Question for thick-skinned, overweight men and women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the PP with the pics does look better than her weight would suggest - I certainly would look far worse on that weight. For one, she somehow looks taller than 5' 2''. That said, there is no comparison between that and Kim K or Scarlett Johansson. They are clearly several dozen pounds lighter than PP on what she considers to be her best photo ("white dress").

Thanks for your honesty, pp. I think folks are confused. They think I meant I was fit at 160. Nope, just that I felt sexy at that weight and really wish I could get back there! I have no desire to be really thin; I love having a little extra padding.

But this will be the last I post on this, unless specifically asked a question. The OP is probably long gone and this detour does nothing to address her original question (or maybe it does).

Oh, and I wouldn't dare compare myself to Beyonce and Scarlett. I just wanted to gauge if that person found them fat. Many people find them fat, having "thunder thighs", etc while I think they look fab. And I have to leave you guys with one more pic...if this is fat, I can't wait to be fat again really soon!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the PP with the pics does look better than her weight would suggest - I certainly would look far worse on that weight. For one, she somehow looks taller than 5' 2''. That said, there is no comparison between that and Kim K or Scarlett Johansson. They are clearly several dozen pounds lighter than PP on what she considers to be her best photo ("white dress").

Thanks for your honesty, pp. I think folks are confused. They think I meant I was fit at 160. Nope, just that I felt sexy at that weight and really wish I could get back there! I have no desire to be really thin; I love having a little extra padding.

But this will be the last I post on this, unless specifically asked a question. The OP is probably long gone and this detour does nothing to address her original question (or maybe it does).

Oh, and I wouldn't dare compare myself to Beyonce and Scarlett. I just wanted to gauge if that person found them fat. Many people find them fat, having "thunder thighs", etc while I think they look fab. And I have to leave you guys with one more pic...if this is fat, I can't wait to be fat again really soon!

20:06 PP here again.

Why don't you just chime-in when you feel like it ? Though I would personally rather be ran over by a train than a post a pic of me weighing over 130 here, I find it very refreshing to finally be able to see what are talking about .

[Anonymous]

I was thin and very active until it became clear that exercise was aggravating a congenital spine problem and causing debilitating injuries. I gained some weight through medication and pregnancy, some through trying to lose the weight - dieting doesn't work - and some through emotional eating while grieving a death in the family.

I'm about a hundred pounds overweight and find others' concerns about and responses to my body sad and hilarious. There's a ton of ill-considered projection, hatred and outright fear, based, as far as I can tell, on nothing real. I eat well, walk and bike, am energetic and happy, and have awesome sex with a man who wanted me when I was skinny and wants me just as much now because we love each other and my naked body is magnificent. My tits are gorgeous, my ass is beautifully shaped and firm, I'm juicy and I taste good and fat feels amazing in bed. I have no health problems and excellent lipid panels. I also have a much less fraught relationship with my body than most of the women I know who have managed to maintain a fashionable weight. You couldn't pay me to have that much anxiety about meeting a commercial standard.

So the problem, really, is everyone who thinks like OP. It's tiring, having to deal with bullshit about my body from people who are not in my body. Yes, if the weight could just go away, I wouldn't hold on to it, and if dieting, etc., worked, I would. There are a lot of things I like about being fat, like freedom from superficial assholes, but the prejudice is costly - literally, fat women earn less for the same credentials and achievements - and it's hard to find fabulous clothes. I have to work harder for attention and credibility than I did in my skinny twenties because fewer people want to fuck me.

There is also this weird thing some men do: they seem actively disturbed when I talk to them because I might be flirting with them, and that is a terrifying assault beyond their coping skills. I'm pretty ambivalent about that - I live mostly without caring what anyone thinks, and it's a rude awakening to be found disgusting. On the other hand, there's a sort of claustrophobia at the insight into such smallness.

[Anonymous]

As a middle age man, I am pulling around 60 pounds more than I used to, long commutes, long hours at work, raising a busy family, and to top it off, I am the chief cook in the household.--all of this takes a toll. I used to be a lean mean 175 in college ( I am 6 ft i inch tall). But that was then and this is, and frankly Scarlett, I don't give a damn what you might think of my body LOL. I still love bicycling, however, altho I don't cut the smartest figure in my XXL spandex bike shorts, I don't care what anyone thinks of me as I cycle past them, so there!

[Anonymous]

Picture PP - you're crazy to post all those but I'll weigh in. At a size 10/12 I like to convince myself Im not overweight but I need to drop about 15 lbs. you look heavy in all those pics. Not FAT but heavy and out of shape. You actually look heavier in the ones where you said you were lighter, ESP the bikini one. I do admire your confidence though.

[Anonymous]

PP with the pics: You don't look fit OR energetic, you look flabby. Sorry if you managed to convince yourself otherwise, but it is true.

And I'm delighted that people can feel sexy at 100 lbs overweight, but honestly: If you are female, the gut overhang is disgusting, and if male, your dick disappears in the FUPA. Bleah.

[Anonymous]

You keep confusing your opinion with one that matters.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]Was there not some point you looked in the mirror and realized something was horribly wrong with your body?

Looking at people at the beach in their suits makes it so clear the way the human body was meant to be shaped and the way the majority of people actually are. Do you really miss the early stages when you can just scale back and drop 5 pounds? Do you just reach a point where you don't care? I don't mean this in a snarky, judgemental way. I am truly curious. [/quote]

You are such an asshole.

[Anonymous]

It's not being an asshole to point out that people shouldn't weigh twice what they're supposed to, just because it punctures your little bubble of self acceptance.

[Anonymous]

21:29 - Don't trade one medical problem for another. I have arthritis and 30 pounds ago couldn't walk well, let alone jump. Now the pain is pretty much gone (there was talk of joint replacement) and I have no problem walking, jumping, etc. It's good to be healthy and confident at any size, but the physics of it all will eventually get you.

I agree that dieting doesn't work, but lifestyle changes absolutely do. I didn't lose thirty pounds on a "diet" - I lost it by making only those changes I can maintain for life, changes I enjoy.

[Anonymous]

Overweight, obese even carrying it on a 6' frame somitdes not look like it old on others. I have normal cholesterol, blood pressure is typically 115 to 120 over 60s, not diabetic, no health issues.....and that is what is most important. Carrying twins no health issues and no fertility issues. Never had any cancer scares. I know thinner people with some or all of the above problems. I defy what people conventionally think should be fat people problems. I try my best to eat right and get exercise in but am not always perfect about it. The health stats are what I concern myself with, not the scale.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the PP with the pics:

You look very good wearing your bikini. After 3 children??? yes! I am 28 yo, no children and am recovering from a big weight loss (50 lbs) and believe me: at 150 and 5,7" you look way better than me! I am white and my skin looks awful and full of stretch marks. you go girl!

Congrats on your weight loss! I agree.
DCUM is full of women who are miserable and unhappy with themselves, and their bodies. I don't think any of these people are concerned about any fat persons health.
I think seeing a fat person who is happy, and confident scares the shit out of some people, and they don't know what to do with that.
Maybe if they focused more on their families, and themselves they wouldn't be miserable and in sexless marriages ( just read the relationship forums).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Overweight, obese even carrying it on a 6' frame somitdes not look like it old on others. I have normal cholesterol, blood pressure is typically 115 to 120 over 60s, not diabetic, no health issues.....and that is what is most important. Carrying twins no health issues and no fertility issues. Never had any cancer scares. I know thinner people with some or all of the above problems. I defy what people conventionally think should be fat people problems. I try my best to eat right and get exercise in but am not always perfect about it. The health stats are what I concern myself with, not the scale.

My dad has freakishly great cholesterol readings despite being overweight. Great on paper for blood pressure, all of that. He would pass a physical no problem. He had an angioplasty at around 57, and a heart attack followed by quintuple bypass at around 64. Don't kid yourself. I'm not trying to be mean. I'm telling you these numbers don't always add up to good health.

[Anonymous]

I don't think obese people are truly happy. Why would you be? You can't participate in activities that require any type of physical stamina, you tire easily from carrying so much weight, you are embarrased to eat in public, you can't find "cute" clothes that fit your body, and you are NOT healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a middle age man, I am pulling around 60 pounds more than I used to, long commutes, long hours at work, raising a busy family, and to top it off, I am the chief cook in the household.--all of this takes a toll. I used to be a lean mean 175 in college ( I am 6 ft i inch tall). But that was then and this is, and frankly Scarlett, I don't give a damn what you might think of my body LOL. I still love bicycling, however, altho I don't cut the smartest figure in my XXL spandex bike shorts, I don't care what anyone thinks of me as I cycle past them, so there!

I guess you're married then.