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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a child, I was bought a gerbil as a birthday present. I found it early and tried to hold it but it jumped out of my hands and the dog killed it. I stuffed it back in the cage, blood trickling out of its mouth, and never told my parents. They thought it was defective and returned it to the pet store.

A childhood bff had a gerbil that escaped, and she was kneeling down to grab it and accidentally kneeled on it, killing it. So sad!

Thank you for understanding!

If you feel any guilt or shame about what you did and hiding it from your parents, please forgive yourself and let it go if you can.

You were a child and what you did is, in my opinion, a completely normal response to a traumatic situation.

I was blamed by my mother for not feeding or giving water to my hamster and killing it. I was 6 or 7 at the time and I simply forgot. I felt tremendous guilt.

She should have done a better job supervising my care for my pet.

My secret is that I love my mother (she has many great qualities), but also hate and resent her immensely for being an emotionally immature parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a child, I was bought a gerbil as a birthday present. I found it early and tried to hold it but it jumped out of my hands and the dog killed it. I stuffed it back in the cage, blood trickling out of its mouth, and never told my parents. They thought it was defective and returned it to the pet store.

A childhood bff had a gerbil that escaped, and she was kneeling down to grab it and accidentally kneeled on it, killing it. So sad!

Thank you for understanding!

If you feel any guilt or shame about what you did and hiding it from your parents, please forgive yourself and let it go if you can.

You were a child and what you did is, in my opinion, a completely normal response to a traumatic situation.

I was blamed by my mother for not feeding or giving water to my hamster and killing it. I was 6 or 7 at the time and I simply forgot. I felt tremendous guilt.

She should have done a better job supervising my care for my pet.

My secret is that I love my mother (she has many great qualities), but also hate and resent her immensely for being an emotionally immature parent.

This sounds demonic--you hate your mother for something you neglected to do?

This "emotional immature parent" book has ruined a lot of minds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a child, I was bought a gerbil as a birthday present. I found it early and tried to hold it but it jumped out of my hands and the dog killed it. I stuffed it back in the cage, blood trickling out of its mouth, and never told my parents. They thought it was defective and returned it to the pet store.

A childhood bff had a gerbil that escaped, and she was kneeling down to grab it and accidentally kneeled on it, killing it. So sad!

Thank you for understanding!

If you feel any guilt or shame about what you did and hiding it from your parents, please forgive yourself and let it go if you can.

You were a child and what you did is, in my opinion, a completely normal response to a traumatic situation.

I was blamed by my mother for not feeding or giving water to my hamster and killing it. I was 6 or 7 at the time and I simply forgot. I felt tremendous guilt.

She should have done a better job supervising my care for my pet.

My secret is that I love my mother (she has many great qualities), but also hate and resent her immensely for being an emotionally immature parent.

This is called splitting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH never leaves the house except to exercise. When he does, I snoop on his iPad (he thinks I don't know the password). I also sometimes go out to grab lunch without offering to get him any (I work, he doesn't, I have resentment). I also can only orgasm from self help.

I snoop around looking to see if my wife has any vibrators, erotica, or similar items. Sex happens once a month and it’s out of obligation. Seeking to confirm that she doesn’t masturbate as a replacement. She claims to have a low drives

What would you do if you found out she did masturbate? Pout, stomp your feet, hold your breath until she sexes you?

PS—she *is* masturbating.

Because all women masturbate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH never leaves the house except to exercise. When he does, I snoop on his iPad (he thinks I don't know the password). I also sometimes go out to grab lunch without offering to get him any (I work, he doesn't, I have resentment). I also can only orgasm from self help.

I snoop around looking to see if my wife has any vibrators, erotica, or similar items. Sex happens once a month and it’s out of obligation. Seeking to confirm that she doesn’t masturbate as a replacement. She claims to have a low drives

What would you do if you found out she did masturbate? Pout, stomp your feet, hold your breath until she sexes you?

PS—she *is* masturbating.

Because all women masturbate?

Most humans yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH never leaves the house except to exercise. When he does, I snoop on his iPad (he thinks I don't know the password). I also sometimes go out to grab lunch without offering to get him any (I work, he doesn't, I have resentment). I also can only orgasm from self help.

I snoop around looking to see if my wife has any vibrators, erotica, or similar items. Sex happens once a month and it’s out of obligation. Seeking to confirm that she doesn’t masturbate as a replacement. She claims to have a low drives

What would you do if you found out she did masturbate? Pout, stomp your feet, hold your breath until she sexes you?

PS—she *is* masturbating.

Because all women masturbate?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a child, I was bought a gerbil as a birthday present. I found it early and tried to hold it but it jumped out of my hands and the dog killed it. I stuffed it back in the cage, blood trickling out of its mouth, and never told my parents. They thought it was defective and returned it to the pet store.

A childhood bff had a gerbil that escaped, and she was kneeling down to grab it and accidentally kneeled on it, killing it. So sad!

Thank you for understanding!

If you feel any guilt or shame about what you did and hiding it from your parents, please forgive yourself and let it go if you can.

You were a child and what you did is, in my opinion, a completely normal response to a traumatic situation.

I was blamed by my mother for not feeding or giving water to my hamster and killing it. I was 6 or 7 at the time and I simply forgot. I felt tremendous guilt.

She should have done a better job supervising my care for my pet.

My secret is that I love my mother (she has many great qualities), but also hate and resent her immensely for being an emotionally immature parent.

This sounds demonic--you hate your mother for something you neglected to do?

This "emotional immature parent" book has ruined a lot of minds.

The pet thing is a teeny tiny thing — there are many other reasons.

Apologies for any confusion - I was replying to PP and sharing my secret in the same post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a child, I was bought a gerbil as a birthday present. I found it early and tried to hold it but it jumped out of my hands and the dog killed it. I stuffed it back in the cage, blood trickling out of its mouth, and never told my parents. They thought it was defective and returned it to the pet store.

A childhood bff had a gerbil that escaped, and she was kneeling down to grab it and accidentally kneeled on it, killing it. So sad!

Thank you for understanding!

If you feel any guilt or shame about what you did and hiding it from your parents, please forgive yourself and let it go if you can.

You were a child and what you did is, in my opinion, a completely normal response to a traumatic situation.

I was blamed by my mother for not feeding or giving water to my hamster and killing it. I was 6 or 7 at the time and I simply forgot. I felt tremendous guilt.

She should have done a better job supervising my care for my pet.

My secret is that I love my mother (she has many great qualities), but also hate and resent her immensely for being an emotionally immature parent.

This sounds demonic--you hate your mother for something you neglected to do?

This "emotional immature parent" book has ruined a lot of minds.

The pet thing is a teeny tiny thing — there are many other reasons.

Apologies for any confusion - I was replying to PP and sharing my secret in the same post.

There is no "confusion". You didn't make it a tiny thing in your post. Can't backtrack now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a child, I was bought a gerbil as a birthday present. I found it early and tried to hold it but it jumped out of my hands and the dog killed it. I stuffed it back in the cage, blood trickling out of its mouth, and never told my parents. They thought it was defective and returned it to the pet store.

A childhood bff had a gerbil that escaped, and she was kneeling down to grab it and accidentally kneeled on it, killing it. So sad!

Thank you for understanding!

If you feel any guilt or shame about what you did and hiding it from your parents, please forgive yourself and let it go if you can.

You were a child and what you did is, in my opinion, a completely normal response to a traumatic situation.

I was blamed by my mother for not feeding or giving water to my hamster and killing it. I was 6 or 7 at the time and I simply forgot. I felt tremendous guilt.

She should have done a better job supervising my care for my pet.

My secret is that I love my mother (she has many great qualities), but also hate and resent her immensely for being an emotionally immature parent.

This is called splitting.

Maybe not?

I think it’s common to have mixed or complicated feelings, especially towards family members — especially towards parents.

Different emotions can coexist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a child, I was bought a gerbil as a birthday present. I found it early and tried to hold it but it jumped out of my hands and the dog killed it. I stuffed it back in the cage, blood trickling out of its mouth, and never told my parents. They thought it was defective and returned it to the pet store.

A childhood bff had a gerbil that escaped, and she was kneeling down to grab it and accidentally kneeled on it, killing it. So sad!

Thank you for understanding!

If you feel any guilt or shame about what you did and hiding it from your parents, please forgive yourself and let it go if you can.

You were a child and what you did is, in my opinion, a completely normal response to a traumatic situation.

I was blamed by my mother for not feeding or giving water to my hamster and killing it. I was 6 or 7 at the time and I simply forgot. I felt tremendous guilt.

She should have done a better job supervising my care for my pet.

My secret is that I love my mother (she has many great qualities), but also hate and resent her immensely for being an emotionally immature parent.

This is called splitting.

Maybe not?

I think it’s common to have mixed or complicated feelings, especially towards family members — especially towards parents.

Different emotions can coexist.

That is what abusive people say, that you can have consistent hate and consistent love toward someone, and the recipient needs to accept that. No, that is torturous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH never leaves the house except to exercise. When he does, I snoop on his iPad (he thinks I don't know the password). I also sometimes go out to grab lunch without offering to get him any (I work, he doesn't, I have resentment). I also can only orgasm from self help.

I snoop around looking to see if my wife has any vibrators, erotica, or similar items. Sex happens once a month and it’s out of obligation. Seeking to confirm that she doesn’t masturbate as a replacement. She claims to have a low drives

Nah, she just has a shite partner. BTW, we don't need to use toys. Most of us have hands, bro. You need to level up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH never leaves the house except to exercise. When he does, I snoop on his iPad (he thinks I don't know the password). I also sometimes go out to grab lunch without offering to get him any (I work, he doesn't, I have resentment). I also can only orgasm from self help.

I snoop around looking to see if my wife has any vibrators, erotica, or similar items. Sex happens once a month and it’s out of obligation. Seeking to confirm that she doesn’t masturbate as a replacement. She claims to have a low drives

What would you do if you found out she did masturbate? Pout, stomp your feet, hold your breath until she sexes you?

PS—she *is* masturbating.

Because all women masturbate?

Most humans yes

I do, almost every day. And I don’t use toys or erotica. PP should maybe try using toys and erotica with his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH never leaves the house except to exercise. When he does, I snoop on his iPad (he thinks I don't know the password). I also sometimes go out to grab lunch without offering to get him any (I work, he doesn't, I have resentment). I also can only orgasm from self help.

I snoop around looking to see if my wife has any vibrators, erotica, or similar items. Sex happens once a month and it’s out of obligation. Seeking to confirm that she doesn’t masturbate as a replacement. She claims to have a low drives

What would you do if you found out she did masturbate? Pout, stomp your feet, hold your breath until she sexes you?

PS—she *is* masturbating.

Because all women masturbate?

Most humans yes

I do, almost every day. And I don’t use toys or erotica. PP should maybe try using toys and erotica with his wife.

In my experience (I'm a man), women have a basically unlimited supply of orgasms. If a man masturbates, that can displace sex in the short term because of his refractory period. But it's not the same for a woman; she can masturbate to orgasm and have another orgasm a few minutes or even seconds later, and again and again. So, the guy worried about his DW's masturbating getting in the way of their sex is confused. She probably doesn't want to have sex with him and so she's masturbating instead. He needs to improve his skills and attention to her in the bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH never leaves the house except to exercise. When he does, I snoop on his iPad (he thinks I don't know the password). I also sometimes go out to grab lunch without offering to get him any (I work, he doesn't, I have resentment). I also can only orgasm from self help.

I snoop around looking to see if my wife has any vibrators, erotica, or similar items. Sex happens once a month and it’s out of obligation. Seeking to confirm that she doesn’t masturbate as a replacement. She claims to have a low drives

What would you do if you found out she did masturbate? Pout, stomp your feet, hold your breath until she sexes you?

PS—she *is* masturbating.

Because all women masturbate?

Most humans yes

I do, almost every day. And I don’t use toys or erotica. PP should maybe try using toys and erotica with his wife.

In my experience (I'm a man), women have a basically unlimited supply of orgasms. If a man masturbates, that can displace sex in the short term because of his refractory period. But it's not the same for a woman; she can masturbate to orgasm and have another orgasm a few minutes or even seconds later, and again and again. So, the guy worried about his DW's masturbating getting in the way of their sex is confused. She probably doesn't want to have sex with him and so she's masturbating instead. He needs to improve his skills and attention to her in the bedroom.

This isn’t just in your experience, it’s fact. And women who feel more sexual and are having more sex masturbate more. So maybe she’s not doing it because her DH makes her feel dead inside. Men have to make their partner feel desired and desirable. Sorry, but that’s the way of the world. Our biology dictates that sex is super dangerous for us, so y’all gotta get us in the mood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a child, I was bought a gerbil as a birthday present. I found it early and tried to hold it but it jumped out of my hands and the dog killed it. I stuffed it back in the cage, blood trickling out of its mouth, and never told my parents. They thought it was defective and returned it to the pet store.

A childhood bff had a gerbil that escaped, and she was kneeling down to grab it and accidentally kneeled on it, killing it. So sad!

Thank you for understanding!

If you feel any guilt or shame about what you did and hiding it from your parents, please forgive yourself and let it go if you can.

You were a child and what you did is, in my opinion, a completely normal response to a traumatic situation.

I was blamed by my mother for not feeding or giving water to my hamster and killing it. I was 6 or 7 at the time and I simply forgot. I felt tremendous guilt.

She should have done a better job supervising my care for my pet.

My secret is that I love my mother (she has many great qualities), but also hate and resent her immensely for being an emotionally immature parent.

This is called splitting.

Maybe not?

I think it’s common to have mixed or complicated feelings, especially towards family members — especially towards parents.

Different emotions can coexist.

That is what abusive people say, that you can have consistent hate and consistent love toward someone, and the recipient needs to accept that. No, that is torturous.

NP. It’s splitting on the part of the PP if they do that with many people in their life.

If it’s complex feelings for a difficult family member it’s not abuse. So relax and back off until you know more.