NCS and St. Albans misconduct

[Anonymous]

These types of issues are not particular to any one school, but are in fact problems that exists not only at many area private schools, but also in many of the best and wealthiest public schools.

I believe that one root cause of these issues is a sense of entitlement without any of the mitigating responsibility of "noblesse oblige". Yes, that is an old-fashioned, perhaps even condescending term as it implies that any one person's status is above any other person's.

First, we should work hard to teach our children that that is not the case. You are no better than any other person by virtue of your family, or your wealth, or your connections, or your house and neighborhood, or your school, or your parents' professional titles, or your travels.

You can, however, distinguish yourself among others by virtue of your hard work at school, the personal talents you cultivate and develop, the books you read and the knowledge you acquire, the way you treat others, the kindness and manners you demonstrate, your honesty, your attention to the greater world outside your privileged group, and work on behalf of others.

In my experience we all could do better on that front, as parents here we can sometimes focus too much on money, status, power, connections, jobs and positions, and then pass theses lessons on to our own children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm astonished that the Washington Post ran a story whose news content, basically, was: a National Cathedral School administrator sent a letter, and a St. Albans School administrator also sent a letter. I wouldn't give that an A in reporting.

It is newsworthy. Or at least people are interested. The best evidence of that will be the expansion of this thread exponentially within the next few days.

The fact that people may be "interested" does not make it "newsworthy."

[Anonymous]

I have seen the harassment of this St. Albans grade first hand and it is relentless and unexpected at a school as prestigious as this one. I know very well that harassment is an issue at many schools, but believe me when I say that I have never seen children behave as badly as the ones there. The reason it had to be taken publicly is because both schools have been very aware of this problem but have done absolutely nothing about it except tell NCS students not to go to parties, even forbidding them of throwing after parties or even going to them, and St. Albans guys being given multiple "warnings". The lack of action on these students and their misconduct has caused at least 6 people to leave both St. Albans and the National Cathedral school. Even after multiple years of parents and students going to the schools to complain about this grade, nobody has been expelled or even suspended, even when there was significant proof of incidents.

[Anonymous]

It is absolutely newsworthy! At the least parents may actually have a conversation with their kids or check in on their online world, at best it may prevent a girl (or boy who is sickened by his classmates) from suffering in silence and even prevent a crime because we are on alert as parents. Also there are many parents who inadvertantly encourage this Behaviour by keeping their heads in the sand or even flat out condoning 14-17 year olds getting loaded in their private homes.

[Anonymous]

"She said school officials became aware of the shared online document on Dec. 15, and moved quickly to shut it down."

Looks like NCS and St. Albans officials are trying to bury this. What was in the Google document? What are they hiding? I, for one, will stand up for the students who have been wronged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have seen the harassment of this St. Albans grade first hand and it is relentless and unexpected at a school as prestigious as this one. I know very well that harassment is an issue at many schools, but believe me when I say that I have never seen children behave as badly as the ones there. The reason it had to be taken publicly is because both schools have been very aware of this problem but have done absolutely nothing about it except tell NCS students not to go to parties, even forbidding them of throwing after parties or even going to them, and St. Albans guys being given multiple "warnings". The lack of action on these students and their misconduct has caused at least 6 people to leave both St. Albans and the National Cathedral school. Even after multiple years of parents and students going to the schools to complain about this grade, nobody has been expelled or even suspended, even when there was significant proof of incidents.

What type of harassment? What type of behavior?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Essentially, NCS told the girls to shut up and go home and told the boys to be nice.

Bullshit, bullshit, bullshit.

Outrageous that the boys can humiliate the girls i to silence and everyone is onboard. So much for being an empowering girls school.

+1

[Anonymous]

What exactly are the boys saying to the girls?

[Anonymous]

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have seen the harassment of this St. Albans grade first hand and it is relentless and unexpected at a school as prestigious as this one. I know very well that harassment is an issue at many schools, but believe me when I say that I have never seen children behave as badly as the ones there. The reason it had to be taken publicly is because both schools have been very aware of this problem but have done absolutely nothing about it except tell NCS students not to go to parties, even forbidding them of throwing after parties or even going to them, and St. Albans guys being given multiple "warnings". The lack of action on these students and their misconduct has caused at least 6 people to leave both St. Albans and the National Cathedral school. Even after multiple years of parents and students going to the schools to complain about this grade, nobody has been expelled or even suspended, even when there was significant proof of incidents.

What type of harassment? What type of behavior?

This is the kind of information I would expect to find in a Washington Post article about this, but it wasn't there.

[Anonymous]

The schools tell the parents to watch their kids-- but who is watching the small minority of STA and NCS parents who get wasted, do prescription drugs and are sexually aggressive married adults? If a kid is screwed up-- look to the parents who failed to grow up-- give roots - establish strong boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Wait, I thought these kids were perfect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have seen the harassment of this St. Albans grade first hand and it is relentless and unexpected at a school as prestigious as this one. I know very well that harassment is an issue at many schools, but believe me when I say that I have never seen children behave as badly as the ones there. The reason it had to be taken publicly is because both schools have been very aware of this problem but have done absolutely nothing about it except tell NCS students not to go to parties, even forbidding them of throwing after parties or even going to them, and St. Albans guys being given multiple "warnings". The lack of action on these students and their misconduct has caused at least 6 people to leave both St. Albans and the National Cathedral school. Even after multiple years of parents and students going to the schools to complain about this grade, nobody has been expelled or even suspended, even when there was significant proof of incidents.

What type of harassment? What type of behavior?

A lot of the boys are are extremely sexist and make comments such as, "girls shouldn't have rights". They give girls nicknames based on their appearances and attack them with it. At parties, some of the boys will go up to girls and touch them inappropriately, whether the girl is intoxicated or not is not a factor, and even when the girl says stop they continue thinking that it's "funny". They gang up on people on the social media. There are also personal experiences that I, and a lot of my friends, have had that are pretty horrible but saying them could reveal my identity if someone from these schools were to read this. For the most part the reason their harassment is news-worthy is because the boys have pack-like behavior. Even though the whole grade doesn't explicitly do something bad, they all support each other and back each other up, which completely amplifies the harassment.

[Anonymous]

Why was this covered in the Washington Post?! Student newspaper, okay. But the Washington Post?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have seen the harassment of this St. Albans grade first hand and it is relentless and unexpected at a school as prestigious as this one. I know very well that harassment is an issue at many schools, but believe me when I say that I have never seen children behave as badly as the ones there. The reason it had to be taken publicly is because both schools have been very aware of this problem but have done absolutely nothing about it except tell NCS students not to go to parties, even forbidding them of throwing after parties or even going to them, and St. Albans guys being given multiple "warnings". The lack of action on these students and their misconduct has caused at least 6 people to leave both St. Albans and the National Cathedral school. Even after multiple years of parents and students going to the schools to complain about this grade, nobody has been expelled or even suspended, even when there was significant proof of incidents.

You're right. There were a lot of issues with this class when they were in 7th grade and there was no accountability and no real punishments.