Question for thick-skinned, overweight men and women

[Anonymous]

That not what 7:39 said pp

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn't think I had a pic, but this is one of how I look now...give or take 5 lbs. A definite difference from my Bermuda days, but not "really fat" by any means. Sorry.

BTW, I don't mind sharing these pics. It will help folks see that people carry their weight differently. I'm lucky, but I'm not content being close to 200 lbs and chunky.

Are you kidding me? You are fat. I really hate to burst this bubble of yours, but since you are so hell bent on people telling you how fantastic you look at almost 200 pounds, I'll be the one to tell you that you are fat and no, you don't "carry it well." You're fat, and fat is fat. And no, I would not want to see you in a bikini and I highly doubt anyone thought you looked "fab."

But it's nice to have self confidence. I do actually admire that about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am probably going to stir the the pot, but I can't help it. Reading your posts, I was wondering if you were a different ethnicity. The reason is...and I am only going to speak for myself and what I think, is that other ethnicities tend to be more comfortable with their bodies, and think that they look great at a certain size (which is great). However, the weight and size a woman of color thinks is beautiful, a woman like me would think (I am fat and need to lose weight).

So I think to answer op's original question (which I kind of forgot at this point), is that everyone has a different perception of their body. I might think, wow I look good in a bikini, but you might think, dang, she needs to cover up!

That's true to a certain extent. But I did say I'm not happy with my weight, so not sure where you get I'm comfortable with it. I was comfortable at 160 and that's what I'm aiming for.

Here's me in my bikini in Bermuda (which is after 3 children). Not perfect, but based on where I am now, I'll take it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Didn't think I had a pic, but this is one of how I look now...give or take 5 lbs. A definite difference from my Bermuda days, but not "really fat" by any means. Sorry.

BTW, I don't mind sharing these pics. It will help folks see that people carry their weight differently. I'm lucky, but I'm not content being close to 200 lbs and chunky.

Are you kidding me? You are fat. I really hate to burst this bubble of yours, but since you are so hell bent on people telling you how fantastic you look at almost 200 pounds, I'll be the one to tell you that you are fat and no, you don't "carry it well." You're fat, and fat is fat. And no, I would not want to see you in a bikini and I highly doubt anyone thought you looked "fab."

But it's nice to have self confidence. I do actually admire that about you.

Well, I did say I was overweight. But if you're being honest, you'd admit that if you saw me, there's no way you'd think I was almost 200lbs based on that picture. BTW, I wouldn't want to see me in a bikini right now either!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am probably going to stir the the pot, but I can't help it. Reading your posts, I was wondering if you were a different ethnicity. The reason is...and I am only going to speak for myself and what I think, is that other ethnicities tend to be more comfortable with their bodies, and think that they look great at a certain size (which is great). However, the weight and size a woman of color thinks is beautiful, a woman like me would think (I am fat and need to lose weight).

So I think to answer op's original question (which I kind of forgot at this point), is that everyone has a different perception of their body. I might think, wow I look good in a bikini, but you might think, dang, she needs to cover up!

BTW, would you be comfortable with your body if it were the size of the pic of the white dress? Cause that's comfortable for me and that's what I'm aiming for. Just trying to get a gauge on looks & perceptions.

That could possibly be another thing for the OP to study. Fat people who are they way because they don't realize they are fat!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am probably going to stir the the pot, but I can't help it. Reading your posts, I was wondering if you were a different ethnicity. The reason is...and I am only going to speak for myself and what I think, is that other ethnicities tend to be more comfortable with their bodies, and think that they look great at a certain size (which is great). However, the weight and size a woman of color thinks is beautiful, a woman like me would think (I am fat and need to lose weight).

So I think to answer op's original question (which I kind of forgot at this point), is that everyone has a different perception of their body. I might think, wow I look good in a bikini, but you might think, dang, she needs to cover up!

That's true to a certain extent. But I did say I'm not happy with my weight, so not sure where you get I'm comfortable with it. I was comfortable at 160 and that's what I'm aiming for.

Here's me in my bikini in Bermuda (which is after 3 children). Not perfect, but based on where I am now, I'll take it!

Oh lord. Really, I'm not trying to be harsh, but no, this is not attractive and fabulous or probably all that healthy. This is fat. Look, I'm sorry, the truth hurts. I think you have a skewed perception of yourself, but hey, go right ahead and feel great about yourself. I'm finding it really odd that you keep posting pictures of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am probably going to stir the the pot, but I can't help it. Reading your posts, I was wondering if you were a different ethnicity. The reason is...and I am only going to speak for myself and what I think, is that other ethnicities tend to be more comfortable with their bodies, and think that they look great at a certain size (which is great). However, the weight and size a woman of color thinks is beautiful, a woman like me would think (I am fat and need to lose weight).

So I think to answer op's original question (which I kind of forgot at this point), is that everyone has a different perception of their body. I might think, wow I look good in a bikini, but you might think, dang, she needs to cover up!

That's true to a certain extent. But I did say I'm not happy with my weight, so not sure where you get I'm comfortable with it. I was comfortable at 160 and that's what I'm aiming for.

Here's me in my bikini in Bermuda (which is after 3 children). Not perfect, but based on where I am now, I'll take it!



Wow...

Oh lord. Really, I'm not trying to be harsh, but no, this is not attractive and fabulous or probably all that healthy. This is fat. Look, I'm sorry, the truth hurts. I think you have a skewed perception of yourself, but hey, go right ahead and feel great about yourself. I'm finding it really odd that you keep posting pictures of yourself.

Wow...if you think that's fat, then you and I will probably never agree on anything re: weight. LOL. I love having curves and felt sexy as hell at this weight. Got plenty of attention too (by all races, so it wasn't a black guys like chubby girls thing). I lean more towards loving the body shapes of Marilyn Monroe, Kim K & Beyonce, not Giselle & Natalie Portman. So, if you think those last two are great bodies, then you're right.....our perceptions our definitely different!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am probably going to stir the the pot, but I can't help it. Reading your posts, I was wondering if you were a different ethnicity. The reason is...and I am only going to speak for myself and what I think, is that other ethnicities tend to be more comfortable with their bodies, and think that they look great at a certain size (which is great). However, the weight and size a woman of color thinks is beautiful, a woman like me would think (I am fat and need to lose weight).

So I think to answer op's original question (which I kind of forgot at this point), is that everyone has a different perception of their body. I might think, wow I look good in a bikini, but you might think, dang, she needs to cover up!

That's true to a certain extent. But I did say I'm not happy with my weight, so not sure where you get I'm comfortable with it. I was comfortable at 160 and that's what I'm aiming for.

Here's me in my bikini in Bermuda (which is after 3 children). Not perfect, but based on where I am now, I'll take it!

Oh lord. Really, I'm not trying to be harsh, but no, this is not attractive and fabulous or probably all that healthy. This is fat. Look, I'm sorry, the truth hurts. I think you have a skewed perception of yourself, but hey, go right ahead and feel great about yourself. I'm finding it really odd that you keep posting pictures of yourself.

I have to agree with PP. You are overwight in this picture. This is not healthy.

[Anonymous]

I think the above discussion really shows how distorted our views have become with regard to what is thin, normal, chubby, chunky, fat, obese, etc.

Because over half the population is now overweight, a "normal" sized person now seems downright thin and the chunky person seems normal, and the fat person seems chunky.

But just because our perceptions have changed doesn't change the health issues surrounded with carrying extra weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the above discussion really shows how distorted our views have become with regard to what is thin, normal, chubby, chunky, fat, obese, etc.

Because over half the population is now overweight, a "normal" sized person now seems downright thin and the chunky person seems normal, and the fat person seems chunky.

But just because our perceptions have changed doesn't change the health issues surrounded with carrying extra weight.

I agree. I'm the poster w/ the pics. Even when I was this weight, I can remember trying to frantically diet to lose 10-15 lbs. Didn't happen and I just went with it and enjoyed my vacation. Now that I'm 30 lbs over this weight, I look back on those pics with envy (even though I wasn't perfect at that size). When you gain weight, you tend to look back on old pictures and think "Why was I so obsessed with losing weight. I looked great!". Perhaps when I finally meet this target goal, I'll remember that I wasn't happy with it in the past and will lose more weight.

I will say that weighing 120-140 lbs is not what I like. I do love how I look in the white dress, so that's what I'm aiming for. If folks thinks that's overweight...well, color me stumped!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the above discussion really shows how distorted our views have become with regard to what is thin, normal, chubby, chunky, fat, obese, etc.

Because over half the population is now overweight, a "normal" sized person now seems downright thin and the chunky person seems normal, and the fat person seems chunky.

But just because our perceptions have changed doesn't change the health issues surrounded with carrying extra weight.

I agree. I am not "thin" per se. I am normal. But I notice people always refer to me as "so thin, you're so skinny." No, I'm really not. I'm a normal, healthy weight.

[Anonymous]

Having some extra weight does not automatically create health concerns, especially when that weight is carried in the hips/thighs, rather than in the waist.

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704464704575208082569868428.html

Also, I agree with picture PP that if you think Giselle is the ideal, then Kim K is going to look fat. Kim K has my ideal body.

[Anonymous]

More than half the American population is considered "overweight." To the people that insist overweight is indicative of some deep seated emotional issue and/or depression: do you maintain that over 50% of Americans are depressed? I think that environmental circumstances are the main contributors to overweight rather than emotional issues.

[Anonymous]

To the people that insist overweight is indicative of some deep seated emotional issue and/or depression: do you maintain that over 50% of Americans are depressed? I think that environmental circumstances are the main contributors to overweight rather than emotional issues

I don't know that people are saying that being overweight is indicative of emotional issues and depression. I think they are saying that being extremely obese can often be.

[Anonymous]

Give the wide range of normal weights per height/body-type, how can someone ever be 5 lbs overweight?

Does that mean they are 5 lbs over the top end of normal? 5 lbs higher than where they were in college? I can fluctuate 5 lbs per week, so the idea of saying, "why didnt they do something when they were 5 lbs overweight?" seems a little ridiculous and difficult to grasp.