Dolling yourself up for husband

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Dolled up is such an archaic phrase that I was startled to encounter it twice this week online. The other was on Reddit by a suspicious boyfriend.

I think this is more tradwife BS.

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Anonymous wrote:I think I'm quite beautiful naturally. I have great skin, beautiful eyes and nice lips. My husband never expects me to "doll" up and always tells me how beautiful I am as is.

LOL. I don’t know if you are naturally beautiful but you definitely don’t lack self-confidence.

Shouldn't all women feel beautiful? Why is that a bad thing?

the beauty industry is built on women believing they are not beautiful and enough naturally that they just need this or that.

The increase in attractiveness between “natural” and “made up” is abundantly obvious to both men and women. It’s pointless to pretend the two conditions are equally beautiful.

So a woman has to be full of fake sh*t before you find her beautiful? That's sad for you (or your partner).

Taking care of your appearance isn’t fake. It reflects very real and important qualities, including respect for yourself and for others. If your partner (male or female) stops taking care of their appearance, that’s a real and unmistakable signal of how they regard themselves and you. In its extreme form, not attending to dress and hygiene is a symptom of mental illness, which is a real thing, not just them casting aside “fake” stuff.

Taking care of your appearance doesn’t need to include changing your face or lip color. Basic hygiene is not makeup. It’s really sad you don’t think women can be beautiful naturally bare faced.

It’s really sad you’re too stupid to understand that a woman who looks “beautiful naturally bare faced” will look even more beautiful when she puts on makeup. That’s what makeup does… that’s what it’s for… duh!

Hard disagree. I’ve watched some really beautiful women transform themselves into parodies with contouring and lash extensions.

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Anonymous wrote:Dolled up is such an archaic phrase that I was startled to encounter it twice this week online. The other was on Reddit by a suspicious boyfriend.

I think this is more tradwife BS.

Nah, I think OP is one of the posters from that other thread who was deeply offended when some woman wanted to dress up for a date with her husband instead of wearing something sensible from Chico’s

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Anonymous wrote:Dolling up women - do you ladies work? Or are you all SAHMs and rely on your DH to provide?? I know most of you will respond with "I work" but seriously, do you?

Does spending 20 minutes putting on makeup and dressing nicely somehow negate the ability to hold a job? I’m curious about what point you’re trying to make here.

So you don’t work.

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Anonymous wrote:Dolling up women - do you ladies work? Or are you all SAHMs and rely on your DH to provide?? I know most of you will respond with "I work" but seriously, do you?

Does spending 20 minutes putting on makeup and dressing nicely somehow negate the ability to hold a job? I’m curious about what point you’re trying to make here.

So you don’t work.

Explain how wearing makeup means that you don’t work, or cannot work. Be specific.

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Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol

Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.

What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why women are doing all this while men do next to nothing. Really no reflection on that?

Think how much of your life and your $ you spend on this and then picture what your husband does with all his free time when he’s not doing any of this.

And by the way, I participate. I buy makeup and put it on and buy clothes that aren’t always comfortable and cram myself in uncomfortable shoes and spend time at the hair dresser getting highlights and blow my hair dry a lot of the time with all my hair products. That is the tip of the iceberg of what some women are doing.

But at least have some level of awareness this is kind of all bullshit and conveniently women are the ones doing all this to be “attractive”. It’s not women hating other women to point this out.

Sorry you married a dud. I control my eating habits to stay trim. I work out 5 days a week to stay toned. I spend time figuring out what colors of clothing look good on me. I spend time and money finding clothes that look sharp and fit well or having them altered to fit well (and in case you are unaware, and I'm guessing you are, good men's clothes are generally lot more expensive than comparable women's clothes because of the tailoring involved). I get haircuts regularly, far more often than she does. I select hair products that allow me to style my hair nicely without feeling or smelling weird. I pay attention to the deodorants and colognes I use. I shave my face and trim other parts regularly, especially if I expect that I'll be engaging physically. I go to therapy and read books about emotions and interpersonal relationships because I didn't get any of that shit growing up and needed to learn it later in life. And I do all this in response to her feedback - if she doesn't love a scent or a hair style, I abandon it and do something else. I'm not claiming I spend as much time on all this as she does, but I make a serious effort, and so does she, and that helps us both feel like the other respects us.

I am not believing this was written by a heterosexual guy. PP, you are a gay man.

The giveaways: 1) “toned”; 2) no paragraph breaks.

You almost had me at the end with “respects” having the right tense, though. A touch of authenticity.

Female or gay troll. Like your work though.

Gay men don’t use paragraph breaks?

It’s not a black and white distinction. If you feel comfortable committing extended monologues to print without letting your reader come up for air, the odds are 80-20 you were not socialized as a straight man. It’s not a value judgment.

Bro, monopolizing the airspace without concern or consideration for your discussion partner is about as cishet (white) guy as it gets.

Possibly in a conversation, but not in print.

literally anywhere/everywhere

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Anonymous wrote:Dolling up women - do you ladies work? Or are you all SAHMs and rely on your DH to provide?? I know most of you will respond with "I work" but seriously, do you?

Does spending 20 minutes putting on makeup and dressing nicely somehow negate the ability to hold a job? I’m curious about what point you’re trying to make here.

So you don’t work.

Explain how wearing makeup means that you don’t work, or cannot work. Be specific.

Avoiding the question = no.

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Anonymous wrote:48 and I do it every day. I remember my first full time job out of college 25 years ago, I would duck into the bathroom at the end of the day to brush my hair and teeth and reapply some make up. Another lady who worked there finally asked me why I did that every day and I said, "I want to look nice for my husband!" He picked me up every day, as I worked downtown and parking was so expensive. I remember she laughed and said she can't believe I do that. Why not? It brings me so much happiness that my husband thinks I am beautiful. And I think it makes him happy too to have a pretty lady.

I’m 52 and I do the same too. Brush my hair and add a swipe of lipstick before heading home. Though these days it’s more likely that my 3-year old grandson is the one saying “Mimi pretty”.

You became a grandmother at 49?? Are you in Appalachia? Most women around here are having their last or getting their kids into middle school.

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Anonymous wrote:Dolling up women - do you ladies work? Or are you all SAHMs and rely on your DH to provide?? I know most of you will respond with "I work" but seriously, do you?

Does spending 20 minutes putting on makeup and dressing nicely somehow negate the ability to hold a job? I’m curious about what point you’re trying to make here.

So you don’t work.

Explain how wearing makeup means that you don’t work, or cannot work. Be specific.

Avoiding the question = no.

Yes, I work. I’m assuming you don’t, because you apparently have little to no experience dressing professionally. Unless you’re my former coworker that wears depression sweats in an office setting.

Now, stop avoiding the question: why does wearing makeup mean that a woman cannot work?

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Anonymous wrote:48 and I do it every day. I remember my first full time job out of college 25 years ago, I would duck into the bathroom at the end of the day to brush my hair and teeth and reapply some make up. Another lady who worked there finally asked me why I did that every day and I said, "I want to look nice for my husband!" He picked me up every day, as I worked downtown and parking was so expensive. I remember she laughed and said she can't believe I do that. Why not? It brings me so much happiness that my husband thinks I am beautiful. And I think it makes him happy too to have a pretty lady.

I’m 52 and I do the same too. Brush my hair and add a swipe of lipstick before heading home. Though these days it’s more likely that my 3-year old grandson is the one saying “Mimi pretty”.

You became a grandmother at 49?? Are you in Appalachia? Most women around here are having their last or getting their kids into middle school.

Yeah, I had my first child at 22. I come from a wealthy Indian family, not Appalachia.
My family helped while I continued my education. Welcome to how much of the world lives. 😂

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Anonymous wrote:Dolling up women - do you ladies work? Or are you all SAHMs and rely on your DH to provide?? I know most of you will respond with "I work" but seriously, do you?

Does spending 20 minutes putting on makeup and dressing nicely somehow negate the ability to hold a job? I’m curious about what point you’re trying to make here.

So you don’t work.

Explain how wearing makeup means that you don’t work, or cannot work. Be specific.

Avoiding the question = no.

Yes, I work. I’m assuming you don’t, because you apparently have little to no experience dressing professionally. Unless you’re my former coworker that wears depression sweats in an office setting.

Now, stop avoiding the question: why does wearing makeup mean that a woman cannot work?

Sure you do

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Selena Gomez:

Gonna wear that dress you like skin-tight
Do my hair up real, real nice
And syncopate my skin to how you're breathing
'Cause I just wanna look good for you, good for you, oh-oh
I just wanna look good for you, good for you, oh-oh
Let me show you how proud I am to be yours, leave this dress a mess on the floor
Still look good for you, good for you, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh

Put yourselves in that mindset and I promise the quotient of happiness in your marriage will skyrocket.

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Anonymous wrote:Dolling up women - do you ladies work? Or are you all SAHMs and rely on your DH to provide?? I know most of you will respond with "I work" but seriously, do you?

Does spending 20 minutes putting on makeup and dressing nicely somehow negate the ability to hold a job? I’m curious about what point you’re trying to make here.

So you don’t work.

Explain how wearing makeup means that you don’t work, or cannot work. Be specific.

Avoiding the question = no.

Yes, I work. I’m assuming you don’t, because you apparently have little to no experience dressing professionally. Unless you’re my former coworker that wears depression sweats in an office setting.

Now, stop avoiding the question: why does wearing makeup mean that a woman cannot work?

Sure you do

DP. I work. I also wear make-up and dye my hair.

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Anonymous wrote:48 and I do it every day. I remember my first full time job out of college 25 years ago, I would duck into the bathroom at the end of the day to brush my hair and teeth and reapply some make up. Another lady who worked there finally asked me why I did that every day and I said, "I want to look nice for my husband!" He picked me up every day, as I worked downtown and parking was so expensive. I remember she laughed and said she can't believe I do that. Why not? It brings me so much happiness that my husband thinks I am beautiful. And I think it makes him happy too to have a pretty lady.

I’m 52 and I do the same too. Brush my hair and add a swipe of lipstick before heading home. Though these days it’s more likely that my 3-year old grandson is the one saying “Mimi pretty”.

You became a grandmother at 49?? Are you in Appalachia? Most women around here are having their last or getting their kids into middle school.

Yeah, I had my first child at 22. I come from a wealthy Indian family, not Appalachia.
My family helped while I continued my education. Welcome to how much of the world lives. 😂

Most of the world is not wealthy. Most women cannot continue their education once they have had children. Super cool you got to. 22 is young anyway you slice it in the last 100 years.

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Anonymous wrote:Selena Gomez:

Gonna wear that dress you like skin-tight
Do my hair up real, real nice
And syncopate my skin to how you're breathing
'Cause I just wanna look good for you, good for you, oh-oh
I just wanna look good for you, good for you, oh-oh
Let me show you how proud I am to be yours, leave this dress a mess on the floor
Still look good for you, good for you, oh-oh, oh-oh, oh

Put yourselves in that mindset and I promise the quotient of happiness in your marriage will skyrocket.

100%. It's not that hard.