Why do women stay after their husbands affair(s)?

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A lot of jilted APs upset the married AP cut them off …and many of these women ended up divorced when the exit affair didn’t happen for them. Of course they want her to divorce.

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Women that stay are cuckqueans

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Anonymous wrote:Judgey McJudgers usually experience cheating but are of the “it could never happen because of x, y, z…..” so they tend to completely blindsided if they ever actually find out.

You never know what your spouse is up to. But know I have enough self esteem not to stay with someone who cares so little for me and my children.

That's something you were manipulated into believing from the movies and tv. Real life is much more complex than that. The person may not be the best partner but if they're good to you, they're a good father, provider, and checks off everything else on the list, you don't destroy your own home and life over it.

Well said. A man who takes care of his family, spend time with his wife and children, but has an affair is 100x better than a man who doesn't cheat, but doesn't take care of his family.

Yes- and some of those non-cheating men are outright hostile to their wives and kids. Or the couple barely talks, sleeps in separate rooms, etc. A good guy that fkd up midlife and owned it and was a dedicated family guy….

I am tempted to have an affair lol. I am frankly shocked how forgiving and accepting of affairs some of you are.

[Anonymous]

I think the betrayal of cheating is so hurtful for women that they just choose to stay and make up an alternative universe in their mind.

I think women are more afraid of their post divorce life than men. Most men are not worried about their post divorce life. If they end up single oh well no big deal. I think for women it's a big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the betrayal of cheating is so hurtful for women that they just choose to stay and make up an alternative universe in their mind.

I think women are more afraid of their post divorce life than men. Most men are not worried about their post divorce life. If they end up single oh well no big deal. I think for women it's a big deal.

Its because women value time with their children more and don't want some ho involved in raising them. It has little to do with the man - women mostly hate their husband after finding out he's a cheater.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the betrayal of cheating is so hurtful for women that they just choose to stay and make up an alternative universe in their mind.

I think women are more afraid of their post divorce life than men. Most men are not worried about their post divorce life. If they end up single oh well no big deal. I think for women it's a big deal.

Its because women value time with their children more and don't want some ho involved in raising them. It has little to do with the man - women mostly hate their husband after finding out he's a cheater.

Why is she a ho though lol?

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why women stay with men who don’t do anything around the house or are absent fathers/partners. Who are alcoholics. Who are controlling with money. Who golf every weekend. Who are MAGA. Who are slovenly.
I guess we’re all different.

No need to lump golfers in that group. Jeez.

Agree. Golfers and marathon runners are a category of their own when it comes to horrible husbands.

You people must be miserable to be married to. There is nothing wrong with golfing every weekend. There is something wrong with being a crappy spouse the other six days. My husband and I both have hobbies that take up time and we happily support each other because we support each other all the time so it’s not a big deal for us to do our own things. If he didn’t participate with the kids or the dogs or the house during the week and then went golfing on the weekend then obviously we’d have a problem. But, hint, the problem wouldn’t be golf. If your husband takes up marathon training to get away from you, the problem isn’t the running.

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Anonymous wrote:A woman who willingly leaves a wealthy man and a unparalleled lifestyle - especially in this region - is not a smart woman. The homes, the private schools, the vacations, the communities, etc. You'd be insane to break up your family over some two dollar wh0re. It has to be really egregious. On top of the social parish aspects that come with divorce, there is so much paperwork and beauroracy, it's a literal nightmare to deal with.

Okay, Hillary.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why women stay with men who don’t do anything around the house or are absent fathers/partners. Who are alcoholics. Who are controlling with money. Who golf every weekend. Who are MAGA. Who are slovenly.
I guess we’re all different.

In the end, women are socialized to accept endless bad behavior from men. Cheating is just one of those behaviors. We have to raise our sons better, but how?

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All these women who stay after their husbands cheat on them are just teaching their kids the same thing. NBD, go f*** around on your spouse. If you’re a man, it’s expected, and she’ll stay. If you’re a woman, you better put up with it, lest *gasp* a divorce!

Oh come on- their kids have zero idea—particularly the ones with a happy household and nothing amiss, no fighting…plenty of men are in happy marriages and still banging their wives. Nobody knows. And if the spouse finds out they sure aren’t running to tell their kids in order to protect them.

Some of you watch way too much TV. Most affairs are never discovered.

Most affairs are not discovered, you’re right. But we’re talking about affairs that the wife knew about and chose to stay. People and children definitely find out about these. You are really delusional if you think kids don’t pick up on this kind of thing.

Yes, for example Melania Trump and Hilary Clinton.

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Staying is condoning.

It's not condoning. It's called securing your future. When you date a rich and powerful man, sampling other women comes with the territory. He can have any supermodel he wants and chose you. That makes a difference. You can sit there and make moral complaints or just enjoy the good parts about the man you love and enjoy a solid future where your kids and retirement are taken care of.

Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the betrayal of cheating is so hurtful for women that they just choose to stay and make up an alternative universe in their mind.

I think women are more afraid of their post divorce life than men. Most men are not worried about their post divorce life. If they end up single oh well no big deal. I think for women it's a big deal.

Its because women value time with their children more and don't want some ho involved in raising them. It has little to do with the man - women mostly hate their husband after finding out he's a cheater.

100% without kids, I think most would leave.

Kids definitely change the dynamic. If they are happy and thriving- the last thing a caring mother wants is to throw divorce and split home and potential GFs/stepmoms at them. Contrary to posters on this board- the home is often happy and the kids have no clue of infidelity.

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Anonymous wrote:Judgey McJudgers usually experience cheating but are of the “it could never happen because of x, y, z…..” so they tend to completely blindsided if they ever actually find out.

You never know what your spouse is up to. But know I have enough self esteem not to stay with someone who cares so little for me and my children.

That's something you were manipulated into believing from the movies and tv. Real life is much more complex than that. The person may not be the best partner but if they're good to you, they're a good father, provider, and checks off everything else on the list, you don't destroy your own home and life over it.

Well said. A man who takes care of his family, spend time with his wife and children, but has an affair is 100x better than a man who doesn't cheat, but doesn't take care of his family.

Yes- and some of those non-cheating men are outright hostile to their wives and kids. Or the couple barely talks, sleeps in separate rooms, etc. A good guy that fkd up midlife and owned it and was a dedicated family guy….

It’s not either or. There are also men who are good husbands who don’t cheat. Shocking, I know.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the betrayal of cheating is so hurtful for women that they just choose to stay and make up an alternative universe in their mind.

I think women are more afraid of their post divorce life than men. Most men are not worried about their post divorce life. If they end up single oh well no big deal. I think for women it's a big deal.

Its because women value time with their children more and don't want some ho involved in raising them. It has little to do with the man - women mostly hate their husband after finding out he's a cheater.

Why is she a ho though lol?

The affair down phenomenon. Many were married as well. Hos cheat- male and female hos don’t care about their kids or other spouses and cheat. The people that choose affairs are not mentally stable.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of jilted APs upset the married AP cut them off …and many of these women ended up divorced when the exit affair didn’t happen for them. Of course they want her to divorce.

Yeah. Why does OP care ? Live and let live. You have no idea what another person’s life is like.

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Anonymous wrote:A woman who willingly leaves a wealthy man and a unparalleled lifestyle - especially in this region - is not a smart woman. The homes, the private schools, the vacations, the communities, etc. You'd be insane to break up your family over some two dollar wh0re. It has to be really egregious. On top of the social parish aspects that come with divorce, there is so much paperwork and beauroracy, it's a literal nightmare to deal with.

Okay, Hillary.

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