Feel free, FIL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ She wins.

She wins what, the Martyr Olympics? If you're too stupid/stubborn to TELL people you are in labor and ASK for their help, you deserve what you get.

+1

I can't believe you participated in that nonsense pp. I hope you're not as much of a pushover to your kids as you are to your in laws.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ She wins.

She wins what, the Martyr Olympics? If you're too stupid/stubborn to TELL people you are in labor and ASK for their help, you deserve what you get.

She wins for the most selfish inlaw houseguest story. Pay attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have gone into the kitchen with him and told him, "I'm going to show you how to make your coffee." I would have stood there and said, "The coffee is in the cabinet to the left of the fridge. Look now to see if the bag is there. (stare at him until he gets the bag or say it again.) For 3 cups of coffee, you use X amount of grinds. Fill the water to the Y line and press this button. I'll also show you where plates and utensils are so you can make your lunch when you are hungry. I'm sure you can find the fridge and pantry.
Do you have any questions?"

Be careful. The "respect your elders" posters will be all over you soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ She wins.

She wins what, the Martyr Olympics? If you're too stupid/stubborn to TELL people you are in labor and ASK for their help, you deserve what you get.

She wins for the most selfish inlaw houseguest story. Pay attention.

They were not told she was in LABOR. They might have behaved differently if they had known. I did Christmas with Braxton Hicks and it was annoying but NBD. I certainly would have directly asked for help if I went into labor. FFS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ She wins.

She wins what, the Martyr Olympics? If you're too stupid/stubborn to TELL people you are in labor and ASK for their help, you deserve what you get.

She wins for the most selfish inlaw houseguest story. Pay attention.

They were not told she was in LABOR. They might have behaved differently if they had known. I did Christmas with Braxton Hicks and it was annoying but NBD. I certainly would have directly asked for help if I went into labor. FFS.

They knew she was having terrible contractions. No excuse for their insensitivity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's a guest in your home. You should have made another pot of coffee.

You have no children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have a 6 week old? And you are hosting people? And they expect you to make coffee???

Nope. Guests are helpful when there's a baby in the house, or they stay somewhere else.

I'd take this a step further: no dependent extended houseguests while you have young children and both are working fulltime. and even if you are a sahm, houseguests need to be renting their own cars, pitching in $$ for all the food they eat, and helping the household while rooming in.
Old country days of wifey doing everything for everyone forever are over.

Also, the complaining about it from your FIL just discredits him entirely, too self centered. Does your husband admit this too, or put the "family is family" blinders on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was 37 weeks pregnant with #3 and begged my in laws not to expect me to host xmas dinner, they assured my husband that they would "do everything!"
On Christmas Day, I was in labor but trying to soldier on so my older kids could still have a nice xmas. Inlaws showed up and essentially day on their asses all day even though they knew I was having terrible contractions. I had contractions all day before my water broke and I had bloody show. I didn't tell Inlaws I was in labor but DH knew.
MIL actually sat at the table as I cleared her plate and later asked me to go brew her some coffee while she lounged on the couch. I could have killed her, FIL, and DH. I really regret that I was too meek to explode then and there and grow them all out!
I delivered about 6 hours after they left.
DH and I still can barely discuss it because it makes me so enraged.

Did your inlaws realize or learn afterwards that you were in labor while they sat around at your house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a 6 week old? And you are hosting people? And they expect you to make coffee???

Nope. Guests are helpful when there's a baby in the house, or they stay somewhere else.

I'd take this a step further: no dependent extended houseguests while you have young children and both are working fulltime. and even if you are a sahm, houseguests need to be renting their own cars, pitching in $$ for all the food they eat, and helping the household while rooming in.
Old country days of wifey doing everything for everyone forever are over.

Also, the complaining about it from your FIL just discredits him entirely, too self centered. Does your husband admit this too, or put the "family is family" blinders on?

Agreed.