested in her.

PP here. Thats reasonable, but what im reading here, in front of the kids, lifting legs, crap like that? No. My wife is 40, not 14. I've learned not to pry her open like an oyster with a blunt knife. I want to get laid. It is often my sole objective many days. I don't sabatoge my efforts by behaving like a jeuvenile. The second my wife says she doesn't enjoy something sexually, i change course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Well I'm pretty sure you probably don't look like that hot guy.

This is true. I think we can apply Tom Brady's tips from "Sexual Harassment & You":
Be Handsome
Be Attractive
Don't Be Unattractive
https://vimeo.com/30042289

[Anonymous]

I feel like there are a few issues at work here

1) Your husbands 'show affection/interest' habits cannot have emerged out of the blue in year 10 of your marriage. Did you find these things sexy in the past and are now rejecting them? Your DH dry humping you =/= some random dude doing that to you or a guy you've been dating for awhile. Somewhere along the line your husband (probably because you gave him positive feedback by marrying him) thought that this was just part of your relationship.

2) It is very important to husbands (and wives) to feel sexually attrative to their spouse. Just as a lot of the women on here are saying that they like it because they like to feel desired, a lot of the guys are doing it because they want to feel like their wife desires them and wants to engage in playful activity with them. I would be really hurt if my DH rejected me to do the dishes, the dishes are always there. If he's pulling me away from work when I'm on a deadline sure, but if your DH (or DW) is being playful in the moment of some menial household chore, then taking a couple minutes to engage in some fun flirting is not going to end the world. This issue is very tied up (on both ends) in feeling like your spouse desires you, so it's going to bring up a lot of feelings in the person who doesn't want to be touched.

Personally, I'm team 'love it.' Even in front of the kids (within reason, I can't see a single little thrust scarring them for life but the 'DON'T' example above would obviously be really innapropriate). Seeing their parents be affectionate and engaged with each other is GOOD for kids. And when they turn 10 and understand what Dad is doing then they will get all embarassed and make faces whenever you kiss. It's all fine and normal. Showing your kids that you pull away from each other when someone is trying to show affectionate is much more likely to hurt them honestly.

[Anonymous]

Hate it. DH grabs my books all the time. I've said give me a hug, a kiss, don't just grope me, but no dice.

Upside of this thread is the positive spin of being desired.

[Anonymous]

By books, I mean boobs...

[Anonymous]

There's nothing I like better than getting my hands on a good big book.

[Anonymous]

DW of 20+ years. My DH has learned a few things over the years, or maybe he always knew it. The smooth moves work much better than the gropes. A rub is better than a grab. Toddlers grab, men caress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like there are a few issues at work here

1) Your husbands 'show affection/interest' habits cannot have emerged out of the blue in year 10 of your marriage. Did you find these things sexy in the past and are now rejecting them? Your DH dry humping you =/= some random dude doing that to you or a guy you've been dating for awhile. Somewhere along the line your husband (probably because you gave him positive feedback by marrying him) thought that this was just part of your relationship.

2) It is very important to husbands (and wives) to feel sexually attrative to their spouse. Just as a lot of the women on here are saying that they like it because they like to feel desired, a lot of the guys are doing it because they want to feel like their wife desires them and wants to engage in playful activity with them. I would be really hurt if my DH rejected me to do the dishes, the dishes are always there. If he's pulling me away from work when I'm on a deadline sure, but if your DH (or DW) is being playful in the moment of some menial household chore, then taking a couple minutes to engage in some fun flirting is not going to end the world. This issue is very tied up (on both ends) in feeling like your spouse desires you, so it's going to bring up a lot of feelings in the person who doesn't want to be touched.

Personally, I'm team 'love it.' Even in front of the kids (within reason, I can't see a single little thrust scarring them for life but the 'DON'T' example above would obviously be really innapropriate). Seeing their parents be affectionate and engaged with each other is GOOD for kids. And when they turn 10 and understand what Dad is doing then they will get all embarassed and make faces whenever you kiss. It's all fine and normal. Showing your kids that you pull away from each other when someone is trying to show affectionate is much more likely to hurt them honestly.

Thank you for this sensible response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well I'm pretty sure you probably don't look like that hot guy.

This is true. I think we can apply Tom Brady's tips from "Sexual Harassment & You":
Be Handsome
Be Attractive
Don't Be Unattractive
https://vimeo.com/30042289

I have a strong feeling that Ryan Gosling could grab their boobs and scream "honka, honka!" at the top of his lungs, dry hump them like a dog and fart in their face and most women on this thread would looooove it. That SNL skit was right on the money. If you look good, you can do pretty much anything and women won't get offended. Only ugly people get slammed for sexual harassment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man married with children and i still have sex with my wife a few times a week. Here is a tip buddy, dont hump your wife like a dog, don't do anything thay might be appealing at a 20yr old frat boy. Women don't find that funny and it definity will not get them in the mood, it will turn them off.

Married with children here as well and I agree with you, to a point. I think the better formulation is to know your wife and do things that you know she'll appreciate and she should do the same for you. For example, if I'm at work and feeling frisky, I'll occasionally send her a text message that you would think came from an uneducated buffoon ("Imma tap dat azz tonite!"). If we're going away for the weekend without the kids, I'll threaten to hide her underwear at the hotel so she has to go around without it. If we're at home and the kids are not in view, I'll avail myself of a quick dry hump when she bends over.

Many women here (I suspect) would be totally offended by what I do. However, my wife is not because she knows it's all in fun and that it's because I'm still interested in her.

You sound fun and like a good lay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well I'm pretty sure you probably don't look like that hot guy.

This is true. I think we can apply Tom Brady's tips from "Sexual Harassment & You":
Be Handsome
Be Attractive
Don't Be Unattractive
https://vimeo.com/30042289

I have a strong feeling that Ryan Gosling could grab their boobs and scream "honka, honka!" at the top of his lungs, dry hump them like a dog and fart in their face and most women on this thread would looooove it. That SNL skit was right on the money. If you look good, you can do pretty much anything and women won't get offended. Only ugly people get slammed for sexual harassment.

If she's attracted to you, whatever you do is hot.
If she's not attracted to you, whatever you do is creepy and gross.

So again,

Be Attractive
Don't Be Unattractive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well I'm pretty sure you probably don't look like that hot guy.

This is true. I think we can apply Tom Brady's tips from "Sexual Harassment & You":
Be Handsome
Be Attractive
Don't Be Unattractive
https://vimeo.com/30042289

I have a strong feeling that Ryan Gosling could grab their boobs and scream "honka, honka!" at the top of his lungs, dry hump them like a dog and fart in their face and most women on this thread would looooove it. That SNL skit was right on the money. If you look good, you can do pretty much anything and women won't get offended. Only ugly people get slammed for sexual harassment.

If she's attracted to you, whatever you do is hot.
If she's not attracted to you, whatever you do is creepy and gross.

So again,

Be Attractive
Don't Be Unattractive

Not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
1) Your husbands 'show affection/interest' habits cannot have emerged out of the blue in year 10 of your marriage. Did you find these things sexy in the past and are now rejecting them? Your DH dry humping you =/= some random dude doing that to you or a guy you've been dating for awhile. Somewhere along the line your husband (probably because you gave him positive feedback by marrying him) thought that this was just part of your relationship.
.

Always told him the boob-groping was a turn-off but he couldn't stop. But you're right, stupidly I married him anyway.

[Anonymous]

As someone who grew up with a father who used to grope my mother, and a husband who groped me, I say yuck. Men need to grow up. This whole thread just shows the immaturity level of men. This is like caveman behavior. Seriously, this thread is making me angry. Why do women put up with stuff they hate? It just enables the bad behavior and men will never learn.