NCS and St. Albans misconduct

[Anonymous]

Why should the 10 grade girls have to do this? Because the school is doing nothing. I don't want my child to have to spend time on this We are paying for this school and they are doing nothing. Another thread with a lot of information about this was shut down. Perhaps those posts could be revived?

[Anonymous]

Dear STA Parents: Please tell your sons that "the girls deserved it because they dress like whores" is not an appropriate defense.

[Anonymous]

That's exactly what ncs teaches. That girls who dress like sluts can expect ill treatment Is it any wonder that the boys interpret it as ok for them to do it?

[Anonymous]

Can someone link to the document referred to in the Post article?

[Anonymous]

Well, I hope one of the girls saved the goodle doc and can share it. Also hope the social media posts can be made public so that the parents of boys can see the attitudes in black and white.

This is the reason I will not send any additional children to a Cathedral school. Boys attitudes towards girls is awful. Administration response is to blame the girl. Parents response is to blame the girls. Witnessed all of this first hand. It is very sad. And yet when people ask me about it I never bring up this issue. I always couch it in the larger single sex school issues.

[Anonymous]

I'm astonished that the Washington Post ran a story whose news content, basically, was: a National Cathedral School administrator sent a letter, and a St. Albans School administrator also sent a letter. I wouldn't give that an A in reporting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm astonished that the Washington Post ran a story whose news content, basically, was: a National Cathedral School administrator sent a letter, and a St. Albans School administrator also sent a letter. I wouldn't give that an A in reporting.

It is newsworthy. Or at least people are interested. The best evidence of that will be the expansion of this thread exponentially within the next few days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm astonished that the Washington Post ran a story whose news content, basically, was: a National Cathedral School administrator sent a letter, and a St. Albans School administrator also sent a letter. I wouldn't give that an A in reporting.

I think it's newsworthy because it shows how the active "rape culture/victim culture" debate on college campuses filters down to secondary schools. Both the behavior and the social media response to such behavior take on forms that parents and school administrators may not have expected. Here, it's pretty clear that what happened is that the "Google doc" created by the NCS students became the equivalent of a very large wall on a bathroom stall, where girls accused boys and boys shamed girls.

I think the administrators at both schools were right to step in, and that their messages to parents were appropriate. In the future, they need to give more thought to how NCS and St. A's students can appropriately collaborate on such topics and, of course, counsel them on the appropriate use of social media and Google docs.

[Anonymous]

+1000 !

[Anonymous]

I was glad to see the issue of alcohol being addressed. It is a huge contributing factor and was served at a freshman STA/NCS party this month.

[Anonymous]

Let's not trivialize the issue by piling on NCS and StA. None of the local private schools are exempt. Boys have been expelled for sexual assault this year at more than one of the selective DC private schools. Misogyny among teenage boys and slut shaming among queen bee girls is everywhere. All of our daughters are at risk of unwanted sexual advances, assault, and rape and all of our sons are at risk of crossing the line and being branded a sex offender for life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm astonished that the Washington Post ran a story whose news content, basically, was: a National Cathedral School administrator sent a letter, and a St. Albans School administrator also sent a letter. I wouldn't give that an A in reporting.

I think it's newsworthy because it shows how the active "rape culture/victim culture" debate on college campuses filters down to secondary schools. Both the behavior and the social media response to such behavior take on forms that parents and school administrators may not have expected. Here, it's pretty clear that what happened is that the "Google doc" created by the NCS students became the equivalent of a very large wall on a bathroom stall, where girls accused boys and boys shamed girls.

I think the administrators at both schools were right to step in, and that their messages to parents were appropriate. In the future, they need to give more thought to how NCS and St. A's students can appropriately collaborate on such topics and, of course, counsel them on the appropriate use of social media and Google docs.

It's not filtering down. It's incubating and being practiced at the private schools and they are taking their sick practices with them to college.

[Anonymous]

The time is ripe for the off campus dangerous life of high schoolers to wcome a public discourse. These rapists at so many universities didn't learn their tactics in college--the seeds of this mysogynistic culture are planted as early as 13. It is worse than back in our day as society and popular culture + social media have inspired the worst type of experimentation. At a different co ed DC private schools there is a known Herd mentality among the "popular" boys- they don't have steady girlfriends because the "hot" girls are for all of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous[b wrote:]Let's not trivialize the issue by piling on NCS and StA. None of the local private schools are exempt.[/b] Boys have been expelled for sexual assault this year at more than one of the selective DC private schools. Misogyny among teenage boys and slut shaming among queen bee girls is everywhere. All of our daughters are at risk of unwanted sexual advances, assault, and rape and all of our sons are at risk of crossing the line and being branded a sex offender for life.

Really? everyone piles on Landon continuously and St. Albans was the "could do no wrong" school. Amazing now that St. Albans has an issue, people want to be fair. the double standard is unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

There is not a high school party today where some/most/all of the kids are drinking/are already drunk/are doing other drugs. You are kidding yourself if you think otherwise. Most of the time the kids drink BEFORE the party if they think there won't be alcohol there. Even those that have strict supervision, where they take the backpacks, take the keys, etc, the kids find a way to smuggle in alcohol. It is rampant at all schools, whether private or public -- this is the culture of high school today. The heads of the cathedral schools rightly see a connection, and counseled the parents to not let their kids attend such parties. Good luck with that.