I’m a black man married to a white woman: Ask me anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any advice for interracial love now? WW who dated a BM 20 years ago but it didn't work out. He never told his mom about us... glad my children will have an easier time when they start dating.

I'm OP. Sorry to say but I don't have any advice for IR that's any different than any other relationship. Love hard. Hold each other tight. Damn the torpedoes.
Can't speak to your (or my) DC's dating lives. You never know what will happen - just enjoy this ride called life.

[Anonymous]

Are you ever insulted by things you read on this board directed towards or generalizing African Americans?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter (white) was best friends with and wanted to marry a boy in her class (black). They were obsessed with each other most of the year but the black, non yuppie, girls in her class did NOT appear to approve. ( High Ses black girls did not appear to care). One came up to me on the playground to tell me about their relationship and it was clear she expected me to be horrified. Sadly this pressure seems to have led to the demise of their relationship. I am sad my daughter got to live in a color blind world so briefly. My daughter is 4.

This makes me so sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ah what a bullshit thread this is. My dad is black and my mom is white. None of the stereotypes fit my family's description. Both mom and dad have friends of all races, they are both friendly, both educated and both average weight. I had a totally normal, typical family.

If you think interracial couples/families have to fit some stupid stereotype, you need to get out more. There are tons of mixed families in this area, you'd have to be walking around with your eyes closed to avoid knowing any.

Is your dad AA or an African immigrant or a child of African immigrants?

AA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter (white) was best friends with and wanted to marry a boy in her class (black). They were obsessed with each other most of the year but the black, non yuppie, girls in her class did NOT appear to approve. ( High Ses black girls did not appear to care). One came up to me on the playground to tell me about their relationship and it was clear she expected me to be horrified. Sadly this pressure seems to have led to the demise of their relationship. I am sad my daughter got to live in a color blind world so briefly. My daughter is 4.

This makes me so sad.

Yeah , sad bull shit

[Anonymous]

OP what was your experience with sex with women of color vs. white? Are all cats black in the dark?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you live in Columbia?

No, but good guess.

Germantown?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you ever insulted by things you read on this board directed towards or generalizing African Americans?

I'm OP. Unfortunately, yes. Words can hurt. I really enjoy DCUM, but you'll notice that someone can put up the most innocuous post and by the end of the day there's blood all over the place. Civility shouldn't end at one's keyboard, IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you live in Columbia?

No, but good guess.

Germantown?

You're getting warmer...

OP.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a nice, decent guy. Your wife is a lucky woman.

[Anonymous]

What percentage are your black male friends (who are married to black women)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any advice for interracial love now? WW who dated a BM 20 years ago but it didn't work out. He never told his mom about us... glad my children will have an easier time when they start dating.

I'm OP. Sorry to say but I don't have any advice for IR that's any different than any other relationship. Love hard. Hold each other tight. Damn the torpedoes. Can't speak to your (or my) DC's dating lives. You never know what will happen - just enjoy this ride called life.

That made me smile. Your wife is a lucky woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a nice, decent guy. Your wife is a lucky woman.

+1

[Anonymous]

Were you actively looking to marry a white woman when you met your wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is so bizarre to me. I had friends with mixed race parents, growing up 30-40 years ago. Granted it was more unusual then, but my high school was very diverse, so everyone I knew dated someone from another race at one point or the other. Everyone. And now I live in the DC area, and mixed race families are completely normal. I don't get how this is something to even be curious about??

Where was it you grew up? I grew up in Europe and when I moved to DC in 1998, I was shocked at the obvious prejudice against mixed race couples (and the fact that there weren't many then). It's definitely more common 15 years later, but the fact there is even a thread here on the topic suggests it's still considered unusual or "shocking". It wasn't anything unusual for me growing up overseas.

South Jersey. Our middle class town was more diverse then most, but still...