Am I being unreasonable? Neighbor complaints about noise - sorry long

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's unreasonable. If she needed to sleep during the day because she worked nights, that would be one thing, but it's not reasonable to ask someone not to make noise during the day so you can work at home. They have a right to enjoy their home just as much as you do. And she really was wrong to bang on the walls and then refuse to talk to you when you came over. On the one hand, I would still try to keep the kids from making excessive noise inside--no shrieking or screaming, no banging on the walls, etc.--but her request for "silence" so she can work is not reasonable.

Give her a break - maybe she was on a call with a client. Just because she didn't open the door doesn't mean she was being a bitch about the whole thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's unreasonable. If she needed to sleep during the day because she worked nights, that would be one thing, but it's not reasonable to ask someone not to make noise during the day so you can work at home. They have a right to enjoy their home just as much as you do. And she really was wrong to bang on the walls and then refuse to talk to you when you came over. On the one hand, I would still try to keep the kids from making excessive noise inside--no shrieking or screaming, no banging on the walls, etc.--but her request for "silence" so she can work is not reasonable.

Give her a break - maybe she was on a call with a client. Just because she didn't open the door doesn't mean she was being a bitch about the whole thing.

She did it twice. Turned lights off when I knocked. And she didn't respond the note I left.

[Anonymous]

SLIDE DOWN THE STAIRS ON CARDBOARD BOXES? Sorry OP but you could tone some of this down.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here- Based on the childrens activities OP describes, I'm pretty sure I could spot her kids a mile away. They're the ones screaming in restaurants and don't know how to behave in public. How could they? They don't even know how to behave at home! Carboard boxes on the stairs lol yeah you suck as a neighbor. I can only imagine what else goes on in your home.

[Anonymous]

PS. Nanny again- if I let the kids in my care fly down the stairs on cardboard boxes, I'd be fired. Why? Besides the fact that that isn't an appropriate activity it's COMPLETELY UNSAFE.

[Anonymous]

I seriously doubt the landlords would appreciate sliding down the stairs in boxes. You are damaging their property.
That is not normal wear & tear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I seriously doubt the landlords would appreciate sliding down the stairs in boxes. You are damaging their property.
That is not normal wear & tear.

Oh please what kind of damage a box can do to carpet?

And the nanny can save her judgement. My children know the difference between what's allowed at home vs what's allowed outside and other people's homes. Why should I keep them from playing and having fun inside their own house? Like I said our noise is nothing absurd that violates the city codes. Kids laugh and make noise. It's life. I'm so tired of this people who expect kids to sit quiet all day.

[Anonymous]

OP. when you telework from your job do you ask your children to be quiet so that you can do your work? I think that is all your neighbor is asking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. when you telework from your job do you ask your children to be quiet so that you can do your work? I think that is all your neighbor is asking

My job doesn't allow teleworking. When DH works from home he goes to the library.
BTW my children are inside their homes, not inside the neighbor's home. I doubt their noise disturbs her phone calls. They're not louder than the leaf blower or lawn mower next door.

[Anonymous]

I can see why your husband goes to the library

[Anonymous]

Yelling and sliding down the stairs in cardboard boxes. I would complain, too. You could easily keep some of the noise down. If your kids want to slide go to a park. Same if they need to run and yell.

I lived in a townhouse with a toddler. Running and yelling were considered unreasonable noise in the lease. Going down the stairs in a box likely would have gotten us evicted.

You don't sound like a very considerate neighbor, and the lawyer has some unreasonable expectations. Find a middle ground.

[Anonymous]

Op, move to a single family home with a large yard. Or with businesses as neighbors. You and your kids are not respectful enough of others to live in a townhouse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG you let your kids slide down the stairs on boxes?
That is insane.

We have so so so much fun you'd never believe. I have the best memories from my time as a kid building things of cardboard boxes and sliding down the stairs at home.

Were you also annoying the fuck out of your neighbors? And then posting sanctimonious bullshit on anonymous forums?

Someone here had a sad sad childhood. Sorry about it PP.

I'm sure you are. But nice try with the projecting. What does your therapist say about that?

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one that thinks her weird syntax and obsessive posting/counterposting sound like Chipotle Lady? Not to mention the age of the kids?

Reallly? Just me?

[Anonymous]

OP, I agree with you for the most part, it is not reasonable to expect for young children to be very quiet at home all day. Sliding down the stairs on boxes could be too loud though.