Not inviting kids.

[Anonymous]

This is silly. He's having two weddings. A destination wedding is selfish and to me screams we don't want you there. I would not go. The kids are family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Declining the invitation is fine. Wheedling about the baby is not.

No rational mother would want to take a 3mo to a group event anyway, especially at the tail end of cold/flu/COVID season.

Decline, that is absolutely fine. But making this such a production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet is beyond stupid.

And yes, I breastfed two babies, and had bottle refusal with the first. Even with bottle refusal, I would have stopped by my brother’s local wedding reception for an hour or two while DH tried a bottle at home. It would have been a worthwhile opportunity for bottle practice, and if it didn’t work, I’d just feed when I got home.

I went back and read op's original post and I don't see "production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet".

She asked if there was any flexibility-she didn't demand it or throw a fit.

She posted here for a sanity check like plenty of people do on things ranging from work disputes, college visits, clothes, and yes, family visits.

The OP was paranoid and delusional. First she played the victim by an unsubstantiated comment about how the brother doesn’t like her very much, then she claims his no kid policy is a direct attack on her children.

I'm going to trust the op over a random Internet person when she says her brother doesn't like her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a selfish brat.

Many couples exclude children from weddings, it is extremely common.

Furthermore i wouldn’t want a baby and toddler at ANY intimate dinner at a nice elegant restaurant especially if it were my wedding dinner.

BTW iI am a parent of two young children and invited kids to my wedding. Everyone has different preferences and the wedding couple get to decide.

That's really rude. Op is not being a selfish brat. She's trying to figure out how to make sure her family including a nursing baby of a few months is cared for. She's thinking of them and that doesn't make her a brat.

Op also never said it was a nice elegant restaurant. It could be a very family friendly place for all we know.

Whatever it is, her kids aren’t included. So stay home and care for them since apparently the husband is incapable.

I've never met a husband who could nurse.

I agree she should stay home and skip the events.

lol so you don’t have experience with freezer supplies and putting BM in a bottle.

My kid had bottle refusal around 3 months which was unfun. We got him off it but it took quite a bit of work.

Breastfeeding in the nurse heavy days does also mean you get uncomfortable after a few hours of not pumping or nursing.

A few hours? So OP can easily go to either the court house or the dinner, comfortably, for an hour or two. I still don’t get how this is a huge imposition. She just wants her kids included, just cuz. Not because this is logistically difficult. It’s not like she even RSVPd 2 for herself and the nursing baby. She went all in for the family of 4. Rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Declining the invitation is fine. Wheedling about the baby is not.

No rational mother would want to take a 3mo to a group event anyway, especially at the tail end of cold/flu/COVID season.

Decline, that is absolutely fine. But making this such a production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet is beyond stupid.

And yes, I breastfed two babies, and had bottle refusal with the first. Even with bottle refusal, I would have stopped by my brother’s local wedding reception for an hour or two while DH tried a bottle at home. It would have been a worthwhile opportunity for bottle practice, and if it didn’t work, I’d just feed when I got home.

I went back and read op's original post and I don't see "production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet".

She asked if there was any flexibility-she didn't demand it or throw a fit.

She posted here for a sanity check like plenty of people do on things ranging from work disputes, college visits, clothes, and yes, family visits.

The OP was paranoid and delusional. First she played the victim by an unsubstantiated comment about how the brother doesn’t like her very much, then she claims his no kid policy is a direct attack on her children.

I'm going to trust the op over a random Internet person when she says her brother doesn't like her.

It’s because she’s taking all of this as a personal attack. Like her brother could have had a different type of wedding that would be more family friendly but didn’t just to stick it to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a selfish brat.

Many couples exclude children from weddings, it is extremely common.

Furthermore i wouldn’t want a baby and toddler at ANY intimate dinner at a nice elegant restaurant especially if it were my wedding dinner.

BTW iI am a parent of two young children and invited kids to my wedding. Everyone has different preferences and the wedding couple get to decide.

That's really rude. Op is not being a selfish brat. She's trying to figure out how to make sure her family including a nursing baby of a few months is cared for. She's thinking of them and that doesn't make her a brat.

Op also never said it was a nice elegant restaurant. It could be a very family friendly place for all we know.

Whatever it is, her kids aren’t included. So stay home and care for them since apparently the husband is incapable.

I've never met a husband who could nurse.

I agree she should stay home and skip the events.

lol so you don’t have experience with freezer supplies and putting BM in a bottle.

My kid had bottle refusal around 3 months which was unfun. We got him off it but it took quite a bit of work.

Breastfeeding in the nurse heavy days does also mean you get uncomfortable after a few hours of not pumping or nursing.

A few hours? So OP can easily go to either the court house or the dinner, comfortably, for an hour or two. I still don’t get how this is a huge imposition. She just wants her kids included, just cuz. Not because this is logistically difficult. It’s not like she even RSVPd 2 for herself and the nursing baby. She went all in for the family of 4. Rude.

Yes, even for a few hours.

Op was not rude. She rsvp-ed for 4 because no one at that point said no kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Declining the invitation is fine. Wheedling about the baby is not.

No rational mother would want to take a 3mo to a group event anyway, especially at the tail end of cold/flu/COVID season.

Decline, that is absolutely fine. But making this such a production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet is beyond stupid.

And yes, I breastfed two babies, and had bottle refusal with the first. Even with bottle refusal, I would have stopped by my brother’s local wedding reception for an hour or two while DH tried a bottle at home. It would have been a worthwhile opportunity for bottle practice, and if it didn’t work, I’d just feed when I got home.

I went back and read op's original post and I don't see "production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet".

She asked if there was any flexibility-she didn't demand it or throw a fit.

She posted here for a sanity check like plenty of people do on things ranging from work disputes, college visits, clothes, and yes, family visits.

The OP was paranoid and delusional. First she played the victim by an unsubstantiated comment about how the brother doesn’t like her very much, then she claims his no kid policy is a direct attack on her children.

I'm going to trust the op over a random Internet person when she says her brother doesn't like her.

It’s because she’s taking all of this as a personal attack. Like her brother could have had a different type of wedding that would be more family friendly but didn’t just to stick it to her.

I understand where she is coming from. With a newborn he's making it very difficult for her to attend. He's being a bad host.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a selfish brat.

Many couples exclude children from weddings, it is extremely common.

Furthermore i wouldn’t want a baby and toddler at ANY intimate dinner at a nice elegant restaurant especially if it were my wedding dinner.

BTW iI am a parent of two young children and invited kids to my wedding. Everyone has different preferences and the wedding couple get to decide.

That's really rude. Op is not being a selfish brat. She's trying to figure out how to make sure her family including a nursing baby of a few months is cared for. She's thinking of them and that doesn't make her a brat.

Op also never said it was a nice elegant restaurant. It could be a very family friendly place for all we know.

Whatever it is, her kids aren’t included. So stay home and care for them since apparently the husband is incapable.

I've never met a husband who could nurse.

I agree she should stay home and skip the events.

lol so you don’t have experience with freezer supplies and putting BM in a bottle.

My kid had bottle refusal around 3 months which was unfun. We got him off it but it took quite a bit of work.

Breastfeeding in the nurse heavy days does also mean you get uncomfortable after a few hours of not pumping or nursing.

A few hours? So OP can easily go to either the court house or the dinner, comfortably, for an hour or two. I still don’t get how this is a huge imposition. She just wants her kids included, just cuz. Not because this is logistically difficult. It’s not like she even RSVPd 2 for herself and the nursing baby. She went all in for the family of 4. Rude.

Yes, even for a few hours.

Op was not rude. She rsvp-ed for 4 because no one at that point said no kids.

Well, now she knows. I guess this family is a little different that this was all a verbal invitation to a wedding anyway issued by the parents of the groom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Declining the invitation is fine. Wheedling about the baby is not.

No rational mother would want to take a 3mo to a group event anyway, especially at the tail end of cold/flu/COVID season.

Decline, that is absolutely fine. But making this such a production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet is beyond stupid.

And yes, I breastfed two babies, and had bottle refusal with the first. Even with bottle refusal, I would have stopped by my brother’s local wedding reception for an hour or two while DH tried a bottle at home. It would have been a worthwhile opportunity for bottle practice, and if it didn’t work, I’d just feed when I got home.

I went back and read op's original post and I don't see "production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet".

She asked if there was any flexibility-she didn't demand it or throw a fit.

She posted here for a sanity check like plenty of people do on things ranging from work disputes, college visits, clothes, and yes, family visits.

The OP was paranoid and delusional. First she played the victim by an unsubstantiated comment about how the brother doesn’t like her very much, then she claims his no kid policy is a direct attack on her children.

I'm going to trust the op over a random Internet person when she says her brother doesn't like her.

It’s because she’s taking all of this as a personal attack. Like her brother could have had a different type of wedding that would be more family friendly but didn’t just to stick it to her.

I understand where she is coming from. With a newborn he's making it very difficult for her to attend. He's being a bad host.

He’s not hosting. His parents are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a selfish brat.

Many couples exclude children from weddings, it is extremely common.

Furthermore i wouldn’t want a baby and toddler at ANY intimate dinner at a nice elegant restaurant especially if it were my wedding dinner.

BTW iI am a parent of two young children and invited kids to my wedding. Everyone has different preferences and the wedding couple get to decide.

That's really rude. Op is not being a selfish brat. She's trying to figure out how to make sure her family including a nursing baby of a few months is cared for. She's thinking of them and that doesn't make her a brat.

Op also never said it was a nice elegant restaurant. It could be a very family friendly place for all we know.

Whatever it is, her kids aren’t included. So stay home and care for them since apparently the husband is incapable.

I've never met a husband who could nurse.

I agree she should stay home and skip the events.

lol so you don’t have experience with freezer supplies and putting BM in a bottle.

My kid had bottle refusal around 3 months which was unfun. We got him off it but it took quite a bit of work.

Breastfeeding in the nurse heavy days does also mean you get uncomfortable after a few hours of not pumping or nursing.

A few hours? So OP can easily go to either the court house or the dinner, comfortably, for an hour or two. I still don’t get how this is a huge imposition. She just wants her kids included, just cuz. Not because this is logistically difficult. It’s not like she even RSVPd 2 for herself and the nursing baby. She went all in for the family of 4. Rude.

If op even invited to the courthouse part? She says there will be a dinner and that her parents invited her. Nothing about her brother actually inviting her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Declining the invitation is fine. Wheedling about the baby is not.

No rational mother would want to take a 3mo to a group event anyway, especially at the tail end of cold/flu/COVID season.

Decline, that is absolutely fine. But making this such a production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet is beyond stupid.

And yes, I breastfed two babies, and had bottle refusal with the first. Even with bottle refusal, I would have stopped by my brother’s local wedding reception for an hour or two while DH tried a bottle at home. It would have been a worthwhile opportunity for bottle practice, and if it didn’t work, I’d just feed when I got home.

I went back and read op's original post and I don't see "production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet".

She asked if there was any flexibility-she didn't demand it or throw a fit.

She posted here for a sanity check like plenty of people do on things ranging from work disputes, college visits, clothes, and yes, family visits.

The OP was paranoid and delusional. First she played the victim by an unsubstantiated comment about how the brother doesn’t like her very much, then she claims his no kid policy is a direct attack on her children.

I'm going to trust the op over a random Internet person when she says her brother doesn't like her.

It’s because she’s taking all of this as a personal attack. Like her brother could have had a different type of wedding that would be more family friendly but didn’t just to stick it to her.

I understand where she is coming from. With a newborn he's making it very difficult for her to attend. He's being a bad host.

He’s not hosting. His parents are.

It's his wedding. He is absolutely deciding who is invited. He's hiding behind his parents like a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a selfish brat.

Many couples exclude children from weddings, it is extremely common.

Furthermore i wouldn’t want a baby and toddler at ANY intimate dinner at a nice elegant restaurant especially if it were my wedding dinner.

BTW iI am a parent of two young children and invited kids to my wedding. Everyone has different preferences and the wedding couple get to decide.

That's really rude. Op is not being a selfish brat. She's trying to figure out how to make sure her family including a nursing baby of a few months is cared for. She's thinking of them and that doesn't make her a brat.

Op also never said it was a nice elegant restaurant. It could be a very family friendly place for all we know.

Whatever it is, her kids aren’t included. So stay home and care for them since apparently the husband is incapable.

I've never met a husband who could nurse.

I agree she should stay home and skip the events.

lol so you don’t have experience with freezer supplies and putting BM in a bottle.

My kid had bottle refusal around 3 months which was unfun. We got him off it but it took quite a bit of work.

Breastfeeding in the nurse heavy days does also mean you get uncomfortable after a few hours of not pumping or nursing.

A few hours? So OP can easily go to either the court house or the dinner, comfortably, for an hour or two. I still don’t get how this is a huge imposition. She just wants her kids included, just cuz. Not because this is logistically difficult. It’s not like she even RSVPd 2 for herself and the nursing baby. She went all in for the family of 4. Rude.

Yes, even for a few hours.

Op was not rude. She rsvp-ed for 4 because no one at that point said no kids.

Well, now she knows. I guess this family is a little different that this was all a verbal invitation to a wedding anyway issued by the parents of the groom.

Exactly. This whole wedding invite thing is very unusual...all verbal, not done by the couple getting married.

Frankly op, I'd be thrilled to skip this mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Declining the invitation is fine. Wheedling about the baby is not.

No rational mother would want to take a 3mo to a group event anyway, especially at the tail end of cold/flu/COVID season.

Decline, that is absolutely fine. But making this such a production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet is beyond stupid.

And yes, I breastfed two babies, and had bottle refusal with the first. Even with bottle refusal, I would have stopped by my brother’s local wedding reception for an hour or two while DH tried a bottle at home. It would have been a worthwhile opportunity for bottle practice, and if it didn’t work, I’d just feed when I got home.

I went back and read op's original post and I don't see "production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet".

She asked if there was any flexibility-she didn't demand it or throw a fit.

She posted here for a sanity check like plenty of people do on things ranging from work disputes, college visits, clothes, and yes, family visits.

The OP was paranoid and delusional. First she played the victim by an unsubstantiated comment about how the brother doesn’t like her very much, then she claims his no kid policy is a direct attack on her children.

I'm going to trust the op over a random Internet person when she says her brother doesn't like her.

It’s because she’s taking all of this as a personal attack. Like her brother could have had a different type of wedding that would be more family friendly but didn’t just to stick it to her.

I understand where she is coming from. With a newborn he's making it very difficult for her to attend. He's being a bad host.

He’s not hosting. His parents are.

It's his wedding. He is absolutely deciding who is invited. He's hiding behind his parents like a child.

You have no idea. Maybe he didn’t want to do anything after and his parents insisted on this small dinner. Which is why they are inviting and hosting. The bride’s parents don’t seem involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a selfish brat.

Many couples exclude children from weddings, it is extremely common.

Furthermore i wouldn’t want a baby and toddler at ANY intimate dinner at a nice elegant restaurant especially if it were my wedding dinner.

BTW iI am a parent of two young children and invited kids to my wedding. Everyone has different preferences and the wedding couple get to decide.

That's really rude. Op is not being a selfish brat. She's trying to figure out how to make sure her family including a nursing baby of a few months is cared for. She's thinking of them and that doesn't make her a brat.

Op also never said it was a nice elegant restaurant. It could be a very family friendly place for all we know.

Whatever it is, her kids aren’t included. So stay home and care for them since apparently the husband is incapable.

I've never met a husband who could nurse.

I agree she should stay home and skip the events.

lol so you don’t have experience with freezer supplies and putting BM in a bottle.

My kid had bottle refusal around 3 months which was unfun. We got him off it but it took quite a bit of work.

Breastfeeding in the nurse heavy days does also mean you get uncomfortable after a few hours of not pumping or nursing.

A few hours? So OP can easily go to either the court house or the dinner, comfortably, for an hour or two. I still don’t get how this is a huge imposition. She just wants her kids included, just cuz. Not because this is logistically difficult. It’s not like she even RSVPd 2 for herself and the nursing baby. She went all in for the family of 4. Rude.

Yes, even for a few hours.

Op was not rude. She rsvp-ed for 4 because no one at that point said no kids.

Well, now she knows. I guess this family is a little different that this was all a verbal invitation to a wedding anyway issued by the parents of the groom.

Exactly. This whole wedding invite thing is very unusual...all verbal, not done by the couple getting married.

Frankly op, I'd be thrilled to skip this mess.

Plot twist. The parents of the groom are the ones who want it to be kid free not the couple getting married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Declining the invitation is fine. Wheedling about the baby is not.

No rational mother would want to take a 3mo to a group event anyway, especially at the tail end of cold/flu/COVID season.

Decline, that is absolutely fine. But making this such a production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet is beyond stupid.

And yes, I breastfed two babies, and had bottle refusal with the first. Even with bottle refusal, I would have stopped by my brother’s local wedding reception for an hour or two while DH tried a bottle at home. It would have been a worthwhile opportunity for bottle practice, and if it didn’t work, I’d just feed when I got home.

I went back and read op's original post and I don't see "production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet".

She asked if there was any flexibility-she didn't demand it or throw a fit.

She posted here for a sanity check like plenty of people do on things ranging from work disputes, college visits, clothes, and yes, family visits.

The OP was paranoid and delusional. First she played the victim by an unsubstantiated comment about how the brother doesn’t like her very much, then she claims his no kid policy is a direct attack on her children.

I'm going to trust the op over a random Internet person when she says her brother doesn't like her.

It’s because she’s taking all of this as a personal attack. Like her brother could have had a different type of wedding that would be more family friendly but didn’t just to stick it to her.

I understand where she is coming from. With a newborn he's making it very difficult for her to attend. He's being a bad host.

He’s not hosting. His parents are.

It's his wedding. He is absolutely deciding who is invited. He's hiding behind his parents like a child.

You have no idea. Maybe he didn’t want to do anything after and his parents insisted on this small dinner. Which is why they are inviting and hosting. The bride’s parents don’t seem involved.

On the other hand if he didn't want to do anything after and can't stand up to his parents maybe he's not mature enough to get married.

Also wonder if the bride's parents are involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Declining the invitation is fine. Wheedling about the baby is not.

No rational mother would want to take a 3mo to a group event anyway, especially at the tail end of cold/flu/COVID season.

Decline, that is absolutely fine. But making this such a production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet is beyond stupid.

And yes, I breastfed two babies, and had bottle refusal with the first. Even with bottle refusal, I would have stopped by my brother’s local wedding reception for an hour or two while DH tried a bottle at home. It would have been a worthwhile opportunity for bottle practice, and if it didn’t work, I’d just feed when I got home.

I went back and read op's original post and I don't see "production and whining and wheedling and running to the Internet".

She asked if there was any flexibility-she didn't demand it or throw a fit.

She posted here for a sanity check like plenty of people do on things ranging from work disputes, college visits, clothes, and yes, family visits.

The OP was paranoid and delusional. First she played the victim by an unsubstantiated comment about how the brother doesn’t like her very much, then she claims his no kid policy is a direct attack on her children.

I'm going to trust the op over a random Internet person when she says her brother doesn't like her.

It’s because she’s taking all of this as a personal attack. Like her brother could have had a different type of wedding that would be more family friendly but didn’t just to stick it to her.

I understand where she is coming from. With a newborn he's making it very difficult for her to attend. He's being a bad host.

He’s not hosting. His parents are.

It's his wedding. He is absolutely deciding who is invited. He's hiding behind his parents like a child.

You have no idea. Maybe he didn’t want to do anything after and his parents insisted on this small dinner. Which is why they are inviting and hosting. The bride’s parents don’t seem involved.

On the other hand if he didn't want to do anything after and can't stand up to his parents maybe he's not mature enough to get married.

Also wonder if the bride's parents are involved.

Maybe it wasn’t worth it or they didn’t want to spend the money and save for their small destination wedding. Sounds smart.