SAHM with kids in school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread seems old and I'll admit that I have not read all the responses. I wonder if all this black and white passion for why you choose to stay at home or work is actually artificial. I think people make decisions more from the perspective of their situation and what is pragmatic.

For a SAHM who was not that interested in her job, her field, and did not make that much money woudn't it simply be more pragmatic to keep staying home when the kids were in school? For a SAHM who received a great job offer wouldn't it be more pragmatic for her to go back? Nothing wrong with either scenario but the driver is situational not belief based. Oddly, both will probably go on and on about how they made the choice because staying at home or working and providing more financial security is best for the children. Again not to say that either of these choices are not beneficial to the kids, but the altruistic choices are more about what true options you have than the mommy wars.

I agree! Nice post. I always chuckle when I read a post that is so staunchly one way and judging of the other way - I always think, I really hope your daughter or your daughter-in-law makes the exact same choice you do, or face you judgmental wrath years down the road!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Work to live OR live to work.
In DC most women live to work. When they have kids they are hellbent on maintaining that mentality--often to their own (and their kids') detriment.

Yes, it's interesting. This city attracts people like this - and they nearly all work in boring fields. I'm from NY and people just don't have this mentality, especially regarding god-awful law or government/bureaucrat careers. yawn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Work to live OR live to work.
In DC most women live to work. When they have kids they are hellbent on maintaining that mentality--often to their own (and their kids') detriment.

Yes, it's interesting. This city attracts people like this - and they nearly all work in boring fields. I'm from NY and people just don't have this mentality, especially regarding god-awful law or government/bureaucrat careers. yawn.

And people in NY work in fascinating fields like finance. double yawn.
And the self-important theater/film people who think they are so FASCINATING are equally boring, and pretentious to boot. a terrible combination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Work to live OR live to work.
In DC most women live to work. When they have kids they are hellbent on maintaining that mentality--often to their own (and their kids') detriment.

Yes, it's interesting. This city attracts people like this - and they nearly all work in boring fields. I'm from NY and people just don't have this mentality, especially regarding god-awful law or government/bureaucrat careers. yawn.

And people in NY work in fascinating fields like finance. double yawn.
And the self-important theater/film people who think they are so FASCINATING are equally boring, and pretentious to boot. a terrible combination.

Oh, do you know a lot of theater/film people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Work to live OR live to work.
In DC most women live to work. When they have kids they are hellbent on maintaining that mentality--often to their own (and their kids') detriment.

Yes, it's interesting. This city attracts people like this - and they nearly all work in boring fields. I'm from NY and people just don't have this mentality, especially regarding god-awful law or government/bureaucrat careers. yawn.

And people in NY work in fascinating fields like finance. double yawn.
And the self-important theater/film people who think they are so FASCINATING are equally boring, and pretentious to boot. a terrible combination.

And let's guess, do you work in law or govt. or academia?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Work to live OR live to work.
In DC most women live to work. When they have kids they are hellbent on maintaining that mentality--often to their own (and their kids') detriment.

Yes, it's interesting. This city attracts people like this - and they nearly all work in boring fields. I'm from NY and people just don't have this mentality, especially regarding god-awful law or government/bureaucrat careers. yawn.

Yes, I agree. I'll add one doesn't find this mentality in London either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Work to live OR live to work.
In DC most women live to work. When they have kids they are hellbent on maintaining that mentality--often to their own (and their kids') detriment.

Yes, it's interesting. This city attracts people like this - and they nearly all work in boring fields. I'm from NY and people just don't have this mentality, especially regarding god-awful law or government/bureaucrat careers. yawn.

And people in NY work in fascinating fields like finance. double yawn.
And the self-important theater/film people who think they are so FASCINATING are equally boring, and pretentious to boot. a terrible combination.

Oh, do you know a lot of theater/film people?

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Actually I do. I used to live in NY and was married to someone who worked in film.

[Anonymous]

Who cares if someone else doesn't find your job interesting? I'm sure a lot of people would be bored by my policy-focused job, but I'm okay with it - I even like it most of the time!

Also, I just like the structure of a job. I like having my own office, and having responsibilities for certain areas. I've noticed since having kids, I like my job even more because I'm there a lot less!