Possible Rape at Sidwell?

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Anonymous wrote:-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

If you want to advocate for teen abstinence, please start your own separate thread.

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Apparently no arrests have been made so maybe the police think there is reason to doubt this poor girl.

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Awful for this to be the school of the sitting President's children.

Everyone is at-risk.

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Anonymous wrote:The accusation is very serious. Rape. It is not consensual sex. This is why this discussion is valid. To suggest that the victim should be expelled from the school is outrageous

If the "victim" was in an underage relationship with the "perpetrator", yes, it's highly inappropriate and it's clear that neither student is really a fit for the school. The best thing is for the school to make a clean break. Good riddance to them.

Those halls would be pretty empty if the school got rid of all the sexually active kids. This is 2016, not 1816.

62% of high school seniors have engaged in sexual intercourse. http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/publications-a-z/413-adolescent-sexual-behavior-i-demographics

This means that 38% have not. And the 62% also includes many who try it once and realize they made a mistake. I actually think this number is encouraging. No, far from ALL hs kids are having sex, despite what many would want us to believe

And believe it or not, there are mature and well-adjusted teens who are in healthy relationships that include sex. That's not so bad.

-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

+1 agree

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Anonymous wrote:Interestingly, Sidwell is currently searching for a Director of Communications, and the old one seems to have been rather suddenly disappeared from the school's website. That all happened before this story, but it made me wonder what had happened to bring about her displacement. Now this happens - definitely a bad time not to have a Communications person.

People get new jobs all the time.

This is true. Although in the independent school world, it's relatively uncommon for a high-ranking administrator to leave in the middle of the school year. Usually they wait until the end of the year, or at least until a search is well underway.

Communications is about more than "spin." There needs to be communication with the parents about what's going on - including whether or not an accused rapist is going to be walking the halls of the school alongside their kids. And there needs to be a strategy developed for how the school is going to handle matters if one of their seniors is arrested and charged with rape. If you're interested in reading about how a poor communications strategy can impact a school, check out this month's Vanity Fair about the St. Paul's sexual assault.

Sorry, but a school director of communications is not a "high ranking administrator." Not even at Sidwell Friends.

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Anonymous wrote:The accusation is very serious. Rape. It is not consensual sex. This is why this discussion is valid. To suggest that the victim should be expelled from the school is outrageous

If the "victim" was in an underage relationship with the "perpetrator", yes, it's highly inappropriate and it's clear that neither student is really a fit for the school. The best thing is for the school to make a clean break. Good riddance to them.

Those halls would be pretty empty if the school got rid of all the sexually active kids. This is 2016, not 1816.

62% of high school seniors have engaged in sexual intercourse. http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/publications-a-z/413-adolescent-sexual-behavior-i-demographics

This means that 38% have not. And the 62% also includes many who try it once and realize they made a mistake. I actually think this number is encouraging. No, far from ALL hs kids are having sex, despite what many would want us to believe

And believe it or not, there are mature and well-adjusted teens who are in healthy relationships that include sex. That's not so bad.

-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

+1 agree

+ I agree also.

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Anonymous wrote:It is odd that the police released this information to the paper before an investigation was done, <24hours from time of the allegation.

I'm guessing it was leaked and they had no choice but to confirm.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

If you want to advocate for teen abstinence, please start your own separate thread.

Oh please, who are you, the thread police? You didn't tell people to start new threads about communications departments or the Secret Service. I'm far from an abstinence advocate. However, just because I know something occurs, doesn't mean I'm going to accept that it's "healthy". I'm not arguing that kids are destined for damnation if they have sex. I am, however, arguing that there are different ramifications for young people, and those ramifications do, in fact, make it unhealthy. Please get off the thread if you can't have a conversation without jumping 10 sharks.

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Anonymous wrote:-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

If you want to advocate for teen abstinence, please start your own separate thread.

Oh please, who are you, the thread police? You didn't tell people to start new threads about communications departments or the Secret Service. I'm far from an abstinence advocate. However, just because I know something occurs, doesn't mean I'm going to accept that it's "healthy". I'm not arguing that kids are destined for damnation if they have sex. I am, however, arguing that there are different ramifications for young people, and those ramifications do, in fact, make it unhealthy. Please get off the thread if you can't have a conversation without jumping 10 sharks.

ITA with all of this.

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Anonymous wrote:-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

If you want to advocate for teen abstinence, please start your own separate thread.

Oh please, who are you, the thread police? You didn't tell people to start new threads about communications departments or the Secret Service. I'm far from an abstinence advocate. However, just because I know something occurs, doesn't mean I'm going to accept that it's "healthy". I'm not arguing that kids are destined for damnation if they have sex. I am, however, arguing that there are different ramifications for young people, and those ramifications do, in fact, make it unhealthy. Please get off the thread if you can't have a conversation without jumping 10 sharks.

This. And to pretend that this alleged rape is not in some way related to that is laughable. Yes, they are two separate things, but in these cases of blurred consent, it's far more likely to happen among those who think teen sex is no big deal in the first place.

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So at what age is sex okay? 18?? 20??

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Anonymous wrote:-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

If you want to advocate for teen abstinence, please start your own separate thread.

Oh please, who are you, the thread police? You didn't tell people to start new threads about communications departments or the Secret Service. I'm far from an abstinence advocate. However, just because I know something occurs, doesn't mean I'm going to accept that it's "healthy". I'm not arguing that kids are destined for damnation if they have sex. I am, however, arguing that there are different ramifications for young people, and those ramifications do, in fact, make it unhealthy. Please get off the thread if you can't have a conversation without jumping 10 sharks.

+1,000. Spot on! I wish we were friends in real life. Hard to find logical thinkers nowadays.

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Anonymous wrote:-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

If you want to advocate for teen abstinence, please start your own separate thread.

Oh please, who are you, the thread police? You didn't tell people to start new threads about communications departments or the Secret Service. I'm far from an abstinence advocate. However, just because I know something occurs, doesn't mean I'm going to accept that it's "healthy". I'm not arguing that kids are destined for damnation if they have sex. I am, however, arguing that there are different ramifications for young people, and those ramifications do, in fact, make it unhealthy. Please get off the thread if you can't have a conversation without jumping 10 sharks.

This. And to pretend that this alleged rape is not in some way related to that is laughable. Yes, they are two separate things, but in these cases of blurred consent, it's far more likely to happen among those who think teen sex is no big deal in the first place.

Again, this is a form of blaming and shaming the victim. Not that it is the case here, but over 70% of actual rapes and the vast majority of blurred consent cases happen when either the victim or perp are under the influence of alcohol. Further, teenagers who pretend to practice abstinence first - pretend to their parents, that is - are as likely to be sexually active. So, get off your pious high horse , put down your martini and understand one thing; no means no. The fact that the teenagers are otherwise sexually active has nothing to do with it. It reminds me of the days when the clothing worn by the alleged victim was used as an indictment. As in, "she had it comin."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

If you want to advocate for teen abstinence, please start your own separate thread.

Oh please, who are you, the thread police? You didn't tell people to start new threads about communications departments or the Secret Service. I'm far from an abstinence advocate. However, just because I know something occurs, doesn't mean I'm going to accept that it's "healthy". I'm not arguing that kids are destined for damnation if they have sex. I am, however, arguing that there are different ramifications for young people, and those ramifications do, in fact, make it unhealthy. Please get off the thread if you can't have a conversation without jumping 10 sharks.

This. And to pretend that this alleged rape is not in some way related to that is laughable. Yes, they are two separate things, but in these cases of blurred consent, it's far more likely to happen among those who think teen sex is no big deal in the first place.

Again, this is a form of blaming and shaming the victim. Not that it is the case here, but over 70% of actual rapes and the vast majority of blurred consent cases happen when either the victim or perp are under the influence of alcohol. Further, teenagers who pretend to practice abstinence first - pretend to their parents, that is - are as likely to be sexually active. So, get off your pious high horse , put down your martini and understand one thing; no means no. The fact that the teenagers are otherwise sexually active has nothing to do with it. It reminds me of the days when the clothing worn by the alleged victim was used as an indictment. As in, "she had it comin."

This.

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Resources discussing aspects of healthy teen sexual relations - http://nationalcoalitionforsexualhealth.org/data-research/audience-profiles/document/AdolescentBackgrounder-final.pdf