I’m a black man married to a white woman: Ask me anything.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like a nice, decent guy. Your wife is a lucky woman.

Thanks so much! I try. I'm the lucky one in my marriage, without a doubt.

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Anonymous wrote:What percentage are your black male friends (who are married to black women)?

Most of my male friends are black - most are married to black women (1 is married to a Peruvian woman, and my best friend, also black, is gay). FWIW, if something were to happen to me and my DW, we have a directive in place for my best friend to have legal custody of our DC.

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Anonymous wrote:Any advice for interracial love now? WW who dated a BM 20 years ago but it didn't work out. He never told his mom about us... glad my children will have an easier time when they start dating.

I'm OP. Sorry to say but I don't have any advice for IR that's any different than any other relationship. Love hard. Hold each other tight. Damn the torpedoes. Can't speak to your (or my) DC's dating lives. You never know what will happen - just enjoy this ride called life.

That made me smile. Your wife is a lucky woman.

Thank you. I'm OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Were you actively looking to marry a white woman when you met your wife?

I'm OP. I wasn't looking to marry anyone when I met my DW. At the time, I was dating black women almost exclusively. When DW and I found got a chance to talk, it very quickly became obvious that we were soul mates.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like a nice, decent guy. Your wife is a lucky woman.

Thanks so much! I try. I'm the lucky one in my marriage, without a doubt.

You certainly are-- from poverty to the upper middle class via your wife!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a nice, decent guy. Your wife is a lucky woman.

Thanks so much! I try. I'm the lucky one in my marriage, without a doubt.

You certainly are-- from poverty to the upper middle class via your wife!

Haha I had to laugh and I'm mixed....

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like a nice, decent guy. Your wife is a lucky woman.

Thanks so much! I try. I'm the lucky one in my marriage, without a doubt.

You certainly are-- from poverty to the upper middle class via your wife!

There are lots of miserable rich people. This guy is lucky in love.

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Anonymous wrote:OP what was your experience with sex with women of color vs. white? Are all cats black in the dark?

Your post says "ask me anything" but you didn't answer this one.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like a nice, decent guy. Your wife is a lucky woman.

Thanks so much! I try. I'm the lucky one in my marriage, without a doubt.

You certainly are-- from poverty to the upper middle class via your wife!

I'm OP. I will say this, I worked extraordinarily hard to get out of suffocating poverty, long before I knew my DW. I am proud to have achieved that goal - with the help of both black and white people along the way. Where I am today is by-and-large through my own efforts, and again, a little help from people who saw what I was trying do in life. My wife and I are professionals with great jobs. We are thankful.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a nice, decent guy. Your wife is a lucky woman.

Thanks so much! I try. I'm the lucky one in my marriage, without a doubt.

You certainly are-- from poverty to the upper middle class via your wife!

I'm OP. I will say this, I worked extraordinarily hard to get out of suffocating poverty, long before I knew my DW. I am proud to have achieved that goal - with the help of both black and white people along the way. Where I am today is by-and-large through my own efforts, and again, a little help from people who saw what I was trying do in life. My wife and I are professionals with great jobs. We are thankful.

In hindsight, do you think you would have acquired the same level of success & happiness with a black woman?

Prior to marriage, did your DW ever spend the night or an extended visit in the house or neighborhood that you grew up in?

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Anonymous wrote:OP what was your experience with sex with women of color vs. white? Are all cats black in the dark?

Your post says "ask me anything" but you didn't answer this one.

Ok, so I see you're gonna call me out for trying swerve around this question. You make a fair point - I did say "ask me anything".
From my experience, there are differences but I don't think they are based on race. Again, from my perspective, in general black women were more sexually conservative than white women. I have a more conservative outward appearance, but I'm an undercover freak, which works perfectly for my marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a nice, decent guy. Your wife is a lucky woman.

Thanks so much! I try. I'm the lucky one in my marriage, without a doubt.

You certainly are-- from poverty to the upper middle class via your wife!

I'm OP. I will say this, I worked extraordinarily hard to get out of suffocating poverty, long before I knew my DW. I am proud to have achieved that goal - with the help of both black and white people along the way. Where I am today is by-and-large through my own efforts, and again, a little help from people who saw what I was trying do in life. My wife and I are professionals with great jobs. We are thankful.

How do you view inner city people? Inner city youth?

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Anonymous wrote:OP what was your experience with sex with women of color vs. white? Are all cats black in the dark?

Your post says "ask me anything" but you didn't answer this one.

Ok, so I see you're gonna call me out for trying swerve around this question. You make a fair point - I did say "ask me anything".
From my experience, there are differences but I don't think they are based on race. Again, from my perspective, in general black women were more sexually conservative than white women. I have a more conservative outward appearance, but I'm an undercover freak, which works perfectly for my marriage.

My stereotype is surprised.

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Anonymous wrote:Did she only marry you because she honestly believed she could never go back?

LOL

NP. LOL.

White women have any of you tried to go back? This would make a great book.

NP. Uhmm....I'm still married to DH (black). No.

--Blonde. 5'8" 140 lbs. Any other questions?

Clearly you're not a trophy wife. Is your DH unemployed?

? Are you just some random asshole looking to be nasty to people? What are you basing that on? 5'8" and 140lbs makes the PP pretty thin, so you can't argue she's fat. You don't know how old she is. Just bitter?

Seriously, this thread is full of losers.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a nice, decent guy. Your wife is a lucky woman.

Thanks so much! I try. I'm the lucky one in my marriage, without a doubt.

You certainly are-- from poverty to the upper middle class via your wife!

I'm OP. I will say this, I worked extraordinarily hard to get out of suffocating poverty, long before I knew my DW. I am proud to have achieved that goal - with the help of both black and white people along the way. Where I am today is by-and-large through my own efforts, and again, a little help from people who saw what I was trying do in life. My wife and I are professionals with great jobs. We are thankful.

OP, you and your wife sound like nice people. We are an AA couple who can certainly relate to how you grew up and your journey.
Kudos to you guys and thanks for starting this thread.