NCS and St. Albans misconduct

[Anonymous]

"Not PP but teens know many ways to get around parental prying eyes."

1. if the child is as young as 12-17 you consider parental oversight on social media "prying". Really?
2. of course there are ways kids get around it, but parents have the free will and authority to eliminate 80% of it by being in charge of their child's accounts. Youtube. Instagram. Facebook. Ask FM. Tinder (yes, even 14 year olds use it). And there are others cropping up all the time.

Go ahead and absolve yourself by saying there's no way to escape online preying. But the more important message should be we all live with the internet and we need to have up front conversations with our children about how we use it. Technology is an asset and our children need education about how to navigate, not parents throwing up their hands saying, "oh, well, we can't escape it!". Guess what? Your kids will listen if you bother asking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Change was never accomplished by cowards.

Are you calling the leadership of both schools cowards?

It is incredibly stupid to say that STA leadership are cowards or even misogynists as I'm sure some people are calling them. If you knew anything about the men in question you would have able evidence that shows how they are certainly not cowards or misogynists. Do not call people you do not know anything about cowards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Not PP but teens know many ways to get around parental prying eyes."

1. if the child is as young as 12-17 you consider parental oversight on social media "prying". Really?
2. of course there are ways kids get around it, but parents have the free will and authority to eliminate 80% of it by being in charge of their child's accounts. Youtube. Instagram. Facebook. Ask FM. Tinder (yes, even 14 year olds use it). And there are others cropping up all the time.

Go ahead and absolve yourself by saying there's no way to escape online preying. But the more important message should be we all live with the internet and we need to have up front conversations with our children about how we use it. Technology is an asset and our children need education about how to navigate, not parents throwing up their hands saying, "oh, well, we can't escape it!". Guess what? Your kids will listen if you bother asking.

You are assuming a lot about me here. I never said anything about prying. And of course I've had all sorts of conversations with my kids about the internet. Where do you get off assuming I'be thrown up my hands.

BUT, if you think you can entirely control what your kids do online, you are mistaken.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Change was never accomplished by cowards.

Are you calling the leadership of both schools cowards?

It is incredibly stupid to say that STA leadership are cowards or even misogynists as I'm sure some people are calling them. If you knew anything about the men in question you would have able evidence that shows how they are certainly not cowards or misogynists. Do not call people you do not know anything about cowards.

Are you the person who made the coard remark? I am just trying to understand what your comment means.

[Anonymous]

Is the leadership at STA cowardly? What are they doing about this problem? How many presentations and talks do the boys have each year on avoiding hurtful behavior ? Are the punishments appropriate and consistent and public? I would like answers with facts not arguing about cowardice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the flag day comment, about how the school rewards some of the worst socially behaved. Happens every year at my son's (former) DC private. Scholar awards go to the families who are quiet, artistic awards go to known pot heads and children of staff, graduation speakers are kids of parents who openly allow drinking in their NW basements...sounds like it is the same at all privates. Of course terrible stuff goes on everywhere, private or public, but the privates do a better job of completely turning off kids who play by all of the rules and provide the test scores and GPAs they like to advertise to prospective families.

Yes.

[Anonymous]

I don't know about STA leadership other than to say, I personally like the HOS. I do know first hand about NCS leadership. They tend to place blame on their students, if they respond to a problem at all. Bad atmosphere in US. I continue to wonder why the Board isnt taking notice.

[Anonymous]

behavior is more telling than actions.

[Anonymous]

The article states that the St. Albans head will NOT be investigating. Talk about burying the lead!!! This is why it has to be in the newspaper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the flag day comment, about how the school rewards some of the worst socially behaved. Happens every year at my son's (former) DC private. Scholar awards go to the families who are quiet, artistic awards go to known pot heads and children of staff, graduation speakers are kids of parents who openly allow drinking in their NW basements...sounds like it is the same at all privates. Of course terrible stuff goes on everywhere, private or public, but the privates do a better job of completely turning off kids who play by all of the rules and provide the test scores and GPAs they like to advertise to prospective families.

Yes.

What you are buying at many privates is an "impressive" transcript and the ability for children to misbehave with impunity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The article states that the St. Albans head will NOT be investigating. Talk about burying the lead!!! This is why it has to be in the newspaper.

How can he get away with not investigating this ? It's disgusting to ignore it and have no consequences from the school.

[Anonymous]

It. Happened off school grounds. How can the school investigate it?

Schools can't get involved with parties off school grounds . Schools can tell parents all they want not to host after parties or high schools parties where alcohol is present but from a legal standpoint, they can't get involved. It's a slippery slope.

The schoool can't legally do anything hence why waste the time to investigate it.

I have no dog in the fight here either

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It. Happened off school grounds. How can the school investigate it?

Schools can't get involved with parties off school grounds . Schools can tell parents all they want not to host after parties or high schools parties where alcohol is present but from a legal standpoint, they can't get involved. It's a slippery slope.

The schoool can't legally do anything hence why waste the time to investigate it.

I have no dog in the fight here either

This is not true. There is nothing that prevents schools from imposing rules that apply off grounds. They require you to do homework at home, don't they? They could absolutely say that if you are caught doing X, Y or Z -- wherever -- you can be disciplined. Enforcement is difficult but thats another issue.

If they could prove (and it wouldn't have to be beyond a reasonable doubt) that an STA boy sexually assaulted an NCS girl -- wherever it occurred -- you better believe they could kick the boy out. The other thing they could do is refer the matter to the police for investigation. In fact, they are mandatory reporters so if they believe a student has been sexually assaulted, they are legally required to make that call, wherever the assault occurred.

[Anonymous]

They require you to do your homework as there are benefits associated with doing your homework. You can't enforce rules and policies off school grounds p. obviously if a student is convicted of some terrible crime (rape or assault) then yes the boy should be expelled) and quite frankly that will be the least of the families concern.

If a sexual assault did occur any ncs family could (or a faction) of ncs parents could notify DC Police. Why does STA have to do it? This is private matter situatio.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They require you to do your homework as there are benefits associated with doing your homework. You can't enforce rules and policies off school grounds p. obviously if a student is convicted of some terrible crime (rape or assault) then yes the boy should be expelled) and quite frankly that will be the least of the families concern.

If a sexual assault did occur any ncs family could (or a faction) of ncs parents could notify DC Police. Why does STA have to do it? This is private matter situatio.

STA is required by law to do so as is NCS. Its called mandatory reporting. You don't know what you are talking about.

When you sign a contract for your child to attend the school there is a general clause allowing them to kick your child out. It does not say solely because of misbehavior on campus. They can even kick your child out if they don't like the way the parents are behaving.

There is no law preventing them from kicking a child out if, say, a teacher sees a child drinking in a bar, or if a child is convicted of even a "minor" offense. You are making this stuff up about only for rape or assault. If you have a child in a private school, go read the contract.