Dating app lands teen on sex offenders list after girl lied about her age

[Anonymous]

I read that as mere commentary by the judge, he didn't appear to be citing that as the reason for his sentence. There very well could be more to the story that didn't make it into the newspapers which would cause the judge to rule as he did.

[Anonymous]

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Also, it is not illegal for a 14-year-old to have sex. It is also not illegal for a 14-year-old to lie about her age. However, it is illegal for a 19-year-old to have sex with a 14-year-old. If you think it shouldn't be, then work to change that law.

What ruined the 19-year-old's life? First, having sex with somebody he didn't know was of age. Second, getting the judge he got.

We don't really know what facts the judge had before him when he made his decisions.

There appears to be a bit of a publicity campaign on behalf of this young man, with his family and lawyers speaking to various media outlets. Obviously, the information they are imparting is all very favorable to this young man. It is entirely possible that there is other information that the judge considered that the family is not publicizing. We have no way to know the full story.

He has admitted that he had sex with a 14 year old minor girl as a 19 year old adult male, so those facts appear to be not in contention here; his family is upset at his punishment. Looking at the law, it looks as if, had he been tried in Indiana, he could have had 1-6 years in prison with a possible $10,000 fine, so things actually could have been even worse for him than they are.

The judge made statements that suggest that there was an exception that could have applied buy he doesn't like the use of dating apps and therefore didn't apply it in this case.

It doesn't look like the judge is citing that as the reason for his decision. Judges make side comments sometimes that are not the basis for their decisions. Only an edited part of his statement is included in the article.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is why he's treated the same as pedophile rapists who are attacking 6 year olds. Or rapists who attack women at night. Even though she was young, this was consensual. What we teach boys is "yes means yes" and she clearly said yes.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is why he's treated the same as pedophile rapists who are attacking 6 year olds. Or rapists who attack women at night. Even though she was young, this was consensual. What we teach boys is "yes means yes" and she clearly said yes.

I agree.

We also teach our young people when they turn 18 that they are now adults and they need to be very careful about what they do with others who are younger than they are. Turning 18 is our society's marker for becoming a legal adult. When I was that age, we were very aware that yes does not mean yes if the other person is a minor who has not yet reached the age of consent. We were taught that when a legal adult has sex with an underage minor child, that constitutes statutory rape, regardless of whether the minor said yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is why he's treated the same as pedophile rapists who are attacking 6 year olds. Or rapists who attack women at night. Even though she was young, this was consensual. What we teach boys is "yes means yes" and she clearly said yes.

I agree.

We also teach our young people when they turn 18 that they are now adults and they need to be very careful about what they do with others who are younger than they are. Turning 18 is our society's marker for becoming a legal adult. When I was that age, we were very aware that yes does not mean yes if the other person is a minor who has not yet reached the age of consent. We were taught that when a legal adult has sex with an underage minor child, that constitutes statutory rape, regardless of whether the minor said yes.

..except this guy did think he was having sex with someone older. So, he was following what you said.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is why he's treated the same as pedophile rapists who are attacking 6 year olds. Or rapists who attack women at night. Even though she was young, this was consensual. What we teach boys is "yes means yes" and she clearly said yes.

I agree.

We also teach our young people when they turn 18 that they are now adults and they need to be very careful about what they do with others who are younger than they are. Turning 18 is our society's marker for becoming a legal adult. When I was that age, we were very aware that yes does not mean yes if the other person is a minor who has not yet reached the age of consent. We were taught that when a legal adult has sex with an underage minor child, that constitutes statutory rape, regardless of whether the minor said yes.

..except this guy did think he was having sex with someone older. So, he was following what you said.

I'm not the PP, but no, he wasn't following what the PP said. It's not "very careful" to go have sex with somebody you met on a dating app, based on them saying that they're 16.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I don't get is why he's treated the same as pedophile rapists who are attacking 6 year olds. Or rapists who attack women at night. Even though she was young, this was consensual. What we teach boys is "yes means yes" and she clearly said yes.

I agree.

We also teach our young people when they turn 18 that they are now adults and they need to be very careful about what they do with others who are younger than they are. Turning 18 is our society's marker for becoming a legal adult. When I was that age, we were very aware that yes does not mean yes if the other person is a minor who has not yet reached the age of consent. We were taught that when a legal adult has sex with an underage minor child, that constitutes statutory rape, regardless of whether the minor said yes.

..except this guy did think he was having sex with someone older. So, he was following what you said.

I'm not the PP, but no, he wasn't following what the PP said. It's not "very careful" to go have sex with somebody you met on a dating app, based on them saying that they're 16.

Yet, millions of "adults" are using dating apps to meet people every day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

I'm not the PP, but no, he wasn't following what the PP said. It's not "very careful" to go have sex with somebody you met on a dating app, based on them saying that they're 16.

Yet, millions of "adults" are using dating apps to meet people every day.

Yes, and if they're not very careful, then they too might end up having sex with somebody who is below the age of consent.

[Anonymous]

This may have asked previously but why would a teen need to use a dating app in the first place? He should have enough females in his peer social groups to date and from various settings (I.e., school, clubs, church, part time jobs, etc.). I feel bad for the boy but it just seemed like a disaster waiting to happen for both individuals involved. It's just sad.