my husband is a terrible gift giver and it bums me out each year

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you give him a wish list? Give him a lot of things to choose from so you'll still have a bit of a surprise.

That's a great idea!

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I feel my DH and I are opposites in this case. Every year he buys amazing gifts for Xmas and my birthday. I, on the other hand, am so terrible at gift giving. Last Xmas DH bought me a diamond necklace that resemble my engagement ring. It was beautiful!! I got him a drill. I think I'm just horrible at gift giving in general. Only thing I'm good with is kids, but that is generally easy.

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Go shopping together, browse (just don't take too long), pick something out and let him be thrilled to buy it for you. As you are, you are being too needy.

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Friend's DH gave her an ironing board cover...because one day she was complaining about it.

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my husband and I have been together 8 years and married for 2, have an 8 month old and a second on the way. For our anniversary last week he got me wind chimes from cvs. I gave birth to our 10lb son 2 weeks late, after 34 hours of labor and alls im worth is a cvs special. Wind chimes, seriously!? They're so cheap they wont last through summer, or the first real "wind" we have. Don't get me wrong I'm not worried about money spent id just like some damn effort put into it. Im pregnant and addicted to the bmt sub from subway so even a subway gift card would be more thoughtful. I waited a few days before saying anything, i wanted to make sure i wasn't making a big deal about it, but i think anyone would be a little heart broken after that. He said he doesn't understand why im upset. Smh.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband just stinks at gift giving. I'm honestly not materialistic but his lack of gift buying efforts bums me out each year.
Last night i know he tried to find something on Amazon. He told me today he doesn't know what to buy me. He was going to get a robe or pajamas.
I don't need or want either. I have more pajamas than i know what to do with. I got 3 robes over the past 2 years from my mom and MIL and gave them all away. (how many robes does a person need?)

In 10 years of marriage he has never given me a piece of jewelry. I would LOVE jewelry. I have told him such. We have the money. He just doesn't want to put in the time or effort it would take to find something. I found something I liked this year. I spontaneously tried it on. He knew about it but didn't act on it. It's no longer available.

I'm okay with all of this but part of me is just bummed out. I want to feel cherished and like he cares enough to buy me something special. Anything. He could buy me ANY jewelry and I would be happy but he just doesn't. It's not the even the item that would mean something--it's the act of purchasing.

okay, vent over. I just told him not to buy me anything which I do at least every other year when we go through this whole song-and-dance again and again. Christmas is about our kids anyway.

My DW complains about the gifts that I give her.. I use to do a better job, but I really don't want to be married to her anymore... So it is very hard to shop for her. She might be a great mom, but she is a terrible self centered wife. When she trys to point out what gift that other wives get... I feel like pointing out what those wives give there husbands and the type of relationship that the couple has...

If there is no love going to and from your DW from you... What would you expect?

Now buying great personal gifts for my kids is easy. And buying great personal gift for my AP is also very easy..

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You sound like a sleazeball. The best present you could give her would be to leave.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel my DH and I are opposites in this case. Every year he buys amazing gifts for Xmas and my birthday. I, on the other hand, am so terrible at gift giving. Last Xmas DH bought me a diamond necklace that resemble my engagement ring. It was beautiful!! I got him a drill. I think I'm just horrible at gift giving in general. Only thing I'm good with is kids, but that is generally easy.

This reminds me of the Modern Family episodes when Claire gives Phil hug bucks. I'm also terrible at gift giving while DH comes up with some great gifts.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like a sleazeball. The best present you could give her would be to leave.

If you knew all of the things that I do around the house and for the kids.. My guess is that you would not call me the sleaze ball.

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I mostly feel like when I do get a gift it's so random my husband must not know me at all.

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I am a husband and I will openly admit I suck at buying gifts for my wife.

Men are so much easier to buy for. We have hobbies, sports interest, you can get us tools, car items, stuff for the grill....almost anything and we will be happy.

We can not exactly buy you clothes....you will never like what we buy.

If we buy household items we get grief for buying something for the house.

If you have a hobby do you really want another knitting needle?
If your into yoga do you you want is picking out another yoga mat?

Men tend to go to the old standbys...flowers, jewelry and chocolate. They are all safe gifts in our eyes. Sorry...no creativity from us.

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My husband and I are apparently in some kind of arms race. I had taken to buying myself things and just for laughs having them engraved or personalized. Got myself a mug that said "best wife ever" with "Love, your honey" on the back. He just unwrapped a hunting knife which he had engraved with "Love, your wife" on the handle. Said he learned it from me. (No, it never would have occurred to me to buy him an engraved hunting knife.) The problem is that he thought to get himself a Valentine's Day gift from me, but I have been too busy, lazy, to get myself anything from him. And it's too late to have anything engraved, anyway!

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My wife has a Pinterest account where see pins things all year. I can at anytime pick something and it's still kinda of a surprise to her. It makes xmas shopping way easier. Although I do consider my self to be pretty good at buy gifts, she has actually complained that I am hard to shop for.

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To people who buy gifts for your spouses: Are you finances separated? Because it feels weird to "gift" something using money from joint accounts. We gift to children, but we buy our own frivolous things, so to speak. Trying to guess what the other person wants is a waste of money IMO.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like a sleazeball. The best present you could give her would be to leave.

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