How old were you when you had your first baby and how many did you have?

[Anonymous]

Got married at 36
39 for #1
40 for #2

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Anonymous wrote:PP- If this is not too personal, would you mind sharing if you had "help" conceiving #4 @ age 45 (Or was the baby conceived at 44, delivered at age 45?) I am single, ttc #1 at age 43, and have been unsuccessful thus far...with "help." Thanks! =) Any other 40+ conceptions want to chime in??

#1 @ 29
#2 @32
and natural shocking blessing: #3 @ 42.
FWIW, my docs insisted that the crazy (sometimes scary) statistics of increased trouble conceiving after age 35 or 40 or whatever age (and increased risk of birth defects), relate to moms with no prior successful pregnancies. So when you see the 40+ moms here, my guess is that most already have children or that they used intervention. Not great news to share, but I thought it might help put things in perspective.

[Anonymous]

Another young mom here. To answer PPs, I met my DH in DC after graduating from university. I was married at 24 and had kiddo #1 at 25. I'm starting to get the itch for another one (I'm 27) but will hold off until I finish the MA I am pursuing. We might stop at 2... we might not.

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7.54

Thanks. That was me who asked.

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I have a question. How did all the people wherever you are from meet their spouses so young? I didn't even meet DH until I was 27

I met my husband when we were 15. We started dating at 16. We dated through high school and college. We got married our senior year of college. I had my first baby at 22. We have five kids and have been married 25 years.

[Anonymous]

#1 25
#2 28
#3 30

I got married when I was really young...right out of University. I was 22.

[Anonymous]

#1 at age 31
#2 at age 37

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Anonymous wrote:where do all the moms who started in their 20s live? Because I don't know many - we always feel like the youngest parents in our daughter's classes.

here. live in DC. was 28 with #1 and 32 with #2, and I often feel like I got knocked up as a teenager in this area.

haha - EXACTLY my point when I asked this question. It also doesn't help that I look pretty young and dress in jeans and t-shirts pretty much every day.

I was 24 with #1. Married at 23, divorced at 25. I'm 27 now. However, I finished undergrad at 20, so I've always done things 'early' My original plan was to have 4 by 30, but the divorce knocked that plan out of the water. I still want 4, but will settle for 3. I don't really want to be having kids past 35, esp since it would make DS much older than his siblings. If I'm not in a relationship by 30, I'll be looking into adoption or sperm donors.

And talk about feeling like a teenager, try being a single mom in your 20s. Someone at the farmer's market the other day asked me what grade I was in and if DS was my brother. I get looks and comments often. It surprises me when I see the glance at my ring finger, then the look at my face, DS's face and then back at my ring finger and then the "hmmm" look like they just can't figure it out, esp if I'm wearing work clothes. Apparently, if I'm a 'young' single mother, I'm not supposed to be also be a professional.

[Anonymous]

I was 30 when my first and only was born. I'm a single parent and can't afford another one

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where do all the moms who started in their 20s live? Because I don't know many - we always feel like the youngest parents in our daughter's classes.

Before we moved to the D.C. area, I didn't know anyone who had kids after about 35....and even that was considered a little old. I think most of us just didn't want to worry about the increased risk of abnormalities with the baby, infertility, or maternal health problems that come with having babies after about 35.

I have a question. How did all the people wherever you are from meet their spouses so young? I didn't even meet DH until I was 27.

High school. Dated throughout college and married at 23, first baby at 26, second baby at nearly 28 and third baby is on it's way (I'll be 31 soon). We always feel like the youngest parents at our son's preschool and their other classes, too.

No one I know is remotely the same person they were in high school. I don't think most people can count on meeting their lifelong mate prior to age 18.

PP here - didn't say it was common, but she asked and I answered.

[Anonymous]

Curious about those of you who started having in your mid-late 30s whether there is an age difference with you and your spouse. We are expecting our first, late thirties mom, mid forties dad feels like he is going to be the oldest dad on the planet. Any other first-time mid-late 40s dads out there?

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Anonymous wrote:Curious about those of you who started having in your mid-late 30s whether there is an age difference with you and your spouse. We are expecting our first, late thirties mom, mid forties dad feels like he is going to be the oldest dad on the planet. Any other first-time mid-late 40s dads out there?

Yes on the age difference. I had my first at 36 and second at 38. My husband is two years younger. Neither one of us was ready until we started. We got married when I was 29 and he was 27.

[Anonymous]

30 with my first and hoping to have another in a few years (34/35)

[Anonymous]

My schedule was a bit different than much of this area.

Married at 21, right after college graduation
#1 at 23
#2 at 25
and we're done

Sometimes I wish we'd waited and had more time just for the two of us...but the youngest will graduate when I'm only 43, so we will have plenty of time for us after they're grown.

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Anonymous wrote:where do all the moms who started in their 20s live? Because I don't know many - we always feel like the youngest parents in our daughter's classes.

I am curious as well as I neither know nor see on the playground any moms in their early 20s.

I don't know ANY who started in their early 20s - we actually don't know many who started before 30. We had our first at 28 and always seem like the young'uns among the parents anywhere.

THIS!

I'm an early 20s mom and it took a long time for moms at the P Street Park to realize I'm not a nanny. I moved out of Logan Circle but I never saw a mom even close to my age.