Am I being unreasonable? Neighbor complaints about noise - sorry long

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. when you telework from your job do you ask your children to be quiet so that you can do your work? I think that is all your neighbor is asking

My job doesn't allow teleworking. When DH works from home he goes to the library.
BTW my children are inside their homes, not inside the neighbor's home. I doubt their noise disturbs her phone calls. They're not louder than the leaf blower or lawn mower next door.

Based on what? You don't work in her home while your kids are giggling, laughing, dancing, and sliding down the stairs on cardboard boxes. Don't you think there might be a reason your husband leaves as much as possible?

Would that be your job as an "audio professional", whatever that is?

[Anonymous]

Can I just say the box thing sounds bizarrely unsafe? I can see why the kids think it's awesome, but I can't believe a mom would permit this!

And actually, I'll bet it does cause particular wear on the carpet. Over the course of a year's lease, I certainly would expect the carpet to reflect this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can see why your husband goes to the library

yup, it's obvious. the deal is to have childcare in place if he wants to work from home and he knows it's not always possible to keep them quiet when he needs to lead a conference call. his job requires quiet moments so he goes where it's quiet. was i supposed to get offended with your comment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one that thinks her weird syntax and obsessive posting/counterposting sound like Chipotle Lady? Not to mention the age of the kids?

Reallly? Just me?

CL's kids are 2 and 4 by now, no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. when you telework from your job do you ask your children to be quiet so that you can do your work? I think that is all your neighbor is asking

My job doesn't allow teleworking. When DH works from home he goes to the library.
BTW my children are inside their homes, not inside the neighbor's home. I doubt their noise disturbs her phone calls. They're not louder than the leaf blower or lawn mower next door.

Based on what? You don't work in her home while your kids are giggling, laughing, dancing, and sliding down the stairs on cardboard boxes. Don't you think there might be a reason your husband leaves as much as possible?

Would that be your job as an "audio professional", whatever that is?

This is ridiculous. I never claimed to be an audio professional. Not sure why so many are assuming I'm one. "Whatever that is".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can I just say the box thing sounds bizarrely unsafe? I can see why the kids think it's awesome, but I can't believe a mom would permit this!

And actually, I'll bet it does cause particular wear on the carpet. Over the course of a year's lease, I certainly would expect the carpet to reflect this.

They change the carpet between tenants so it's no big deal. Seriously folks, it's not like we do this every day all day long. It's maybe 10 15 minutes every other week or so when we get a large package. They're almost too big for it now. You guys hung up on this and won't let go. If this the only reason I can definitely cut it even more but this lady bangs on the wall even when we're simply laughing with guests talking in our living room with the kids napping. It was extremely embarrassing when she did it. We had 2 couples over for the afternoon, the young kids were sleeping the older kids were eating while putting a puzzle together and the adults were talking and laughing in between. It was extremely embarrassing to have her banging on the walls.

The fact that the land lord said not to worry that she complained a lot about the previous family too tells me it's not us for sure. It's her. I'm glad to have the land lord on our side here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can see why your husband goes to the library

yup, it's obvious. the deal is to have childcare in place if he wants to work from home and he knows it's not always possible to keep them quiet when he needs to lead a conference call. his job requires quiet moments so he goes where it's quiet. was i supposed to get offended with your comment?

Wait-- depending on their ages, it really should be *possible* to keep them quiet when it really matters. You do need to teach them this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like you are trying to cause trouble, not prevent it. I was on your side at the beginning, but now I'm on the neighbor lawyer's side.

You seem smug and insufferable.

If you go looking for trouble, you will find it. Especially if someone is/has a lawyer.

You seem antagonistic, and more concerned with having the last word, than with actually doing the right thing. I trust this is not the first time.

BTW, there are more sophisticated video resources out there than you know. Know when to say when, and try to be a decent human being instead of having the last word.

If you feel wronged by the world, this neighbor is not going to make a difference, one way or the other. You need to allow for proper perspective here.

It's the full moon. Zombie alert here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like you are trying to cause trouble, not prevent it. I was on your side at the beginning, but now I'm on the neighbor lawyer's side.

You seem smug and insufferable.

If you go looking for trouble, you will find it. Especially if someone is/has a lawyer.

You seem antagonistic, and more concerned with having the last word, than with actually doing the right thing. I trust this is not the first time.

BTW, there are more sophisticated video resources out there than you know. Know when to say when, and try to be a decent human being instead of having the last word.

If you feel wronged by the world, this neighbor is not going to make a difference, one way or the other. You need to allow for proper perspective here.

It's the full moon. Zombie alert here.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can I just say the box thing sounds bizarrely unsafe? I can see why the kids think it's awesome, but I can't believe a mom would permit this!

And actually, I'll bet it does cause particular wear on the carpet. Over the course of a year's lease, I certainly would expect the carpet to reflect this.

They change the carpet between tenants so it's no big deal. Seriously folks, it's not like we do this every day all day long. It's maybe 10 15 minutes every other week or so when we get a large package. They're almost too big for it now. You guys hung up on this and won't let go. If this the only reason I can definitely cut it even more but this lady bangs on the wall even when we're simply laughing with guests talking in our living room with the kids napping. It was extremely embarrassing when she did it. We had 2 couples over for the afternoon, the young kids were sleeping the older kids were eating while putting a puzzle together and the adults were talking and laughing in between. It was extremely embarrassing to have her banging on the walls.

The fact that the land lord said not to worry that she complained a lot about the previous family too tells me it's not us for sure. It's her. I'm glad to have the land lord on our side here.

I don't know any landlords who actively intend to change carpets every single time a property turns over. Cleaning, sure. But I seriously doubt they mean to change carpets after tenants who stay only a year or two.

Listen, OP, my kid has had a terrible time with concussions. The first was a freak accident, possibly involving horseplay, that resulted in a really hard whack, and the subsequent ones just happen because now that she's especially vulnerable, it doesn't take much at all to cause trouble. Each time, she experiences months of disability. If you're listening to anything anyone has to say, please hear this-- risky fun is soooo not worth head injuries. Even proper sledding is a fairly risky activity, but I just can't imagine allowing this in a staircase.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can see why your husband goes to the library

yup, it's obvious. the deal is to have childcare in place if he wants to work from home and he knows it's not always possible to keep them quiet when he needs to lead a conference call. his job requires quiet moments so he goes where it's quiet. was i supposed to get offended with your comment?

Wait-- depending on their ages, it really should be *possible* to keep them quiet when it really matters. You do need to teach them this!

Good luck trying to keep an almost 2yo quiet when YOU want them to keep quiet.

[Anonymous]

OK, next people will suggest kids wear helmets to play climb the monkey bars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PS. Nanny again- if I let the kids in my care fly down the stairs on cardboard boxes, I'd be fired. Why? Besides the fact that that isn't an appropriate activity it's COMPLETELY UNSAFE.

Boxriding is really fun. It also works well on hills outside, except hills are hard to find.

Sledding is dangerous, as are bicycles and any number of wonderful things to do..trampolines, climbing trees...acorn fights...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, next people will suggest kids wear helmets to play climb the monkey bars.

Not a bad idea, but I'll point out that playground equipment is designed for sliding. Big difference in risk there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can see why your husband goes to the library

yup, it's obvious. the deal is to have childcare in place if he wants to work from home and he knows it's not always possible to keep them quiet when he needs to lead a conference call. his job requires quiet moments so he goes where it's quiet. was i supposed to get offended with your comment?

Wait-- depending on their ages, it really should be *possible* to keep them quiet when it really matters. You do need to teach them this!

Good luck trying to keep an almost 2yo quiet when YOU want them to keep quiet.

Well OK-- it would not always work with a 2 year old. But you certainly should be introducing the expectation and cultivating the skill, even though there will be lapses (hopefully followed by reminders) for several years yet.