How old were you when you had your first baby and how many did you have?

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Anonymous wrote:where do all the moms who started in their 20s live? Because I don't know many - we always feel like the youngest parents in our daughter's classes.

here. live in DC. was 28 with #1 and 32 with #2, and I often feel like I got knocked up as a teenager in this area.

haha - EXACTLY my point when I asked this question. It also doesn't help that I look pretty young and dress in jeans and t-shirts pretty much every day.

I was 24 with #1. Married at 23, divorced at 25. I'm 27 now. However, I finished undergrad at 20, so I've always done things 'early' My original plan was to have 4 by 30, but the divorce knocked that plan out of the water. I still want 4, but will settle for 3. I don't really want to be having kids past 35, esp since it would make DS much older than his siblings. If I'm not in a relationship by 30, I'll be looking into adoption or sperm donors.

And talk about feeling like a teenager, try being a single mom in your 20s. Someone at the farmer's market the other day asked me what grade I was in and if DS was my brother. I get looks and comments often. It surprises me when I see the glance at my ring finger, then the look at my face, DS's face and then back at my ring finger and then the "hmmm" look like they just can't figure it out, esp if I'm wearing work clothes. Apparently, if I'm a 'young' single mother, I'm not supposed to be also be a professional.

I wish I still lived in DC because I would be your friend. We follow almost the exact same trajectory. I got the hell out of DC, though. Since I look like I am 15, I still get looks. A delivery man the other day told me that I looked really busy with my little brother and that he would get on his way. Ugh.

I am definitely considering sperm donors. I don't see getting a relationship and another kid off the ground in the next few years and I want more!

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Anonymous wrote:Got married at 36
39 for #1
40 for #2

This is me. Someone asked to mention if they had trouble conceiving. I had a few miscarriages before #1, but didn't do any fertility treatments - I was just beginning to talk to my OB about options when I got pregnant again and didn't miscarry. #2 happened when #1 was only 6 months old.

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Anonymous wrote:Got married at 36
39 for #1
40 for #2

This is me. Someone asked to mention if they had trouble conceiving. I had a few miscarriages before #1, but didn't do any fertility treatments - I was just beginning to talk to my OB about options when I got pregnant again and didn't miscarry. #2 happened when #1 was only 6 months old.

WE NEED TO START AN OVER 35/40 Mom's Group, I was 32 w/ first, but w/ second 42, in moms clubs now but everyone so young, married 5 years, not me 19! Anyone into doing a mature mommies group of loudoun for this w/ kids ages 2-4, someone else can run those w/ 0-2 i am out of baby zone, but we can do the younger ones if siblings can join things...Nite out w/ us old folgi's seeing movies like don't be afraid of dark, from our childhood! or smurs, more milder!

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"FWIW, my docs insisted that the crazy (sometimes scary) statistics of increased trouble conceiving after age 35 or 40 or whatever age (and increased risk of birth defects), relate to moms with no prior successful pregnancies. So when you see the 40+ moms here, my guess is that most already have children or that they used intervention. Not great news to share, but I thought it might help put things in perspective. "

Ive heard something like this before, but am not sure I understand... wouldn't all the woman unable to get pregnant when they were 32 also not be able to get pregnant when they are 37? Or is there something about being pregnant and going through childbirth that holds off later infertiltiy?

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Anonymous wrote:"FWIW, my docs insisted that the crazy (sometimes scary) statistics of increased trouble conceiving after age 35 or 40 or whatever age (and increased risk of birth defects), relate to moms with no prior successful pregnancies. So when you see the 40+ moms here, my guess is that most already have children or that they used intervention. Not great news to share, but I thought it might help put things in perspective. "

Ive heard something like this before, but am not sure I understand... wouldn't all the woman unable to get pregnant when they were 32 also not be able to get pregnant when they are 37? Or is there something about being pregnant and going through childbirth that holds off later infertiltiy?

There was a request to report whether the 40+ moms had trouble conceiving. I think it's true that statistically most 40+ moms either have had prior successful pregnancies or they have used intervention. And yes, also probably true that those with trouble conceiving at 30 also have trouble conceiving at 40. The small point left is that statistically, the 40+ woman 40 ttc for the first time most likely will need intervention to conceive.

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#1 @17
#2 @28

diff SO

Im done . I can get my fill working with young children and hopefully nieces or nephew sooon from my younger sister

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Anonymous wrote:DC1 - 35
DC2 - due when I will be 37

Considering having a third when I am 39 but 2 is probably enough for us. Decision on third will not likely be related to my age. [/quote

It might be indirectly. I had my kids at your age. I would love to have a third child but the thought of having to wake up at night and do the whole infant thing again gives me cold chills.

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Twins (not fertility treatments, so big surprise) at 35. Definitely done. Really glad to have had twins and to have gotten it "over with" at once. It's more intense but worth it for us in the long run.

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39 #1
41 #2

I'm 45 now.. We are done and happy to have two children.. I look a lot younger so it's awkward a bit around other moms who think i'm their same age (mid 30s).. I just don't talk about age...

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#1-29
hoping to have #2 at 31...

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#1 - 21

#2 - 24

done.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a young Mom (the poster with 4 kids...I'm 31). #4 was delivered when I was 28...and I felt that was too old!! I definitely didn't want to be pregnant after age 30. Though my situation is far from ideal, I prefer the easier career route while kids are younger and THEN switching to a more demanding career once the kids are middle school-aged. Though a lot of work, I love our large family and wouldn't change a thing.

I wasn't even married when I was 28. Should I have gotten knocked up by a bunch of guys just so I could get pregnant before I was "too old" according to you?

28 was too old for me. Why are you so defensive? You can get knocked up by whomever you wish. For my 4 kids, I stuck with one guy (my hubby). Stop being so insecure about your choices......you're my #1 complaint about older moms....so damn sensitive.

I'm not sensitive. I actually LIKE being an older mom b/c I don't feel the need to breed like a rabbit and surround myself with children to fill a void. Once you hit a certain age, you just chill out and relax. It is what it is. And with my two unplanned children, I know for a fact that I wasn't necessarily selfish in having them.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a young Mom (the poster with 4 kids...I'm 31). #4 was delivered when I was 28...and I felt that was too old!! I definitely didn't want to be pregnant after age 30. Though my situation is far from ideal, I prefer the easier career route while kids are younger and THEN switching to a more demanding career once the kids are middle school-aged. Though a lot of work, I love our large family and wouldn't change a thing.

I wasn't even married when I was 28. Should I have gotten knocked up by a bunch of guys just so I could get pregnant before I was "too old" according to you?

28 was too old for me. Why are you so defensive? You can get knocked up by whomever you wish. For my 4 kids, I stuck with one guy (my hubby). Stop being so insecure about your choices......you're my #1 complaint about older moms....so damn sensitive.

I'm not sensitive. I actually LIKE being an older mom b/c I don't feel the need to breed like a rabbit and surround myself with children to fill a void. Once you hit a certain age, you just chill out and relax. It is what it is. And with my two unplanned children, I know for a fact that I wasn't necessarily selfish in having them.

You really have an ugly, on the defensive response style and you make assumptions about why some women would have children at a younger age than others. The poster to whom you responded was only sharing her feelings about why she was glad she had children at a younger age. She wasn't critical of others. Why are you?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a young Mom (the poster with 4 kids...I'm 31). #4 was delivered when I was 28...and I felt that was too old!! I definitely didn't want to be pregnant after age 30. Though my situation is far from ideal, I prefer the easier career route while kids are younger and THEN switching to a more demanding career once the kids are middle school-aged. Though a lot of work, I love our large family and wouldn't change a thing.

I wasn't even married when I was 28. Should I have gotten knocked up by a bunch of guys just so I could get pregnant before I was "too old" according to you?

28 was too old for me. Why are you so defensive? You can get knocked up by whomever you wish. For my 4 kids, I stuck with one guy (my hubby). Stop being so insecure about your choices......you're my #1 complaint about older moms....so damn sensitive.

I'm not sensitive. I actually LIKE being an older mom b/c I don't feel the need to breed like a rabbit and surround myself with children to fill a void. Once you hit a certain age, you just chill out and relax. It is what it is. And with my two unplanned children, I know for a fact that I wasn't necessarily selfish in having them.

You really have an ugly, on the defensive response style and you make assumptions about why some women would have children at a younger age than others. The poster to whom you responded was only sharing her feelings about why she was glad she had children at a younger age. She wasn't critical of others. Why are you?

Agreed. You are really, really mean. Why on earth would you suggest that because she had her kids young she felt the need to "fill a void"? Or "breed like a rabbit"?

I had my kids young as well. And just like women who choose to wait until they are older, I had my reasons. I didn't want to risk all the problems with fertility and fetal abnormalities associated with having children later. It's a very valid concern.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a young Mom (the poster with 4 kids...I'm 31). #4 was delivered when I was 28...and I felt that was too old!! I definitely didn't want to be pregnant after age 30. Though my situation is far from ideal, I prefer the easier career route while kids are younger and THEN switching to a more demanding career once the kids are middle school-aged. Though a lot of work, I love our large family and wouldn't change a thing.

I wasn't even married when I was 28. Should I have gotten knocked up by a bunch of guys just so I could get pregnant before I was "too old" according to you?

28 was too old for me. Why are you so defensive? You can get knocked up by whomever you wish. For my 4 kids, I stuck with one guy (my hubby). Stop being so insecure about your choices......you're my #1 complaint about older moms....so damn sensitive.

I'm not sensitive. I actually LIKE being an older mom b/c I don't feel the need to breed like a rabbit and surround myself with children to fill a void. Once you hit a certain age, you just chill out and relax. It is what it is. And with my two unplanned children, I know for a fact that I wasn't necessarily selfish in having them.

You really have an ugly, on the defensive response style and you make assumptions about why some women would have children at a younger age than others. The poster to whom you responded was only sharing her feelings about why she was glad she had children at a younger age. She wasn't critical of others. Why are you?

+1. Such an unnecessary attack.

Agreed. You are really, really mean. Why on earth would you suggest that because she had her kids young she felt the need to "fill a void"? Or "breed like a rabbit"?

I had my kids young as well. And just like women who choose to wait until they are older, I had my reasons. I didn't want to risk all the problems with fertility and fetal abnormalities associated with having children later. It's a very valid concern.