Cities you don’t want your kids to live in

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Anonymous wrote:Dallas, Atlanta, Charlotte- all sprawl, no charm

idiot

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Anonymous wrote:Dallas, Atlanta, Charlotte- all sprawl, no charm

Atlanta has no charm? The ATL? M’kay.

I love Atlanta. That Poster is dumb.

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Anonymous wrote:Dallas, Atlanta, Charlotte- all sprawl, no charm

Atlanta has no charm? The ATL? M’kay.

I love Atlanta. That Poster is dumb.

Agreed. Emory and GA Tech both seem like great places to go to college.

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Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

NP. It's not really a laughing matter, because women in some of those states are dying. There are multiple health complications that can arise in a system prioritizing a potentially viable pregnancy over the life of a woman, independent of that woman seeking an abortion. Even if you feel a college student with an outside support network is unlikely to be affected, you can't judge a parent for choosing to avoid that out of caution or out of principle.

Do you love abortions?

How did that miscarriage go for you? How about that IVF procedure? What about that pregnancy due to rape? How was that for you?

I’ll ask again. Do you love abortions?

You will get the same answer as before. You seem very inexperienced and ignorant about reproductive healthcare.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it reasonable to strike a college off your kid’s list based on it being in a city you don’t want them to live in? Like a place you don’t want to visit or return to or don’t like the weather?

It's not your life or your choice.

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Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

NP. It's not really a laughing matter, because women in some of those states are dying. There are multiple health complications that can arise in a system prioritizing a potentially viable pregnancy over the life of a woman, independent of that woman seeking an abortion. Even if you feel a college student with an outside support network is unlikely to be affected, you can't judge a parent for choosing to avoid that out of caution or out of principle.

Do you love abortions?

I'm a nurse. Abortions are a very important part of women's healthcare. Pregnancy can kill people. The ability to access abortion services to terminate a dangerous pregnancy is very important for women's health. Sometimes the fetus dies in utero. Abortion services are important for ending a failed pregnancy as early as possible so that women don't carry a dead fetus any longer than necessary.

I love abortions because I love the fact that women don't have to die unecessarily.

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Anonymous wrote:Detroit-Chicago-Indianapolis-St Louis -- that whole upper Midwest area is a huge dead zone. Why go to college there if everyone of means has absolutely zero interest of living in that region? It's pointless. That region is never coming back, no matter how what the woke press claims.

By all means, do not visit us in Chicago

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Anonymous wrote:Detroit-Chicago-Indianapolis-St Louis -- that whole upper Midwest area is a huge dead zone. Why go to college there if everyone of means has absolutely zero interest of living in that region? It's pointless. That region is never coming back, no matter how what the woke press claims.

By all means, do not visit us in Chicago

The people I know in Cleveland, Columbus, Ann Arbor, Chicago and Indianapolis seem to be living pretty good lives. Affordable housing, nice people, professional opportunities.

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Anonymous wrote:Detroit-Chicago-Indianapolis-St Louis -- that whole upper Midwest area is a huge dead zone. Why go to college there if everyone of means has absolutely zero interest of living in that region? It's pointless. That region is never coming back, no matter how what the woke press claims.

By all means, do not visit us in Chicago

The people I know in Cleveland, Columbus, Ann Arbor, Chicago and Indianapolis seem to be living pretty good lives. Affordable housing, nice people, professional opportunities.

Add Pittsburgh and Minneapolis

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After visiting a lot of campuses with DC we both found several locales less attractive than we had imagined— expected to love Vanderbilt (but sadly did not like the campus all that much), Dartmouth was filled with great people but too small, Yale/New Haven much too rude/unsafe, UPenn felt pretty but unsafe. Harvard was too something, touristy? Didn’t expect to like Columbia but that part of NYC was lovely & the Columbia campus was great, Auburn was delightful, the perfect college town. UNC was very nice. Duke doesn’t have a fun neighborhood beyond the campus. Clemson a little rural but good vibes. Expected to find Ann Arbor too cold & grey but after a visit decided UMich would be the perfect fit.
My point is this: you don’t really know what you’ll like until you visit. And have your kid hang out with some current students if possible for a few hours not just tour with the parents. They need to see it without you following along. UMich wasn’t even fully on the list until the campus visit; Ann Arbor is a neat place (but surprisingly expensive). DC could never have predicted it would become the one. I’m looking forward to getting to know Michigan, planning a football weekend visit.
Everyone will view colleges differently — my niece had to pick her college during the pandemic & didn’t get to visit anywhere beforehand. I feel fortunate we were able to see a bunch of schools & made some happy road trip memories.

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Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

NP. It's not really a laughing matter, because women in some of those states are dying. There are multiple health complications that can arise in a system prioritizing a potentially viable pregnancy over the life of a woman, independent of that woman seeking an abortion. Even if you feel a college student with an outside support network is unlikely to be affected, you can't judge a parent for choosing to avoid that out of caution or out of principle.

Do you love abortions?

Less than you love women dying.

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Anonymous wrote:I strongly encourage kids to leave their comfort zone when going to college (within reason - I'm not sending my Jewish kid to Liberty or a Catholic kid to Yeshiva). It is part of the experience. I spent most of my life in and around NYC and know too many people who have never left the northeast corridor so have a very provincial view of the world.

And there are way too many people in the rest of America who are afraid of us northerners and the "big bad cities" and would be well served to spend some time in one of these places rather than going from their youth in small town Texas to Texas A&M for college.

Agreed. And FWIW, most people on this board seemed to be absolutely terrified of the South, not the North.

And as someone who was born and raised in the South, and now lives in a NE metro area, I am 100% certain that "y'all" are as geographically prejudiced as any small town Texan.

Informed, intelligent people are generally less prejudiced than isolated, ignorant people. And that runs both ways on Interstate 95

Amen. This is why professional firms like hiring well-educated southerners, regardless of where they get their degrees. They don’t have to teach them manners. Or, apparently, broader-mindedness. (Same is generally true midwesterners and westerners.). It is pretty obvious who has lived in many places around the U.S., and who has not. It erodes provincialism of every stripe.

LOL. False.

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Anonymous wrote:After visiting a lot of campuses with DC we both found several locales less attractive than we had imagined— expected to love Vanderbilt (but sadly did not like the campus all that much), Dartmouth was filled with great people but too small, Yale/New Haven much too rude/unsafe, UPenn felt pretty but unsafe. Harvard was too something, touristy? Didn’t expect to like Columbia but that part of NYC was lovely & the Columbia campus was great, Auburn was delightful, the perfect college town. UNC was very nice. Duke doesn’t have a fun neighborhood beyond the campus. Clemson a little rural but good vibes. Expected to find Ann Arbor too cold & grey but after a visit decided UMich would be the perfect fit.
My point is this: you don’t really know what you’ll like until you visit. And have your kid hang out with some current students if possible for a few hours not just tour with the parents. They need to see it without you following along. UMich wasn’t even fully on the list until the campus visit; Ann Arbor is a neat place (but surprisingly expensive). DC could never have predicted it would become the one. I’m looking forward to getting to know Michigan, planning a football weekend visit.
Everyone will view colleges differently — my niece had to pick her college during the pandemic & didn’t get to visit anywhere beforehand. I feel fortunate we were able to see a bunch of schools & made some happy road trip memories.

Great post. Thanks. I don't 100% agree with your assessments of different places but they are reasonable and fair and that's the beauty of the process - something for everyone - unlike many others here, your reasons for not liking places are thoughtful and not narrow-minded stupidity.

And building on this (you kind of said it already), it is really helpful to see a school when students are there. The vibe is completely different. This is obviously not always possible as for many the summer is when they have the most free time, but take advantage of breaks during the year to visit when possible. The energy level is very different.

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Anonymous wrote:After visiting a lot of campuses with DC we both found several locales less attractive than we had imagined— expected to love Vanderbilt (but sadly did not like the campus all that much), Dartmouth was filled with great people but too small, Yale/New Haven much too rude/unsafe, UPenn felt pretty but unsafe. Harvard was too something, touristy? Didn’t expect to like Columbia but that part of NYC was lovely & the Columbia campus was great, Auburn was delightful, the perfect college town. UNC was very nice. Duke doesn’t have a fun neighborhood beyond the campus. Clemson a little rural but good vibes. Expected to find Ann Arbor too cold & grey but after a visit decided UMich would be the perfect fit.
My point is this: you don’t really know what you’ll like until you visit. And have your kid hang out with some current students if possible for a few hours not just tour with the parents. They need to see it without you following along. UMich wasn’t even fully on the list until the campus visit; Ann Arbor is a neat place (but surprisingly expensive). DC could never have predicted it would become the one. I’m looking forward to getting to know Michigan, planning a football weekend visit.
Everyone will view colleges differently — my niece had to pick her college during the pandemic & didn’t get to visit anywhere beforehand. I feel fortunate we were able to see a bunch of schools & made some happy road trip memories.

You should be commended for going into this process with a true open mind. Many people CLAIM to be open-minded, then in one sneering sentence they dismiss the entire Midwest as “rustbelt” or the entire South as misogynistic.

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Anonymous wrote:How's Tulane and that area New Orleans? Not talking 9th ward or anything.

It's literally called Uptown. You'll be fine.

What does it being called Uptown have to do with it. If you define uptown NYC as the area north of Columbia, it is likely not where you would want to live (that is a very broad generalization before people attack me, but I'm guessing none of you would want your college student living in most of those areas, with some exceptions).

The term "uptown" generally refers to a more residential and affluent area of a city, which is exactly where Tulane is. You're telling me you wouldn't want to live in the Upper East Side or Upper West Side of NYC? Because that's what their uptown is. You're referring to Harlem and Washington Heights.

Clearly you have never been to Chicago - their Uptown neighborhood is not known for being a safe neighborhood